Hello. I’ve long been a lurker here but wasn’t really active in posting. But right now, I want to share my experiences with the FTs I’ve tried.
The first FT I tried was August Tambunting back in 2010. I had 4-6 readings with him. For the first two readings, I was impressed because he was able to give details about the status of my relationship back then. Even the physical appearance of the guy I was concerned with. But after those two readings, parang gradually naging off na yung mga sinasabi nya, hanggang it came to the point na super layo na so I stopped seeing him.
The second FT I tried is upon recommendation of my cousin. The FT’s name is Jenny and I go to her house in BF Homes in Las Pinas. She doesn’t have a fixed rate; sometimes I give her P250-P350, depending on the reading. She has been my go-to FT and at that time I was having problems with the guy I just started dating. Nahulaan nya na we’ll be together pero di kami mag tatagal. I stopped going to her for a while nung naging kami nga nung guy but went back to her when my BF and I broke up and I’ve been going to her almost twice a month since then.
So far, nagkakatotoo naman yung readings nya. She said that my ex would go back to me eventually pero matagal na panahon pa din bago bumalik sya sakin na buong-buo and madami pa daw sakit ng ulo akong dadaanan. It’s true because right now my relationship with my ex is in a limbo. We agreed in a no strings attached open relationship for various reasons. Nahulaan din nya that my ex is dating a new girl pero aaminin din naman nya yung tungkol dun and that if my ex will ask me if okay sa akin ang ganung setup, I should say yes daw kasi nakikita nya talaga na may chance pa naming maayos to at bumalik sa serious relationship and eventually a family of our own.
Ate Jenny is also good in giving timeframes, like she told me magkikita kami ni ex between 3-4 days. On the fourth day, nagkita nga kami. She also saw that we would have a trip out of the country, which happened naman talaga. I guess her advice is just what keeps me holding on to this relationship even if I know sobrang unfair na sa akin. She keeps telling me to just hold on, tatagan ko lang daw loob ko even if malabo ang status naming ni ex ngayon kasi in the end, it’ll be worth it. Dadating in about a year’s time na magkakabalikan daw kami ng maayos and makukuha ko sya ng buo.
For the sake of getting a “second opinion”, I kept lurking here so I can consult with another FT. Kasi even if magaling si Ate Jenny and 80% ang batting average nya, I wanted to be sure na may mapupuntahan ba ang paghihintay at pagtitiis ko. So I met up with Jade Martin last Sunday. Basically, nag-jive din naman yung reading ni Jade Martin compared dun sa readings ni Ate Jenny pero mas articulate lang mag-explain si Jade. She gave me more insight kasi right now, sobrang nai-insecure ako dun sa other girl that my ex is also seeing. Ate Jenny told me kasi na I shouldn’t feel threatened kasi fling lang daw to, ako pa din naman daw yung mahal talaga. Jade explained it further (without me telling about my other reading with Jenny) that he’s enjoying the company of the new girl and that if utak ang papairalin ni ex, most likely he will choose the new girl daw kasi they come from the same economic background. According to Jade, my problem isn’t really kung mahal ako ni ex (kasi may feelings naman daw talaga), it’s kung kaya ba nya akong ipaglaban sa family nya. My ex is well-off kasi and he comes from a prominent family. Sabi ni Jade, even if ako naman daw mas matimbang, my ex might feel pressured by his family to choose a girl who comes from the same lifestyle.
I also asked Jade if worth it pa bang hintayin ko. She said naman na worth it pa din and eventually my ex will wake up and choose me, pero yun nga, matagal na panahon pa daw ang hihintayin (she also gave the same timeframe na more or less one year), and that madami pa daw akong sakit ng ulo na madadaanan. The situation with my ex is so complicated kasi. It’s really up to me daw if I choose to hold on and wait for that day or to move on already.
Magkaiba styles ni Jade and ni Ate Jenny but basically they told me the same thing. Although ang difference nila is si Ate Jenny, pinapalakas loob ko to just wait for my ex kasi magtitino din naman daw talaga and all my sacrifices now will be worth it. Si Jade kasi told me that even if malaki yung chance that I will still end up with my ex, mag-move on na daw ako kasi nanghihinayang sya sa one year ko that I will have to wait for my ex to turn around.
So now parang I’m more confused. Ako kasi yung tipo ng tao na won’t give up that easily and since mahal ko talaga yung ex ko, the only driving force that keeps me holding on is the probability na may chance pa talaga kami magkatuluyuan in the end. I’m going to meet up with another FT later though, si Miss Baby. I haven’t tried her before but at this point, I need all the advice/counseling I can get.
Pardon the long post. I guess I really needed to offload din. I go to FTs because for me, it’s some form of therapy and it helps me get clarity. I hope my post helps somehow.
