Is this possible?

[stylishmomy]

^oh sad naman ng situation ng friend mo sis what are the reasons no? since wala namang 3rd party, fall out of love lang? *sigh*

[miss resilient]

Possible ba that a husband and a wife live in one house pero friends nalang? As in civil nalang? Same house but different rooms.

opkors not!

i ve watched personalan ang may nagsabi ng ganito: aanhin mo ang pamilyang buo sa labas, pero wasak naman sa loob???

but then, na sa sayo pa rin yan kung keri mong dalhin ang ganyang set up.

[miss resilient]

For them, mommies and daddies are supposed to love each other and be together as in one  bed one bedroom.  They get their feeling of security and stability from the relationship of the parents.  I don't know,  this separate bedroom thingy will require some big explaining to the kids.
But that's only my opinion.  Maybe it is better than having 2 separate households.  At least the kids will see both parents in the same house all the time.

so like!

[jhenpretty]

Ayaw ko ng ganito..

[twelvth_goddess]

My in laws are like this and we've all learned to live with it. It's not the most ideal set up but I guess it works for them. I will mOve heaven and earth wag Lang mangyari samin ng husband ko to. I don't think it will though since we've both learned to deal with our differences. Whatever stOrm we may have to go through, we'll face it together.

[chefron]

thats what we are all praying for, na di mangyari satin yang ganyan....only time can tell 

[MaitaOfMakeupOnDemand]

My parents still live in the same room and most couples I know are still like that up to old age. Pero meron din ako kilala na couple who are together and they say they are still in love but the sleep in separate rooms. For them, they believe that sleeping in separate rooms preserves some mystery and makes them feel na parang nagliligawan pa sila. For me, I cannot imagine that when I am married I will want to sleep in separate rooms.

[glamorosa_09]

two of the married couples na kasama ko sa discussion group ko sa prayer community hindi magkasama sa room. Nagseserve pa sila sa prayer community.

I don't know if it has negative effect on the kids. Kasi yung kids nila active ding nagseserve sa youth ministry.

[kaiz]

ideally, sino ba may gusto ng ganitong set up? wala naman yata talaga. kaya lang mas mabuti na kesa you sleep in the same room pero matutulog ka and gigising na mabigat loob mo.

[glamorosa_09]

^if you don't mind sis, bakit ka naman unhappy with your marriage?

With my two couple group mates, wala namang mabigat ang loob, kasi there's acceptance. Yung isang hubby manginginom, yung isang hubby naman parang may disorder ayaw magpatherapyy (not groupmate). Both wives accepted na yung hubby nila, they are at peace and they are friends.

With my two friends whom both parents are emotionally separated, may cold or silent war inside their home and it affects them.

[smoothie]

My grandparents are like that also. Pero okay naman sila, umabot pa nga sila ng 50 yrs. I guess once you get old it's more of companionship.

But if medyo bata pa, baka may underlying problem.

[stylishmomy]

^yes parang ganun na nga sis, if oldies na... companionship same ng other lola at lolo ko, they seem really okay but separate rooms lang talaga matulog.

[kaiz]

^if you don't mind sis, bakit ka naman unhappy with your marriage?

madalas kami mag away sis. my hubby is masakit magsalita. verbally abusive. feeling ko he finds joy in seeing me miserable. and super seloso. i asked him na na magpa counselling kami but ayaw niya. hindi daw totoo yan.

[jhenpretty]

^ hi sis.. may mga tao kasi kapag galit they unintentionally say words that could really offend us. Baka ganun lang talaga yung personality niya. Baka dahil lang galit siya kaya niya nasasabi yun pero hindi niya minimean yun....

[FayeP]

sis stylishmommy, late reply ako...

sa part ng officebuddy ko, sabi nya parang ala na sila spark at sa totoo lang, di nya daw know kun love ba talaga nya si hubby nun magpakasal sila o baka infatuated lang cya...

sa part ni hubby, sabi nya di nya know exactly pero parang ganun din, fall out of love...

kako sa kanya, "baka naman kulang lang kayo sa bakasyon na kayo lang dalawa", sabi nya, minsan daw nag out of town na daw sila ng hubby nya, nag away lang sila lalo so ayaw na nya ulitin...

pero sabi nya, peaceful naman daw sa bahay nila eh ...

[stylishmomy]

^aw sad naman ng story nila sis... wala ng love, so parang friends nalang. If that setting works for them  then I guess okay lang

[FayeP]

^parang friends na nga lang sila sis...ang alam ko nga dati super text text at call sila ng hubby nya pag nasa office eh, pero ngayon daw gaya ng kwento nya, magtetext lang pag about sa mga bata, example, pag hahatid na ni hubby un mga bata sa school (hubby nya kasi naghahatid at cya nagsusundo), tetext lang si hubby na nakapasok na ang mga bata, mga ganun text, wala nang text na intended talaga for her na ingat ka jan, or kain ka na, mga text na dati lagi tinetext ng hubby nya. Sya din naman hindi na gano nagtetext or tumatawag sa asawa nya liban na lang talaga kun about sa bahay...

sad talaga kasi ang tagal na nila at parang dito samin magkakaibigan sa office, eh parang sila un larawan ng talagang huwarang mag asawa...parang pamantayan ba ng pag sasama...tapos ganun na pala set up nila ngayon.

[glamorosa_09]

@kaiz

I agree with jhenpretty sis. Magkaiba kasi yung emotional abuser at hot-tempered lang.

Pag emotional abuser hubby mo sis, hindi ka lang ma hihurt, madedegrade pagkatao mo. If that is the case, kung ako, hihiwalayan ko yan.

But if not, hot tempered personality lang, I will tell him that I am hurt when he carelessly say hurtful things. Then will try hard to accept him as he is but will also keep on reminding him just to alleviate the situation.

[girl24]

madalas kami mag away sis. my hubby is masakit magsalita. verbally abusive. feeling ko he finds joy in seeing me miserable. and super seloso. i asked him na na magpa counselling kami but ayaw niya. hindi daw totoo yan.

sis, magbest friends ba hubby mo tsaka hubby ko? ganyang ganyan din hubby ko eh, he will go out of his way to tell things na alam na alam niya na makakasakit kahit magimbento siya basta kailangan 110% ang venom ng mga salita niya. lahat ng klase ng mura maririnig mo sa kanya while i stay silent. napakaliit na bagay kung makamura akala mo end of the world na. tapos the next day, akala mo walang nangyari, maarte pa ako pag nagdamdam pa ako. haisst...

[jhenpretty]

^ Grabe sis girl24 buti nagagawa mong maging silent kahit bonggang bongga na sa pagmumura ang hubby mo. Hanga ako sayo. Pero siyempre sabi nga sa bible, Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. sayo ko nakikita yan. Kaso yung hubby mo is self-seeking and easily angered, nagbabad mouth pa.. Baka may problem siya sa history niya before na nagresult para maging ganyan yung attitude niya na masakit magsalita at mahilig magmura. Kayo ang nakakaalam niyan. Pero dapat pagusapan niyo yan ng hubby mo. He needs to know na nasasaktan ka sa sinasabi niya and baka mamaya may children na kayo na nakakarinig. Pati yung mga anak niyo maapektohan psychologically. Patience is a virtue talaga. Buti na lang mahaba pasensya mo sa hubby mo.. Sana maayos niyo yan.. Kaya mo yan sis.. ^_^