I hope na hindi palagi totoo yung sinasabi ng iba na, children from broken families create broken homes too. But there are few naman who have been successfully leading a family life, but not without sacrifice.
Maybe yung fear ng hubby mo is rooted from his past, from what happened to his parents. Alam mo naman siguro yung story, so more or less, you can connect it with your hubby's behavior.
What I can suggest are:
- Go see a counselor so he could address his past issues
- Pray for strength and for more understanding and patience
- Attend kayo ng Charismatic group
Of course, those are easier said than done and too good to be true kung papayag ang hubby mo. And it's up to you, kung kakayanin mo yan. Mahirap baguhin yung ganyang attitude unless he's willing to acknowledge that something's wrong with him and work hard on it. But if he doesn't want to, what can you do? I'm not even sure kung yung mga ganyang mabigat na issue ay madadala sa pakiusapan between the two of you.
Is that a hopeless case? Kung ayaw nya mag-improve sa kabila ng pakiusap mo, then siguro yes. Kung hindi mo na kaya, nasasakal ka na, gusto mo syang hiwalayan, that's your life choice. Lahat tayo may malaking batong kailangang lunukin. Kung hindi mo kaya yung sayo, it's all up to you.
One thing's for sure, you cannot expect him to change easily. And that will be a recurring problem in your marriage. So deal or no deal?
Kung deal ka, na you're willing to accept ang hubby mo, with all his issues in life and make your marriage work, then you can design your lifestyle in a way na hindi sya magseselos. Wag ka mag i miss you sa relatives mo. Kaya mo naman siguro yun di ba? Puro girls na lang ifriend mo. No amount of explanations will do to him, dahil malalim ang ugat ng issue nya.
Sweet naman sya sayo, loyal, hindi ka sinasaktan, masipag naman siguro magwork, super seloso nga lang.
Pero kung no deal ka, again it's up to you.
