kabit, kabit at puro na lang kabit (thread 3)

[mamichula]

@feisty_angel
Haha kapal nung kabit. Eh di asawahin nya ng mga pinsan ng hubby mo na kampi sa kanya hahahah sila magsama

Don't worry I think hindi naman talaga mahalaga kung sino ng gusto ng family ng husband mo or kung sinong kinampihan nila. Masakit oo, pero hindi naman sila ang pinkasalan mo eh. Ang mahalaga ma sayo ang hubby mo at ikaw ang mahal ng asawa mo. Pg mahal ka tlg ng asawa mo kahit anung sulsol or pagkampi sa kabit ng mga kamag anakan society nya sayo pa din yan uuwi. Susundin nya kung sinong gusto nya at hindi ng gusto ng pamilya nya sa kanya.

May mga iba kampi nga sa kanila [textspeak!] pamilya nung guy pero pag ayaw na nung guy sa babae anung mgagawa ng full force ng pmilya nya.

Rejoice in the fact na bumalik sa iyo ang hubby mo at despite the pagkampi ng kamg anak nya dun sa isa, sayo sya napunta. ibig sabihin walang bearing sa husband mo ang opinyon nila. 

[MaraAlmighty]

Hi mga sis,

sakin naman hindi ang husband ko.. Father ko ang madalas. Hindi ko na nga mabilang kung nakailang kabit na siya. Awang awa na nga ako sa mother ko. Hindi ko din talaga ma-gets bakit siya ganun. Maganda naman ang mother ko. Mestiza pa. Si father kasi moreno. Tapos mataas din, may work. Mabait, magaling magluto. basta ok na ok siya.

May one time kasi nun, 1st year college pa lang ata ako.. Iniwan kami ni dadi tapos sumama siya sa ibang babae.. Tapos malaman laman ko itsura nung babae, maliit na mataba na maitim! ay nako! Pero di rin nagtagal si Dadi, bumalik din siya after 3 days. tinanggap ulit siya ni mami. naging ok naman na ulit. pero after ilang months may bago na naman siya ka-text. Tapos madami pa nangyari after nun. Ewan ko ba.

Kaya ngayon, kahit anung gawin niya, may kabit man siya talaga o wala talaga parang lagi ng nagdududa si mami sa kanya. na hindi ko naman din masisisi. Haaay. nakakalungkot talaga.. 

[michi_dmd]

Ako din father ko yung madaming kabit. My dad's 67 years old, he's had 2 stokes, 1 was caused by my mom. Grabe kasi maka verbal abuse si mommy. Si mom naman naka 1 stroke na.

 Ang hirap ng situation na yung elderly parents nagaaway, nakakatakot na anytime 1 of them will get a heart attack.
Dad's a chronic womanizer, from bank manager to katulong na 19 years old. Grabe i thought he would change since matanda na sya and na stroke na sya. Ilan beses ko na nahuli sa text, napaamin ko pa. We had a lot of serious talks. In a loving manner, i told him to change his ways specially because he's getting older, his time may come anyday and kung makasalanan parin sya he'll go straight to you know where... And i told him to try to endure my mom's verbal attacks kasi trust isnt easy to regain pero i think hindi nya rin kinaya.
My aunts told my that I was my dad's weakness, being the bunso and only daughter. Sakin sya pinakatakot na mawalan ng respeto sa kanya. But nothings changed...

Nakakaawa yung mom ko, kaso minsan yung mom ko din mahirap din mahalin even for us na mga anak nya. May ugali din kasi, selfish, masakit magsalita. She'll always be suspicious kahit wala talaga ginagawa yung dad ko.  Throughout my college life she never helped me with school expenses, nagagalit sya pag humihingi ako, she'd tell me to go ask my father, pero nakakapag shopping sya sa zara, marks & spencers, armani... I grew up being verbally abused by my mom. But i still love them both.
So sobrang hirap para saming siblings yung pagaaway nila. We think they're both victims. And both have to work on themselves. Ano kayo maganda gawin? Counselling? Kanino?

[mercibeaucoup]

Any tips that you can share on how you caught you cheating partners or how to avoid them going astray?

Most of my friends caught their cheating partners thru emails and sms. Can we get sms history from service provider? Pag same network kasi pati call history wala sa statement.

Sorry, ot ata but i'm not allowed to post a new topic pa.

[snowflakes]

^nung nasa pinas ako may sun, smart at globe asawa ko. Sa sun tumatawag ako to get info binibigay naman nila kaya nahuli ko asawa ko. I asked them ako nagbabayad ng bill tapos ano yung palaging text at call ni hubby na no. Binigay sakin 5 nos. lahat nilagay ko sa chikka lumabas mga name nila so yun nakilala ko sila.
Sa smart at globe i used tracker. Kaya alam ko nasan sha that time. Nasusundan ko sha palage kahit may kotse sha or minsan naka motor naarkila ako ng sasakyan ko. Pero wala na si babae pag dadating ako. Hahaha

[maiandra]

pano lumabas name nila sa chikka sis? curious lang

[snowflakes]

^ Eh siguro naka register sila dun. Complete name lumabas eh. Dko naman sila makikilala if walang chikka. Kaya pagtawag ko sa kanila i know their name.

[m_lim]

ano say niyo sa mga kabit na sabi eh-- Love conquers all?

kawawa lang talaga yung mga asawa na iniwan ng tuluyan dahil sa mga kabit! kesyo masama daw ugali ng wife, etc etc.. (eh bakit mo pinakasalan?!! sus. )

[i_v_y]

^^ ganun naman talaga laging reason ng mga asawang nangangabit. they always say reasons para ijustify yung pangagabit nila.

yung kabit ng ex asawa ko, inaadd pa ako sa google plus. wala na sila ata din ng ex ko. tigas talaga ng fez nung batang yun.

[mamichula]

^nung nasa pinas ako may sun, smart at globe asawa ko. Sa sun tumatawag ako to get info binibigay naman nila kaya nahuli ko asawa ko. I asked them ako nagbabayad ng bill tapos ano yung palaging text at call ni hubby na no. Binigay sakin 5 nos. lahat nilagay ko sa chikka lumabas mga name nila so yun nakilala ko sila.
Sa smart at globe i used tracker. Kaya alam ko nasan sha that time. Nasusundan ko sha palage kahit may kotse sha or minsan naka motor naarkila ako ng sasakyan ko. Pero wala na si babae pag dadating ako. Hahaha

Thank u so much for this. I just registered last night sa globe tracker hehe

[i_v_y]

^ sis, globe tracker is not 100% accurate. baka mamaya madagdagan lang ang paranoia mo.

[snowflakes]

yes, its not 100% so you have to do it every 5-10 mins.. hahaha ubos load mo sis.

[sabrinaganda]

Ako din father ko yung madaming kabit. My dad's 67 years old, he's had 2 stokes, 1 was caused by my mom. Grabe kasi maka verbal abuse si mommy. Si mom naman naka 1 stroke na.

 Ang hirap ng situation na yung elderly parents nagaaway, nakakatakot na anytime 1 of them will get a heart attack.
Dad's a chronic womanizer, from bank manager to katulong na 19 years old. Grabe i thought he would change since matanda na sya and na stroke na sya. Ilan beses ko na nahuli sa text, napaamin ko pa. We had a lot of serious talks. In a loving manner, i told him to change his ways specially because he's getting older, his time may come anyday and kung makasalanan parin sya he'll go straight to you know where... And i told him to try to endure my mom's verbal attacks kasi trust isnt easy to regain pero i think hindi nya rin kinaya.
My aunts told my that I was my dad's weakness, being the bunso and only daughter. Sakin sya pinakatakot na mawalan ng respeto sa kanya. But nothings changed...

Nakakaawa yung mom ko, kaso minsan yung mom ko din mahirap din mahalin even for us na mga anak nya. May ugali din kasi, selfish, masakit magsalita. She'll always be suspicious kahit wala talaga ginagawa yung dad ko.  Throughout my college life she never helped me with school expenses, nagagalit sya pag humihingi ako, she'd tell me to go ask my father, pero nakakapag shopping sya sa zara, marks & spencers, armani... I grew up being verbally abused by my mom. But i still love them both.
So sobrang hirap para saming siblings yung pagaaway nila. We think they're both victims. And both have to work on themselves. Ano kayo maganda gawin? Counselling? Kanino?

ganyan siguro ang mom mo dahil sa sobrang sama ng loob niya sa dad mo. parang naging ganyan na nga rin ako ngayon eh. dati sweet, maalalahanin, etc,. ngayon parang nagiging exacto sa mom mo. dahil sa mga pinag gagawa ng hubby ko. i miss my old self 

[kikay9599]

Recently indirectly affected ang daughter ko with a kab1tch issue. Her bff confessed to my 13 year old daughter that their family is not a traditional one, stating that her parents are not married, but her dad is to a different woman and that she has older siblings from a different mom aside from the younger siblings she knows, implying that her mom is a kab1tch.

Now, my daughter gets bothered by it and opened it up to me, though she swears to her bff that she won't share this deep secret to anyone. My daughter's exact words were, "So does that make TIta a mistress?! That's the reason why we don't get to see her dad in any of our school activities!"

I was caught off guard, I don't know how to react initially. I just told her that her bff is in a tough situation and is definitely not her choice but she should still treat her bff the way she usually does and that the revelation shouldn't affect their friendship. 
But what irks me is how do I discuss this kab1tch issue with teens. I don't want my kids to be naive about it but at the same time I don't want to encourage the thought that being a kab1tch is a norm too! Hay, pahamak talaga mga kab1tch sa mundo!!

[shelby020212]

ganyan siguro ang mom mo dahil sa sobrang sama ng loob niya sa dad mo. parang naging ganyan na nga rin ako ngayon eh. dati sweet, maalalahanin, etc,. ngayon parang nagiging exacto sa mom mo. dahil sa mga pinag gagawa ng hubby ko. i miss my old self 

I feel sorry for us sis. Ganyan din pakiramdam ko.
Kahit sinong tao, gaano man kabait yan, saktan mo ng saktan.... magiiba talaga.

[snowflakes]

^i agree... Dati din ako mabait at di ako nagmumura pero sa dami ng sakit na naranasan ko parang lumabas pagka bad side ko. Nakaka miss talaga my old self. Minsan iniiisip ko sa kabila ng magandang pinakita ko sa asawa ko at sa sobrang pagmamahal ko nagawa pa nya ko saktan at lokohin.

[mamichula]

yes, its not 100% so you have to do it every 5-10 mins.. hahaha ubos load mo sis.

Ano ba yan puro office lang nang office ang na tatrack ko hahahaha He found out pa na I was planning to enroll him sa tracker (di nya alam na tatrack ko na sya). Wala deadma lang sya payag naman, tinatawanan lang ako magpakasawa daw ako kaka track.
Sana ang tracker may satellite camera din para we can see them LOL Or there's a way to hack into their security camera.I'll be their big brother LOL

[michi_dmd]

^Aww... I feel for all of you sissies. Though di ko pa exactly na eexperience yun (muntikan lang just before my wedding, malakas lang talaga radar ko anyways..) pero, from what i saw from my mom masakit talaga. Those experiences can really change a person kahit hindi mo gusto na magbago ka. Sometimes nakikita ko rin yung mom ko, i sense regret from her after nya mag nag sa father ko, she knows sometimes when she's gone overboard.

Medyo na trauma nga ako sa parents ko, i've been married for 3 years but havent got the nerve to have kids. Im terrified of the idea na ma experience ng kids ko yung na eexperience ko sa parents ko. Wishing sometimes na mag hiwalay nalang sila, and wishing they did separate long ago kasi ngayon matanda na sila, they need each other more. Lalo my mom kasi she doesnt have friends or family that she gets along with. She only has me and my siblings :-(

[bwiset12]

If given the chance, would you confront the kabit of your partner?? Yung tipong bubulagain mo sya sa airport.
I badly need your opinions mga sis.

[yndy]

^ hindi siguro sis pero I'd think of a way how to call the airport officials that a passenger named so and so is a drug courier nang walang evidence na ako ang nag inform dun.