Question to all married women

[Cheesecak3]

YES, very secured. We are together for 12 years. I am so lucky to have him.

[rianne_mallows]

Secured, happy and grateful

[Amphitrite]

secured and happy for 7 years now

I thought no one would be able to love me since even my own 'family' disowned me but I'm glad that I'm wrong.

[X-tine]

Yes I am secured of his love for me. We've been married for 2 yrs palang, I got married at a young age 23 he's older than me so I feel that he's matured and lagi ako napagbibigyan

Sis kaiz, if you are secured, why are you unhappy naman?

[mdy]

To answer the TS question: Yes, I'm very much secured with my husband's love. Between us, we both know mas love nya ako kesa sa love ko sya. He loves everything about me, flaws and all. Been married a little more than 9 years and we're doing better as husband and wife as years go by. Hindi palaging smooth ang journey namin but we're happy and still madly very much in love with each other... more than anything else, thats what matters most

[twelvth_goddess]

I am deeply secured with my husband's love for me. We've been through all sorts of problems and we always manage to rise above things mostly because he's willing to give up and to sacrifice anything and anyone for me and our daughter. He's seen me at my best and at my worst but his love remains the same; unconditional. But with that, I don't want to quantify our love in the sense of who loves who more, that sounds like an insecure love for me, IMO Lang ah. For me kase, love varies in intensity, it's very hard to measure it unless you do so by comparing your expressions of love. Iba iba kase yan eh Pero I will never go as far as saying that in our marriage, one loves more than the other. The quality of love is immeasurable.

[mommynin8]

yes, after 5 years na mag-on tapos 16 years.  kasama na din [textspeak!] 10 years of waiting for a baby, stroke. nandito pa din sya.

[FayeP]

secured naman ang feeling ko..

we have been married for nearly four years at ala pa naman ako reason to feel otherwise...

siguro factor na din na matured mag isip ang asawa ko kaya kahit may mga away kami eh di nagtatagal ang pagkakagalit namin, and he always does things that make me feel so special kahit simple gestures lang...

[ysa.belle]

Secured ba kayo sa pagmamahal ng husbands ninyo?

what i'm saying is: secured ba kayo na mahal na mahal kayo ng inyu inyong husbands?

Yan ang tinanong ko sa isa kong ka church na medyo may konting problem sa husband niya.

yes. in a relationship, hinding hindi maaaring same level of love kayo. lagi merong mas nagmamahal. but the important thing is mahal niyo and isa't isa and secured kayo sa love niyo for each other.

[kettlekorn28]

yes i am. mahal na mahal ako ng asawa ko, lahat-lahat sa akin, kasama na yung mga body fats ko, mga tantrums ko, pagiging KJ ko, pagiging nega at mainitin ang ulo ko. isama na rin natin yung tahi ko sa tiyan dahil sa CS (na kahit kinikilabutan siyang tingnan eh buong pagmamahal niyang nililinis.) 

[SassyAngelOnTheGo]

Yes, very much secured. My hubby is an old-fashioned guy, hindi sya mahilig sa night outs, he doesn't smoke and rarely drinks. He is so predictable to the point na pati iniisip pa lang nya alam ko na. I think because a part of that virtue due to the ways his parents mold him, disciplinarian kasi sila. But mostly, sobra talagang love na love nya ko at mga kids namin

[k_heart]

We'll i have a happy marriage and a hapoy family but a woman should not feel too secured. We should be on our toes pa din kahit loves tayo ng hubby natin.
So that a marriage also will continue to grow at hindi maging stagnant.

I've just read an article sa PDI. The woman thought na perfect yung hubby nya at perfect yung marriage nila, then the hubby died and she's really so sad and disraught. She even put up a foundation in the name of her hubby. Then one day, while having dinner, a colleague has inadvertently make a slip, she told the woman that the kids of her hubby looks very much like him. Eh wala naman silang kids. Kids pala sa ibang babae. So there,the perfect husband is not so perfect!

[reb_woods072683]

hindi. hindi talaga. fake ko na lang pag sinabi kong oo.

minsan siguro pag sinagot ko tong tanong na to at oo sinabi ko, ibig sabihin wala ako sa sarili.

duda pa rin ako sa kanya. idea ko kasi ang lalaking ito matagal pa magmamature.

tsaka walang kasiguraduhan sa mga katulad kong maagang nag-asawa. andami kong kilala na may failed marriages or may mistresses along the way.

maraming pwedeng mangyari at open ako sa possibility.

base rin sa history ng relationship namin, palagi akong nakabantay, nagmamasid. at sa pagkakakilala ko sa kanya, madali syang magwaver. easily influenced. etc.

na-internalize ko na rin in the event na lokohin nya ko nang bongga. prepped na ang brain ko.

isang shot lang ibibigay ko sa marriage at sure na ko sa kahihinatnan ko if it fails. no regrets. mahirap ibalik ang tiwala ko. hanggang ngayon, di pa nya na-earn.

napa isip ako kung secured nga ba ako, at katulad mo sis, I'll be lying if I say I am. Mag 1 year palang kame ng husband ko and we've been together since 2008 pero for some reason, hindi ako secured. Hindi ko minsan maalis sa isip ko na kapag matagal siya umuwi, may possibility na may sideways na, praning lang ba.

i am secured but unhappy.

how does it feel sis? Why are you unhappy?

[stylishmomy]

We'll i have a happy marriage and a hapoy family but a woman should not feel too secured. We should be on our toes pa din kahit loves tayo ng hubby natin.
So that a marriage also will continue to grow at hindi maging stagnant.

I've just read an article sa PDI. The woman thought na perfect yung hubby nya at perfect yung marriage nila, then the hubby died and she's really so sad and disraught. She even put up a foundation in the name of her hubby. Then one day, while having dinner, a colleague has inadvertently make a slip, she told the woman that the kids of her hubby looks very much like him. Eh wala naman silang kids. Kids pala sa ibang babae. So there,the perfect husband is not so perfect!

I like your advise sis, you have a point about being on our tose and always on the look out, wag masyadong kampante.

I think being too kampante about his love would also lead us to not putting effort in the marriage and into ourselves as a wife. Thanks for sharing sis

[SassyAngelOnTheGo]

I like your advise sis, you have a point about being on our tose and always on the look out, wag masyadong kampante.

I think being too kampante about his love would also lead us to not putting effort in the marriage and into ourselves as a wife. Thanks for sharing sis

I agree with these but to an extent. May iba nga na pag kampante wala nang effort. But for me, I am secured but that doesn't mean na boring na yung relationship kasi  kampante ka. Being secured to your husband love brings positive vibes which is good in a marriage or any relationship. Kasi pag sinabi mong unsecured, doon na papasok yung strain sa relationship because of doubts and jealousy na very unhealthy and stressful.

Now, yung effort to keep the flame burning especially sa mga matagal ng mag-asawa is another matter, in my opinion regardless of whether you are secured or unsecured dapat andoon pa rin ang effort, lifetime na yun lalo na pag tumatanda.

[allaboutpositivity]

Kakatuwa naman at madami ang secured dito at matagal nang mga married.

Ako din secured... 7 yrs na happily married

[miloo]

Yes. Almost 2 years married!
I'm lucky to have married the right guy for me 

[euwie]

Though our marriage has been tested before, i am confident to say that yes, my husband loves me so much and i am very much secured. Kahit na nambabae sya dati nung ldr kami, i am still convinced that he truly loves me and even more. I know how stubborn and pain in the pwet wife i am, andyan pa rin sya. He became a better person after that incident and i think i love him even more than before. It made us stronger, we love each other even more because of our realization how important we are to each other. Even if it hurt me deeply yung pambabae nya dati, i thank the Lord wholeheartedly that He gave us strength and showered us with understanding and forgiveness. Hay nasenti ako bigla 

[CmomS]

sad to say Im not secured. Although di pa kami kasal. Pag tinatanong ko sya mahal naman daw nya ako pero action speaks louder than words. Kahit parents ko di nakikita yung concern nya sa akin. Kaka-sad lang. Di ko alam if napipilitan na lang akong maghold on dahil sa dalawa naming anak. Dati inaya ko sya na magpakasal na kami, pero dami nya reasons. Recently naopen ko sa kanya ulit yung sa kasal and sabi nya magstart na daw kami mag-asikaso. Then after a week nagbago ang isip nya... plano kasi nung una is next year, biglang naging year 2014. Then after a week pa biglang di na nya alam kung anong taon ba talaga. Reasons nya: una ipon daw (kaso wala naman siyang iniipon talaga, wala akong nakikitang effort para makapag ipon sya) 2nd sabi nya may work daw kami kaya daw di namin mapapanahunan yun. For me kung valid yun edi dapat wala nang nakasal na may work diba!

[miss resilient]

napa isip ako kung secured nga ba ako, at katulad mo sis, I'll be lying if I say I am. Mag 1 year palang kame ng husband ko and we've been together since 2008 pero for some reason, hindi ako secured. Hindi ko minsan maalis sa isip ko na kapag matagal siya umuwi, may possibility na may sideways na, praning lang ba.

how does it feel sis? Why are you unhappy?

oo nga! aling security ba ang ibig mong sabihin? emotional or financial or what?