Claiming someone your "Husband"

[ayami]

Curious lang ako sa mga tawag sa mga lalake. May case ba na Husband na talaga ang tawag ng mga babae sa lalaki kung ka-live in or kahit syota pa lang yung tao? Generally bang ginagawa yon ng mga babae?

Experience ko kasi madalas ganto. May mga tao kasing nakakainis (minsan yung manikurista o kung sino man stranger na makausap ko randomly) tinatawanan ako pag sinasabi kong asawa ko yung asawa ko porket bata kami kesyo parang ang dating nagfi-feelingera lang ako na mag-asawa kami. Kelangan pa ba ipakita ko yung wedding ring ko (or worse dapat ba pati marriage certificate na NSO issued) para paniwalaan ako? In fact there was one time I showed my wedding ring pero yun expression talaga nung tao hindi naniniwala sa sinabi ko.

[chicafabulosa]

Just ignore,dont get bothered by these people. Once and for all, you dont owe them an explanation at all. So cheer up sis

[fegloria1954]

The convention is you call "husband" the man who married you and put the wedding ring on your finger.......

Mommy Fe

[aquacharly]

MOMMY FE. - I like your definition.  But we may need to be more specific? . .
Medj  nauso na ngayon marrying abroad -- with the wife still alive and the marriage not yet annulled.  Vietnam is the latest "wedding destination" of not-single people.

But apparently, this is not the problem of the TS. 

[ayka]

girl, don't get affected by such comments. so long as the fact is you are legally married. keber sa kanila!

[Princess_Chill]

@ayami

sis hayaan mo sila inggit lang mga iyon..

regarding the calling husband..im not married but we live together pangit ba na tawagin ko siya husband? na bother tuloy ako dun

[sweetpea blush]

^ di naman pangit sis.. sa pagkakaalam ko  your union can be considered as common law marriage when both of you intend to live together as husband and wife... our family code even recognizes common-law husband and wife (if am not mistaken).

[mslcgrey]

ako naman hindi pa rin sanay na tawagin husband ang asawa hehe...

[jenie0519]

Sis ayami wag mo na lang sila pansinin... Sadyang may mga taong ganyan... Madami akong kilala na kahit hindi kasal, kineclaim na nila na asawa nila ang mga partners nila... Like mom ko, di sila kasal ng partner niya pero asawa ang pakilala niya... Keber lang sa reaction ng mga taong ganyan sis, inggit lang yan..

Eh lalo na in your case talaga namang kasal na kayo, so lalong wag mo sila intindihin...

[Prunella]

Just ignore them. Don't let them bother you. You don't owe anyone an explanation.

[Priceless]

I think yung issue ni TS is different kasi kasal sila and ang mga tao lang ang di naniniwala na kasal sila because of their age.

sorry siguro may magagalit sa akin dito - pero I'm of two minds when it comes to "claiming" someone your husband. Kasi kagagaling ko lang sa kabit thread and i know maraming kabits who "claim" na asawa nila yung kinabitan nila and nakakarindi because iba ang convention nga is to call the man who married you "husband" or "asawa". In some ways I feel that it devalues "marriage" kasi nga anyone can claim "asawa".

On the other hand naman, I know of many couples who are not legally married but are together for a long time and are committed to each other (and their kids). Dahil nga we are all good friends, I don't think they bother or see the need for them to explain their status to us.

I guess bottomline is that the form is as important as the substance.

[ayka]

^correct! i also think that the word "husband" or "wife", at this modern day and age (as twisted as the world is today), connotes other meanings aside from what the the word literally/directly stands for. hence, the true meaning of the word doesn't really matter nowadays. kaya nga may kanya-kanyang perception ang mga tao. 

[FayeP]

sis ayami, first, di mo need mag explain to people...kasi para ano? eh ano din naman kun di sila maniwala di ba basta kayo mag asawa kayo...heheh wag mo sila pansinin at definitely di mo need na patunayan sa kanila na mag asawa kayo...


un hubby ko may GF cya dati na nakalive in nya..then naghiwalay sila at naging kami naman ni hubby about less than a year after nila magkahiwalay, pero kun tawagin nya si hubby, eh "asawa", kaya nun magpakasal na kami ay inaaway nya ako at inagaw ko daw un "asawa" nya...haller hiwalay na kaya sila!

gaya nga ng sabi ng ibang mga sis natin dito, iba na ngayon ang meaning ng salitang "hubby" or "wife" or asawa per se....un iba nga magBF at GF pa lang pero hubby-wife na ang tawagan eh so basta nagmamahalan kayo at committed kayo di naman important talaga ang tawag kun tutuusin

[axlrocksmyworld]

TS, nakaencounter na rin ako ng ganyan, nung minsang ihahatid ako ni husband sa may sakayan ng bus, nakaangkas ako sa mutor nia eh yung dinaanan namin na tulay wala naman talagang pulis dun kaso nung time na yun meron bigla, naghahanap ata ng pang almusal mga buwaya natyempuhan na walang dalang helmet asawa ko (malapit lang naman kasi at hindi mismong highway ang pagbababaan niya saken) sabi niya dun sa pumara samen "sir hahatid ko lang misis ko dyan sa may gasolinahan" sabi naman nung buwaya "asawa mo ba talaga yan?" with matching nakakalokong tingin at ngisi sa asar ko tinaas ko yung kamay ko pinakita ko yung wedding ring ko, imbyerna na-late tuloy ako nun..

[purple_leigh97]

TS natawa ako. may pinsan din ako mukhang bata, laging kinequestion kung kasal sila ng husband niya kasi mukha silang teenager tapos may anak sila na 3years old kesyo ang bata naman daw nila magasawa at maganak, eh 30 na yung pinsan ko hehe

[Miss.Pancake]

Well ganun talaga, i've experienced the same thing a lot. People won't even believe me na may anak na ko. Just ignore them sis. You don't need to prove anything to those people.

[kvandenhaak]

Simple and accurate definition:

Husband is the person you are married to.
Boyfriend is the person you have a relationship with (live-in or not).
Common-law (partner) is the more accurate label for person you are living with.

I don't understand why people would doubt anyone who claims she's married. But then those remarks can actually be a compliment than an insult. Pwedeng hindi ka naman mukhang me asawa. So chillax lang.

[Miss.Pancake]

Simple and accurate definition:

Husband is the person you are married to.
Boyfriend is the person you have a relationship with (live-in or not).
Common-law (partner) is the more accurate label for person you are living with.

Agree. When you apply for loans they will ask your relationship and they refer the live in status as Common Law.