problem with toddler

[snowflakes]

i have a 17 month old baby girl. since nandito kami sa US wala kami relatives na palaging nakakasama. twice a month may filipino gathering kami pinupuntahan, pero di pa rin masanay anak ko sa tao. at first she will cry and doesnt want to go down. then after a while ok na sha. pero pag may nagtawanan na at malakas ang boses she will cry again. ano ba gagawin ko para masanay sha sa tao? palage na lang sha naiyak at ayaw nya sumama sa iba kundi samin ng asawa ko, kaya tuloy kahit buntis ako madalas ko sha kalong. pero sa bahay she is very independent. she is obedient and kind. she is a happy baby when were alone. and pag napunta kami sa house ng isnag pinoy namin friend ok sha dun naglalaro naman sha. just like home. naisip ko tuloy if nasa pinas kami hinde siguro sha ganyan sa laki ng family ko jan na makikilala nya. any advice?

[Cherry143]

Naku sis! I have d same dilemma too with my 16month old baby girl. In her case, takot sya sa mga guys except his father. Takot sa lolo tito kahit sa mall basta tiningnan sya, takot. Yuyuko, kakapit samin or iiyak na. Kahit pa palagi nya [textspeak!] yung guy like 3 straight days, ganun sya. Pero other than dat, maliksi malikot sya. Nag research nako and all i can say is dat it is just a phase, do not be too hard on her, just let it be. Although try ko pa sya expose sa ibang tao or kids. Sana matapoa na yung phase na ganito.

[snowflakes]

problema sis kaming dalawa lang everyday ang magkasama, napasok sa work daddy nya. as in walang ibang tao kahut kapitabahay. so di ko alam panu ko sha i eexpose sa tao.

[khriseeee]

Take her out regularly or take her to playdates/baby classes with other babies.

My baby was 4 months old when we started taking her out and in our condo elevator palang she would start crying. I enrolled her in kindermusik classes at 5.5 months and what an improvement! She won't go to other people but just looks around, compared to the constant crying she used to do.

[Princess_Chill]

sis its true its just a phase..

ganyan din baby ko noon minsan nga umaabot ako sa point na nahihiya ako pag may family gathering all the kids are playing together tapos siya umiiyak lang at naka karga saamin...

dating sa mga in laws ko taga bundok anak ko kasi takot sa tao...what i did is that nilalakad ko lang siya sa community unti unti then pag may tumitingin sa kanya lets say sa department store i say hi para di siya matakot ganun...

now wala naman kabahid bahid na ganoon siya dati..we also bring her sa mga play area para makakita madami bata...hindi ko pa siya pinapshool kasi wala pa buget saka baka magsawa agad..ewan ko lang

[snowflakes]

Siguro kung nasa pinas kami di sha ganto. Kase maraming tao lage sa amin. Sana nga mawala na yung gantong phase.

[sensi]

hi sis! well daughter ko noon nung nasa tagaytay pa kami nakatira,4 lang kaming nakikita nyang tao sa bahay.mga 1 year and a half na siya non...pag may nakikita siyang bagong tao like visitors,ayaw niya rin sakanila..maybe dahil wala siyang masyadong nakikitang tao..kaya we do expose her like go to the mall,or visit relatives ng boyfriend ko...okay naman siya as long as they dont touch her hehe

but when we moved here in rwanda,nagchange siya.may mga bata. a siyang nakikita around pag may filipino gatherings dito,and nakikihalubilo na siya sakanila. im happy nga at siya mismo nag ggreet sakanila.haha!

kaya just expose your kids to people and talk to them more;)

[snowflakes]

wala naman problema pag nasa labas kami like mall or park.. shes so active and even say hi and greet people. pag may visitor kami now ilang minutes lang sha matatakot tapos ok na rin sha, problema ko lang pag may malakas na boses at tawanan natatakot sha at umiiyak. eh ang frend ni hubby oarang may mic ang bibig sa lakas ng boses.

[Boj]

Hi there!

My 18 month old daughter naman has been used to many people around her when we were in the Philippines. Kaya di nangingilala, sociable and friendly. When we arrived here in the US just this August, she's still her friendly self and screams in delight everytime she sees little children. Kaso yung ibang kids, they aren't too friendly. Some would say hi back and some would run away from her.

Sanayin mo lang Sis na may ibang tao syang nakikita. Baka may ibang kids sa neighborhood nyo whom she can play with. Pag may Filcom event din dito, sinasama ko sya lagi para may makita syang ibang tao aside from me, hubby and her yaya.

[bluegintonic]

i have a 17 month old baby girl. since nandito kami sa US wala kami relatives na palaging nakakasama. twice a month may filipino gathering kami pinupuntahan, pero di pa rin masanay anak ko sa tao. at first she will cry and doesnt want to go down. then after a while ok na sha. pero pag may nagtawanan na at malakas ang boses she will cry again. ano ba gagawin ko para masanay sha sa tao? palage na lang sha naiyak at ayaw nya sumama sa iba kundi samin ng asawa ko, kaya tuloy kahit buntis ako madalas ko sha kalong. pero sa bahay she is very independent. she is obedient and kind. she is a happy baby when were alone. and pag napunta kami sa house ng isnag pinoy namin friend ok sha dun naglalaro naman sha. just like home. naisip ko tuloy if nasa pinas kami hinde siguro sha ganyan sa laki ng family ko jan na makikilala nya. any advice?

Same tayo halos.we're here in Aussie and kami lang din palagi. At this age nangingilala na sila, which is a good thing, actually.She knows kanino pwede maging comfortable at kanino hindi. takot baby girl ko at 19 months sa mga puti. lalo pag extremely blonde  . yung barista sa usual cafe ko elderly lady lagi siya binabati pero never siyang naging friendly dun,iiyak pa nga eh at tatago sa likod ko. Try mo i sali sa play groups na mga ka edad niya, or sa play grounds, ganung ginagawa ko para kahit paano hindi lang ako gn ako ang nakakasalamuha niya.

[sachism]

My daughter is ganyan din. Very slow to warm up to other people. 

Dumaan din sya sa ganyang stage na umiiyak at ataw sa lahat ng boys. Ngayon more on resistance na lang at clingy. Wala ng iyak.

I enrolled her aa toddler class pero d pa din masyado. She doesnt like structured set up. She will not conform. Mas gusto nya spontaneous. So now I am thinking kung ano ang type of school na bagay sa kanya.

She went to Gymboree and KM too before.

[snowflakes]

problema nga sis bago lang kami sa US, tapos ang church community namin panay olides na..... as in kami ni hubs pinaka bata. mga anak nila panay teenagers. minsan nilalaro nila anak ko, pero naiyak nga sha. basta ayaw nya ng maingay.

another problem as this age is yung pasaway na. not tantrum pero sometimes shes not listening. pag may pinapagawa ako like diaper change na ayaw nya mag aaway pa kami. at pag nasigawan ko sha sa sobrang inis ko iiyak naman ako sa sobrang guilt. hahaha

[Boj]

Kami rin, sis snowflakes. We are just new here. Arrived just this August. Young couple din kami. Early 30s. I am thinking phase lang yung pagiging clingy and stubborn of tots who are nearing the "terrible twos". Maybe you can enroll your child in a playschool or Go to a nearby park where she can meet kids her age. That's what we do almost everyday, and I guess it works for us. Maybe that would for you, too.

[Janet31]

Same situation with my son, takot din siya sa tao nun actually hanggang ngayon pero kunti nalang...
1st day of school ayaw magpaiwan hanggang sa graduation yun. Pero now nagpaiwan n siya at nakipagkaibigan so, I think it's normal they will learn as time goes by hayaan lang natin don't push it.

[snowflakes]

as ive said, she get along well with others pag nasa mall and park kami, but pag nasa haus kami at may visitor na LOUD naiyak sha. is there a problem with her hearing? too sensitive or what?

[kiz_me1109]

Ganyan talaga sis If the child is hindi sanay sa tao. You can take her out regularly and masasanay din yan. Time will come na ma overcome din niya yan. Nadaanan din ng son ko yung stage na yan. Yung tipong parang takot sa ibang tao. Pero eventually, nasanay din naman siya. I let him play outside with other kids as long as yung yaya niya e all eyes sa kanya. Every weekend, we go out and go to malls para may ibang tao din siyang nakikita bukod sa amin.

Kapag nasa grocery kami, after kami magbayad sa cashier, I ask him to say thank you. In that way, nawawala yung hiya niya sa ibang tao. =)

[sachism]

^^ ganyan nga daughter ko. We will start OT na.
^^^ how old sya naging Ok sis?

[snowflakes]

isa pang problem... di ko kase sure if anak ko lang or pare pareho sila. takot ba sila pag nasa doctor office kayo? i mean shes playing outside the room pero pag nasa room na kami, iyak na sha ng iyak. di kami magka unawaan ng doctor nya. dito naman kase sobrang dami injection and blood tests for babies and kids.

[Dacian]

my baby was like this before but when she started to go playschool, hindi na.

[p3ntium4]

naku ganyang ganyan ang 14months old baby boy ko... alam nya pag ibang bahay yun... iiyak agad.. nag aadjust naman sya after ilang mins titigil din mag iiyak.. makikipaglaro sya sa iba pero never sya pag papakarga... 3 lang ang gusto nya.. ako, daddie at yaya nya...