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[coco_CRUNCH]

tingin ko lahat ng tao ay may different ways in showing love and emotions.. siguro lang tingin mo hindi siya showy kasi hindi yun yung way na ineexpect or alam mo... you can talk it over.... magsusurvive yan,, hindi madali pero if you really believe in what you have, then kahit anong problema can be surpassed.. kaya mo yan sis!!

[schumine]

tingin ko lahat ng tao ay may different ways in showing love and emotions.. siguro lang tingin mo hindi siya showy kasi hindi yun yung way na ineexpect or alam mo... you can talk it over.... magsusurvive yan,, hindi madali pero if you really believe in what you have, then kahit anong problema can be surpassed.. kaya mo yan sis!!

Thank sis.. We've talked awhile ago, at  naramdaman niya agad that something is wrong with me. Below is our conversation.

Him: Good morning sunshine
Me: Morning too choy.
Him: musta weekend? umuwi ka ba?
Me: not that good. nope di ako umuwi.
Him: Y? masakit parin ulo mo?
Me: Nah. okay naman ulo ko. how bout u?
Him: Bahay lang. had a bad day yesterday?
Me: I dunno if I can cosider it as a bad day.
Him: Why? loneliness feeling?
Me: Emotional ako now..
Him: Christmas? I feel am one of the reason bat ka malungkot.
Me: Bakit mo naman nasabi?
Him: Kase sabi mo nga dapat  I should give time. Eh kahapon maghapon ako di nag subscribe sa      BBM. I feel guilty.
Me: napapasaya ba kita?
Him: Yes. My nahihingahan ako ng sama ng loob. Dati problem ko akin lang eh. Ikaw nag iba ng ikot ng mundo ko. Dati ofc, bahay, comp. game. Now I have some1 to look up too every morning and everyday. Dati pag sakay ako ng bus tutulog ako, ngayon I'm always waiting for you. Minsan gusto man kita gambalain sa gabi, pinipigilan ko sarili ko, baka kase maka istorbo sayo at ako pa maging dahilan ng pagkapuyat mo. Do you feel the barrier of distance relationship?
Me: I'm happy to know na napapasaya kita.
Him: Eto na siguro yung sinasabi nilang distance relationship. Iba parin pag kasama mo sa tabi mo yung mahal mo, na fifeel mo yung presense niya, eh ako parang kabuteng lulubong lilitaw. Nasanay na kasi akong magisa for how many years, I've been like this.
Me: Tingin mo kakayanin natin to?
Him: I have no idea. I haven't been in a relationship. But its worth of try.
Me: I'm your 1st, and this is my 1st time in LDR.
Him: As I said, I still have 2 yrs to go. Alam ko its a long waiting. I will understand if you will find worthy of your time. But I will always be here. And if I made it up to this age, 2 yrs is not long for me. Mas matatanggap ko pa na makapag pasaya ako kesa maging hadlang sa mas masaya mong buhay. Chubz, di ko pwedeng awatin ang puso mo na mag mahal ng iba. Tandaan mo lang that I will always be here waiting for you.
Me: Naiinis ka ba kapag ganito ako. emo?
Him: Di naman, I want to know syempre the whole side of you. I know myself, di ako pala kwento. Pero tanungin mo ko, sasagot ako. Introvert ba tawag dun? I'm not good starting convo. I rather stair in the sky and wonder around.
Me: Daldalita kasi ako, kung ano ano kinukwento ko. Minsan naiisip ko baka ikinakainis mo na.
Him: Thats the good thing about you, kesa naman siobrang tahimik. Tahimik na nga ako, tahimik ka rin, panis na laway bago makapag salita. My pagka manhid ako. Minsan kailangan mo pa sabihin sa akin kung ano ang dapat kong gawin.
Me: Di ba pag ganun parang nagiging demanding ka sa taong mahal mo kasi you demand him to do this and not to do that..
Him: I URGE YOU TO DO THAT. Para naman malaman ko. Or else bago ko matutunan yun eh baka huli na ang lahat. So tell me, what do I need to do? Your rules, demands, ransom?  Learning process ako.
Me: #1 is communication
Him: Okay noted.


After reading our conversation. Ano sa tingin niyo? Please enlighten me mga sissies. Thank you so much in advance.

[coco_CRUNCH]

nice sis! happy to know na alam ni bf mo yung status niyo and its a good thing.. actually better yan.. its a good start para maging vocal ang relationship niyo... that's the only thing that can sustain yung relationship niyo kasi nga long distance kayo...

[schumine]

nice sis! happy to know na alam ni bf mo yung status niyo and its a good thing.. actually better yan.. its a good start para maging vocal ang relationship niyo... that's the only thing that can sustain yung relationship niyo kasi nga long distance kayo...

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yehey! thanks so much sis..

[devilish_einjel]

^ sis.. sweet naman pala si boyfie mo e, hayaan mo lang baka bumubwelo pa ehh..  pero alam mo halos same tayo ng situation..madaldal din ako kahit ano kinukwento ko sa kanya, siya tahimik lang.. magkkwento lang minsan.. tapos first gf niya din ako, aside from that pa papunta na din kami sa LDR stage kasi ma-release lang yung visa ko aalis na ako.. if nabasa mo yung above post ko, problem ko naman e parang wala ako nararamdaman na "love" pero binibigyan ko pa ng time before I decide to call it quits.. isa pa nga pala sa ayaw ko sa kanya e para pa siyang bata.. immature pa, magka age lang kasi kami e, tapos the fact pa na 1st gf niya ako, parang ako tuloy nagdadala ng relasyon.. siguro kaya ganito kasi super opposite kami, hindi yata applicable sa amin opposites attract  haaay.. lets pray na lang sis, ako lagi ko dinarasal kay God na kung hindi naman din siya yung para sa akin, kunin na lang niya sa akin si bf..

[schumine]

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sweet ba sis? ganun din sinabi ko sa sarili ko kahapon after namin magusap, bibigyan ko siya ng time. since pinasa niya skn ang bola, I'll be the leader and he will submit. Totoo yun sis, lagi lang pray. Ganun din ako everytime i pray lagi ko sinasabi kay God if its him, bigyan niya ko ng mas malawak na pang unawa at mahabang pasensya pa. If hindi siya yung itinakda niya sa akin kunin na lang niya. Dahil alam naman ni God ano pinagdaanan ko sa past relationships ko. At lubos kong pinagpapasalamat sa kanya i survive. After how many years, eto LDR ang pinasok ko pa. Naninibago siya, ganun din ako. Sobrang pag aadjust talaga sis. Well, I'm hoping and praying that everything will be okay. 

Ang lalake ata sis mas matagal mag mature kesa sa girl, e noh? hmm..

[woman_in_worship]

Hi! I wanna share mine..

I just want to ask if its healthy sa isang bf/gf na magkita lang twice or thrice a month?
i dont know lang po.. kasi feeling ko hindi naman kami sobrang layo sa isat isa.. pero kung magkita kmi once in a 2 weeks... and feeling ko hindi ito nakakatulong para mging strong yung foundation ng relationship namin..
to give u a brief background.. he came from an 11yrs relationship before ako dumating, syempre as expected, the whole angkan nya boto kay prev gf.. minsan naiisencure ako [textspeak!] pakiramdam ko hindi pa sya 100% moved on.. kasi when we are together tapos kwentuhan.. pag may bagay na related kay girl.. like yung province... parang nablocked yung lugar na yun smin at ayaw nyang pumunta dun.. kaya tingin ko yun yung reason kaya ndi sya msydong maeeffort sa relationship namin.. sorry ah.. medyo magulo po ba yung kwento ko? medyo naguguluhan  din po ako samin e... hehe....

[schumine]

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gaano na kayo katagal sis?

[anjeology]

I had an ex boyfriend. Kumbaga sa love, love na love ko sya. Sa like, sya na yung ideal guy for me. Almost perfect sya (kahit nobody's perfect) nung binigay sya ni God sakin. Gwapo, makinis, matangkad, matalino, etc. Highschool palang ako nung nanligaw sya. Pero college na'ko nung sinagot ko sya. Napaka-sugarcoated kasi ng words nya. Mabola ba? So, nagpabola naman ako. Pero despite of that, okay naman relationship namin. May time for each other. Hanggang may mga attitudes syang di ko nagugustuhan. I don't want to mention it na. In short, meron syang "wants" na di ko talaga kayang ibigay. I just think na, it's not the right time to gave it. And may pagka-chicboy si Kuya (kasi feeling gwapo sya) HAHAHA. So nag-break kami. After that breakup, nangungulit parin sya. Sa una, nakukulitan na'ko. Then nung tumagal, napaisip ako na he still wanted to prove that he has changed. So ngayon, mga 3 yrs nang nakakalipas. He's trying to have me again. Ako naman, yung mga senti times ko noon, nammiss ko sya. So ngayon, iniisip ko. Would I gave him a chance to prove that he really do changed? Kasi ang hirap eh. Everytime na may sinasabi sya towards me, lagi nalang ako nagddoubt. Parang paranoid ako kung totoo ba or hindi yung mga sinasabi nya 

[christine1992]

@Woman in Worship:
Gaano katagal na ba kayo ng bf mo? Siguro, he's still trying to fully move on sa 11-year relationship niya. I dont want to hurt your feelings but I think at this time, you are sort of panakip butas muna niya. Nangyari na kasi yan sa kaibigan ko before, and in the end, bumalik rin sya sa 5-year gf niya before her. Masakit ang nangyari sa kanya kasi  ganon nga, she became the panakip butas for 1 year and 4 months. I dont know, baka iba naman sa sitwasyon mo ngayon. Ikaw lang ang makapagsasabi niyan. But for now Sis, intindihin mo muna siya kung ganon gusto niya, yung minsan lang kayo magkita. Baka naman, ginawa niya 'yon because he's afraid, that mangyari na naman ang nagyari sa kanya before. Di Ba? Maybe, he's not that ready to be deeply attached with you emotionaly but he's still taking the risk of committing to you. Yun nga, eh, he's taking it slow. All you have to do for now is understand him and love him with all your heart without expecting something in return. You can hope sis but dont expect. Yun naman lagi rule nating mga girls di ba? hehe. Good luck

[woman_in_worship]

sis schumine, 7 mos palang po...

[irishe1221]

Hi mga sis, share ko lang problem ko, i have a bf and we are currently on a "long distance" relationship for 7 months. Naging kami through fb and skype, I saw him before, pero ako, he told me Im familiar. So ayun, nging kmi, and I already met his family though wala siya, I go to their house and bond with his family. And everything is going well.

 But then, Im having this issues with myself, like he's too pretty for me. I saw his ex-gf, and sobrang ganda niya. So I am doubting kung bakit nya ko ngustuhan, he honestly told me, he fall for me not because I am beautiful, but with my attitude.  So okay, tanggap ko un, kaso I am afraid that love will eventually fade kapag may nakita siyang mas maganda sakin. 

Help me mga sis, kasi nagkakaaway kami sometimes because bigla na lang ako mawawala sa mood kapag naiisip ko na iiwan niya rin ako eventually.

[Chinito]

I understand how you feel irish. ganyan talaga ang feeling pag less yung emotional security na nakukuha mosa partner mo. I just want to clarify your story, you said that you just met him in FB? so does it mean you never saw each other in real life? if that so, i can say that the relationship is mediocre. .
Regardinghis statement being attracted to you not because of your looks but the way you carry yourself could be true. though sabi nila men are visual creatures but NOT all men are the same. there are still men who prefer to have an interesting companion than a sultry chick with vacant thoughts.. maybe you are just self pittying ( dont know if there such word as this) siguro masyado ka lang nag wo worry about whats gonna happen and its normal. sometimes over analyzing can deteriorate one's ability to grow.
If i were you, i will instead try to work on my fears and do something about the relationship itself.
why not try self enhancement and personality development. do something that can boost your confidence.
In that way baka pwede mo sabihing mas maganda yung ex gf niya pero mas masaya kang kasama , mas interesting ka or mas sexy ka. hindi naman lahat ng maganda sa paningin masarap e. i mean masarap ka relasyon. heheh.

[schumine]

@woman_in_woship

Seeing ur bf/gf twice or thrice a month is a weird for me. Lalo na kung hindi naman kayo ganun kalayo sa isat isa. Sis, maybe your bf is not yet totally moved on. being in a 11 years relationship is not that easy to forget and act normal after.I agree with christine1992 that you are sort of panakip butas. Siguro sis bigyan mo ng time si bf, nasa stage pa siya ng healing process. Habaan mo lang muna pasensya mo, comfort him, love him w/out expecting something in return. Set a time, maybe 1 yr or more than kapag ganyan pa din bf mo, maybe its time for you to decide. So far 7 months is too early to judge and with his past e talaga naman mahirap talaga.

[schumine]

hindi naman lahat ng maganda sa paningin masarap e. i mean masarap ka relasyon. heheh.

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I agree with you hindi lahat ng maganda sa paningin eh masarap.. hahaha. Well, I can say that most of the guys prefer attitude than beauty.  Kapag beauty + good attitude gf ni guy *JACKPOT* na tawag dyan.

[woman_in_worship]

tnx sis christine1992 and sis schumine... hehe.. [textspeak!] ko na nga ba e, may pag kaabnormal yung gnung set up.. hindi ko alam kung paano ioopen sa knya yung gnyang prob..

[REDBUNCH]

@ woman_in_worship

seeing twice/thrice a month is quite normal for me.. its the quality of time you gave not the quantity..

[schumine]

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sis, basta sabihin mo lang sakanya what you feel. Better you open up with him, ganyan ako sa bf ko, since LDR kami importante talaga na open ako sakanya, and now I lead and he submit. 

[yabbikins]

mga sis, this will be long, please bear with me....

im in a LDR FOR 2 years. okay naman kame, we see each other at least 2x a year. may constant communication. i felt nga that LDR improved our relationship, mas naging mature kame. no petty fights.
i was very happy with the relationship. then one day, every thing changed. he went back here in PH because we have attend a wedding. while he was in the wash room, i checked his phone (which I always do, very open kame sa phone ng isat isa) and then I saw the messages. he is flirting with this chinese girl! para talaga akong binuhusan ng malamig na tubig. and i discovered there is another girl pa. i closed his phone kasi I am afraid kung ano pa ang makikita ko. sobrang na-hurt talaga ako. its not just the flirting eh. i trusted him and he betrayed me. since we have an event to attend to the next day, hindi ko muna siya kinausap about it. soon after the wedding, i confronted him. nagulat siya and he hugged me tight. wala lang daw yun. i said i dont care, you betrayed me. i never doubted him and he never game me a reason to until now. before he left, I said its over. and he said he understands pero pinipilit niya pa din bumawi. and I acknowledge his efforts. i feel like I am in a state of limbo. i dont know what to do and I know where to start. for 5 years, he has been my best friend. he is there during the highs and lows of my life. we still talk and laugh like we dont have a problem. I love him enough to be inclined to give him another chance. but a part of me doesnt want to. cheating is something i dont think in
I can get over with. like now, lagi kong naiisip, what is he doing behind my back. wala na kasing trust eh.  before kasi as in wala talagang hint na he is doing that eh. so now, nakakaparanoid. i dont know what to do! 

[phoenuiqxz]

hi sis yabbikins, im in a sort of similar situation din ok naman kami ng bf ko pero minsan when he's taking a shower i also read his messages sa fone, just to make sure lang na he's not doing anything behind my back. dati naman wala akong nababasang kakaibang msgs until kanina... he texted his ofcmate na girl and kinakamusta nya kasi wala daw syang magawa since I was out with my family that day. tapos tinatanong nya if gusto nya maginuman at libre daw nya. then nagreply yung girl na tinatamad sya lumabas. then nagreply nlng si bf na sige di bale nalang at mag grocery nlng daw sya...
at first, after reading the text, i tried to tell myself na wala lang yun...na maybe it was just a friendly invitation. kaya lang di ako mapakali and i eventually asked him about it. sabi niya wala lang yun at di naman nya [textspeak!] itutuloy na makipaginuman if ever. sabi niya joke lang daw yun sa ofcmate nya. tapos medyo nagtampo pa sya sakin dahil ngayon lang nya nalaman na im reading the msgs in his fone.
di ko tuloy alam if paniniwalaan ko sya or what... kasi nasa isip ko kung may mangyayari if natuloy sila. if anyone wants to give advice, please do so. kasi di ko [textspeak!] alam gagawin ko. gusto ko sya bigyan ng isa pang chance pero di naman ganun ka bilis ulit maearn ang trust