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[FOURever]

^based on my experience, ehem... Nung una kong nahuli, imagine, i have printouts pa kasi andun ako nung nangyari yung cheating, di sya umamin. Lol. Ang t@nga ko na naniwala pa ako.. Never sya umamin. Pero nung nagbreak kami, nagcheat na naman pala sya. Nung di ko pa sinasabi, nakikipagbalikan pa and stuff, padeny deny na nagcheat. Nung nag name drop na ako, umamin din sya. But yeah, there are guys na kayang gumawa ng kalokohan pero di kayang panindigan at sinungaling!

[sweet.trish]

Parang nasasakal na ko. Sobrang busy ko sa office. Tapos madalas syang manumbat the past few days. Nagagalit sya pag may kasama akong iba. Minsan nagugulat ako bigla na lang susulpot sa likod ko. Pati mga suot ko pinupuna nya. Pati oras ng pagkain ko gusto nya kontrolin. Haaay.

[IronLady]

^^grabe sis fourever! Hayyy mga guys talaga.. Nanghihinayang ako at nalulungkot kasi di ganito yung pagkakakilala ko kay ex.. Sa 3 years namen.. Selosa lang ako at lagi ko sya sinasabihan na o baka may babae ka, tapos ngayon nahuli ko.. Ang sakit.. Hindi makapaniwala ang lahat na kaya nyang gawin yun.. Sis paano mo nalaman? Illegal ba yung way? Sakin kasi oo kaya di ko alam kung sasabihin ko pa kung paano ko nalaman.. But then kung hindi ko sasabihin magdedeny lang yun at di na aamin..

[FOURever]

^yung una, di naman illegal, kasama ko kasi yung nilalandi nya and magkachat din kami pero inuna nya yung girl. Nag excuse pa sya sakin na magbubuhat daw sila ng gamit ng kuya nya pero sa girl sya nagrereply na nung sinabi kong ok. Lol! I was really hurt. Illegal din pala yun in a way kasi i asked the girl to help me figure out kung magtatrust pa ako sa ex ko.. Imagine, she just added my ex tapos bf ko nangulit and dineny nyang may gf sya sa girl.. At nakikipagkita pa sya and stuff. Di nya yun inamin. Ever.

Yung second, no naman. Nakita ko lang basta sa fb na may "people you may know". Parang familiar mukha nung kasama nung girl sa profile picture. I checked the account, ayun, sya kasama nung girl. Nakaakbay pa sya at yung jacket na suot ni girl, yung jacket na binili nya kasama ako. sila na kami pa rin.. And one of my college friends, kasabwat nya in a way binabantayan ako and stuff. Dami kong pinagdaanan kaya nagising ako sa katotohanan. May mas nagmamahal saking iba, kelangan ko lang tanggalin yung tao na akala ko for me now, bitter-bitteran si ex. Wala na akong magagawa dun so now, i want to be smarter. Stay muna ako sa thread na ito. Haha

Hindi nya nalaman paano ko nalalaman yung mga ganung bagay sa kanya. Kaya nagugulat na lang sya at nagtataka pa rin yung may printouts ako, sabi ko, may nagsend lang sa rmail ko nung printscreen. haha sabi nga nya, daig ko daw fbi oh well, it starts with my instincts lang naman. Mga kutob.

[IronLady]

I see.. Grabe sis.. Ako kasi nalaman ko when i opened his fb account.. Lol kaya mali din.. Pero kung di ko nagawa yun forever akong nagtiwala na ako lang babae nya e yun pala finitlirt nya din yung kasama nya sa office!

[j.adore]

Naalala ko yung song ni Shaggy na It Wasn't Me - deny to death kahit huling huli na

I know a guy who can't help it. Meron siyang GF at mahal niya pinagpaplanuhan na niyang magpropose pero kung merong opportunity (a.k.a maglalandi sa kanya) papatulan niya. I questioned na pano masasabing mahal kung hindi naman loyal. Inamin naman niyang alam niya na mali pero sa tingin niya ay sobrang ma-L lang daw siya talaga.
I asked pano kung turned tables at yung GF naman niya ganun, sabi niya ok lang basta di niya malaman. So ang ending ay what you don't know won't hurt you?

Haay pinagsasabihan ko siya pero di naman gagana yun. Friend ko kasi.. Tinatry kong intindihin siya pero mali talaga.

[joeygirly]

nakakabagabag mga nabasa ko sa thread na to ah.. I mean, most of these girls ang alam is sila lang ang "the one" ni partner pero pag bukas ng fb, pak! huli. sa cellphone, pak! huli nanaman! nakakatakot talaga masaktan sis. We just have to be smarter, trust our instincts without  pestering our partners, be lovable para walang masumbat si partner pag dumating ang ganyang time..and be ready for heartaches. 

[IronLady]

Tama ka dyan sis.. Matino o hindi pare pareho sila pagdatong sa ganyan.. Hayy..

[karlita123]

problem ko naman is that nag break up kami ni bf last august kasi i was very selfish and self-centered and took him for granted. he got fed up so ayon. and we are in an LDR. BUT we still talk (whatsapp) everyday and skype at least once a week. So he still makes time for me. Ako naman, I still want to be with him. He came to see me last week and we had a great time but he still could not commit. He said ne he needs to get his old feelings back. I don't understand. I'm just confused and I want to be happy. Sometimes I wonder why doesn't he just let me go so we can both move on. But it seems like ayaw nya mawala ako. But I'm tired of the uncertainty (and getting old). Any words of advise mga sis? I still love him but I think I can also move on at the same time.

[Awesomecakes]

Hi girls! Just wanna know your thoughts on this.

We're about to celebrate our 6th year anniv with my boyfriend. In years that we've been together, he ran out of ideas na so he ended up asking me kung ano ang gusto kong gift. I just told him to "surprise me", to prepare something na masusurprise talaga ako w/ effort and not just bec it's a material gift. Maybe he was not satisfied w/ my answer
kaya he asked my friend (my former officemate and a close friend of mine), he was open naman na he asked my friend na nagpapasama siya (to assist him sa pagpili ng gift for me) kaya lang parang busy so hindi rin sila natuloy.

Now, the thing is.. He ended up asking another girl.. I know this girl. We met her once sa Baguio trip namin ni boyfie kasi sinama siya ng isa kong girl friend. So in short, malayong friend na namin. Di ko alam pero out of nowhere kasi they became friends on Facebook, following on Twitter etc etc. I must admit, I feel paranoid (yes again) kasi I have trust issues. Pero given na talaga na sobrang friendly ng boyfriend ko which is lagi namin pinagaawayan before.

My question is.. What would you feel if this happened to you? Na yun girl you used to hate (get jealous of) ay pinagtatanungan ni boyfie kung ano ang ideas na pwede ipang-gift sayo? Would you appreciate it more than the thought of them being close kasi they're exchanging messages on Facebook? Tapos boyfie asked for the girl's number pa just in case my question siya. The girl suggested shops and stuff kasi para ibigay sa akin. So there.. What would you feel? Dapat ba na mas matuwa ako or should I get jealous?

[j.adore]

Sis karlita123, August 2012 ba yung breakup? Ang tagal na. You still love him, then, why not try to exert effort for him to get his feelings back? Yung breakup ay dahil sa mistakes mo kamo, so become the opposite (selfish, self-centered, taking him for granted) to get him back. Ikaw naman ang manligaw sa kanya

Sis Awesomecakes, I think this would have been avoided if you just thought of something you wanted and told him already. Romantic man masurprise, it's very rare na they can pull it off on their own. Siyempre hihingi ng tulong sa ibang babae dahil sa paningin nila hindi enough yung ideas nila kelangan ng approval or suggestion ng iba.

I think you should just be honest with your boyfriend how you're not comfortable with this girl because you used to hate her. Kung ginagawa niya dahil gusto mo masurprise then, mas importante naman ang maayos na relationship kesa sa surprise.

Share ko lang, ganyan din boyfriend ko. Ok lang di masurprise kasi at least, nagregalo naman siya at yung gusto ko pa kasi shempre tinanong ako eh. Mahirap kasi mag-assume ng regalo tapos di ko type eh di sayang effort at pera.
Meron din babae siyang kaibigan, ka-FB etc. na di ko type, sinabi ko sa kanya na di ako comfortable so di na niya kinakausap. Gusto pa nga niya unfriend pero enough na para sa akin na di na sila naguusap.

[karlita123]

Thanks sa reply sis. I have been doing my best. I think he is confused now. Actually the words he used was: he is not convinced 100% that i have changed. It hurts but i accepted it and im trying to do better. We were so great when he came to see me (he lives abroad). I think he just needs some time to see if it really is for real. But i cant wait that long. Ill give him a few weeks then ill move on na.

[j.adore]

Sis karlita123, time ba sa tingin mo para maging 100% o yun din ang sinabi niya? Kasi parang yun yung kailangan niya pero hindi mo na kayang ibigay. Ang dating sa akin ng situation niyo ay tinetest ka niya but you'll choose to fail since you want to give up and move on already. I hope clear din sa kanya kung ano mga nafifeel mo ngayon para aware siya na ginagawa mo ang lahat at tao ka lang napapagod din.

[karlita123]

U have a good point sis. I think i'm in the middle now. I want to make it work but I cannot wait for so long. It bas been almost a year na sis. He is a bit better now meaning he is more open to actually giving it a try.
I think the fact that he finds time to talk with me shows he wants to give me a chance to prove myself. But yun nga lang, there has to be an end. 

[tough_guy]

 Burn the pictures, eat the chocolates move on sis ^^

[Awesomecakes]

Sis Awesomecakes, I think this would have been avoided if you just thought of something you wanted and told him already. Romantic man masurprise, it's very rare na they can pull it off on their own. Siyempre hihingi ng tulong sa ibang babae dahil sa paningin nila hindi enough yung ideas nila kelangan ng approval or suggestion ng iba.

I think you should just be honest with your boyfriend how you're not comfortable with this girl because you used to hate her. Kung ginagawa niya dahil gusto mo masurprise then, mas importante naman ang maayos na relationship kesa sa surprise.

Share ko lang, ganyan din boyfriend ko. Ok lang di masurprise kasi at least, nagregalo naman siya at yung gusto ko pa kasi shempre tinanong ako eh. Mahirap kasi mag-assume ng regalo tapos di ko type eh di sayang effort at pera.
Meron din babae siyang kaibigan, ka-FB etc. na di ko type, sinabi ko sa kanya na di ako comfortable so di na niya kinakausap. Gusto pa nga niya unfriend pero enough na para sa akin na di na sila naguusap.

I really don't hate or have anything against this girl until she became close with boyfie. Well actually di naman sila close talaga as in close friends kasi we all met once lang. May common friend lang kami kaya nagkakilala. So yun parang na-bother lang ako na they became friends on fb and twitter. Why not the other girls na ibang kasama sa trip? Why just her?

And for me, why ask someone na hindi naman malapit sa akin? (Well he did pero di sila natuloy umalis bec of busy sched so he ended up w/ this girl). Parang and naiisip ko tuloy, does he want me to be like this girl na fashionista?

This isn't really a surprise anymore pero I know effort naman si boyfie. Parang nakikisuyo pa siya kay girl na bumili ng lippies then pay niya na lang. Sobra din kasi pagka feeling close ni boyfie eh, nakakainis na minsan. Dyan kami nagtatalo. Opposite kasi kami pagdating dyan.

Siguro for now I'll let him surprise me (kahit alam ko na), baka super effort talaga si boyfie. Then from there I'll let him know what I feel sa ginawa niya. This is not the first time na eh, parang the same old story lang. Kaya nakakapagod din mag-confront.

[j.adore]

Sis Awesomecakes, tama ka. Antayin mo muna yung anniv niyo. Pag napagusapan yung kung pano niya pinaghandaan yung surprise para sayo, saka mo na lang sabihin na di ka talaga magiging comfortable na masyadong siyang friendly sa iba.

Until then, try not to think about it muna and focus on your anniv

[IronLady]

^wow sis love na love ka naman ng bf mo.. Yung ex ko pag ganyan naiirita pa pag sinabi kong di ko gusto na magkausap sila.. Selos ko lang ang nakikita.. Hayy bitter lang.. Hehe

[blackgreen]

Hello. I just want to share this little problem of mine and i hope ma-enlighten ako.

In the past week I’m planning on surprising my boyfriend in our anniversary. Pag may promo nagtitingin na ako at gusto ko ng mag-book for our travel. Yesterday, he said na yun office group outing nila is out of the country and nag-fall dun sa anniversary namin. He forgot na anniversary namin. Sobrang sama ng loob ko kagabi to the point na nasira na yun date namin kasi di na kami naguusap. Hindi ko na siya kinakausap. Sinasabi naman niya na hindi siya sasama sa outing nila pero ayoko naman ako yun maging reason na ma-deprive siya nung experience. Tama lang naman na hindi ko siya i-deprive diba. Kaya lang naiinis ako sa sarili ko kasi naiinis pa rin ako pag naalala ko.

[FOURever]

^syempre mag back out sya kasi nainis ka :p pero nainis ka kasi matatapat din dun yung surprise mo? Tama ba? Kaya may reason ka.. Mareresched mo ba yung iyo? Pero ito, maging cool ka lang sa kanya. Then ask him ano plans nya. Wag kang magpapakita na inis ka. Yung parang wala lang or hapyy ka. Kung ano piliin nya, yun muna. Kung sila pinili, iresched mo na lang o palitan surprise mo. Pag ikaw, eh di mas masaya! Good luck sis! For me kasi mas mahalaga yung out of the country that is because i am single but pag may bf or gf, syempre mag iiba din