Guys, do you feel bothered by your wife/gf's sexual past?

[halfbloodPrincess]

ako i always jokingly tell my husband "ang swerte mo ikaw nakauna sakin".. while he had numerous girlfriends before me, i accepted it... so dapat he would accept it if it was the other way around.   

[Girltalker2]

Kahit na babae ako o lalaki, for me ha, nakakabother parin sya.  However, if you know that his/her sexual encounters are for serious relationships, puede ko siguro ma-accept. Pero kung marami such that kahit sinong nameet lang nya sa kanto, it makes me question his/her values and character.

[Cessiechu]

Actually, feeling ko ako ang first ng BF ko. Though parang nahihiya siya umamin Ako yung girl pero ako pa yata yung mas maraming experience. Few months ago lang, binanggit niya na nagseselos siya sa mga past ko (kung ilan nanaka DO ko)
Pero 5 years na kame so matagal na rin talaga pero siguro nga EGO nila ang usapan dito. I told him na past na yun na kung mahal niya ako tanggapin na lang dahil wala naman na rin ako magagawa sa past ko diba.

[Girltalker2]

^ Does quantity correlates with quality?   Ibig sabihin, kung marami ka na naging sex partners, does that make one a sex guru?

[zeroone]

^ what IF you found out later in your relationship that your partner had twice the number you thought she had? Would you be bothered?

i have no doubt I was the first. BUT...
if I wasn't I'd be bothered not because I'm not the first. I'll be "concerned" that she hid something from me which is a no-no in every relationship. we're BF-GF for 10 years and married only in the past 2 years. we had plenty of time to be honest to each other. badtrip syempre kung meron ka palang di alam. but these are only IF's..

[vermich]

Nasa both parties yan how to accept the past. Basically past is past. Hindi ba kayo thankful na kayo na ngayon and made this person you love the way he/she is because fo that past (in a good way ha)

But still it doesn't mean sa babae the higher the number the bigger chances she's a hoar or for guys the higher the number = sex guru na. Hindi rin ito dapat nauungkat kapag nagaaway ang mag asawa kasi it only shows ang level ng maturity ni hubby/wife na gagawa ng ganon. Minsan kapag si guy nalalaman ang number ni girl, napapaisip sya (OMG! Ganon na karami?) kasi it bites them back.

Kaya guys be more conservative din naman. Sa dami ng naka-do eh maghahanap ng girl na virgin na ihaharap sa altar? Dapat yata ganun din ang girls, maghanap ng virgin na guy na pakakasalan. Sigurado baba ang number ng magpapakasal/ ikakasal. 

[zeroone]

@zero, thanks for the honest answer, especially from another self-confessed married guy. I hope you post more here

haha, been lurking this forum for quite a while now, under a girl pseudo. i was afraid baka hindi ako welcome but.. i decided ill come out of the closet. hehe. anyway, glad to be here as always.

[hot_chili]

^my sentiments as well. I was no longer a "v" din when my hubby and I met and nanghihinayang din ako na sana sya na lang yung first. But we also never talked about the past and never nya ko sinumbatan or pinaringgan about it even when we argue/fight. So I believe he doesnt hold it against me

[stameygirl]

^^ So I surmise sis that you and your current bf hasn't done the deed?

[magno4]

yes sometimes

[Bud]

Kahit na babae ako o lalaki, for me ha, nakakabother parin sya.  However, if you know that his/her sexual encounters are for serious relationships, puede ko siguro ma-accept. Pero kung marami such that kahit sinong nameet lang nya sa kanto, it makes me question his/her values and character.

First:
in any relationship, wala dapat lihim.

Second:
It is always good to ask the past from any partner. doon mo makikita din kung anong klase ang character and maturity of a person. it is often a common mistake to treat a past as just a past.

[melle17]

with my bf now, di issue sa kanya ang past ko and he even told me na he wants me to treat my past as something na pwede na lang pangkaraniwang usapan...

so we openly talk about our pasts and never naman naging issue samen yung tungkol dito..
what's important is kung ano yung meron kami ngayon and hopefully in the future...

i feel so lucky that he accepts me for who i am... 

[vermich]

sabi ng friend ko she's will not be bothered with her bf's past kasi nga past is past. Sila na magkasama di ba? Unless sabihin na mas magaling si past ko sayo, medyo ouch nga naman yun.

Pero nasa tao yan. Ang weird lang maghahanap ka ng virgin na girl tapos yun guy hindi naman virgin. Dapat girls din na virgin maghanap ng virgin na guy.. Baka talagang walang makatuluyan si ateng.. 

[adzy]

dapat hindi na binibring up ang past sexual relationships. makakasira yan ng future. naalala ko lang yung ex ko, may mga times na sinusumbat nya sakin ang mga nakaraan ko and yet nung hindi kami nagkatuluyan... sa much worse na girl pa sha nag-end up. parang karma lang. hehe kaya dapat talaga deadma na sha past tutal nangyari na yun eh. tanggapin na lang kung mahal mo talaga ang isang tao. accept the person wholeheartedly without questioning the past.

[magno4]

yes of course sometimes lalo na kung may maganda kayo pinag samahan, kahet pa adjusted at naka move on kana nun. di naiiwasan sumasagi sa isip moyung past gf mo lalo na kung malalim pinag samahan nyo..

[Girltalker2]

^ iniisip ko nga sis, bakit sya nagpropose na maging kayo eh bothered pala sya?  Sakin lang, for people who will be bothered about their partner's past (yes isa ako dun), di ba dapat alamin mo muna ang past nya, kilalanin mo muna ang pagkatao nya, before maging "kayo"? 

Hindi yung magiging kayo, worse mag asawa na kayo, then aangal yung isa. 

[bubuli]

nope, past is past, nakaka turn on pa nga

[Miss.Pancake]

^ mas nakakaattract ba pag madami na?

[killbill]

Boyfriend ko ang kabilin bilinan wag daw ako magkukwento ng kahit ano sa mga past relationships ko. Kasi tumatatak daw daw isip nya. Ignorance is bliss daw.

[Miss.Pancake]

Agree ako dyan. Kasi nun nalaman ng bf ko na naka do ko yun kateammate nya dati, ayun wala na. Bigla kaming nagkalabuan.