I love Adam. In defense, I'll share this comment on an episode review I read a while back:
And that brings us to Adam. He has classic Game. During the second episode my wife pronounced him a Sigma male. I agree; he is a fellow who is highly confident and almost self-contained. He does what he does and isn’t dependent on the approval of others at all. But he likes and enjoys people, he’s open with them, and reads them instantly. He has few illusions, but he isn’t disillusioned.
Adam is also a strange mix of qualities. At first glance he is a hopeless, skinny geek and *censored*, but then you notice that he’s not only a big guy, but he’s hard as a rock. He is in excellent, excellent physical condition. That actor could easily play a little against character as a very hard man.
He also has an extremely manly air about him, and whenever he and Hannah are together, he makes sure she is having fun too. He doesn’t just use her. As Alan mentioned, he is as emotionally available to her as he thinks she wants. And he likes her. He takes her as she is and fits her into his life based on that.
Hannah seems to want him to be all worshipful and tragically clinging, but the show makes it clear that that is not the ticket to a “Girls" heart.
I thought it was really powerful when Adam lost his patience and demanded to know if Hannah wanted him to be her boyfriend. He’ll be a good one I think. He’ll leave her alone to do her thing and yet be available without rearranging his life around her. Will Hannah be happy with that? Stay tuned for next week’s episode.
And this is what happened all right. And I think it was poignant, this scene:
Adam: You love yourself so much so why is it so crazy that someone else would too?!
Hannah: I don’t love myself.
Adam: You’re the f*****g worst, you know that?! Because you think you’re not pretty and you’re not a good writer and you’re not a good friend. Well, you are pretty, you are a good writer and you are a good friend.
Hannah: Well… Thank you.
Adam: Is this the game?! You chase me like I’m the f*****g Beatles for 6 months and then I finally get comfortable and then you shrug?! What the f*** is wrong with you?!
Hannah: I’m scared, okay? I’m really scared all the time. I’m like, really scared, all the time.
Adam: Well, join the f*****g club!
Hannah: No. Cause I’m more scared than most people say that they are scared. I’m like, the most scared person alive.
Adam: You don’t have the right to be! I told you, once I commit to something, I really f*****g commit! You asked for this! And now you’re being a f*****g b****!
Hannah: Adam… Come on! You’re scared. I’m looking at you and I know you’re scared. You’re acting like you’re not but you are. I know you now, we’ve been doing this for a while.
Adam: Stop! You don’t know me. You don’t know s*** about me. You don’t know me and you don’t know yourself! You think, cause you’re what, 11 pounds overweight, you know struggle?!
Hannah: I am 13 pounds overweight and it’s been awful for me my whole life!
Adam: Holy f*****g s***! Here’s the world’s most smallest, tiny, violin play, my heart beats for you! You don’t know struggle! I’m a beautiful f*****g mystery to you!
I despise Hannah for her flaws and her selfishness, but I gotta admit that I can relate to her and I can't help sympathizing. I am scared too, and too often I forget that
everybody's scared, and fear shouldn't be a hindrance to something that could potentially make me happy. Hannah's also very self-absorbed but at the same time has such high self-doubt.
