Guys, do you feel bothered by your wife/gf's sexual past?

[NickSparks]

i never had this issue about a Girls past, even a Woman with Kids is ok with me.

[minatay91]

^ Can I post lang just to thank Girltalker for her input? I agree wholeheartedly and I could
never put my arguments into words. Thanks

[rannastillero]

wow ang daming answers.

well actually tinanong ko kay hubby
"What IF hindi ikaw yung first ko? tatagal ba tayo? seseryosohin mo ba yung relationship natin?" (aware kame na FIRST namen ang isa't isa)
ang sagot nya ay tumataginting na:
"Hindi ko masasabi."
naloka ako kasi parang hello? ganon ba talaga ka halaga sa relationship yun?
porket hindi na virgin si girlalu eh wapakels na si guy?
meron akong mga friends na unfortunately naging single moms at iniwan ng mga lalakeng sperm donors nila,mga lalakeng nagtanim lang tapos iniwanan na duh?
iniisip ko pano na lang kaya sila? kung yung virgin ek ek ay isa ng malaking issue para seryosohin sila ni guy, what more pa kung me anak diba?
parang unfair? parang mas wala na silang karapatang maging masaya or seryosohin ng mga guys?

[NickSparks]

wow ang daming answers.

well actually tinanong ko kay hubby
"What IF hindi ikaw yung first ko? tatagal ba tayo? seseryosohin mo ba yung relationship natin?" (aware kame na FIRST namen ang isa't isa)
ang sagot nya ay tumataginting na:
"Hindi ko masasabi."
naloka ako kasi parang hello? ganon ba talaga ka halaga sa relationship yun?
porket hindi na virgin si girlalu eh wapakels na si guy?
meron akong mga friends na unfortunately naging single moms at iniwan ng mga lalakeng sperm donors nila,mga lalakeng nagtanim lang tapos iniwanan na duh?
iniisip ko pano na lang kaya sila? kung yung virgin ek ek ay isa ng malaking issue para seryosohin sila ni guy, what more pa kung me anak diba?
parang unfair? parang mas wala na silang karapatang maging masaya or seryosohin ng mga guys?

sperm donors hahaha .

[elle_888]

Well i think it really depends on the persons involved. Usually those who already had relationships before will understand more that it is ok if the girl is not a virgin anymore. As for me And my hubby, i am not his first and he is also not my first so he understood that relationships don't always go perfectly as it seems. Its not the fault of the girl if the relationship didn't work right?

So if the guy already had experience before and he is still not ok for him that you are not his first, well that is just unfair! Iwanan mo na siya! hehe

[Observer54]

im not bothered at all...she should be bothered about my past. lol! 

[Girltalker2]

Kailan lang naisip ko ang tungkol dito. Parang ganito lang yan:

1. Kung sobrang conservative si lalake hindi niya matatanggap ang ganyan kaya matuturn off siya.

Makitid utak ang mas appropriate term dyan, hindi conservative.

3. Huli at pinakabihira, kung open minded si lalake at mahal ka talaga niya matatanggap niya yun at irerespeto ka pa rin niya.

Agree.  Mga Pinoy pa, lagi kaya hilig nila magpataasan ng *h*, payabangan. Mga feeling entitled.  Kala mo sila mismo malinis.  Double standard MCPs.

wow ang daming answers.

well actually tinanong ko kay hubby
"What IF hindi ikaw yung first ko? tatagal ba tayo? seseryosohin mo ba yung relationship natin?" (aware kame na FIRST namen ang isa't isa)
ang sagot nya ay tumataginting na:
"Hindi ko masasabi."
naloka ako kasi parang hello? ganon ba talaga ka halaga sa relationship yun?
porket hindi na virgin si girlalu eh wapakels na si guy?

Mga lalaking ganyan, lalo na yung mga may past pero ayaw may past ang mapapangasawa nila, dapat binibitin nang patiwarik nang mamulat at matauhan.  Napakababaw ng utak.  Not worth to get to know. Sorry nalang sa mga gf/asawa nila, nagkamali ang mg gf/asawa nila sa pagpatol sa kanila, tapos if these gfs/wives know na ganyan ang ugali ng asawa/bf nila and yet decide to stick with them pa, I would feel doubly sorry for these women.

meron akong mga friends na unfortunately naging single moms at iniwan ng mga lalakeng sperm donors nila,mga lalakeng nagtanim lang tapos iniwanan na duh?
iniisip ko pano na lang kaya sila? kung yung virgin ek ek ay isa ng malaking issue para seryosohin sila ni guy, what more pa kung me anak diba?
parang unfair? parang mas wala na silang karapatang maging masaya or seryosohin ng mga guys?

topic dito, I assume Single moms = single moms na nabuntis nang hindi kasal.

Ang masasabi ko lang kasi sometimes you cannot dictate other people NOT to judge. Kasi the world we live in is really not fair and very judgemental.  Kung malaman nila single mom ka, marami silang maiisip na ano ang pinagagagawa mo bakit mo hinayaan magpabuntis nang walang asawa?  Hindi sa hindi ka na virgin - pero dahil - anong klaseng adult ka - napaka irresponsible to just bring a new life in this world nang hindi ka handa.

So kung ikaw lalaki, or may anak ka na lalaki, gusto mo ba to be with someone irresponsible? 

My wife asked me the same question and I also gave the same honest answer. Ganun talaga e.

So can you say "Ganun talaga e" if your sis or daughter is in that situation?  Baka patayin mo kamo yung lalaki na akala mahal sila pero nagbago isip because of their past?

^ Can I post lang just to thank Girltalker for her input? I agree wholeheartedly and I could
never put my arguments into words. Thanks

Thanks sis for recognizing, kala ko kasi walang nakakaintindi ng sinasabi ko dahil sa haba ng posts ko.  Meron naman pala.   

[argento]

i will be bothered if more than one. kaya maaga pa sabihin na ni girl kung ilan nakagalaw sa kanya.

[missybee]

Yes it bothers a lot, ilang guys na naging bf ko they're always interested to know how many guys I slept with na and who they are.

[stameygirl]

^ How many sis?

[creativehunk]

no, not at all! i wont even dare to ask for the details like how many and who are they. what for? those are silly questions of an immature, physical oriented guy. what is important is her present and that i love her because i like her. i believe that greatest love is one who accepts who you are and doesnt look in your past.

[FrogPrince]

I'm not bothered. I'm curious.

But I guess I'll be bothered if her number reaches double digits.

[hornboy]

Nope, because to be fair, I have my past also, so I dont bother , . .

[NeilRudecat]

Here's a possible scenario:

Husband and wife had been making love for days...having orgasms after orgasms.  It was so overwhelming that there came a point that the wife started revealing (unintentionally) some secrets that she's been keeping for years...in those short intimate conversations they would have in between intercourse.

So how would the husband feel...especially when all throughout their acquaintance, dating and marriage...the wife established and had claimed that she had not experienced any kind of intimacy with any other. 

Intimate encounters of the past are full sensory experiences (involving all the senses...sight, hearing touch...smell)...full body experiences...they can't be kept as secrets.

The issue would be so much more as dishonesty.  When two people are in a relationship...revealing one's self and getting acquainted is very basic.  It would be very depressing for the husband to realize that all this time he had been true to the wife...revealing all of himself...giving all of himself...but the wife did not do the same...and withheld all these things about herself to the husband. 

[Respect]

My wife is my first in everything, pati kung paano mag kiss, napagtapat nya sa akin na hindi ako first nya. Una masakit para sa akin at feeling ko unfair para sa akin pero as the time goes by, nawawala let's say na nagmamature na. Pero minsan dadating din ang point na naiisip mo din ang mga bagay na yun ng hindi ko sinasadya. Sinasarili ko na lang kasi once na magstart ka ng topic na tungkol dun eh malamang away na.

[gumpaste]

While I am certainly not a guy, I believe that what plagues plenty of men/boys is not they're the first, it's the possibility that they are NOT the best. 

[superjuzh]

mas ok pa yata yung hindi ka na lang magtanong para hindi ka masaktan. haha

[mc21]

...nope past is past.
...di ko pa sya kilala nun, so why bother?

[kermitdfrog]

dont bother to ask if you cant handle the truth...   and mind you, the old adage rings true, the truth freaking hurts...

[zeroone]

well if there're guys out there who are bothered, it's not about being first. what's important is that you're the last.

if you're a girl, stop overthinking because he chose you. and he's into you now. if he's not, then that's trouble.

but IF my partner had guys BEFORE me, i wouldn't be bothered. Hence, the word "PAST".