Guys who initiate the break up

[purple.strawberry]

IMO, guys should man up and tell the girl directly what's going on, di yung manlalamig na lang or kung ano pang subleties na akala mo naman e maglelessen ng hurt sa part ng babae. Parang ganito: you're not acting kind, you're acting like a jerk. May mga guys siguro na tingin nila is they're a hero for trying to lessen the blow of the break-up, but no. For a woman, what's worse than getting dumped is getting dumped without knowing the real reason why. Pag pinilit mong alamin ang reason, magbibigay ng mga ek-ek na malalaman mo later on na excuses lang pala or di naman kaya e ilalay ang blame sa'yo.

Closure ba. It's best to be mature about relationships and talk like adults.

[sacred cow]

whether or not may ibang babae or wala, mas mabuti nang nakipagbreak ang guy sa gf niya kesa naman sa lolokohin pa
na may other girl while still being in a relationship. EGO na lang 'yan ng ibang babae na ayaw na yung guy makipagbreak sa kanila
or hindi matanggap na pinagpalit sila kaya nakipagbreak

[joeygirly]

"Men court women at the first place, so wala silang karapatang makipagbreak" 

narinig ko to sa pinsan ko eh natawa ako hahaha, may point siguro pero invalid parin. okay lang na makipag break sakin bf ko if he's falling for someone kesa naman sa nagllihim siya at masaktan ako lagi.

[sacred cow]

"Men court women at the first place, so wala silang karapatang makipagbreak" 

narinig ko to sa pinsan ko eh natawa ako hahaha, may point siguro pero invalid parin. okay lang na makipag break sakin bf ko if he's falling for someone kesa naman sa nagllihim siya at masaktan ako lagi.

hindi ba dapat since lalake naginitiate, dapat siya rin ang tumapos...lol

[purple.strawberry]

^Haha. Natawa naman ako dun.

[pretty_B]

ilang beses na nag-initiate si bf makipagbreak and maybe this time...pagbibigyan ko na sya. masakit na masyado. kami pa pero parang nagmomove-on na ako. para din siguro pag nagusap kami (bukas na yun. waaaa. T_____T), mejo di na masakit. di na din daw sya masaya, gusto ko syang sumaya kaya papalayain ko na din.

guys&girls, paano ba istart ang "breakup talk" na si bf ang naginitiate ng breakup? >___<

BTW, i read this thread and nakakainspire ang mga sisters natin na happily married na ngayon kahit ilang beses na nilang napagdaanan ang ganitong sitwasyon.

[angelzero]

IMO, guys should man up and tell the girl directly what's going on, di yung manlalamig na lang or kung ano pang subleties na akala mo naman e maglelessen ng hurt sa part ng babae. Parang ganito: you're not acting kind, you're acting like a jerk. May mga guys siguro na tingin nila is they're a hero for trying to lessen the blow of the break-up, but no. For a woman, what's worse than getting dumped is getting dumped without knowing the real reason why. Pag pinilit mong alamin ang reason, magbibigay ng mga ek-ek na malalaman mo later on na excuses lang pala or di naman kaya e ilalay ang blame sa'yo.

Closure ba. It's best to be mature about relationships and talk like adults.

i agree with this. maybe some guys are just immature or coward to handle a break up like this. if i were breaking up with someone i admit mahirap gawin to pero kailangan. siguro mahihirapan ako when it comes to timing and how to open it up.

i must admit when i was dumped i liked to play the victim. i realized later on na may mali rin ako. i was also naive and immature that's why i drove him to break up with me. pero syempre mas malaki kasalanan nya. i deserve to know what i was doing wrong. he never spoke up.

[det060403]

Almost lahat ng lalaki may nakareserve na babae para hindi sila mabakante.

Naniniwala din ako sa opinion na to. Technically they don't cheat when theyre on a relationship, pero somehow theyre eyeing on someone else already...just in case magbreak sila ng current. Harsh! but true! Ask all of my exes (bwiset sila!) ask all of my guy friends and some of my guy cousins. It must be in their blood! LOL!

"Men court women at the first place, so wala silang karapatang makipagbreak" 

I actually heard this from my pinsan too. Baka magpinsan tayo @joeygirly hahaha! And thats why daw kahit na ayaw na nila dun sa girl, hindi nila makuhang hiwalayan.They end up cheating on them na lang, wait until the girl finds out and do the rest to finish off the relationship. Easy way out nga naman! Tsk tsk

[sacred cow]

Naniniwala din ako sa opinion na to. Technically they don't cheat when theyre on a relationship, pero somehow theyre eyeing on someone else already...just in case magbreak sila ng current. Harsh! but true! Ask all of my exes (bwiset sila!) ask all of my guy friends and some of my guy cousins. It must be in their blood! LOL!

I actually heard this from my pinsan too. Baka magpinsan tayo @joeygirly hahaha! And thats why daw kahit na ayaw na nila dun sa girl, hindi nila makuhang hiwalayan.They end up cheating on them na lang, wait until the girl finds out and do the rest to finish off the relationship. Easy way out nga naman! Tsk tsk

eh bakit break na naman na ha, buti nga hindi nagcheat while in the relationship. kahit din naman mga babae merong spare guys na kapag magfail ang relationship...meron ding isusunod.
we only have so much time to live in this world, there's no point wasting time grieving over something na tapos na...move on!

[sacred cow]

^ branch swinging works both ways, in fact mas madali pa nga siguro sa babae kasi kahit hindi sila maghanap ng kapalit may mga lalakeng nagaabang na magbreak sila ng bf nya.

[sacred cow]

^yup, that's why we shouldn't generalize that when guys break up with a girl ibig sabihin may kapalit na...
mas pwede mo pa sabihin na more often than not, nakikipagbreak ang isang tao sa bf/gf niya kasi meron na siyang
nahanap na higit/mas gusto niya dun sa present.

[sacred cow]

^ok my bad

[ilovejdy]

how do i get out of this thread?

[MrGuytalker]

When a guy breaks up his girl it's very rare na suyuin sya ni girl hence usually it's final na agad. Compare that to when a girl breaks up with her guy. More often than not susuyuin ni boy si girl hence may chance uli.

[pretty_B]

after a week na ang cold nya sa akin (tipong hinihintay nalang namin ang weekend para sa formal na break up)...nakipagbati din si bf.

i know the problem in our relationship is me - my attitude (like what he said) pero di rin ako ganun ka-convince na breaking up ang solusyon agad. >___< buti nakipagayos sya. aminado akong may nagbago sa samahan namin. i am just hoping na maging okay din ang lahat.

[pt_2000mf]

hmmm... i dont know pero IT TAKES TWO to TANGO..... 

[coffeelovermd]

The funny thing about this topic is that, guys usually just make excuses to get out of the relationship because of their own personal reasons na they won't usually tell you. Mostly it depends sa maturity ng guy, madalas kasi, they feel like they're missing so many things na they can't do with a gf. I know this din 'coz it happened to me and mostly sa friends ko din. This is just one of the crazy truths about boys!

[deepbluesomething]

I feel sorry sa mga babaeng nakipag break ako. Dahil  sa nagsawa na ako at nakahanap ng iba. Bata pa ko nun medyo immature. Before, seeing them cry and suffer was my sick pleasure. I'm so ashamed for what I did. Im really sorry
   
 

[redhead69]

^ nahurt ako sa reality. my ex bf recently broke up with me. palagi kasi siya nagbbeg sakin at naunder siya pero i let him go. nung kami kasi di pa ko masyado nakakamove on sa ex ko bago sakanya kaya medyo naging rude ako.

pero lets face the truth : sawa, pagod, no time sa sarili or namimiss mga ginagawa niya before maging kayo usually reason nila.

[mmiiccss]

^ tama. Pero minsan ayaw bumitaw nung babae. Yun ang problema.