Any tips on dating for shy people like me?

[~yufa~]

Hi! Do you guys have any tips for shy people like me? I tend to NOT speak around guys I don't know much. So nagmumukhang snobbish ako minsan I admit. The thing is, as much as I wanted to talk, namemental block ako. So if ever may sinasabi yung mga friends ko na ise-set-up sakin, I just say na I'm not really into dating now. Feeling ko kasi baka mapahiya ko sila dun sa ise-setup nila sa akin. I am even planning on going to a speed dating event because at least, I don't know anyone. In case I mess up, I can move on with my life the following day. I don't even have the slightest idea on how to widen my network because that would mean, me going out into the "wild" haha. It's been 8 years since I last had a boyfriend and I am getting older. =(

[designer]

1.) don't date someone you're not comfortable around with - otherwise bad first impression yung sobrang tahimik

2.) take a few shots before date - vodka cures the common shyness

3.) personal development route - read and study personal development books from authors like anthony robbins, brian tracy, and napoleon hill

[iamshiela]

 just be confident about yourself! casual talks lang naman yan sa umpisa, if he asks- you answer back- then ikaw naman magtatanong. and besides you had a boyfriend naman pala eh, you have the experience of dating na, so mental block should not be an issue. if you want to meet people then explore! daigin mo pa si dora the explorer! go to different places, magkaroon ka ng different hobbies and then join groups, punta ka sa mga parties kung masyadong wild para sayo ang party then join ka sa mga charity events etc. im sure you'll meet people there. saka always smile.

by the way how old are you na ba?

[mooncake and leaves]

I'm painfully shy and awkward myself and it usually takes me a long time to warm up to people. But I realized that the route that has always worked for me is to talk to the guy first, over the phone, before the actual date. That way I get over the initial bout of awkwardness between me and the other person because I don't worry about food stuck in my teeth or my red face. Stuff like that. Also, by the time we actually go out, I already know some things about him and it'll be easier to jump from one topic to another. The date is usually still a little awkward but at least, you've already established some form of familiarity and you can quickly transition to getting to know each other better.

As for blind dates...I think the way to go about a blind date is to make sure that the one setting you up is feeding you the right information. If you can see a Facebook account first and like I mentioned, if you can talk first, that's better. People tend to oversell their friends, to the disappointment of the ones going on these dates so ask them to just be upfront with you and the other person. I also think it's better if when you do go out, it's just the two of you. It's ok if they're there during the beginning to introduce you guys but for the rest of the date, it's easier if you guys are left alone. That way, you're kind of forced to talk to each other and there won't be that pressure to get along. No outside voice egging you on to do or say some specific thing.

Last, just keep in mind that they're probably just as unsure of themselves. They're also putting themselves out there and like you, they fear rejection and disapproval. So be kind and sensitive to each other. Dating is fun. Even if it doesn't turn out great, you'll always have a good story to tell your friends.


 

[snowhite_12]

magdala ka ng kasama and yung date mo din magadala siya ng kasama para hindi masayado awkward pag wala na ma pag usapan.parang group date.. the more the merrier... hehe!

sa place naman manood ng concert para less talking or mag coffee lang it won't take a lot of time kasi if it doesn't work out.you can make excuse... ^_^

[glamorosa_09]

Hmmm... siguro enhance your social skills and makipagfriends sa guys, hindi lang puro girls.

Nasanay lang akong makipag-usap sa guys nung nagkaron ako ng mga friends na guys (nung college). I did not know how to date too before. Kahit crush ko na yung nag-aaya, wala. Hindi ako makareply sa invitation kasi hindi ko alam pag-uusapan namin. Kaya I was 20 na nung magka 1st bf.

So nung nag-ka-date na, parang wala lang, parang one of my guy friends lang ang turing ko. That was what worked for me.

[janix athena]

Don't think of it as a "date". Think of it as you're meeting a new friend and you're just hanging out. Chillax lang. Wag magpa-impress. If he doesn't like anything about you, tell yourself "So what?" Remember hindi naman sya potential husband (though you're hoping he is), but just someone you're hanging out with.

[~yufa~]

and besides you had a boyfriend naman pala eh, you have the experience of dating na...
by the way how old are you na ba?

I just turned 26. Anyway, my ex-bf was a special case. We didn't go through dating and courtship. Kami na agad! Haha easy to get ba? We were just friends  then one day kami na. I can say that I was really comfortable to him from the very start that I was able to show myself to him. So experience wise, I've never really gone through what people call the "normal process"....

[nicoletta]

The best suggestion would probably be, relax.  I know its hard since you haven't had a relationship for such a long time, but you really have to be more confident so you can be comfortable during dates.  Think of it as a way to meet new friends.  Don't think nalang na guy yung kaharap mo.

[JHAZbewithyou]

Ahm. Parehas tayo.. Ako kasi naghahanda ako ng mga pede kong sabihin sa kanya. Haha! Pero madaldal naman ang mga boys.. Dadalhin ka naman nila..

[phelps]

kung ganyan ang case eh... yung guy na ang bahala.

[drixkoow]

If I were so shy to meet people in reality, I would consider online dating https://datingappsadvice.com/whatsyourprice-dating-app-review.app. Communication online gives you more confidence. You can choose the potential partner to your taste. This interaction method works very well for people who not feel enough courage to start acquaintance in usual life.