Guys, do you feel bothered by your wife/gf's sexual past?

[avd]

for me, what matters most is LOVE...
been bothered before, but in the end of the day, i said to myself "What the heck...i myself also experienced all those "things".
what might bother me is if she's not contended with me...like having sex with another guy. it might just release the incredible hulk in me......

[hedonista]

sometimes i do. and when we have open conversations we talked about them lol

[sixteen16]

sa bf ko, hindi naman.. alam nya lahat about my past. day 1 pa lang ng ligawan, naging honest na ko sa kanya.. tinanggap naman nya ako.. love na love pa hehe..

[jtansanco]

If I had a gf, I would not ask or be bothered by it (assuming I don't know her past). Some things are better left unsaid. What matters is the present from the day you met.

[tawam]

Well for me it doesnt matter its not an issue because you know about it and when she told you that she was no longer virgin or other men took it,of course those times you are not yet there and when you found her she was single and not with relationship and learn to love her so what is really matters is the present and the future together so for me it will not affect our relationship unless of course she did something disgraceful or try to do it again behind my back that would really cause trouble and for myself i dont believe in second chance once is enough twice is stupidity.

[popi]

IMHO, share only the things from your past that are relevant to your relationship, such as :

- you have a kid from a previous relationship
- you have a sex video / photo
- you were previously married
- you are in debt
- you have a stalker ex
- you have STD 

[ad13]

I don't.. as long as you love each other then that's it. With regard to sexual past, guys (generally?) may have spent his life like in a bachelor's party but girls will still accept him.. why not men? One tip, don't as questions if you think you won't be able to accept the answer whatever that is. Isipin mo na lang I don't need to know it basta we're good.

[Bastie]

Sa Case namin ni misis nung nasa ligawan stage pa lang kami, inamin naman niya yung past niya.. Pero matagal na yun bago ko pa siya nakilala.. kaya di issue yun sa akin.. Masyado kasi ako magmahal kaya eto na kami ngayun, masaya ang pagsasama namin  Sorry OT na ko..

[markyy]

.seloso ako e gusto ko ako lahat nakauna hahaha

[mayumiyumei27]

I once heard from an old friend. Love should surpass Virginity.

Kung mahal ka ng lalaking mahal mo ngayon, dapat matuto s'yang tanggapin ang lahat. Kung malaman n'ya 'di ka na V and he let you go, e 'di parang iba na dating nun, ano 'yun? 'Yun lang habol? Wehh

It only proves he's only after one thing. Saka ano ba difference kung V or not? Tingin ko hindi naman major issue sa pagma-make love kung V ka or not, basta mahalaga mahal ninyo isa't isa at tanggap ninyo buong pagkatao ng partner ninyo. I'd say kayo na ang pinaka-coolest couple sa buong mundo tee hee!!


Saka paano naman 'yung mga ni-rape di ba? Does it mean they don't have the right to be loved dahil di na sila V? Naisip ko lang.

[mayumiyumei27]

I'd like to add, medyo may mga narinig na kong sad stories about girls being left by their boyfriend because of 'that'. Siguro nasa lalaki na 'yun kung gaano s'ya kaopen-minded and mature. 

[lawrence01]

In my opinion, it should not be a big deal. Men who think like that are definitely insecure, walang tiwala sa sarili or sa babae. Ika nga past is past. kung ako yun babae, iiwanan ko. why settle for someone like that when you can go for someone who will accept you and your past, no condition at all.

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[donzski_doinks]

I asked my husband about this a while ago. here's our conversation:
me: haven you ever been bothered about my sexual past?
husband: no.
me: bakit?
husband: why should I? does it make you less as a person? it doesn't, di ba? and besides, i love you as a whole. i love even your imperfections. and my love for you is not based on what lies between your legs.
me: nung sinabi ko sayo nung nanliligaw ka sa akin na i already have given my virginity to philip (my ex, bf for 4 years) hindi mo ba naisip na basurang itinapon ng iba ang dadamputin mo?
husband: hindi. nung sinabi mo sa akin yun, ang naisip ko, you are a fragile soul that I shoud take good care of and treat with utmost respect. ginto ka na nawalan nang kinang dahil pinabayaan. at dapat kong gawin ang lahat para kuminang ka ulit.


natuwa naman ako dito. my husband is not narrow-minded..knowing na i'm the first woman he ever made love with (yes he is still a virgin at the age of 35) akala ko big deal yun sa kanya. hindi pala.

[lent0t]

my husband did not bother to ask about my past. until now, wala sya care. for him past is past pero nagkwento pa rin ako kahit di sya masyado nakikinig, hehe.

[ant0ni0_02]

Definitely. I wouldn't want to date the village bicycle. 

[Girltalker2]

Not really, why should it if you love the person.

One of my favourite song lines:

I've asked about you and they told me things
But my mind didn't change and I still feel the same
What's a life with no fun? Please, don't be so ashamed
I've had mine, you've had yours, we both know.. we know

The past should not matter so long as they are properly disclosed, and you were not lied to.
Pero pag nalaman mo through others, ibang usapan nanga yun.

It just shows how your current partner cannot be trusted. So mahirap magkaron ng partner na may dark/shady past. Hindi mo nga alam kung may HIV na. So paano? 

Kaya utlimately, for me, it is important to know the person through and through, at dapat ganun din sya sakin, before we entertain the thought na we will have a future together.

[jaymejorrol]

when me and my gf was on our 7th month palang.. na open yung topic namin about virginity.. marami na sya naging bfs before.. habulin din kasi sya.. and syempre ako naman hindi na nagexpect na V pa sya kasi marami nang dumaan sa kanya.. pero mejo na-bother ako, kasi gusto ko sana kundi ako yung 1st, kahit 2nd-3rd man lang haha! ..pero hindi ko nalang ginawang issue.. that time she said she's not a V na nga.. pero before nya sinabi yun, hindi na talaga ako nag-expect para di naman ganun kalaki ang impact sakin.. tinanggap ko naman yung sinabi nya.. i just told her na 'ok lang.. ikaw ang mahal ko, hindi yang virginity mo..' at yun ang tinanim ko sa utak ko para hindi ako ma-bother pa.. mahalin ko sya kahit ano pa pinagdaanan nya.. wala namang taong perpekto, lahat nagkakamali..


and maisingit ko lang.. Nung 1st anniversary namin.. nag decide kami na mag-do.. and dun ko nalaman na nagsinungaling sya sa akin.. she's still a virgin.. hindi ako naniwala so i checked downtown and oo, close pa nga! and ayun i did it gently..  1st time namin both.. nag-observe lang pala sya sakin dati.. grabe.. hindi ko lalo inexpect yun kaya super happy ako.. and she also enjoyed her 1st..

[argento]

i'll be bothered. nagsisinungaling lang yung sabi hindi. at the back of their minds it hurts

[zooom]

pag mahal mo isang tao di mo maiisip yung past. pag may doubts ka o nagiisip ka ng mga ganyan eh baka di mo sya gaano pa kamahal..

[magicflakes]

 As far as i could see it, It will only be an issue if the guy knows the person involved on gf's past and of course, if her girl will tell him the past is yummier than him. lol