Ang husband niyo ba ay may sasakyan?

[mae18]

I'd like to share this: 

Don’t ride alone in the car with a married man. Even though it’s innocent, car rides can be long and isolated. Inside jokes are created and a deeper form of friendship comes through being alone together. If he’s married, there’s no need for him to have that kind of relationship with any woman except his wife.


The link: http://goodwomenproject.com/marriage/boundaries-no-one-is-above-an-affair

It's worth reading lalo na for those single ladies na nakikisakay sa mga married men na may sasakyan... Think twice before you ride with a married man, put yourself in their wive's shoes.

Boundaries and Respect are the keys.


My husband has a car, actually a Toyota Revo SR, oo, iba talaga ang dating sa mga babae ng mga lalakeng may sasakyan, dunno why. Pero being a wife, had experienced this my hubby drove one of his girl officemate instead na sa may sakayan lang eh napunta sa bahay. It pains me as his wife and most of all, Im mad to the girl thinking why she had to, she can say no nama if my hubby offers di ba? And even sabihin niyang walang malisya eh hindi ba panget naman tingnan na ikaw single at yun kasama mong lalake sa loob ng sasakyan eh may asawang tao na?

Kayo ba mga sis, had/have you experienced this? any thoughts/pov on this?

[Dhee-Dhee]

^aww, nakakainis nga yun. hindi ko alam kung ano gagawin ko if ever gawin sa akin ito. paano mo nalaman sis na may hinatid hubby mo? anong sinabi mo sa kanya?

[twelvth_goddess]

WE have a car, hinde lang sya. But he rarely drives to work cus he's based in Makati and mahal/mahirap maghanap ng parking space plus mahal ang gas nya.

From what I know, never pa sya naghatid ng kahit sino using his car. Unang una, hinde ako papayag and pangalawa, hinde nya nature yon. Even with his friends, hinde yan maasahan mag-drive, sasabihan lang nya yan ng 'mag-cab ka na lang.'

[e.viv]

Share ko lang similar experience with my mom and dad. The other way around nga lang.
Nung nauso ang Nursing my mom went back to school. My mom drives to the hospital everytime na may duty siya. Usually naman she invites a lot of her classmates to ride with her pero the one time my dad fetched her in the hospital my dad saw my mom invite this guy to ride with her and he was the only one who rode with my mom. My dad didn't approach my mom na. My dad started to drink every night then one day during a party which was hosted by my mom's side of the family. Doon naglabas ng sama ng loob si papa. My uncle (kapatid ni mama) was so infuriated by what my papa said that he hit my mom.
My dad already made plans to leave my mom and bring us with him.
These days were ugly since my dad already told his mom about it and my lola told almost everybody.
My mom  didn't allow it to happen though and it seemed as if she courted my dad during those times insisting that it was nothing. At first I believed my mom and we helped my mom to appease my dad.

Months later, I realized that my mom may have had/ may still have an emotional affair with the guy.
She texted and called him often and she even memorized the guys number since my dad had her change number and delete his number just a few months after the confrontation.
At one point she even had another phone which she hid from my dad. I was too afraid to confront her and I just destroyed the phone (It felt good!)
I also caught her sending several messages to the guy through FB just recently (he's in London now).

It has been years and I still am not able to confront her.

[ReservoirDogs]

I have a car, but I work at home so my husband uses my car.  Before we got married, he used his parents' cars (they have spare cars).

I already told him na bawal magsabay ng babae sa kotse dahil that is MY car.  Well aside from the fact na kotse ko yun, may paa naman ang mga babae nyang officemates so matuto silang magcommute noh. Nakapunta sila sa office na nagcocommute, matuto sila umuwi ng nagcocommute.

Pet peeve ko ito, matagal ko nang sinabi sa asawa ko na kapag kasal na kami (which we are now), hindi sya pwede magsabay ng officemate na babae, except kung tipong baha na sa buong kalye.

When I was still single, I never asked for a ride from my guy friends.  I asked my dad or our driver to fetch me, kesehodang Alabang pa yan.  Worst case scenario, marami kami sa loob ng car na nakikisabay.

[wagasnapeg]

yap meron ako, pero pano ba yun sakin nakapangalan pero sya ang nagbayad  , pero sakin oks lang kahit magsakay pa sya, basta above 40 y/0 lang pwede nya isakay, di kasi ako selosa pero yun anak namin ang selosa,grabe dami nyang pinagbabawal sa daddy nya

[ishopnowfeelguiltylater]

para sakin, kahit pa unmarried ang guy, di dapat sumasakay ang babae unless nagliligawan talaga sila. kahit pa super close friends sila. unless of course grupo sila. yung car kasi enclosed space din eh. may privacy. parang kwarto din. kung ang matinong babae di papasok sa kwarto na may lalake sa loob, di rin dapat siya sumasakay sa sasakyan na di naman siya romantically involved dun sa guy.

[ecnarfoj]

Sino ba naman ang ayaw na ihatid siya? Kahit commute pa yan basta nagpapahatid.

Mas lalo na yung may sasakyan kasi nga mas intimate yung location.

My husband has a car pero ako lang ang hinahatid niya.

May mga nakisabay pero sobrang rare at hindi nauulit.

Di ko talaga to naisip pero it makes so much sense.

[kettlekorn28]

Merong car si hubby. Actually, it was company-owned car pero si hubby lang ang pwede gumamit. Sanay na akong makita sya na may isinasakay na girl sa car. My hubby is an engineer who works in the field. Yung mga girls naman na isinasabay nya eh mga engineers, chemists, etc na kailangan sa project site. Tsaka kilala ko naman sila lahat because i used to work there. Di ko lang siguro magugustuhan kung may isasakay sya dun na di ko kilala.

[glamorosa_09]

Meydo nature yan ng husband ko, naghahatid ng friends. Mabait kasi hubby ko.

Pero I told him clearly before, na I won't be comftable pag maghahatid sya ng single female. So namimili naman na sya ngayon ng isasabay nya. Sabay lang hindi hatid. And kinukwento nya saken yung mga napagkukwentuhan nila ng mga naisabay nya.

[sk8rboyswife]

tulad nga ng na-post ko sa kabilang thread:

UMIWAS SA MGA SITWASYON NA MAARING MAGBUNGA NG MASASAMANG HINALA
Para hindi ka mapagbintangan na may ginagawang masama,iwasan ang mga sitwasyong
kanina-hinala. Huwag kang magasasama o sasama sa hindi mo asawa sa isang lugar na
makukwestiyon ang iyong pagsasama.
Halimbawa:
Sa loob ng pribadong sasakyan (dalawa lang kayo sa loob ng kotse);
Sa park ng pang magnobyo o pang mag-asawa; Sa loob ng hotel.
Mahirap paniwalan na ang isang lalake at isang babaeng galing sa loob ng hotel ay
nagprayer meeting, nagkwentuhan, nagjack en poy lang. Mag-ingat! Umiwas!

[FoxyPhoenix]

This topic is stirring. Lalo na kung may kotse nga asawa mo.

If a married man offers a ride to a lady, that lady will assume this guy is somewhat into her. If she accepts, then this guy will somewhat assume likewise.

Dyan na magsisimula ang hindi maganda. Pwera nalang kung pangit ang lady girl na pinasasakay ni hubby.

[hisana]

The brother of my bf and I were in his car one time and he mentioned na ang dami daw lumalapit sa kanya na mga girls na nagpapapansin while he's out on the road; feeling nya naa-attract dahil sa kotse. Ako naman I was a little surprised. I thought, juskoday, kotse lang eh nasilaw na yung mga girls. It's not even a snazzy-looking car, not even remotely. But I guess iba nga ang dating, I now agree to that.

Ako naman okay lang sa akin as long as sana minemention nya sa akin na nakisabay si ganito or ganyan kasi along the way, gabi na, etc.  Tsaka syempre depende sa girl. I get this sense with girls kung sino yung mga malandi at hindi (don't we all, LOL). I find that I'm spot-on most of the time when figuring out what a girl's real intentions are, kaya sinasabi ko talaga agad kung sino ang off limits sa kotse, haha.

[Msfi]

This topic is stirring. Lalo na kung may kotse nga asawa mo.

If a married man offers a ride to a lady, that lady will assume this guy is somewhat into her. If she accepts, then this guy will somewhat assume likewise.

Dyan na magsisimula ang hindi maganda. Pwera nalang kung pangit ang lady girl na pinasasakay ni hubby.

SA case ko kasi I don't drive at di ako sanay mag commute mag-isa, ewan ko ba sobrang uneasy ako. Sa layo naman ng bahay ko walang taxi na magsakay kasi pagbalik nila wala naman silang maisasakay so dapat shuttle service ang sakyan ko. Dun sa dati kong office parang mission na nila na pag uwian na before sila umalis they ask me first kung may sundo ako, kung wala eh nag-ooffer na isabay ako until sa terminal. Usually sa girl friends ako sumasabay pero pag OB sila, guy friend na. Kilala ko din mga bfs at wives nila and they know na sinasabay ako ng asawa nila paminsan minsan.

Isa lang yung same town ko na twice ko lang naman din nasabayan, kilala ko din wife nya at mga cousins wala din akong naging problem sa wife nya. Muntik ko pang naging business partner. Sya pa nag chichika sa kin ng mga kalokohan ng asawa nya (my former officemate) pag napupunta ako sa bank where she is the bank manager.

Pero hindi naman lahat ng babae eh pareho ko, like yung dating officemate ni hubby, when I was on vacation eh sumabay pala sa kanya. Ayun sa kotse eh nagtapat kay hubby na type sya. Sabi ni hubby iniwasan na daw nya after that.

[jenie0519]

Yes, may car si hubby...

Like sis glamorosa_09 nature na din yan ng hubby ko, maging mabait to the point na  namimisinterpret ng mga girls kabaitan niya... Pag may hinahatid naman siya pinagpapaalam nya sa kin, or kinukwento niya after..

[alna]

yes.. at may nangyari na ring ganyang situation during our early years as a couple.. first pregnancy ko pa naman nun and currently on the last trimester of pregnancy.  I was really mad during that time kasi naman ang bahay ni office mate ay really out of his way, yung 1 hr na travel nagiging two hours dahil hinahatid pa sya sa bahay.. sabi ni mister nahihiya raw kasi sya kasi gabi na, naawa daw sya kay office mate.. sabi ko naman, e sa asawa mo na buntis anytime pwede manganak at mag isa lang sa house di ka naawa na naghihintay sa yo para sabay kayo kumain ng dinner.. ay , really, kung nainis ako kay hubby mas inis ako dun kay office mate na dalaga pa man din.. sus.. meron talagang mga girls na minsan hindi rin nag-iisip ...

[mae18]

^aww, nakakainis nga yun. hindi ko alam kung ano gagawin ko if ever gawin sa akin ito. paano mo nalaman sis na may hinatid hubby mo? anong sinabi mo sa kanya?

Actually, nature ni hubby yun, whether male or female na along his way, pinapasabay niya, kaso may mga babaeng kesyo mabait yun tao eh dahil di marunong tumanggi hubby ko-ayun abusada.

Nalaman ko to once, i think nakwento ko to dun sa newborn care thread, kasi nga nun time na yun, gumimik pala sila since si hubby lang ang me car, so lahat nakisabay except this girl na ewan kung babkit kelangang ihatid door to door. i saw that girl's post to my husband's wall sa FB saying thank you for giving them ride and for taking her home. Dun ako nagpost nun saying- how dare she had to ride with my husband knowing hes married and with a newborn child. Sinabi ko din duon na as a professional and educated single lady- she should think twice riding with a married men. She erased that tagged post, and told my husband about my feelings, nun una kesyo madami naman daw sila so tanung ko kun bakit madami pero bakit me special pa siyang inihatid na isang babaeng pustiso, kesyo within that area naman daw ang condo... whatever....

nilayasan ko hubby ko nun, sinama ko baby namin, i dont know kasi bigla yun- siguro dahil bagong panganak ako nuon.. and sinabi ko din yung nangyaring yun sa mama niya, kinausap naman siya... and thank goodness, sa ngayon wala pa naman akong naamoy na may nakikisabay...

[mae18]

Yes, may car si hubby...

Like sis glamorosa_09 nature na din yan ng hubby ko, maging mabait to the point na  namimisinterpret ng mga girls kabaitan niya... Pag may hinahatid naman siya pinagpapaalam nya sa kin, or kinukwento niya after..

ganyan din si hubby, hindi marunong tumanggi, yun iba they understood it like- there is something- which hindi naman. Ngayon nagkwekwento si hubby ko kung sino yun sumasabay sa knya, minsan naman pag tinanung ko- sinasagot niya- ewan ko lang kung totoo, kasi minsan siempre - ayaw din nila siguro ipaalam dahil lam niya ikakagalit ko.

[mae18]

yes.. at may nangyari na ring ganyang situation during our early years as a couple.. first pregnancy ko pa naman nun and currently on the last trimester of pregnancy.  I was really mad during that time kasi naman ang bahay ni office mate ay really out of his way, yung 1 hr na travel nagiging two hours dahil hinahatid pa sya sa bahay.. sabi ni mister nahihiya raw kasi sya kasi gabi na, naawa daw sya kay office mate.. sabi ko naman, e sa asawa mo na buntis anytime pwede manganak at mag isa lang sa house di ka naawa na naghihintay sa yo para sabay kayo kumain ng dinner.. ay , really, kung nainis ako kay hubby mas inis ako dun kay office mate na dalaga pa man din.. sus.. meron talagang mga girls na minsan hindi rin nag-iisip ...

Korek! Imbey tlaga! Di ko alam kung bakit may mga babaeng ewan, di talaga nag iisip- Ive warned those girls who rode on my hubby's car that time- wishing na sana di gawin sa knila ng kanilang mga magiging asawa- super sa react ang lahat ng mga single ladies duon kesyo wag daw ako magsasalita ng ganun kasi di naman daw nila pinilit hubby ko. So from there-  i frankly told them na di pinilit pero from the very start  you know the guy is married and with a newborn baby, so how come you asked for a ride? and kung kayo eh nasa matitinong pag iisip, sa una pa lang naisip niyo ng d kayo dapat nakikisabay or nagpapahatid pa. Kita niyo, galit kayo dahil sinabi ko na sana wag gawin senyo ng mga asawa niyo yan- so you should have known this before hand.

[ReservoirDogs]

Actually, nature ni hubby yun, whether male or female na along his way, pinapasabay niya, kaso may mga babaeng kesyo mabait yun tao eh dahil di marunong tumanggi hubby ko-ayun abusada.

Ganito rin yung husband ko before we got married. Lahat ng officemates from his batch sinasabay.  I asked him, "bakit, school bus ka ba?"  And to think araw-araw na sumasabay ha, mga babae AT lalaki. Sabi ko nga, abusado na yun, magbayad nga sila pang-gas kung  makikisabay sila.  But since we live near his office right now, wala nang sumasabay sa kanya. And subukan lang nya magsabay, sya papacommute ko dyan.