Are you tired? Waiting for someone?

[Girltalker2]

^ tama!!!


It is only having this perspective for you NOT to be needy and fall prey to any man na lumapit sayo at sex lang ang gusto

[ycel0612]

siguro iba iba lang talaga tayo. there are some na needy person. yung kailangan may someone special to feel complete. unfortunately i am one of those. lol.

i am getting tired. six years of being alone ba naman. haha. i've had enough of "me" time. i need someone to share my ups and downs with me. but i don't wanna be a desperate so i'll wait na lang.

[young_maiden]

^ pareho tayo sis. mag 6 years na akong single sa july. napakalonely naman talaga minsan eh. there are times na natatanong ko sa sarili ko kung may darating pa ba o baka tatanda ng nga akong mag-isa. para di ako malungkot, dinidistract ko na lang sarili ko. nagfocus ako sa studies ko. i'm a law student. saka 4th yr na ako. assuming na makagraduate ako sa april, i'll be taking the bar sa november. so di talaga ako pwede magboyfriend this year. baka madistract ako sa studies ko.

[kwang sun]

mahirap din kasi ihiwalay ang lust and love.. at what point will you say na ibibigay mo na sa guy yung thing na yun? without making him to wait for that long?

meron kasabihan na pag mababa IQ madaling magkaboyfriend/girlfriend.. is it true or not? lol

kasi daw usually mga matataas IQ walang karelasyon aaahah

[Girltalker2]

^ sis, kaya kailangan Pag isipan if you're ready Na to be intimate with him. Ikaw kailangan mag Isip because men usually don't think about these matters.

- Are you in a serious relationship with him for the long haul? Bf/gf serious, established Na relationship nyo at hindi rocky at gawin nyo lang temporary solution ang sex.

- Sure ka ba 100% na ikaw lang ang babae sa buhay nya? (Walang Bahid Na kahit konting Duda)

-Na meet mo na ba family nya at work mates nya such that panatag loob mo na kilala mo na sya talaga?

- Are you comfortable around him?

Ilan lang Iyan dapat tanungin mo sa sarili mo before getting too close to him.

[simang]

 

meron kasabihan na pag mababa IQ madaling magkaboyfriend/girlfriend.. is it true or not? lol

kasi daw usually mga matataas IQ walang karelasyon aaahah

Hala, sinisi pa ang IQ  sa kawalan ng lovelife? So magpakabobo na lang para magkaboyfriend ganon? Attractive ang pagiging matalino sa mga matalino din.

Madalas, yung mga high IQ people, sila yung mas low EQ naman. Not always the case but it happens. Siguro yun ang reason? Sa relationships mas important naman talaga ang EQ.

[lester0927]

hindi pa diretsuhin ni kwang eh. Sabi ng matatanda kapag maganda daw, bobo kadalasan. Kapag matalino daw, panget daw kadalasan. Kapag matalino na at maganda pa, rare daw. [textspeak!] sino dito yung rare taas paa! Lol. 😃

[kwang sun]

^ may cases na beauty and brains naman... what i'm trying to say is that those ppl who are more logical can find it difficult to be in a relationship because they analyze more than just feeling it

[Girltalker2]

^ there's nothing wrong with analyzing your relationship. Kelangan nga may periodic assessment din to know whether you're going somewhere at kung nag p-progress ang relationship.

And besides, having a relationship does not automatically mean meaningful sya.

Ya if you don't think, kahit sino nalang ba tambay sa kanto puede mo maging BF. Pero anong klaseng relationship naman kahihinatnan nyan?

[three8one]

para sakin hindi dapat mapagod sa paghihintay na dumating yung tamang tao para sayo. but ofcourse hindi rin naman yung tipong juan tamad lang na magaantay ka na lang na babagsak sayo yung bunga. kelangan naman din may gawin ka rin naman para mag materialize yung ginagawa mong pag aantay.

yung mga taong napagod na siguro kakaantay eh sila yung mga namanhid na ang puso di na nakakaramdam ng katiting na pagmamahal. yan yung mga nakakatakot na pakiramdam kesa dun sa paulit ulit ka na nasasaktan para lang mahanap mo yung tamang partner para sayo.

[jhaney]

There are times na gusto kong isipin na pagod na ko kahihintay for Mr. Right pero di na lang ako nag eexpect para di ako ma-disappoint. Sa panahon ngayon, mahirap talaga makahanap ng matino na partner lalo na nasa abroad ako.

[awesomemaia]

Hello dito.. Parehas pala tayo sis jhaney na nasa abroad.. Hindi ko na nga alam gusto ko eh kasi pag pinoy malamang yan me asawa so iwas ako sa mga malalanding pinoy na lalake pag chinese naman nakasuka na kasi puro chekwa nalang ba makakasama ko?! Sa ibang lahi ayoko din talaga. Pwede bang companion nalang muna tipong hang out lang pag kelangan? Lol.. Pero naisip ko it is such a waste of time! Ayoko pa naman nag sasayang ng oras. Na didivert naman ang attention eh katulad nung nasa taas na girltalker sabi niya gusto lang niya marinig mga words na il be there for you thru ups and down.. Nakakapagod na maging strong pwede pasalo naman pero wala namang sakitan..sa mga independent mas madaling mag pa ka strong kesa pakita yung weakness lalo na pag nasanay ka na ang tibay ng puso at di papaloko.. Ang hirap mag trust sa panahon ngayon sobrang hirap talaga...

[Girltalker2]

Hindi ko na nga alam gusto ko eh kasi pag pinoy malamang yan me asawa so iwas ako sa mga malalanding pinoy na lalake pag chinese naman nakasuka na kasi puro chekwa nalang ba makakasama ko?! Sa ibang lahi ayoko din talaga. Pwede bang companion nalang muna tipong hang out lang pag kelangan? Lol..

Siguro kung di mo pa alam ang gusto mo, there is no harm going out as friends muna, regardless of race. Ang tao hindi mo iyan ma judge by race, iba iba ugali.

Pero may customs talaga na non negotiable - so i-figure out mo iyan. Hindi sayang sa oras ang lumabas labas kasi kahit papano lalabas karin naman di ba, so why not be with someone to get to know him, malay mo swak?

Based sa experience ko, marami nga pinoy na kunwari walang asawa pero meron, nabiktima nyan yung isang friend ko. Pero I remember dating a guy single talaga and he is not young na. So meron parin mangilan ngilan. You just have to be discerning.

For Chinese, again in general ayoko din iyan. Pero I know of some pinays na happy naman sa relationship nila. Ibang lahi naman - you will be amazed na some of them are much much better (education, status, being gentleman, hygiene) than other pinoys. Kasi nga nasa sa tao.

Bottom line, if you don't know what you want, don't close your doors. Keep on going out, dating, and ma figure out mo rin eventually ano ang tipo mo na guy. So hindi iyan sayang oras, since that's a stage in your life that can lead you to your mr right.

[pinkadelic]

^ I agree sis, lalo na pag nasa ibang bansa. I'm in my late 20s and yung mga Filipinos na nakikilala ko my age or older, kunwari single pero may pamilya na pala diyan.

Ever since I moved here, I've gotten so used to being and doing things on my own. Tapos years later, eto nakakamiss din pala na may kasama ka who knows you on a much deeper level and wants to be with you. I do feel like I'm being too choosy. Yung nagpaparamdam, when I don't feel any interest or attraction initially, I don't give it a chance anymore. Parang wala akong gana and I don't want to waste either of our time. I don't know kung instinct yon or I'm not putting enough effort. I think finding someone to be with can be easy nowadays. Finding someone you WANT to be with is a whole other story. Ayoko din kasi ng dahil malungkot lang kami pareho kaya kami together. I also have to remind myself na wala ako sa Pinas and that I have to put myself out there.

Very nakakawalang-gana na

[Girltalker2]

^ sis nasa perspective mo narin minsan. Wala ka sa pinas and single! I-enjoy mo iyan!  I wasn't able to dati. Nanghinayang lang naman ako sa mga gwapings na foreigners na sana nameet ko dati haha

But never mind, tapos nayun. Ang importante you create your own happiness. Try to see things positively. Oo di mawawala ang challenges, Pero look at things on the bright side. Like me now, may pinag dadaanan lang ako career wise, but I have no choice, life goes on. Better stay positive kesa laging tinatamad. I still go out and try to learn and experience things.

[pinkadelic]

^ Thanks sis!  now that you said it, oo nga naman, bakit ako maghahanap ng pilipino exclusively kung maraming pwede pagpilian? hehe. i'll try to be more open nga.

I agree with you about perspective. For me, kalaban ko talaga my own nega thinking. But i'm trying my best to control my thoughts. You're right, no matter what we're going through, there's always so much in life to enjoy. Kaya mo yan, sis!

[MisCalculus]

Am i tired? Malapit na. Konti na lang, mauubos na pasensya ko.haha!

I don't  thinks it's about the culture, environment, etc.
kasi at the end of the day, sino ba dito yung hindi nag-isip/naghangad na may makakasama ka? Sa bahay, sa buhay, or sa pagtanda mo? Na-experience nyo na ba the pain of losing someone close to you, like a parent or a friend, tapos parang everybody's going somewhere and you find yourself stuck to where you are? It feels so lonely...

But then again, kung wala talaga yung "takip sa kaldero ko" - sabi kasi ng friend ko lahat daw may kapartner na takip eh.lol - i may have just to tweak my perspective, and enjoy whatever life has to offer and good vibes na lang lagi. *wish* Life goes on...

[Tootsie31]

Malapit na uli... Minsan may lalapit nga saken at makikipagusap pero hindi pa ko inaaya lumabas eh.

[eischied_21]

Minsan may lumalapit naman kaso married na..Big NO NO!

[shayne_12]

Siguro napagod na ako kasi nagmove forward na ako eh. Mas inisip ko na sarili ko at sa magiging future ko. Pero kapag nakikita niyang bumibitaw na ako, hinohold niya ako. Ewan ko ba dun.