Are you SWEET to your partners/hubby? How? TIPS please :)

[hedonista]

Pano kayo sweet sa husband nyo?

Share some ideas. I am a new wife Thank you!

[honey-ecclaire]

hubby's not so sweet before,I mean natuto lang yun sa akin eh...

Everyday more than 100 I Love you!exchanges,even sa text laging may I love you!
then kiss sa lips,sa noo,sa cheek every hour yata,..except pag nasa work hehe)
then every little thing you do sa bahay,you think na para kay hubby yun at para SA IYO...

it will come naturally,i mean you have bf-gf stage kaya alam mo na somehow who did you marry to,

[janix athena]

I show him sweetness in the way I know how. Constantly saying "I love you, I miss you, you're so hot" etc. And when we're together I give countless hugs and pecks on the cheek, smack sa lips. This is because my love languages are Words of affirmation and physical touch. Hubby appreciates it but he says he wants Acts of service and Gifts. Gusto nya sana more on asikaso and little gifts to surprise him. So I will still need more practice.

[twelvth_goddess]

I'm very sweet and affectionate with my hubby and he's the same with me. My love language is through words and touch kase. In our 7 years of being together, never naman nag-falter ang sweetness ko sa kanya even if I'm moody at times.

[guilleanne]

The sweetness that comes naturally na alam na kung may tampo pag hindi ginagawa,

-hug sa pagtulog, pag magkatalikod may tampuhan.
-morning kiss even before toothbrush, gudnight kiss. kiss bago umalis ng bahay kahit sa malapit lan gpupunta at kahit saglit lang, basta nagpaalam na may pupuntahan dapat may kiss and i love you, because you never know ang buhay diba.
-always asking kung nag eat na kung hindi man nagkasabay kumain
-pag kumakain subuan lalo na pag alam mong favorite piece like cherry ng care or wetpu ng chicken, i save his favorite piece tapos susubo ko sa kanya.
-i give him masssages
-we give each other footmassage, sabay madalas. somethis we foot spa each other pa.
-tinatangalan ko sya ng puting buhok tapos sya naman plucking my hair sa UA. hahaha, sweet kaya nun.
-i always make kandong, kahit ang bigat ko na, pag watch kami tv or tambay sa garden, kandong mode ever. hahaha.
-cooking his favorite dishes, minsan his favorite pulutan tapos hahain ko sa kanya with a bottle of beer para ma relax sya habang nagpopoker sa facebook! hehe.
-giving him gifts.
-picking your fights para less away and no nagging, kahit ng aaway sweet parin ang tono ng boses. hehe. or cry softly, kesa mag paka hulk pag nanagalit. it's not being sweet pero less damage sa relationship nyo para continue ang sweetness. unless major offense like pambabae eh mag ala claudine ka na. joke.

[katrinac]

* i kiss him as often as i can. kahit bagong gising at di pa nag toothbrush. haah
* sweet parin kami sa text
* i always cook for him
* i tell him na mahal ko sya all the time (i don't believe sa kasabihan na kapag lagi mo sinasabi yun, nawawala yung essence)
* inaasikaso ko palagi, yung damit na isusuot nya, baon nya to work, tubig, etc
* little surprises! - mahilig kasi sya sa Moo (Chocolate drink) and donut. minsan sasabihin ko pa sa kanya na close his eyes, then super happy sya pag nakikita nya yun
* i kiss him pag tulog, then ngingiti sya sakin pag nafeel nya

si hubby kasi, gusto nya ng affirmation, and gusto nya lagi naririnig yung mga i love you, i miss you. kaya lagi ko ginagawa yun. and pareho kami pagdating sa ganon. kinilig ako tuloy bigla!

[princessrio]

nasabi na nila yung ginagawa ko rin. eto pa yung iba kong ginagawa..
-do something that you don't usually do for him. if you don't cook, mag-aral ka ng isa or dalawang dishes or even his favorite dish then surprise him.
-join him sa household chores like kung naglalaba si hubby.
-ewan ko ha? pero love ni husband pag public display of affection kami. not sure about your husband kasi yung ibang lalake, ayaw nila ng pda.

basta always say i love you..bago maghiwalay, before going to sleep, when waking up, sa text, in between or after conversations, sa church, during sex, basta madalas.
pati kisses and hug din, sobrang dalas.

[mrs.S.]

Yes i am, its second nature to me... I guess its one of the traits na nagustuhan niya sa akin...
m my mom na para sa akin definition yun as a good wife.
I cook his favorite dishes...
I show affection kahit saan pa kami or kahit sino pa kasama namin, hindi naman PG yung lambing lambing lang.
I randomly tell him how i feel kahit anong time ng day...
I ask for his attention when i need it, he likes it naman kung nagpapansin ako sa kanya
Kahit hindi palagi i still greet him pag monthsary namin nung dating pa kami
I also make sure pag special dates like anniversary or birthday special para sa kanya
I also give in pag gusto niyang mag lakwatsa like kung saan niya gusto mag out of town kami or sinasamahan ko siya pag mag shooting siya. Feeling ko gusto niya yung presence ko kahit simple lang na bagay ginagawa niya, dapat sinasamahan ko siya

[rae]

I'm sweet, but not the sugar-y type na "i love you" maya't maya, and ma-gifts and super affectionate.

I'm observant. If he wants his coffee done a particular way or kapag may kelangan syang errand na gawin pero di nya magawa dahil wala syang time, I'll surprise him by doing it. Key is wag sasabihin na gagawin mo, gawin mo na lang. He finds it as sweet.

Another example is, doing something you don't usually do. Halimbawa, I don't cook, we just eat out. So minsan magluluto ako.

Being considerate and understanding can also be considered sweet. Kapag halimbawa he made me wait, I don't assume na it's his fault. Iniisip ko muna na baka something happened, like baka naipit sya sa work. I usually greet him with happy eyes.

Last, kapag meron syang recreational activity na hindi nya magawa-gawa dahil walang time or hindi nya lang talaga ma-prioritize, I'll make it the activity for our next lakad.

I noticed na taking interest in a guys interests can be the sweetest thing you can ever do for a guy. Very useful for me na by nature hindi affectionate.

[serendipity02]

siguro naman sweet ako.. pero hinde ako OA..

everytime na aalis sya papuntang abroad at sasampa na sa barko, I make it a point to create a BIG card of our memories together nung bakasyon sya tapos may part dun na yun [textspeak!] mga goals namin para everytime na wala syang signal and he miss me, titingnan nya lang [textspeak!] card na dinidikit nya sa cabin nya..
tapos kapag nasa bahay kami, i make it a point na sinusurprise ko sya ng mga gusto nyang ulam or nagugulat sya na nakaprepare na [textspeak!] baon nya pag magrereport sya sa opisina..

[hedonista]

Salamat sa mga reply. Keep it coming I am learning a lot.

ayaw ko kasi mawala yung spark namin especially we have a son na and nababawasan talaga oras ko kasi i need to attend to our child's needs at the same time magpaka-wife. siguro nag aadjust pa rin ako.

[rae]

^ nakakatuwa.

I think that in itself is sweet, you're willing to work on you relationship.

[hedonista]

thanks sis. ibang iba talaga pag may child na. 3 years kaming bf-gf and live in. all my attention is for my partner. now grabe lang hirap mag balance. he told me kasi na hindi na ko gaya ng dati. and nagselos pa ko sa lagi nya kachat at kausap sa phone sa office... imbes na i-take ko negatively, i find ways para mainprove ko na lang sarili ko... mag asawa na kasi kami, unlike nun takutan pa ng break up. ngayon we need to work on our differences and pagkukulang. though effort talaga. kaya need ko tips more more pa hehe

malapit na pala father's day oh noh isa pa yan

[hushush]

mabuti pa kayo mga sis sweet kayo sa mga hubby nyo. or sweet ang mga hubby nyo sa inyo. ako sweet naman ako sa mga dati kong naging bf. pero sa kanya ewan ko parang awkward magpakasweet. pag lang nagtatravel sya ng ilang araw saka lang kami nagiging sweet sa text. madalas puro pagtatalo lang kami pag magkasama kami. pero di naman kami nagkakatampuhan ng madalas. parang we're in getting-to-know stage. though matagal din naman kaming naging magkaibigan at nagdate bago nagpakasal. yun lang kasi malaki ang age gap namin. 10yrs halos. pero diba age doesnt matter naman. so wala dapat kinalaman yon  hehe. dati naman non nanliligaw sya sweet sya sakin. non maging mag-asawa na kami nawala na yong sweetness nya..siguro ganon talaga sya at nagpilit lang maging sweet sakin para mapasagot ako hehe.. pero sakin ok na din na di sya sweet. kasi at least wala akong hahanapin kung di nya magagawa. importante lagi kaming magkasama at alam kong laging kapakanan namin ng anak namin ang iniisip nya.. 

[rae]

^@hedonista, sa statistics daw sa US, mas mataas ang divorce rate by a significant percent sa mga nag-live-in before marriage (source: marriagebuilders.com). Exactly because of the reason you stated.

Kapag live-in kasi, kahit papaano, best footforward ka pa rin. Kapag kasal na, minsan daw one or both partners, di na kasing nag-eeffort as before, tapos biglang maiisip na "I didn't sign up for this."

Anyway, I didn't say that to scare you. I'm saying na what you're experiencing is somehow normal and the fact that you recognize na you have to work on something is a good thing

Medyo OT na.

[hedonista]

^ ha ha thanks pa rin sa info. di naman sya ganon ka OT lol.
ayun nga kasi i know the pros and cons pag live in muna, in our 5 years, it's not really a walk in the park relationship na everything is easy. still right now dumadaan pa rin sa growing pains of marriage.

So yung mga effort ko ngayon mukhang may effect naman. i visited my facebook time line tiningnan ko what we had before we got married. ibabalik ko lhat un. i started designing [textspeak!] pagkain, hindi na basta luto lang, may presentation parang chef. tapos nagkikiss na ulit ako pag umuuwi sya from work. hindi na ko negative, yung puro problem sa office ang topic. i tried talking more about our baby and his new tricks he he. sana tuloy tuloy.

ayaw ko naman masama sa porsento ng mga nag hihiwalay na dating live in.

more sweetness more fun. lol

[superpam]

cuddles in the morning before we get up for work.
weekends together doing something we both love like exploring the english country side or seaside.
small things like making him breakfast, getting all his clothes ready for work, making sure he has everything he needs without asking.

[rae]

Naisip ko pala, is isipin kung anong type ng wife yung masarap uwian, and be that person.

May off-days man, dapat yung overall wife-ness mo, is yung type na masarap uwian.

[mishyewarians]

  ang advice sa akin ng bestfriend ko (guy and also married) wag daw ako ma fed up maging sweet sa hubby kahit di sweet  si hubby. and ina-apply ko naman esp pag kami na lang gising and sleep na ang 2 kids.kaya sya, kahit hindi sweet in nature, nakikita ko naman na nag eeffort kasi nga sweet ako 

[candy_tone]

by saying i love you constantly  madalas kasi stressful work niya pagod siya paguwi ng bahay we make small talk muna before he falls asleep and i ask him how his day was etc... by adjusting to married life  dati kasi   alam niya never ako nag cook  and namalengke   now i know how to prepare meals for my in-laws since we live with them. My MIL even praises me if i cook something delicious and i  go to the market once a week for our weekly supply.  Im still in the process of learning because i want to cook each dish perfectly and i can see how proud my hubby is...