Deciding to move on from a failing marriage

[i_v_y]

^mukhang slow umintindi yang kab*tch ni ex mo.  Doesn't she understand that you left your ex dahil ayaw mo na nga dun?

And what is there to be happy about in being a b*tch and a mistress?

slow talaga sis. sinabi mo pa. may pa jealousy jealousy pa sia.

sabi pa nia, ako daw ang umalis...

isipin nia nga, ako nga ang umalis and what that makes her? an option.
tapos sa fb nia, tawag sa akin b*tch. kung kelan daw sila masaya, saka daw si "b*tch umeentra. di ko talaga gets baket galit na galit sia sa akin. wala naman akong ginawa sa kanya. hahaha.

[web147]

i'm not sure kung depress lang ako dahil may sakit ako today or talagang masakit lang nararamdaman ko emotionally. may sakit ako last saturday and di makatayo ng maayos i have asthma. i asked hubby na pagluto ako ng breakfast dahil di ko nga kaya magluto. feeling ko he ignored me pero sabi nya di daw nya narinig sinabi ko na ipagluto ako ng breakfast. he didn't even bother to ask me kung nakakahinga ba ako nag maayos or I need medicine, buti pa anak ko na 5 years old di umalis sa tabi ko and kahit pagkuha lang ng tubig eh ginawa baka daw nauuhaw na mama niya. Ongoing issue narin to, dati sumisigaw and umiiyak na ako sa sobrang sakit ng tenga ko pero nakatingin lang siya, after ko mahimasmasan tinanong ko kung bakit di ako tinulungan sabi nya feeling daw niya magiging okay naman ako. i don't know mga sis kung itutuloy ko pa yung pagsasama namin ni hubby ko, natatakot ako na baka pagtanda ko di niya ako aalagaan

[i_v_y]

^^ hi sis. sa tingin ko hindi lang marunong ang asawa mo. sabi nga ni papa jack, men are like dogs, they can be trained. i dont think this is reason enough para hindi mo ipagpatuloy ang marriage mo. tell him what you feel and how you feel about it.

you can still salvage this kind of marriage sis 

[maiandra]

Sometimes FB can be a lurking evil, block mo na lang sya sis ivy para di ka matempt tignan FB wall nya.

[stylishmomy]

^^was about to post the same thing sis. Block mo nalang sis, stay away from her negativity... I know you wont go down to her level but nakaka irita rin kasi na lagi nalang ganun nakikita mo. Surround yourself with good things and positive vibes

[web147]

thanks sis ivy, sobrang sensitive lang siguro ako. i guess you're right masyadong mababaw yung reason no? hindi nambababae asawa ko. good provider din. di lang talaga masyadong marunong magpakita ng care nya. kinausap ko na siya and sabi niya di daw talaga siya ganun ka showy pero love na love daw ako 

[i_v_y]

mga sis thanks. actually minsan kasalanan ko din. alam nio naman tayong mga babae malakas ang sprit ni nancy drew within us.

i realized it is only me who cant hurt myself, they can only hurt me if i allow myself to be hurt by them. anyway, struggle pa din pero it will be over in time.

sis web147, alam mo pareho tayo. eentra ko lang yung sitwasyon ko dati ha. ganyan din ang ex husband ko (naks), walang paki. nagkatrangkaso ako noon, aba ni tanungin ako ng musta ka na eh wala. minsan may pasa akong malaki sa binti, sabi ko "b, look o, may pasa ako ang laki". Lo and behold, tinignan lang talaga nia. Minsan kasi masarap ang feeling that they care for us pero some guys are just like that. im pretty sure sis napansin mo na sa kanya yan bago pa kayo ikasal.

[web147]

yes sis ivy bago pa kami ikasal ganun na nga hehe! todo explain siya na hindi siya yung tipo na showy. sa mga regalo niya dinadaan yung pagiging sweet like bibilhan ako ng chocolates bags shoes, eh ako kasi sis di ako mahilig sa materyal na bagay. opposite talaga kami.

naisip ko rin sis di rin naman ako perfect wife marami din akong pagkukulang sa asawa ko. thank you sis ivy parang binatukan mo ko and nagising ako masyado akong emotera hehe

[maiandra]

On the other hand, sis ivy since the news just came out that "Users who post defamatory comments on Facebook or Twitter, for example, could be sentenced to up 12 years in jail." baka pede mo pakulong lang basta may screenshot ka ng FB wall nya. wahahaha!

[jenie0519]

^tama! hehe, at ng mapakinabangan man lang natin yang cybercrime law na yan!

[momentum]

btw, so happy for you sis i_v_y, for your courage and strength to move on..i read the whole thread and I am so happy that you finally have seen some light and found happiness..

i wish all of us well and peace of mind 

[i_v_y]

btw, so happy for you sis i_v_y, for your courage and strength to move on..i read the whole thread and I am so happy that you finally have seen some light and found happiness..

i wish all of us well and peace of mind 

hi sis, im glad we are on the same boat. tomorrow is the second month since i left the house. happiness is a pursuit and we can't just rely neither depend our happiness on other people. sometimes, i just want to blame him why this had to happen to me. We both came from broken families and my expectations were to build a family that i never had. But things happen for reasons, reasons that we dont know yet. My role in this whole brouhaha was, i knew that he was not the person i wanted to marry then but i still did.

I prayed on the eve of Oct 1st. I made a promise to myself that I would not let them ruin me or hurt me. I realized that I was the only person capable of hurting myself, not anyone else.

Let's surround ourselves with positive thoughts and positive people. Forgive but never forget the lesson learned. Mas masarap isipin na tayo ang nagawan ng mali kesa sa tayo ang gumawa ng mali sa ibang tao.

On a totally different note: Wives can sue RA 9262 sa asawang nag cause ng great deal of emo and psycho abuse due to marital infidelity. Minimum of 6 years ata ang kulong.

[i_v_y]

sabi nga sa napanood ko sa tv, the best predictor of the future behavior is the past behavior. for some reason naniniwala ako dito pero hindi nag apply sa lahat.

sis brandi, kasal na ba kayo?

[i_v_y]

^sorry hindi ko ma edit na ka cellphone kasi ako hehe.

So yun nga syempre yung nangyari it made me stronger and wiser. kung hindi maulit thank you. kung maulit, pasensyahan na lang kami. hehe. Ako babae ako. makakakita pa ko ng madaming lalake tsaka hindi sa pagmamayabang ang dami nagkakandarapa sakin. samin kasing dalawa ni bf ako yung good looking. Tsaka marunong ako sa bahay at sa pera dahil lumaki ako mahirap. kung gusto niya mag settle sa ordinaryong babae tulad nung fnlirt niya, its not my lost.and yubg mga friends niya puring puri ako. ano daw ba pinakain sakin etc. siguro ganyan talaga mga lalake noh. ok na lahat ilulugmok pa din sarili nila para bumaba at bumagsak sila dahil sa pansarili nilang interests.

hay oo nga, mga lalaki talaga.

anyway, sis pray ka lang kay Lord if he is "God's best" for you. God only wants the best for each one of us. Ikaw masasabi mo sa sarili mo kung siya ba ay God's best for you. Pinagdadasal ang God's best sis. Yang isang pagkakamali ko pa. When i decided to marry, i did not include God in my decision making.

[honey-ecclaire]

sabi nga nila,pano mo malalaman ang resulta kung hindi ka susugal...

[momentum]

just wanted to share this which I just saw awhile ago..

You can shed tears because they are gone, or you can smile because they lived. You can close your eyes and pray that they come back to you,Or you can open your eyes and see all they left behind, Your heart can be empty because you can't see them, or  you can be full of  the love that they shared. You can turn your back on tomorrow and live in yesterday, or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday. You can remember them and only that they are gone, or you can cherish the memories and let them live on. You can cry and close your mind be empty and turn your back on the those who love you and want to help you get through your grief, Or you can do what the loved one you lost would want you to do....SMILE open your eyes, Love and go on...

We walk away not because we want others to realize our worth, but because we finally realize our own worth.

[i_v_y]

just wanted to share this which I just saw awhile ago..

You can shed tears because they are gone, or you can smile because they lived. You can close your eyes and pray that they come back to you,Or you can open your eyes and see all they left behind, Your heart can be empty because you can't see them, or  you can be full of  the love that they shared. You can turn your back on tomorrow and live in yesterday, or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday. You can remember them and only that they are gone, or you can cherish the memories and let them live on. You can cry and close your mind be empty and turn your back on the those who love you and want to help you get through your grief, Or you can do what the loved one you lost would want you to do....SMILE open your eyes, Love and go on...

We walk away not because we want others to realize our worth, but because we finally realize our own worth.

sis sa marc and angel ba to?

anyways, tama na ang drama. malapit na bangkok-phuket trip ko. parang EAT PRAY LOVE ang peg ko.

I have been very occupied with my training sa gym. i have lost weight. mga sis grabe, Aug 19th, my fat percentage was 33%, body age was 32 and muscle mass was 27%.

Two days ago, here are the results of the weigh in:

Fat % - 19%
Muscle - 39%
Body Age - 18 years old.

So far so good.  Thanks sissies sa motivation. You keep my flame burning!

[momentum]

^ i just saw the article when I researched online for quotes/phrases for letting go of the one you loved..

omg, I really like Eat Pray Love...yung fresh na fresh pa yung hiwalayan namin, everyday I keep on reading the letter of Liz to David..I get so emotional..I especially like the last part that says:

We deserve better than staying together because we are afraid we will be destroyed if we don't

I researched and copied the nice quotes/conversations from that movie/book..it is very inspiring..

good luck sis ivy sa trip mo..have as much fun as you can! I am excited for you 

[FayeP]

sis ivy, enjoy ka maigi sa upcoming holiday mo, hope it helps you heal..


congrats din sa pagsexy mo hehe...balang araw marerealize mo na lang na nakamove on ka na

[simple_girl]

Mga sis,

Just attended the mass, sobrang na feel ko ang mga readings at gospel pati ang homily ng pari about sa marriage at paghihiwalay. Sana umattend ng mass ang husband ko para matouch sya at makonsyensya pati ang babae na nakasira sa pagsasama namin kasi front lang nya ang pagiging choir.