to resign or not to resign? to wahm or not to wahm

[evokezion]

Hi mga sisses! same here.. actually natuwa ako kase hindi pala ako nag iisa sa mundo thinking about it..  and tama mga suggestion ng mga sisters natin dito.. we should have plan A, B or C.. and tama rin na dapat me isang working sa couple to have a fixed salary. because of this thread, was able to discuss with hubby kanina on our way to work our plans for A, B & C.. kailangang maraming options and kung wala man.. we have to create otherwise tayo din ang mahihirapan, lucky me supportive si hubby and my parents as well including my sister who is now taking care of my baby.. Sa totoo lang ang hirap ipagkatiwala ang bata sa kung kanino lalo na on my end na premature baby.. Prayer lang sis.. napaka powerful ang imposible nagiging possible.. You just have to believe and act as well.

[mimigarcia]

mga sis i have the same problem

new lang ako sa company ko now, at nagsisisi ako bakit pa ako nagresign sa dati kong work samantalang happy naman ako dun yun ga lang mababa ang sahod, sa new work ko kasi now medyo mataas kaso its been a month na pero hindi padin ako masaya plus yung workmates ko hindi ko sila close kaya ako nakarating thread na ito because im planning also to be a wahm kaso ang problem ako lang ang working samin ng hubby ko, pero may online beautyshop naman ako kaso minsan konti lang orders kaya naguguluhan ako kasi feeling ko hindi talaga ako nareregular dahil napaka hirap sa new job ko, huhu nagsisisi nga ako bakit pa ako nag resign samanatalang regular na ako dun at happy naman ako kaso wala nga lang talaga career growth mga sisi pahelp naman ako, sa ngayon nakatira kami sa mil ko pero ok naman sila mababait sila lahat. pahelp po mga sis

[patriciaheart]

Ok, relax, its good you are aware of your situation. Hinde ka masaya,, malaking factor yan because its motivation. I suggest for now think of the positive things about your current job,  then when the cons outweigh the pros, have a carefully structured plan to leave. Yes nasilaw ka sa pera ok, pero this job enables you to support your family, ikaw ba bread winner sis? pati what do you mean na ikaw lang nag wwork? si hubby in between jobs or nag ggenerate din ng income? Hinde pwede na magipit kayo because it will just cause unnecessary tension at bickering. Pakita mo yung plan mo sa hubs mo.

[Dyuan]

sis mimigarcia, mahirap na sitwasyon, pero kung para sa sitwasyon mahirap mawalan ng regular income job, lalo na meron anak, at nakikitira pa kila MIL, wag ka muna mag decide ngayon ng masama ang loob mo, Positivity- isip isip.   

[whitebishop]

my piece. if you are unhappy with your work or is endangered of losing work.  I suggest activate your CV's in online job sites (jobstreet, jobsdb, monster). Also, on many occasions we are forced to swallow a bitter pill i.e. working for a job we didn't like.  Sometimes, we have to accept it and live with it until we find a more suitable job for us.  It's not the end of the world if we land on a job we didn't like.  So until then, we should make the best of our stay, learning and trying our best even if the circumstances does not favor us.  It is easy to be at your best when everything is going right but the real challenge and the higher ground is to stay giving your best if the odds are not in our favor.  No one puts a gun on our head to take a job, so let it be a lesson learned that we should choose our jobs wisely. While money is important, it is not always the equation for a success in our careers.  Just don't let our emotions get the better of us.  What we think, manifests in us.  So always stay positive, despite the drawbacks.  Positive actions yield positive results.

[lizzete]

Very well said sis..im also unhappu with my work right now..im trying to stay positive ..i hope i can still hold on..until i find a new one..

my piece. if you are unhappy with your work or is endangered of losing work.  I suggest activate your CV's in online job sites (jobstreet, jobsdb, monster). Also, on many occasions we are forced to swallow a bitter pill i.e. working for a job we didn't like.  Sometimes, we have to accept it and live with it until we find a more suitable job for us.  It's not the end of the world if we land on a job we didn't like.  So until then, we should make the best of our stay, learning and trying our best even if the circumstances does not favor us.  It is easy to be at your best when everything is going right but the real challenge and the higher ground is to stay giving your best if the odds are not in our favor.  No one puts a gun on our head to take a job, so let it be a lesson learned that we should choose our jobs wisely. While money is important, it is not always the equation for a success in our careers.  Just don't let our emotions get the better of us.  What we think, manifests in us.  So always stay positive, despite the drawbacks.  Positive actions yield positive results.

[emai004]

Hi mga sis! same here, gusto ko na magresign for quite some time pero mejo naguguluhan pa din dahil syempre worried na mawalan ng stable income. Married na ko for 1 year and til now wala pa din kaming baby. I really want to get pregnant pero hindi ko din maasikaso mga checkup sa OB due to work. Medyo mahirap kasi magleave and dahil nasa IT dept ako may mga times na stress din. Hindi din ako masaya sa work ko ngayon and most days hindi na talaga ko motivated pumasok. Hindi ko alam gagawin ko if I should resign na ba to focus on family and getting pregnant or continue kahit hindi na ko masaya. I have been working sa current company ko for 8 months pa lang that's why medyo nahihiya din ako umalis. Help mga sis!

[orangelove]

hi sis emai004, wag ka mapressure to get pregnant. lalo ata mahirap pag may pressure e. kami din one year married na but ineenjoy pa rin namin yun kami muna 2. kahit na kaliwa't kanan na yun nangungulit kung kelan na daw magkakaapo or pamangkin hehe!

bakit hindi ka masaya sa work mo? baka you need a different work siguro? yan din kasi iniisip ko ngayon. i assessed why hindi ako masaya sa current work ko and dahil yun sa hindi na ako nacchallenge and i don't see any growth na sa career ko. kaya eto hanap hanap ng new work. medyo rusty na when it comes sa interview kasi naman after 6 years of working sa company ko ngayon e ngayon lang uli ako babalik sa job hunting hehe!

baka nadadala ka lang ng emotions mo. think things through. talk with your partner. sayo na rin nanggaling na worried ka mawalan ng stable income. so pagisipan mo mabuti bago ka magdecide.

hope this helps!

[rlyn27]

ako talaga naka decide na ako today ibibigay ko na ang resignation letter ko sobra ilang months ko ito pinag iisipan...sobra hindi na ako healthy dito sa pinag trabahuan ko sobra stress ako to the high level...after for 9 yrs ko dito sobra naubos na yung pasensya ko ....
ganun pala talga yun pag hindi ka na happy at nag tyaga ka nlang

[April30]

^Sis, I've been in the same situation as you. I stayed with my former employer for almost 8 years. My first six years was great! Until the bosses decided to gave a more challenging responsibility. It was ok at first. Ang naging problem ko lang e yung officemate ko na nag-endorse ng work sa akin. Hindi maayos ang pag-endorse. Ang ending, lahat ng kapalpakan nya, sa akin nya pinasa. Ang masaklap, promoted na sya as supervisor and lahat ng bosses naniniwala sa sinasabi nya. I tried to defend myself pero useless. Then I've come to a point that I'm really pissed of. I resigned. For now I am doing freelance jobs and focus in our business. Ok naman ang kita kahit pano. May konting ipon na din. And sana lumago pa ang business.

[kikaygirl5810]

going 10 years naku dito sa job ko kaya i have my option to retire na...grabbing that 40% benefits. Pero honestly sobrang bigat na ng katawan ko pumasok sa work... parang mahihirapan ako maka aboot on my 10th year which is next year na...hay kunting kembot nalang.... 

[mitcha15]

I just had my 5yr anniversary with my company and serving my resignation na. Miss na miss ko na mga anak ko, gusto ko naman makita ang paglaki nila. pagyayamanin ko na [textspeak!] un naipon ko pera galing sa pag-OFW. In God's grace I pray mag-work out ang future plans. Family Muna...

[FayeP]

mga sis, ako din ganito ang dilemma ko...

I'm currently 32weeks preggy with my second, un first born ko, 3 years old na at magstart na sa June ng school...gusto ko sana mag hands on sa kanila...saka sa totoo lang nakakatamad na din talaga pumasok....

since 2005 kasi nagwowork ako at never ako nagkaron kahit one week na break in between jobs, kahit magresign ako sa work, sumunod na week talaga may bago na ulit ako...kasi ako lang din naman ang breadwinner sa family namin nun dalaga pa ako,  at until now na may asawa at anak na ako pa din ang breadwinner...

although itong pagiging breadwinner ko napagkasunduan naming mag-asawa...nakakasawa din kasi...un araw-araw papasok tapos matatrapik, tapos late na makakauwi because of it, ang layo pa ng house ko (working in Ortigas, then living in Sta. Maria Bulacan)...nakakapagod at nakakadrain din...buti na lang ok un mga co-workers ko at di naman gano mahirap un work kaya ok din, parang medyo petiks sa work...

un byahe lang talaga un nakakapagpatamad sa kin...

gusto ko sana na magkaron kahit maliit na mapagkakakitaan sa house, un mga tipong kikita kahit siguro 5K a week para mabayaran pa din un mga bills at makakain ng maayos sa araw-araw...

kaso di ko pa din alam kun anong business ito....

[bucketsale]

hi mga sisses, reading all your career stories and how long you have been with your companies... i just realized how tough we are... iba2 man yung drive natin sa pagpasok araw sa work nakakatuwa lang na umabot tayo sa ilang years para magsacrifice sa sarili at sa mga bawat pamilya natin.. whatever your decisions...to resign or not... i know we are all successful career women and sana nga mapalago pa natin yung mga kakarampot nating naipon.. good luck sa ating lahat happy women's month!!! 

[purplemommy17]

Correct ka diyan sis @bucketsale. Halos parepareho lang tayo ng mga istorya. Halos lahat ng mga mommies gusto maging SAHM or WAHM kaso in reality kelangan pa din talaga natin magtrabaho para sakanila. Matagal ko na gustong mag resign kaso natatakot ako mag risk mag online job and need ko talaga ang healthcard para sa mga bata. Sakto lang lagi sahod kasi dame ng kaltas sa mga loans etc. Pero yun nga God is soo good, nakakaraos din naman. Godbless sating mga mommies!