Ex-GF's pictures downloaded by Hubby from FB

[lcp]

I recently found some pictures of my hubby's ex-gf in our laptop.  Downloaded from FB and naka bathing suit ang ex.  Should I be upset?  When i confronted him, he said it wasn't really a big deal but then why download, right?  He did this maybe a year ago and i only found out this weekend.  I'm pretty sure there have been no contacts between them but it makes one wonder.  Advise please......we're currently not talking right now. Hay.

[tamarind26]

I wouldn't be bothered if it's photos of some women like celebs in bathing suit. Most men I knew has this secret folder of sexy girls. Totally harmless kasi di naman sila magkakilala & hanggang tingin lang naman mga yan. Pero if it's photos of exgirlfriends (even without communication between the two), I will be alarmed kasi parang there's still emotional attachment. If I'm the wife, natural na mapapraning ako kasi may past sila.

[MaitaOfMakeupOnDemand]

For some guys, it really is nothing. If this is his first offense, take his word for it, forgive him, and make your feelings really clear that you don't like it. Sometimes with men, it's just a matter of teaching them what is acceptable or not to you.

[Maddy.Lim]

If it were to happen to me, I won't like it either. Initial reaction ko pa siguro magagalit talaga ako. Kahit na pilitin mong wag mainis, it is inevitable to react negatively. Pero it's wrong na awayin siya.

Basta, let him know kung gaano mo hindi nagustuhan ginawa niya - in a good way. Mag usap kayo ng maayos. I hope he will say sorry for it and realize na even though wala lang sakanya yun, nakakasakit sa feelings ni gf ginawa niya. Mararamdaman mo naman kung sincere siya sa sinasabi niya. 

[aquacharly]

I wouldn't be pleased.  Right of you to inform him accordingly.

Hello, he's supposed to be done with that history.
What if the wife were to post on her FB photos of herslf in her sexy outfits with her ex?  Lalo na  if the ex is more handsome, hahaha.

Play your cards well.  Do not give him the opportunity to turn the table on you, as to accuse you of being narrow-minded,  selosa na walang reason,  invading his net privacy, etc etc etc.

Tell him quietly, in as level a tone as possible, that that part of his life should be over now... That you got hurt by what he did. And you know he does not want to be the one to hurt your feelings, so you will appreciate it if he will refrain from such. (Do not accuse, do not belittle what he did,  and do not command him not to do it again.  Use words like: refrain, choose not to... )

[twelvth_goddess]

Wow, it will be the shock of my life. How would he feel if I downloaded and saved my ex's pictures na mas gwapo sa kanya?

You have the right to be upset and to question him about it. The fact that he's still holding on to the pictures is a bit weird. I wouldnt nag him though cus that would make him more defensive. Talk to him calmly; but be more watchful.

[bubblepop]

.,give him the benefit of the doubt baka pinadala ni ex kay hubby o baka kaibigan ni ex na nang iinis lang then si hubby na curious na download niya and nakalimutan i erase o baka accidentally na save niya sa back up file pansin ko kase dati pag nagkaka virus computer ko nun wala pa ako laptop one time nanghiram kuya ko may nagpadala sa kanya picture then one time nagka virus computer matagal na di gamit ni kuya kase may laptop na siya nung pinagawa ko na taka ako bait nasa back up file ko pa inisip ko baka dun niya na save or nagkamali siya sa pag save basta ganun.,hehe best way ask mo siya in a nice way bakit niya ginawa yun.,

[sleeping_beauty]

just make sure sis na talagang walang-wala ng communication yung hubby mo and his EX. then it should be harmless kung ganoon. pero nakaka-badtrip yan super! although, sabi nga ng isang sis natin, 1st offense pwedeng forgive and forget. but make him feel na di pwede yung ganoong style nya at di na pwedeng maulit yun. nakaka-offend talaga yun!

[reb_woods072683]

Investigate more sis. If it was downloaded last year and if it was nothing, then it should have been deleted by now diba? Minsan kasi ang hirap din basahin ng mga lalake sa totoo lang. So better talk to him, and yes, calmly lang ha.

[serendipity02]

ay kung ako yun baka naitapon yung laptop,hehe.. panic mode kasi ako eh..

pero advice ko sis, hinga ka ng malalim tapos kausapin mo sya baket nya ginawa yun at aanhin nya naman yun.. tanungin mo rin kung ano ang mafefeel nya kung sa laptop mo ay may makita syang pic ng ex mo na nakatrunks diba..

[jhenpretty]

Sis, try to talk to your hubby. wala namang hindi naayos sa magandang usapan di ba. try to be calm habang nakikipag-usap ka sa kaniya. kahit ako sa sarili ko alam kong manggagalaiti talaga ako sa galit kapag ganun kaso kailangan natin maging calm para magend up ng maayos ang usapan at hindi magend up na ikaw pa yung mali. Paminsan(?) kasi guys are insensitive at tayo naman mga girls ay sobrang sensitive. Yung mga bagay na wala lang para sa mga lalaki ay big deal na para sa atin (aminin).. Malay mo wala lang sa kaniya yun.. Pero hindi natin malalaman hangga't hindi kayo nakakapag-usap ng maayos. Or maybe, you can start your conversation by giving him a situation that na, if ever he saw a picture of your ex-bf in your laptop, what would he feel? Malay mo maging maayos ang pag-uusap niyo. Good luck sis.. kaya mo yan.. ^_^

[marssie]

Dadownload ko pic ng x bf ko at gagawin kong wallpaper 

[ayami]

naku kung ginawa yan ng asawa ko patay sya sakin. haha.

dati nagkaron na kami ng ganyang issue, pero bf-gf days pa lang. ang ginawa ng mokong e yung picture ng kalaro nyang chinita sa Ragnarok nung 1st year HS sya. reconnected kasi sila sa FB last 2009, tapos ayun nahuli ko sa cellphone nya kasi nakaconnect kami through bluetooth then naaccess ko yung SD card. ginawa ko, gumawa ako ng wallpaper for my PC na puro pics nung HS crush ko na ka-batch namin nung HS. ganti ba. pero waepek naman sa kanya e. mas nasaktan ako kasi siya, di lang nakuntento sa pics, kinakausap pa nya sa YM yung chinita. hurt ako to the nth level. wala naman ako magawa, boyfriend ko pa lang siya noon e.

pero ikaw sis, asawa ka nya, aba dapat lang iconfront mo yan. nakakaduda kaya. orrr hanap ka rin ng photos ng ex mo tingnan natin kung tatalab sa kanya.

[hisana]

No big deal, my ass. For him, syempre. He's not the one who found his partner with a photo of an ex half naked. Andun na yung gasgas na excuse na "boys will be boys," but if it were my husband, I'd expect him to be a little more considerate of my feelings. Alam naman talaga ng guys na offensive ang ganito sa ibang babae, why risk you finding out about the pic? Why download it at all? And keep it for a year? Bottom line is, he kept it because it turned him on. It's not gonna ruin the marriage, but I'd probably be a little cold towards him for a few days, too. LOL

[mishyewarians]

Dadownload ko pic ng x bf ko at gagawin kong wallpaper 

Ako pictures namin together nung ex ko na super pinagseselosan nya.. haiz, ang hirap nga nyan sis..world war yan pag ako..

[hotminty]

di kaya pinagseselos ka lang, if you two share gadgets, he'll know na sooner malalaman mo, baka kasama sa agenda niya malaman mo...para selos factor, papansin hub. kasi if there's something naman talaga he'll be discreet about these things...or during that time he was turned on tas wala na, he forgot na, well, benefit of the doubt, dapat nga erased na rin yan for one time use hehe)..you know your husband, weigh things and tell  na nasaktan ka with that

[ecnarfoj]

I'd feel bad kung ito nangyari saken. I would like to know his motives.
I wouldn't believe na wala lang yun kasi kung wala lang yun, pwede na sana yung nasa online lang pero i-download? may reason at kailangan malaman yun. kasi kung may pagkukulang ako, I'd like to know.

[Alucard]

ouch~! Foul po yan ma'am. kasi why would he download it? another thing is EX niya pa. dapat past na yan at hindi na inaalala pa at dapat kalimutan narin pero bakit niya parin dinownload at naka bathing suit pa? no offense ma'am ha pero deretsohin ko lang. it only shows that he misses his EX..

[candyjersey]

Kung sakin nangyari yan, mashoshock ako talaga! Kasi dba, bakit kailangan pang idownload yung pics ng ex..yung ngang malaman mo na tinitignan yung pics ng ex eh nakakainis na dba.

Magpalamig ka muna. Mag-isip isip. Itimbang mo kung paano ba syang hubby. Kung he's a good hubby naman, then siguro ok na kung kalimutan na yung nangyari. Pag-usapan nyo mabuti and sabihin mo kung gaano ka nahurt. Don't nag him. Kasi the more na i-nag mo sya, lalo d maaayos. Ang important is kung paano sya babawi after what happened.  And he must promise na it will never happen again.

[edskie1974]

hello mga sis...sobra akong naka relate sa topic na ito...kakajoin ko lang kasi sa hubby ko dito sa oz at grabe ang mga nakita ko sa laptop niya,mga pictures lahat nang ka chatmate andun pa kahit yung iba ang sagwa pa tingnan,tinanong ko cya bakit di naman niya binura yun eh alam niya parating ako eh sagot nya mga collection daw niya yun at huwag dw ako magalit at picture lang yun,kasalanan ko pa daw bakit kinalkal kong laptop nya kaya nakita ko yun,ang masakit pa hanggang ngayon ka chat pa niya ang mga ito kaya sinabihan ko isa isa sa kanila na huwag na nila pansinin asawa ko kung hindi nila gusto malagay sa youtube mga kaluluwa nila...