Gusto mo ba ikaw ang BOSS?

[mimilusciouss]

I want it balanced. 50:50

[sweet.trish]

Gusto ko yung bine-baby ko pero yung tipong pag nagpasaway ako eh isang tingin nya lang tiklop na ko :-)

[det060403]

I think dapat walang lamang. Its better if its a give and take relationship.

[hermione28]

Yung normal namen ako ang BOSS.  as in takot sya saken.

pero takot ako pag nagagalit na sya. pag nagaaway sya na ang BOSS, tiklop na ako. hehe. 

basta parang balanced lang, kapag nasa bahay naman kasi siya pinag hahanda ko ng food, abot mo to abot mo yan. pero pag aalis naman lahat ng gusto kong puntahan sunod lang sya, lahat ng gusto ko bili naman sya. balance lang. Most of the time lang ako ang BOSS.

[May24]

Si hubby... Boss ang term of endearment sakin and I love it. But when in truth sya ang mas nasusunod sa mga major decisions, though sometimes pumaparaan pa rin ako using my women's prowess hehe

[Frozen Toes]

Not at all. I believe that men should take the lead in relationships. If he fails to live up to this role, I'll do it, but I'll hate it.

[iseenessie]

Okay, this is tricky.

What I usually do is this. Pag nasa mga friends kami, I give off this illusion na he is the boss. Ayoko naman kasi na sabihan syang under. I know that would hurt his ego. Pero pag kaming dalawa nalang, hindi na ganun. When it comes to major decisions, I make sure I consult the guy. I let him help me decide. Pag about us naman yung decision, I weigh it. Pag reasonable lahat ng sinabi nya, sya masusunod. Pag hindi, i will try muna at first na magkaroon ng compromise. Pero pag matigas sya, yung gusto ko gagawin ko.

Now when I am mad, ibang usapan na yan. Pag galit na ako, ako ang batas. Lalo pag may PMS and bad hair day.

[aquacharly]

IMO, don't get too focused on the power balance.
But don't be dumb too, as in not having/giving up  power  in a relationship.

Give-and-Take should be the shared strategy.

[px17]

may pagkabossy talaga ako. Pero when it comes to relationship lagi naming pinaguusapan mga decisions. Ayoko yung feeling na masusunod nga ako pero masama naman loob nung boyfriend ko. Kaya  equal lang kami tho may times talaga na umiiral pagkabossy ko pero sa maliliit na bagay lang.

[purple.strawberry]

Biruan namin ng current boyfriend ko yan. Sinasabihan ko siya ng "I'm the boss." (It's from a video in Youtube called conversations with my 2-year old kid.)

Ako kasi I tend to assert my dominance, pero I like it when the guy holds his ground. Yung ex-boyfriend ko sobrang under sa'kin, minsan kahit unreasonable na ko e sinusunod pa din ako. Yeah, it's flattering, pero deep inside I want a strong partner. Pag ganun kasi, ang dating is confident sa buhay, dependable, reliable.

[mischabella]

Dati parang siya yung boss tas parang i didnt feel good about myself. I talked to him about it tas ngayon ok na. Give and take pero minsan feeling ko mas bossy ako ngayon 

[wildorchid]

I'd like to be submissive, for a change. Growing up para akong leader of the band sa school, sa bahay, sa orgs hehe so i want a guy naman na mas strong ang personality kesa sakin.

[nessy]

Submissive ako eh. Though lage nya sinasabe sa mga friends nya na ako daw ang boss nya. Ok naman ako dun. Hehe

[nixiquita]

gusto ko balanse.

gusto ko yung binebaby ako at ako yung boss.

but at the same time, i want him to 'baby' me and tame me as if siya ang boss din.

HAHA. Ganun, i like being controlled and the idea of being tamed. Yes, suma'sub ganon. Tamang balance lang. Parang in short, we respect and take care of each other lang. We are each other's boss and partner.

[sugardrop]

He's the boss as I want someone who can take charge and be the man. However, I appreciate that he values and respects my opinion on things as well and listen to what I have to say. But there are instances that I get to be in control and be the dominant one, say, behind closed doors but that's TMI.

[insanelypurpleprincess]

^ You stopped at the right time. Hahaha!

I kind of share the same view as sis sugardrop. I don't see it as a big deal at all if I am boss or not. In fact, I am more keen on being a Team Player as opposed to being the leader. However, my calling is really to lead, so that's what I do for a living. However, when it comes to relationships, I like being with someone who will make me practice what it's like to be a good follower. It's not because I like being ordered around, but I simply want to take a break and just follow the lead of my partner. Also, despite being tolerant of the rules and boundaries set, it's very important for me not to lose my voice. I want to continue to be able to express my views on things and just get due respect for these.

[Yamski]

With my ex, depende kung anong area ang pagdedesisyunan. When it comes to money-related matters, especially big expenses, I give my opinion but I always defer to him since hindi talaga 'ko marunong humawak ng pera. I just help him identify the risks and benefits pero gusto ko, sya ang boss pagdating sa final decision. Behind closed doors, he wants to be dominated pero I find it sexier pag sya ang dominante sa'min dalawa. Sa mga lakarin o pupuntahan pati kakainin at movies, ako talaga ang boss kasi ako yung researcher sa'min dalawa. 'Pag nasa mga bahay ng parents namin kami, kung kaninong bahay yun, siya ang boss. Kung nasa bahay nila kami, ako taga-hugas ng plato, at taga-masahe. Pero pag sa bahay namin, siya naman. Sa harap ng friends, pantay lang. We don't usually sit together when we meet up with friends. Bago pa man kami bumaba ng sasakyan, ibibigay niya na yung "share" ko sa meal para hindi halata ng friends namin na sagot niya 'ko lagi pag lumalabas. Pag nagtatalo na kami, ako na syempre ang boss.

[alice_alice]

Napansin ko mas dominant ako sa relationship namen, pero pag major decisions dapat may say siya and also he is really super mabait pero takot ako pag nagagalit siya. Mas strong kasi ang personality ko, di naman siya under pero gusto ko talaga yung pagkadominante ko dahil dyan takot na takot siya gumawa ng kalokohan haha.

[Yamski]

^hmmm.. ganyan din yung ex ko nuon, sobrang takot na pag galit na 'ko but that didn't stop him from cheating on me.

[sugardrop]

Kasi baka may times na feeling nila, natatapakan yung pagkalalake nila kaya they look for someone with whom they wouldn't feel that way.