Trial Separation

[kurengkeng]

Papayag ba kayo? 

Do you think this will help fix your marriage, or will it lead to totohanang separation na talaga.

Pano pag gusto na talaga nung partner mo pero ayaw mo. What will you do?

[phoebe1811]

if ang motive niya eh to work things out parin eh di give a try but be sure na for the better talaga..mamaya gumagawa lang ng dahilan si hubby para tuluyang makipaghiwalay. you should also talk to parents, counselors or whoever you feel like talking para mashare niyo yung thoughts nyo regarding the issue.

[aquacharly]

Never make life-changing decisions based on emotions.

Cool down, let the day/night pass.  Tomorrow will be a better time to talk.

[megansmomma]

Sis TS, so totally agree with Sis Aquacharly. Don't let your emotions. think of what will happen. god bless you!

[princessrio]

i don't believe in trial separation. it's like saying "give me space" which oftentimes leads to hiwalayan na talaga.

trial separation is way way different from fixing your marriage.

what's the story behind your question dear?

[glamorosa_09]

ano yan, parang cool-off? Sabihin mo sa hubby mo sis hindi na kayo mag bf-gf, mag-asawa na kayo.

If you still love your hubby and want your marriage to work, don't give up. Wag ka pumayag sa trial separation, lalo na't sya pala yung may gusto. Pag sumuko ka, it might mark the end of your marriage.

Sabi nga, mahirap makipag-laban ng mag-isa, and that is true. Turn to God sis, and you won't feel alone because that is His fight too.

Kung hindi nyo na kayang ayusin nang kayong dalawa lang, find a marriage counselor sis. And if you want, share mo rin kung ano talaga yung struggle sis para we can have a better picture.

[dimplesgon]

I remembered, nagkukuwentuhan kami dati ng hubby ko about a couple friend na naghiwalay temporarily

so for the sake of argument, I asked him what's his take on cool-off or trial separation? kung baga coming from a male point of view.

sabi nya the mere fact that sumagi sa isip ng guy na makipag separate kahit temporarily lang, it means daw na most likely yun talaga ang gusto nya mangyari eventually/permanently.

kasi if sya daw yun, if may problema man, and he really wants to save the marriage, "solusyon daw ang dapat isipin, hindi yung maghiwalay muna.... sabi nya pa yun nga ang sinasave nyo yung marriage nyo...na para hindi kayo maghiwalay, tapos yun pa ang unang gagawin"

sabi lang ng hubby ko yun.

[honey-ecclaire]

for me it won't how would you fix the marriage if you two are away from each other?...
ano yun let bygones be bygones?

ano yan, parang cool-off? Sabihin mo sa hubby mo sis hindi na kayo mag bf-gf, mag-asawa na kayo.

I remembered, nagkukuwentuhan kami dati ng hubby ko about a couple friend na naghiwalay temporarily

so for the sake of argument, I asked him what's his take on cool-off or trial separation? kung baga coming from a male point of view.

sabi nya the mere fact that sumagi sa isip ng guy na makipag separate kahit temporarily lang, it means daw na most likely yun talaga ang gusto nya mangyari eventually/permanently.

kasi if sya daw yun, if may problema man, and he really wants to save the marriage, "solusyon daw ang dapat isipin, hindi yung maghiwalay muna.... sabi nya pa yun nga ang sinasave nyo yung marriage nyo...na para hindi kayo maghiwalay, tapos yun pa ang unang gagawin"

sabi lang ng hubby ko yun.

I strongly agree!

[k_heart]

A trial separation is a separation na itself!

[Noylabmay]

sis sabi nga sa marriage enrichment class namin never sleep in the other bed if you have misunderstanding sa partner mo kase you never know yung simpleng "kiskis siko" e you will feel something tapos mag eend up na lang kayo na magkayakap na kayo

[i_v_y]

i dont agree with this. it will most likely end up into a permanent separation. paano kung marealize ng isang party na "kaya ko pala naman na wala sia eh", eh patay na!

marami pwedeng mangyari na hindi dapat mangyari. pag may problema, walang aalis dapat ng bahay kahit anong mangyari as long as mahal nio ang isat isa and you both still want to save the marriage.

giangamit lang ang term na trial separation parang safe term ng mga taong hindi kayang panindigan ang mga magiging desision nila. eto yung mga taong gusto ng humiwalay pero hindi sure kung eto ba talaga ang gusto nila kasi naglalaban ang gusto ng puso at gusto ng isip nila. kung pabor, eh di maghiwalay. kung walang nangyari eh di magbalikan. but does that really resolve the issue?