I'm inlove with a lesbian. Is happy ever after possible?

[trizh]

 ^ eh di parang wala ng reason para icontinue pa ang relationship. pero nasa sayo din naman yan.


 

[xyreldc]

^ on off talaga kami, aso't pusa, tom n jerry hehe pero mahal ko pa rin siya. Complicated! Okey nga uli kami ngayon. gusto niya daw ako kasama niya forever. Then pag nag away uli ayaw na naman. Gulo namin. Haha happy pa din naman ako with her. lalo pag hindi kami nagaaway ))

[kiz_me1109]

I think It depends parin dun sa 2 tao na involve in that kind of relationship. May mga kilala akong lesbians na hindi tumagal yung relationship nila and meron naman din na nag survive.

I have a HS classmate dati na nagka bf pa siya. Then, na realize niya na lesbian pala siya and girl talaga ang gusto. Siya yung parang guy sa relationship (I don't know ano tawag sa kanila). Now, sila parin ng gf niya and they already live together sa ibang bansa.

Meron din akong classmate nung college na since bata pa daw siya e lalaki na siya talaga manamit and girls ang gusto. Madami na siya naging bf pero 3 months ago nagulat kami nung makita siya na girl na siya and may bf. hehe

I think depende talaga yun sa 2 tao. If you really love her, kaya mo ba i sacrifice yung family mo? What if hindi matanggap ng parents mo na siya ang gusto mo?

Madami kasing sacrifices sa ganyang relationship kasi hindi pa talaga yan tanggap sa Philippines. =)

[savine]

Hi! I'm just new here and I can't help but share my opinion because I can relate. It is possible. But just like any other relationships, it's not easy. Hindi sya yung typical na heterosexual relationship where you think about getting married, having a family, having children, raising your kids together, etc. Pero possible pa din naman sya mangyari kung gugustuhin ninyo. Kasi para saken, nasa inyo naman yun e. kung masaya ka, homosexual or heterosexual man yan, masaya ka pa din. Sorry, medyo relate lang ng konti kasi I was in a relationship with someone for 7 years kaso kasalanan ko, medyo nagka-doubts tapos na-realize ko mahal ko pala but then she's ready to move on na. Ayun, may ka-date na. Pero gradually, pinipilit ko naman tanggapin. It's bittersweet. Masarap lalu na pag nag-iisip na kayo about your plans for the future, etc. Para din naman yan mag-bf gf. Malungkot pag di meant to be.

[xyreldc]

^^ awww.. sad naman ng story mo sis..true yun, saka marerealize na importante yung tao sayo at mahal mo siya by the time nawala siya sayo. ganyan din nangyari sa amin ng ex ko..by then she was playing around, di seryoso and everything..until we decided to break up na lang. nagkaron siya ng another relationship at pati ako i already moved on..then after 10years we met again, good thing we're friends the first time we met after long long years, i am with my current partner na at ganun din siya. gulat lang ako kasi we we're talking serious then tapos bigla niya sinabi "i still love you now, nakapagsorry na ba ako sayo". so i asked sorry for what. sagot niya, narealize niya daw na mahal niya talaga ako by the time we broke up, sorry for not being serious during our relationship. yun lang..since we both moved on na, happy naman kami for each other..

[savine]

^wow! 10 years?!? tagal din non ah. sobrang tumalab talaga sa ken yung quote na to:"Don’t take people for granted. No matter how much they love you, people get tired eventually.." Kaya nga sobrang sising sisi ako. pero nung time that I was having doubts, it never crossed my mind to date anyone kasi alam ko na hindi pa sya ready. kumbaga, nirerespeto ko naman sya. we're good friends kahit magkasama pa din kami dati kasi nga hindi ko din naman kaya na mawala siya sa ken. pero baka napagod na din sya sa kakahintay that's why she decided to find someone else. ako minsan, napapaisip din if i can still find someone else. kung ako din magkakaroon ng happy ending. we still talk, thru text. kaya lang, friends say i shouldn't talk with her unless i can finally say that i'm ready to be friends with her. kasi siguro iniisip ko na everytime we talk,kahit sa kanya as friends lang, parang saken laging may meaning so lalo ako umaasa, ako lang din nasasaktan.

[xyreldc]

^give it time to heal..mahirap talaga magmove on lalo na kung mahal mo yung tao..eventually you will move on and find a happy ending tingin tingin ka lang dyan sis madaming nakakalat hehe

[savine]

thanks, xyreldc. time is my best friend now. kasi syempre, bago pa lang. sabi mo, tingin-tingin. saan ba pwede makakita? hehe. nagsign up na nga ako sa mga online dating sites. wala naman ako balak magcommit ulit agad. i just want to meet new friends kasi siguro for 7 years kaming 2 lang palagi magkasama. sinasanay ko na din yung sarili ko na mag-isa na lang lagi pero malungkot syempre.

[trizh]

SAVINE


  -- tama ka. Hindi talaga ito yung typical na relationship. Honestly, nung bata pa ako, ang dream ko talaga ay maging isang mommy. Kasi I grew up na walang mother na gumagabay. But now, parang I can sacrifice my dream para lang sa kanya. Any way, we can still adopt. Ganun ko siya kamahal.


XYRELDC


  -- OMG kinilig ako sa I still love you. haha.    Sayang yung 10 years sis.. Pero dibale at marami pa namang iba dyan 




  QUESTION: Paano kapag hindi nageeffort ang partner? For example, monthsary niyo, then wala man lang siyang plan. Magkasama lang kayo sa house nila. Kahit kain sa labas wala. Hindi naman ako materialistic, kaya lang kasi last week anniv namin. Tapos siya, wala man lang plans. As in wala. Ako pa ang nageffort. Nagabsent ako para makasama ko siya. Sana kahit card man lang meron, para maramdaman ko na masaya siya na nagaaniv kami. Mali ba ako?

[savine]

^pwede pa din naman kayong magka-baby.madami namang ways like adoption or invitro, pero kung talagang decided ka to be with her, kelangan mo din i-consider na madaming hindi makakaintindi. dun naman sa monthsary, pwedeng nakalimutan lang or di talaga sya ganun. depende din kasi talaga sa tao minsan. pero baka nakalimutan nya lang siguro. or baka may prob sya kaya di na nya naalala.kung once lang naman nangyari, baka di naman sinasadya.

may alam ba kayong nag-oorganize ng exclusive parties? hindi ba dyahe pumunta ng mag-isa lang kasi wala talaga ako masyadong friends na katulad ko.actually, lahat ng bestfriends ko straight. gusto ko din sana maka-meet ng tulad ko kasi syempre masaya din dahil we have something in common. medyo kelangan ko talagang lumabas-labas para maaliw.

[trizh]

 ^ thanks po sa pagsagot. hindi lang niya once ginawa yun kundi every monthsary. Pati narin nitong nakaraan na anniv namin. Wala talaga kahit ano.

About exclusive parties, wala akong alam eh. Pero mas okay talaga kapag may nakakausap ka na makakarelate ka.

[xtense_15]

super yes noh regardless yung orientation mo, happy ending is still possible.

I have 2 lesbian friends who have been together for 6 years na, they've been through a lot of tough times and I witnessed how strong they were in facing every challenge that came along. They just got married nung 1st week of December    

[xyreldc]

@trizh shocked nga ako nung narining ko yun na sinabi niya ..kala ko nagbibiro pero seryoso pala. well ganun talaga, people come and go..ours is over..and im happy with who im with now

@savine dito sa forum baka may makita ka.in time mahahanap mo din siya

[trizh]

super yes noh regardless yung orientation mo, happy ending is still possible.

I have 2 lesbian friends who have been together for 6 years na, they've been through a lot of tough times and I witnessed how strong they were in facing every challenge that came along. They just got married nung 1st week of December

  -- got married? saan po?

[xtense_15]

^sa Germany po

[beachpatrol]

Imo, wala yan sa kasarian, nasa pakikitungo sa isa't isa. Yung mga hetero nga dyan eh, nauuwi din sa hiwalayan. Gender is not the only basis for a lasting relationship

[jelly_bean]

Hi! Im in the same relationship for 5 years and counting.. I'm in love with my bestfriend, actually it started with a kiss (lol). So far, we're happy, contented, satisfied kahit na mdmeng misunderstanding and hardships, still we are together and both happy.

[soulflygirl]

I wanna share my story too.

I am currently in a long distance relationship with a Butch. She lives in the US while I'm here in Manila. We've known each other since my college days but sad to say we lost communication for 4-5 years. we started talking again last year.  we were both in a shaky relationship with our respective partners (mine with a softbutch for 3 years and hers naman with a femme for almost 2 years) and both broke up with partners after some time. we continued talking to each other tapos syempre nadevelop na which we never expected especially i was not open to having a relationship with a butch.

So now, we are so in love with each other. It's the first time i have introduced someone to my parents and the first to tell my parents that i am in a girl to girl relationship. They accepted me without any hesitations. I want to be with her so bad!! We already want to be together. I never expected that i'll love someone as much as i love her, i want to settle down with her. as in get married.  Sad to say she can't petition me for fiance visa as it is not yet permitted for same sex relationship. that's what makes us sad  but we are trying to figure out how we are going to be together.

I know it is possible to lesbians to have happily ever after. It's a choice. If both of you wants to grow old with each other then nothing is impossible. be true to yourself. Don't be intimidated with what others will tell you. Trust your heart.

[soulflygirl]

Hi! Im in the same relationship for 5 years and counting.. I'm in love with my bestfriend, actually it started with a kiss (lol). So far, we're happy, contented, satisfied kahit na mdmeng misunderstanding and hardships, still we are together and both happy.

wow nice 5 years. i admire lesbians couples who stays in love with each other.

[pumpkin13]

I'll share my story:

I've been straight all my life, no history whatsoever of liking any girl or lesbian. I had boyfriends. I was just straight, the ordinary, typical kikay girl!

She has been straight all her life, too. No history whatsoever of liking any girl or lesbian. She had boys (not boyfriend, though) but no functional relationship ever.

We were office friends. Then there came a time when I just felt that I like her. really like her. But I tried to dismiss the idea. I justified the feeling as being happy with a friend, that's all. Then the more I denied it, the more I got hooked. I wanted to see her everyday and talk to her. As time went by, seeing her and talking to her became difficult. You know the feeling of talking to your crush, di ba medyo awkward. Naging ganun yung pakiramdam ko. Everytime we agreed to meet at the parking area to smoke, kinakabahan ako sa elevator pa lang. Pag nakita ko na sya na nag aantay sakin dun, lalong lumalakas ang kaba ko.

The next thing I knew, I even thought about her kahit nasa bahay ako. Akala ko sa office lang. Pero over the weekend I would always think of her and wonder what she was doing. Nahihiya ako i-text sya just for the sake of texting. Then I would find myself checking her FB. Then for the longest time, I was posting "emo" quotes on FB. So I told myself, something's wrong with me. This is not me. I cried. Hindi ko kasi matanggap sa sarili ko yung nangyayari. This went on for more than a year.

To cut the long story short, I unintentionally let her know what I was going through. At first, she was just this friend who was giving me advice that I would get over it. She was shocked, yes, but she never became indifferent or cold. Sabi nya she's not against gays or lesbians. Open minded daw sya. She said, nothing would change as far as our friendship was concerned. Basta I would get over it daw. So I started the process of moving on by changing my work schedule and not talking to her unless it was work-related. Then as I was on the moving on process, sya naman yung naconfuse. Haha!

Now, we recently celebrated our 15th month together and for me, it is the best relationship that i got myself into. I have a bestfriend and lover in one. I think what made it easier for us is that we both do not have any plan of getting married, or shall we say being tied to a man forever. I never saw myself being married even when I was a kid. I just want to be alone. She felt the same. So we kinda clicked on that. 

Pahabol: During my confused moment, I posted the same question here on GT  sa Girl to Girl relationship thread but I used a different username because I was afraid that people who personally know me would find out about it on GT. But right now, I'm using my real username as I post this and I know some Gters here offline and I don't care if they find out. I'm happy. With all the trials and love the past year.