JELOUSY PROBLEM

[mrsdee]

present! selosa din ako, haha. pero siguro it's because soft-spoken si hubby at very nice talaga and concern sa girls. but staring, woman-gazing sa malls, di naman.

my sister-in-law has the same reklamo sa brother ko mismo. so I went to my brother and asked him kung pag napapalingon ba sya, it means he's trying to flirt na or may lustful thought ba sa mind nya. and then he said, meron lang talagang times na no matter how hard he tries not to look at girls, pag may napapadaan na, alam mo yun, long legged, mistiza, or basta attraction-getter, talagang mapapalingon ka. natural na raw nila yun. pero di naman daw ibig sabihin he'll do more than just look at the girl.

anyway, new year's reso ko nga, magpaganda ever. siguro part of me getting jealous is insecure ako sa looks ko now dahil preggy kaya bonggang make over na lang after giving birth. but, but, but, let's not do it solely to get bf/hubby's attention. let's do it for ourselves din, parang vote of confidence and self-esteem kumbaga.

[snix]

pajoin! dati wala ako pakelam pati sa mga crush niya kasi alam ko naman normal to..until nawrong send siya sakin ng convo niya with a coworker na may lagi silang tinitignan na babae nacrush na crush niya and the things he would do to her.. Mula nun nagseselos nako sa lahat ng crush niya at pinapranig at ginagawanginsecure ang sarili ko sa pagtingin ng ga crush niya sa facebook..

Mahilig siya sa maputi at chinita, so not me dahil kabaligtaran ako lol.. now i can't help but compare.. I love my bf and i trust him a lot.. Mula lang ng nabasa ko yun nawrong send niya sakin, naiinsecure nako ng bonggang bongga at parang kahit anong pagpapaganda ang gawin ko parang kulang pa rin..

New year na new year ang drama ko lol

[iwannabeasupermodel]

^"things he would do to her"? well may karapatan ka naman pala magselos sis! as in lustful things? pag ganon magseselos na ako!

[xtense_15]

@sis iwannabeasupermodel hahaha! ayun nga hindi rin ka-gwapuhan etong guy friend ko, pero in fairness naman sa kanya eh malakas ang appeal nya

@sis mrsdee feeling ko nga human nature talaga yun, i mean kahit tayo ngang mga girls napapalingon sa mga cute at gwapo diba

[iwannabeasupermodel]

^di siya gwapo pero he's very friendly, easy to get a long with. magaling kumanta/magplay ng guitar. there was a time when tutugtog sana siya, nakapagpractice na with the band he'll join pero jealous gf found out that one of the members of the band is a pretty girl. boom pinull out na ang kanyang talent. and she did it a day before the presentation. if di naman siya b*tch much di ba.

[xtense_15]

^huwaaat grabe yun ah, ibang level ang insecurity nung girl

[iwannabeasupermodel]

kaya nga eh! parang si guy na lang ang mundo niya. baka walang masyadong friends. ewan.

[douxmadchen]

^hahaha. baka nga friendless si girlah.

[snix]

@sis iwannabeasupermodel- yup lustful things o diba.. I'm glad normal lang yung nararamdaman ko.. He neer fails to reassure me naman and i think normal lang sa mga lalake yung ganyan..So ayun, kaya doble kayod sa pagpapaganda na to

[iwannabeasupermodel]

^dapat sis gawin mo triple ang paggrovel niya to get in you good graces! pagluhurin sa asin yang tampalasan na yan! haha! 

[Naughty^GuRu]

^di siya gwapo pero he's very friendly, easy to get a long with. magaling kumanta/magplay ng guitar. there was a time when tutugtog sana siya, nakapagpractice na with the band he'll join pero jealous gf found out that one of the members of the band is a pretty girl. boom pinull out na ang kanyang talent. and she did it a day before the presentation. if di naman siya b*tch much di ba.

reply lang ako about this sis 

i think BF did the right thing to pack-up his talent. maybe he loves GF that much para intindihin yung pagiging selosa niya. rather than risk the relationship eh siya nalang nagpapaubaya. i think this kind of thing is essential sa serious relationship. if alam mo na yung significant other mo has an issue with someone, then umiwas ka nalang kung kaya mo naman iwasan diba, kesa pag awayan niyo pa. it only shows that BF respects GF's feelings, na kahit wala naman dapat pagselosan si GF, still nagpaubaya siya.

yun naman ang hindi ko ma-gets sa ibang girls, alam na nilang may issue sa kanila yung GF ng guy pero hindi sila gumagawa ng way para umiwas, it's just a matter of respect nalang siguro to the GF. kung alam mong nagseselos sayo yung gf nung guy, umiwas ka na, kahit sabihin mo na wala naman kayong ginagawa nung guy.

that's just my two cents

[snix]

^ napansin ko lang na yung ibang babae na kahit alam na nilang selosa si gf ni guy eh mas natutuwa pa sila dahil napapatunayan nilang kaselos selos sila.. just my observation.. or gusto lang din nila lumandi?

naalala ko tuloy: "relationships are meant for just two people but some b*tches don't know how to count"

[iwannabeasupermodel]

@bro naughty guru and @sis snix

i know naman na isa din ako sa pinagseselosan nitong si GF, actually siya yung kinocomplain ko dun sa una kong post dito. hahaha! anyway i know naman na masakit at mabigat ang feeling pag nagseselos. i respect her and i kept my distance sa BF.

that is also applicable in my life (not me, but someone in my family) sana nga kahit wala naman talagang something, si girl dapat is mag give space na, kasi nga yun, out of respect sa GF. pero antigas talaga ng ulo ng ibang babae diyan, and some men are also matigas ang ulo. for them, bakit sila magdidistance from each other if wala naman talaga, para kasing they think mas magmumukhang fishy if they keep a distance from each other, parang for them may something talaga if ginawa nila yun. sorry magulo. 

[ayami]

I used to be selosa not because wala akong friends, pero I was pregnant kasi and I wanted all the attention from the husband. Eto namang isa, just like what were previously mentioned by sis mrsdee: friendly, soft-spoken, tsaka yung a la-nice guy ang appeal. Nasanay pa ko na he revolved in my world nung syota days namin. We shared my barkada, too. Nagulat na lang ako when he went to this school and met lotsa cooler people from his previous school and some other rich kids' school. Yan na yung mga tipo na ma-club, ma-inom and yeah I must say those girls were young and gorgeous with makeup lol. He went to a point na he lied to me just to have this inuman session in their condo, missing a doc's appointment for our baby. I was so pissed syempre. From then on, I became the FB stalker, location-tracker, paranoid and uberly jealous kind of wife. Lasted for a year or so, until humupa ang preggy hormones.

When I look back, feeling ko kasi binibigyan nya rin ng motibo for me to get selosa. Kung di ba naman uberly inconsistent si husband and tells lotsa lies, then probably di rin ako magdududa. Ngayon, wala nang ganon and yes he split with the cool kids from his school (they migrated one by one pa, to my advantage). Ngayon he lost his school friends, never mingled and was stuck to his HS barkada that I personally know (not my college friends that we shared as friends a few years back), and his offline PC games.

Oh, to make up for the selosan issue, one of the things I asked him to do is to fail his Rizal class if he's really serious about it (yung tipong "If there is one thing that would make you forgive me..." kind of thing). Running for honors (something laude) pa man din siya pero he did it. Much like yung usapan nyo about those guys mentioned in the thread cos of their selosang gf. In my case, I'm the wife naman pero, WTH, dun ako nasatisfy e. Nakita ko yung pagiging seryoso nya to work things out.

[mariaclara-]

ganyan din ako sis. at first, gusto ni bf kase nalalaman niya daw na mahal ko talaga siya. nung tumagal, nag-aaway na kami. and then nabasa ko tong book na'to which is WHY MEN LOVE BITCHES. nakalagay dun, pag sobrang selos ka daw to the point na insecure much na, guys will think na wala kang confidence sa sarili mo which is a no-no. guys love strong woman ika nga daw. ginawa ko, pag may nakakasalubong kami na magandang girl or yung attractive lang, parang wala lang sakin. tas pag nalagpasan na namin si girl, i'd checked my bf's reaction, parang di siya makapaniwala na for the first time ay hindi ako nagreact. after nun, di na siya napaptingin sa other girls and he's more sweet na.

[GD]

Selosa ako, to the point na naiinis ako kapag yung bf ko may natignan lang saglit na ibang babae.
Ewan ko, kakainis lang yung ganon. Ang bilis pa naman uminit ng ulo ko. Kaya kapag nahuli ko iritable na ako nun. Haha.

[mikoarai]

Hay nako sis ang remedy lang talaga dito is mag paganda ka rin! Huwag kang mag papatalo sa ibang girls jan kasi ako ganun eh haha alam ko naman na mas marami talagang babae na mas maganda sa akin pero at the same time being a confident woman helps talaga para hindi madistract si boyfie.

Pero siempre minsan ako rin nag seselos ng konti pag nakikita ko yung guy na kasama ko tumitingin sa ibang girls pero hindi ko pinapakita. I try to stay cool and sometimes I even joke about it. I love watching pretty girls rin kaya minsan sinasabay ko pa siya sa kalokohan niya. At the end of the day, I always make him feel na masuwerte siya sa akin and I'm confident about myself so satisfy naman siya. This may sound b*tchy but I always make sure that my ex/bf knows that I can walk away anytime na nag loko siya haha Minsan nga baligtad. Yung bf/ex ko talaga yung nakatingin lang sa akin tapos ako napapatingin sa iba but I don't think that doesn't mean na I'm cheating na. Tingin okay pa pero pag nakita ko na gumalaw na siya patay siya sa akin haha

[IronLady]

nako mga sis.. super selosa ko lately.. its becoming a big deal.. hayyy.. siguro kasi hindi na kami madalas magkita.. and di ko na sya masyado naririnigan ng mga lambing na salita.. kaya siguro kung ano ano na ang naiisip ko.. pag hindi kami nagkita at inuna nya mga kaofficemates nya nalulungkot na ko at nagseselos.. palibhasa may girl ako din dun na pinagseselosan.. makaka-cling kasi kay bf kala mo sya ang jowa.. ayoko ng ganun kasi.. sinabi ko na yun kay bf and sinabi na daw nya kay girl kaya nahiya naman daw tong si girl.. pero hindi ko alam ha.. kasi hindi naman kami sa iisang office nagwowork kaya malay ko kung ano ng status.. may nakapagsabi lang kasi sakin na nakita daw nya may naka-cling daw na girl kay bf.. ang gusto ko lang e i-assure nya ko na ako lang.. di naman kagandahan si girl bakit ko kelangan magselos.. waahh.. yoko ng ganito... anyways, tapos may pinagseselosan pa ko sa text din... yung girl na nagkagusto sa kanya dati na sabi ko layuan na nya.. nagparamdam ulit at nirereplyan nya pala.. hay di ko na alam gagawin.. mapagkakatiwalaan naman sya pero i can never be complacent naman.. panu ko babalansehin yun? pansin ko masyado ko takot mabreak yung trust ko sa kanya, kasi pag nangyari yun wala na talaga.. ayoko na.. pero ayoko naman ng ganitong effect, parang paranoid.. ang chaka! ahaha!


anyway kay TS naman, okay lang yan sis, basta hanggang tingin lang sya... mas nakakaselos yung mga lagi nyang nakakasama..

[mikoarai]

^IronLady: Sis relax ka lang ah. It's normal to be worried naman lalo na pag nafefeel mo na hindi na kayo madalas nag kikita. Girls are more sensitive kasi pag dating sa ganyan and minsan hindi talaga napapansin ni guy yun hanggang hindi mo sinasabi sa kanya. The good thing about you is you confront him about your feelings about dun sa mga girls sa paligid niya, that means you two are in an open communication and just continue to do that. About sa ka office mate niya na girl, why don't you try to be friend with her and get to know her too? kasi if they are really not in that kind of relationship, your boyfriend would love to introduce you to her and she would love to meet you too as her close office mate's girlfriend. Also, try to spend more time for yourself rin. Magpaganda ka while hindi mo nakikita si boyfie para the next time na mag kita kayo lalo siya mainlove sayo diba 

[angelzero]

my brother is like this. syempre siguro pag magkasama sila ng gf nya behave lang sya. pero pag ako kasama nya hindi magkandaugaga ang mga mata nya kaka checkout sa mga pretty girls sa mall, sa kalsada, sa jeep, everywhere! sasabihin pa nya "uy, ate oh, pwede yun oh!" or "hmm pwede." minsan tingin palang nya alam ko nang may chinecheck out sya. LOL! at siguro mas malala sya pag barkada nya kasama nya. does he have a cheating history? uhm, parang meron. not that he told me directly, pero may alam ako. so pag napansin mo na he does this all the time, he might have probably already cheated a bit. hehe. kasi ok lang naman siguro kung minsan lang lalo na pag yung girl eh talagang pansinin with the way she dresses or pag super pretty talaga. kahit naman ako siguro mapapatingin. pero pag  palagi and it really bothers you, kausapin mo na lang bf mo. and you will sense naman pag may ginawa na syang kalokohan. tipong he already went beyond patingin tingin.