I'm inlove with a lesbian. Is happy ever after possible?

[trizh]

 Hay. Sobrang mahal ko na siya ang I want to be with her. Kaya lang, is there such thing as lasting relationship with them? Natatakot ako na baka walang puntahan 'tong feelings ko for her. help mga sis.

[lenjeearroyo24]

siguro meron naman. paano mo nalaman that you really love her? i'm just wondering with my girl friend if she's bi or straight? wala naman kasi siya sinasabi about that pero ang alam ko she's straight talaga kaya hindi ko akalain na magagawa niya yun. girl talaga siya kaya ayoko din naman tanungin siya kasi baka kung ano isipin niya at nakakahiya baka nagkakamali lang ako.minsan kasi kahit hindi naman related sa topic parati niya binabanggit that we're meant to be! pati narin yung isang friend ko na girl din         hindi makapaniwala sa kanya sa nangyari samen that night,tapos hindi na niya ko kinakausap after nun.siyempre mahal ko siya because she's my friend at ayoko naman mawala siya.

[trizh]

well mahirap i-explain sis. basta all I know is that I really care for her, she makes me happy. Siya na ngayon ang buhay ko. Sa kanya na umiikot mundo ko.

[Girltalker2]

sis, na curious lang ako.  how did it happen? how can you fall for someone with the same sex if you are straight? maybe I just do not know the dynamics of a lesbian relationship.  pero why? just want to know the reason.

you can care naman for someone na babae rin, bilang kabarkada, bilang friend.  pero if you are saying you are in love with her, are you saying you are willing to spend the rest of your life with her and have a family with her as well?

[showermist]

It is possible kung pagbabasehan ko yung relasyon ng tyahin(lesbian) ko at ang kanyang partner. They were together for more than 25 years hanggang mamatay tiyahin ko. They have properties together--kung ano ang meron sa normal na mag asawa. Pati tiyahin ko 'nambabae' rin. Binahay niya kabit nya, nabuko, pero sila pa rin nung kinakasama nyang una.

For better or worse din sila. Sickness or good health. They were able to make it work.

Nakamulatan ko ng hindi gusto ng partidos namin yung relasyon nila. Ako mismo nung nagkaisip ako hindi rin ako sang ayon but I respected them--their relationship.

[enitsirhc]

trizh - heterosexual or homosexual relationship, depende sa resolve ng couples ang pagla-last together.

like showermist, I personally know lesbian couples who have been together for so long (even longer than some heterosexual marriages I know of) and some lesbians who change girlfriends like they change their clothes, so to speak.

as a word of caution though, wag mong paiikutin ang buhay mo sa kanya. leave space for each other. relationship is about two individuals growing together.

 

[trizh]

sis, na curious lang ako.  how did it happen? how can you fall for someone with the same sex if you are straight? maybe I just do not know the dynamics of a lesbian relationship.  pero why? just want to know the reason.

you can care naman for someone na babae rin, bilang kabarkada, bilang friend.  pero if you are saying you are in love with her, are you saying you are willing to spend the rest of your life with her and have a family with her as well?

  -- Hi sis. Yes ganun nga yung feeling. As in I am so much willing to spend the rest of my life with her. Gusto ko siya na lang makasama ko habang buhay. Iba yung care ko for her. As in parang yung feeling niyo sa mag BFs niyo.

[trizh]

It is possible kung pagbabasehan ko yung relasyon ng tyahin(lesbian) ko at ang kanyang partner. They were together for more than 25 years hanggang mamatay tiyahin ko. They have properties together--kung ano ang meron sa normal na mag asawa. Pati tiyahin ko 'nambabae' rin. Binahay niya kabit nya, nabuko, pero sila pa rin nung kinakasama nyang una.

For better or worse din sila. Sickness or good health. They were able to make it work.

Nakamulatan ko ng hindi gusto ng partidos namin yung relasyon nila. Ako mismo nung nagkaisip ako hindi rin ako sang ayon but I respected them--their relationship.

  -- thank you for sharing sis. Totoo, marami talagang hindi sasang-ayon sa ganitong relationship kaya medyo mahirap and complicated for me.

[trizh]

trizh - heterosexual or homosexual relationship, depende sa resolve ng couples ang pagla-last together.

like showermist, I personally know lesbian couples who have been together for so long (even longer than some heterosexual marriages I know of) and some lesbians who change girlfriends like they change their clothes, so to speak.

as a word of caution though, wag mong paiikutin ang buhay mo sa kanya. leave space for each other. relationship is about two individuals growing together.

 

  -- thank you sis. Siguro nga hindi ko na lang masyado i-focus yung attention ko sa kanya. Sa kanya na kasi halos nauubos ang oras ko. Maybe because, I'm afraid na hindi magwork yung relationship namin.

[imabiter]

sis share ko lang yung sa akin.. ako nagkaroon din ng secret affair with a les din pero i am also committed sa isang lalake.. sobrang nainlove ako sa kanya gang halos sya na talaga ang piliin ko over sa partner ko na lalake.. pero talagang nagisip ako ng mabuti kasi if sya ang pipiliin ko im sure mas gugulo ang buhay ko pati sa kanya at sa partner kong guy.. pero til now mahal ko pa din naman si girl at minsan nagkakausap pa din kami..

[lenjeearroyo24]

sis, na curious lang ako.  how did it happen? how can you fall for someone with the same sex if you are straight? maybe I just do not know the dynamics of a lesbian relationship.  pero why? just want to know the reason.

you can care naman for someone na babae rin, bilang kabarkada, bilang friend.  pero if you are saying you are in love with her, are you saying you are willing to spend the rest of your life with her and have a family with her as well?

right, curious din ako with my girl friend. baka ganito din feelings niya sakin kahit she's straight. baka talaga hindi lang niya masabi. possible pala ito.. atleast hindi sguro naman les siya. what if bigla ka na lang hinalikan ng friend mo na babae? what does it mean? im so freakin out!

[trizh]

sis IAMBITER medyo na sad ako sa story mo. true talaga na kapag yung les ang makakasama natin, medyo gugulo unless super tanggap siya agad ng family. Pero ako, I'm willing na pagdaanan lahat yun, makasama lang siya.

[trizh]

^^ hi sis. depende kasi eh, mafefeel mo kung les siya or sadyang weird and wild lang siya. May friends ako na straight, pero sobrang makukulit na nagttrip sila na makipagkiss sa girl din. Pero kapag medyo iba yung kilos, na parang seryoso, baka les talaga siya. mararamdaman mo yun sis. Lalo kapag sobrang iba yung treatment niya sayo, yung special talaga ganun..

[Girltalker2]

sis share ko lang yung sa akin.. ako nagkaroon din ng secret affair with a les din pero i am also committed sa isang lalake.. sobrang nainlove ako sa kanya gang halos sya na talaga ang piliin ko over sa partner ko na lalake.. pero talagang nagisip ako ng mabuti kasi if sya ang pipiliin ko im sure mas gugulo ang buhay ko pati sa kanya at sa partner kong guy.. pero til now mahal ko pa din naman si girl at minsan nagkakausap pa din kami..

question ulit, just want to understand kasi the relationship better.

yung lesbian partner, he acts like a guy di b?  is she strong enough din ba to be able to carry you - or in other words, do you also feel safe and secure when she puts her arms around you? or walang ganun?

and one more question, how do you make love?

[trizh]

 ^ yes sis secure and safe naman yung feeling pero sa partner ko, pulis siya eh. pero katulad ng babae, hindi siya kaagad pprotekta kapag for example, may nangbastos. dahil, babe parin siya. Unlike sa guys, pwedeng gulo agad un. Depende talaga sa kind of les partner na meron ka.

[iwannabeasupermodel]

siguro meron naman. paano mo nalaman that you really love her? i'm just wondering with my girl friend if she's bi or straight? wala naman kasi siya sinasabi about that pero ang alam ko she's straight talaga kaya hindi ko akalain na magagawa niya yun. girl talaga siya kaya ayoko din naman tanungin siya kasi baka kung ano isipin niya at nakakahiya baka nagkakamali lang ako.minsan kasi kahit hindi naman related sa topic parati niya binabanggit that we're meant to be! pati narin yung isang friend ko na girl din         hindi makapaniwala sa kanya sa nangyari samen that night,tapos hindi na niya ko kinakausap after nun.siyempre mahal ko siya because she's my friend at ayoko naman mawala siya.

sis pareho dilemma natin. pero my friend and i didn't do each other naman. and it's not with me but with my enemy! nakakaloka nuh? pero i've known her for forever and i know she's normal and all those things. i'm still not sure if lesbian ba siya. nagkaroon kasi ng crack sa friendship namin kasi nga she befriended the enemy. so aiun. i really really want to ask. para masettle na. i thought at first my bitter assumptions ko lang to pero pati yung iba niyang mga cousins nakakanotice na rin. see. from her side, those who are more or less likely to support her and tell me na mali ang akala ko. i'm afraid though na baka tuluyan na kaming masira if i'll ask. magkasama pa rin sila ngayon ni enemy. as in they live in an apartment together and if uuwi si friend eh kasama si enemy and enemy will sleep on her house. pati nga rin holidays andun siya eh, i think nagpapakita lang si enemy si sarili niyang bahay for a short while during holidays then uwi then within the same day sa bahay ni friend. kaloka nuh. they're both beautiful women, no boyfriend, no manliligaw as far as what i've heard about.

Hay. Sobrang mahal ko na siya ang I want to be with her. Kaya lang, is there such thing as lasting relationship with them? Natatakot ako na baka walang puntahan 'tong feelings ko for her. help mga sis.

sis you know, base on what i can see with my friends, naglalast naman yung relationships nila. meron pa ngang isa na sobrang sobrang ganda pero she's with a very beautiful girl din. both are rich. lol. and they're living together na. take note ah, father of one of them is a surgeon so it's amazing na natanggap niya na ganun anak niya. nakakatuwa nga kasi may sinulat siya sa chair sa school namin dait na "i promise here that i will love *tut* forever". magkaiba pa sila ng schools ni girlfriend. 

[iwannabeasupermodel]

^sis super sure ka ba na you LOVE her? kasi with bestfriends, tapos if may ganon talagang tendency ka, baka mablur lang yung lines. pero friend pa rin talaga kayo. now i guess you're just feeling guilty at nalulungkot ka lang na she's not answering your calls.

well wala akong anything against sa mga homosexuals, ang sana lang eh magcomeout na yung friend ko. it's so blatantly obvious, kelangan lang na pangalan nila. haha.

[lenjeearroyo24]

yeah,friend parin naman kame.hindi nga lang nagkikita-kita gaya noon.nagkakausap pa naman sa fb pero parang wala lang.siguro in december baka magkita ulit kame in province and gusto ko talagang itanong sa kanya if she's bi or straight because of that kissed.nalulungkot naman kasi namimis ko talaga siya.

[trizh]

 ^ go ahead sis ask mo na para clear diba. yung partner ko kasi alam kong les agad dahil sobrang malinaw naman sa way niya magdamit and sa kilos. so no confusion talaga.

[xyreldc]

i'm with a girl din..before i am so sure na i want to be with her up to my last breath..lately napapadalas na misunderstanding namin at hindi ko na alam if it will last longer pa..pero kahit ganun i'm sure pa rin naman na ayokong mawala siya. kaso sinabi niya mismo sa akin na hindi niya nakikitang ako ang makakasama niya throughout her life..kaya ang hirap na din ibigay yung buong tiwala na magtatagal pa. in the end ako lang din ang masaktan. ang sakit pala marinig directly from your partner na hindi ikaw ang gusto niyang makasama sa buhay niya. kahit mahal na mahal ko siya ang hirap na ding umasa, and now parang dapat ko na ata sanayin na wala na kami (although di pa kami formally break)..i'm so sad now..i do not know where will this go..