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[bear_touch]

Naniniwala ako na lahat ng problema sa relationship ay nadadaan sa mabuting usapan lalo na kung both of your hearts are open 

Talk to him, at sabihin mo kung ano yung nararamdaman mo. Yung sinasabi mo pong insensitive siya, nasubukan mo na ba siyang kausapin? Pagka ganun pa din ang ginagawa nya, kausapin mo ulit. At pagka di pa din nagbago, maybe that would be the time na kailangan mo na po mag decide sa kanya

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[Shadow Angel]

^^30 mins to 2 hours really at mega wait ka naman sis.. Nonono sa akin ang pagkalate sa usapan namin i mean kung hindi makakarating inform me ahead of time pero ang paghintayin ako sobra naman na paka ungentleman naman nya pagganun ok lang mag wait ako up to 10-15 mins at mainit na ulo ko pag ganyan at lalo naku palagi ano sya walang effort at all.. Theres something going on na sis parang ok lang talaga sa kanya na mag wait ka.. Para sa akin hindi pwede sa akin yan hindi maliit na bagay at hindi ko palalagpasin ng ganun na lang...

[atlantis_princess]

Thanks Shadow Angel and devilish_einjel.  Yes, he is sweet.  Walang bisyo except for Dota.  I just get bothered, minsan kasi parang na-e-equate ko yung paglabas nya ng pera sa love nya for me.  I am thinking if he really is in love with me, he would make little sacrifices like maglabas ng pera.  He's a good provider to his son and to his family.  Kaya minsan naiisip ko bakit sa akin hindi sya ganun.  Right now, we just share room rent and utility (we're living abroad). The rest kanya kanya na, so I can't really say that he's a good provider to me.  I pay for my own expenses.  He initially wanted us to share expenses for food pero since I don't cook and I rarely eat at home I said no.  So I buy my own food/snacks which most of the time he consumes na din since he doesn't buy anything.

There are little things lang I sometimes can't stand.  If I want to watch a movie and he's not into it, he would joke that I should pay for it since samahan nya ako.  Payag na ako KKB but sometimes maski ganyan ayaw nya lumabas.  Another case in point, I wanted to eat at a certain place for dine in (parang fastfood lang).  He said we can just have it to go because if we dine in, we'll be paying extra for the drinks and at least sa bahay we don't have to pay for extra rice since pwede kami magsaing.  I was so pissed off kasi our house is 40mins away pa.  I said I'll just shoulder the bill for the drinks and the extra rice just for him to think twice and possibly give in.  But he didn't so I ended up paying for the extras.  I have money to spend naman but sometimes it just feels good for the guy to act like the guy in the relationship.

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[Shadow Angel]

^baka he sees you as independent girl siguro kasi working din mas high paid ka pa ba than him? Isa pa isip nya siguro mah sinusupport sya anak kaya ganun.. Pero sana pumayag ka na share kasyo sa foods since sya rin pala kumakain ng mga binili mo living in na kayo diba bakit hindi sya nagbibigay sayo diba i mean hindi ba kayo nag sa save for both of you... Parang kakasinis nga rin kung gann diba.. Try mo sya kausapin ano ba plan nyo para sa inyo... Saka since magkasama na kayo bakit kkb pa?

[devilish_einjel]

^^ ahh. parang iba na nga yung ganyan, super mega ubod ng kuripot! nakakairita nga kung palagi na lang bukam bibig niya is pera.. or yung papayag lang kung ikaw magbababayad.. paano kayo sa future niyan sis? may plano ba kayo magpakasal? kasi sa ganito kaliit na bagay pa lang malalaman mo na eh, like gastusan ka ng kunti hindi niya magawa, sa situation niyo parang husband and wife na kayo e, so dapat share and nagbibigay siya sayo ng pera for you to budget.. kayo na nga lang nandyan so dapat tulungan kayo, tulungan ka niya bilang siya naman yung lalaki.. good provider siya sa family niya, nasa isip niya siguro na gusto muna niya guminhawa family niya kaya dun niya inuubos pera niya.. and ikaw naisip niya siguro na may work ka naman.. parang ganon..

[atlantis_princess]

Same lang ang sweldo namin kaya lang I'm the youngest and I'm not really supporting anyone.  Binibigyan ko lang konti ang mama ko.  Unlike him na he's sending money for his mom's allowance, nakikihati din sya sa rent nila sa manila, and then sa anak nya.  Kapag naiinis ako sa knya naiisip ko na lang na yung tinitipid naman nya is hindi naman nya sinasarili lang, it's for his family naman.  Pero as his GF, I just want some little sacrifices on his part.  And I'm also thinking long-term.  Wedding plans... medyo ambiguous mga sagot nya, parang he wants pero minsan hindi.  Now that I am typing this, I'm thinking what a stupid idea to live with him kung di pa concrete ang plans. He's my first bf kasi but I am in my late twenties na.  So yes I think, I may have to discuss these things with him talaga.  Thanks!

[Shadow Angel]

Oo nga sis mag isip ka rin... Alam mo un mag stay ka lang because of your age and 1stmo sya kaso doon kaba talga masaya at contented.. Ang ungentleman nya un lang

[x-y]

I just want to share this problem of a friend. Sobrang nalulungkot kase ako for her. She has a boyfriend of 7 years. Si boyfriend, may bestfriend na girl whom he's friends with even before my friend and his boyfriend met. Just recently, she found out that his boyfriend is inlove with the bestfriend. I am not sure with the exact details pa... Pero it looked like yun magbestfriends ay inlove sa isa't isa. Yung friend ko, she felt like she was the barrier... Imagine, 7 years na sila. So hard for her to let go. She learned about it because she accidentally read one of the sent items of his boyfriend on his cellphone where she read all the boyfriend's text message to the bestfriend. Until now, she has not talked to the boyfriend yet because she knows that once they talk, it will be the end of their relationship.

Ang advice ko dito kase is there's no sense of fighting for that guy kung iba naman na yung mahal niya... Yeah, 7 years is 7 years. I know how hard it is to let go.. Pero diba kawawa naman sya if pagpipilitan pa niya sarili nya.

What do you guys think?

[jtansanco]

^ She has to talk to him about it. She will just enter a long period of depression if she prolongs the agony. I tried something like that before and it's not worth it. Maybe, she should be accompanied by someone when she confronts the bf kasi baka magbreakdown si girl ng sobra sobra. She'll definitely need someone to be there for her if ever worse comes to worst.

[xtense_15]

ako rin meron isshare...

i had a boyfriend for more than six years. we broke up feb last year, for another girl. hindi pa sila pero he wanted to pursue a romantic relationship with the other one instead. so syempre wala naman akong magagawa kung iba na ang gusto nung isa, i had to let go. halos everyday nun pinagdadasal ko nga na sana bumalik sya at marealize nya na sayang naman yung ni-give up nyang relationship.

mahirap maka move on pero slowly natanggap ko rin na malaki talaga yung probability na hindi na kami magkita ulit. hindi ako nag entertain ng kahit sinong guys for more than six months, so lahat ng nakikilala ko parang lahat ang bagsak e friendzone haha. pero, meron akong isang naka-close na guy sa office. never had i expected naman na madedevelop kami sa isa't isa. akala ko talaga, "this is is pansit!" kaya lang meron mga unexpected turn of events so kahit meron feelings, hindi namin kaya i-take to the next level. so friendzone ang bagsak.

tapos biglang bumalik si ex.. at sinusuyo nya ako ulet. narealize nya na ako parin yung love nya at hindi yung isa. so parang sinagot yung dasal ko diba kaya lang ngayon hindi na ako makasigurado kung tatanggapin ko sya ulit kasi parang may naiwan parin akong feelings dun sa isa. actually ngayon mas gusto ko na yung new guy pero ayokong mawala si ex dahil somehow secured kasi ako sa kanya. alam ko ako ang may problema dito eh haha.. pero ayun di ko ma-let go pareho. pano ba to

[x-y]

^^Yeah, kumukuha pa raw siya ng lakas ng loob to confront the bf.

[jtansanco]

^^ xtense - Give it time. Di naman requirement ang magka-bf no. Just wait and see kung sino sa kanila yung magwowork hard not to let you go. Kasalanan din ng ex mo na nagbreak kayo so pahirapan mo rin siya ng konti. Give hints that you still like "them". Play the pakipot siguro since ikaw yung confused e. You just have to choose between the two "if ever". Just make sure the one you'll choose is the one that you won't have regrets with. Life is full of choices. Make it count.

[devilish_einjel]

wala pa din kami progress ni bf.. mag 3 months na kami pero hindi pa din ako comfortable sa kanya.. bakit ganon nagbago talaga ako nung sinagot ko siya, ako yung may problema eh.. kasi super bait niya, wala ko masabi sa kabaitan pero ako tong lokaloka na nagiinarte.. kanina nagpunta siya dito, hindi ko man lang kinausap, umuwi na nga lang agad e.. I feel bad talaga, super guilty pero hindi ko mapigilan..  bakit kaya ako ganito, e nung nililigawan niya ako kilig na kilig naman ako, ngayon kami na kapag nikalambing niya ako naiinis ako.. 

[jtansanco]

^ Either you two sit in a room and talk it out or isipin mo yung before/after na nangyari sayo. Kinilig ka ba because he was "chasing" you? Kumulang na ba effort niya nung naging kayo? Or maybe hindi ka lang sanay na may bf since you were living the single life..

[devilish_einjel]

^ hindi siya nagbago sis, sweet naman saka maalaga.. lagi nga ako niyayaya mag date daw kami ako yung may ayaw palagi ako may excuse.. nagka bf naman ako before sis mag 4 years din kami, iniisip ko nga baka mahal ko pa si ex?or miss ko lang siguro kasi hindi ko naman naiisip makipagbalikan.. pero alam mo yun sis hindi ko maiwasan mag compare? kasi kay ex super comfortable na ko tapos dito kay bf ayaw ko palambing..

[jtansanco]

^ How long ago kayo nagbreak ni ex? How long waiting period before mo sinagot si current? Baka kasi nagiging rebound si current e.. Btw, call me bro. Haha.

[devilish_einjel]

^ aw sorry naman, hehe.. bro pala! nag break kami last week ng April ang naging kami naman ng current bf ko mid-october.. rebound? idk  nung nanliligaw siya hindi naman yun pumasok sa isip ko..

[jtansanco]

^ I guess 5-6 months should be okay. Syempre hindi mo iisipin na rebound but you'll miss the good times together or being in a relationship kaya minsan you long for having a guy with you. I guess nung dumating si current, naging masaya ka but naiinis ka kasi bakit hindi niya ginagawa yung ginawa ni ex sayo before. You better decide if sino ba talaga siya sayo. Do you really like him or parang siya yung "rebound" (can't think of another term) kay ex? Cuz for me, you should not be in a relationship if you're not totally inlove with the person because sooner or later, mapapagod ka rin. Think of it na you have to tell someone "i love you" without meaning it. Baka ganyan kasi mangyari..

[devilish_einjel]

^ super tama! naccompare ko talaga minsan, like naiisip ko pag si ex kasama ko ganito kami, ganito gagawin namin plus the fact pa nga na comfortable ako kumilos sa kanya kay current hindi..    baka nga asa friend zone lang kami.. pero super bait niya laki kong t**** pag pinakawalan ko, iniisip ko baka sakali bumalik pa yung dating spark?

[jtansanco]

^ Try to go to places or do things na hindi niya napuntahan/ginawa ni ex para new memories. Hassle nga yan kung friendzone since guys would rather disappear then be in the friendzone.. As for the spark, nasa sayo na yun. Based on what you said about kay current, he has the spark for you. Question is, do you have the spark with him? If you think you'll be really happy with him for the long run, stay. If you're second-guessing your feelings for him just because he's so nice to you, you better try to clear your head fast. Worst case, if hindi mo talaga siya love, you better end it while it's still early and be sure to explain it to him. It's better to be direct then to keep a guy hanging. Guys kasi sobrang imaginative. Like for example, if hindi ka magreply sa text niya during the day, sobrang dami na yan iniisip about you.