Is it really possible that you fall inlove w/ a guy you haven't met personally?

[dumpee.o13]

^ Hi, sissies! Just wanted to seek advice from you regarding my situation right now. This is actually about a guy I met in Twitter. We've been following each other (kahit di namen kilala isa't-isa). So nagstart ang story 1 night, he tweeted some quotes seems like he misses someone. So I re-tweeted some the he sent me a message saying na "namimiss lang daw nya ex nya." I told him that I've been going through the same thing as well, that me & my bf for 4yrs left me because of a 3rd party. Kwento ko ang situation na parang friends w/ benefits kame ng ex ko (that we do go out still & make out, those stuff etc). And then he made kwento na din about his ex na tinanggap nya kahit may anak at kasal pa pero niloko lang den sya. So nagbigayan kame ng advices sa isa't-isa. That night ended na ganun ang topic namen. The next day, he messaged me again like good morning stuff. Magka-message lang naman kame the whole day, nagkabigayan na rin kame ng cp numbers nun. That night, nagtawagan kame. Nag-usap kame literally ng buong magdamag, that's from 9PM - 6AM. Sobrang dame namen napag-usapan about our families, backgrounds, lovelives namen and all that. And I must admit na nung nag-uusap kame parang sobrang tagal na nameng magkakilala, kung magtawanan at mag-asaran kame e ganun-ganun na lang. He's sweet, as in. Until it came to a point na we decided to give it a try. I know it's too fast pero bigla na lang nangyare. So, parang naging mag-on na nga kame on that day. Lalo pa syang naging sweet saken w/c I really like. I really feel na mabuti syang tao, I feel secured. Akala ko okay na, lumipas ang 1 araw na masaya kame as magbf/gf. The next day, nalaman ng ex ko na kame na. Naghysterical lang naman ang lolo nyo. Saying na baket daw ganun kabilis, baket daw si ko muna kilalanin na kesyo ayaw daw nya akong mahurt ng iba etc. With that being said, napag-isip ako. Naisip kong magiging unfair ako kay guy kung gagawin ko lang syang rebound, he don't deserve it. So I broke up w/ him, explaining na I need time to think and realize everything that had happened to us. Hinde sya nagalet saken or nanumbat, instead he told me that he understands what I am going through right now. Pero maghihintay lang daw sya saken whatever happens. I was so touched and felt guilty sa ginawa ko na dapat talaga e di ako nagmadali. Days passed by na medyo naglie-low sya saken, di na sya masyadong nagpaparamdam. Di ko alam pero namimiss ko sya. Namimiss ko treatment nya saken, namimiss ko sya. Possible ba to? Right now, table were turned. Naging cold sya saken at ako naman tong parang naghahabol sakanya. I always text him, IM/Twitter msg and all that. Kahit dinededma nya ko minsan, tuloy pa din ako sa pagsuyo sakanya. Iniyakan ko na nga pandededma nya saken e' So ngayon, I wanted to see if possible ba na nafa-fall nako sakanya? Pag wala sya, namimiss ko sya. And I really care for him a lot. Anong gagawin ko, sissies?!

Sorry, medjo mahaba kwento but thanks for taking the time to read. Please give some comments & advices. Godspeed Ü

[janix athena]

Hi sis. Hmm, sorry to hear about what you're going thru. Kumbaga, heartbreak during a heartbreak. I'm surprised nakikinig ka pa sa mokong mong EX. Hmp, if I know nasaktan lang kasi ang ego nya na kaya mo syang palitan agad. Pwede ba, wala syang karapatan pagsabihan ka, niloko ka na nga diba? And wag ka pumayag sa friends with benefits set up. Tsk tsk. Hindi pa ba enough yung niloko ka? Please sis, wake up.

About kay new boylet, I agree with your ex na you need to take precaution (kahit may point ang sinabi nya pero wala pa rin sya say sa buhay mo.) So it's possible you're infatuated. I don't think you're in-love. And isa pa, love is not a feeling. It's a decision. Halimbawa sa married couples. You don't feel in-love everyday, but you choose to work on it to keep the real love alive, because love is commitment.

One more thing, yung paghabol mo sa kanya is counter-productive. Remember sis, believe his actions, not his words. Maghihintay kuno sya, eh bakit ngayon nande-dedma. Hay mga lalaki talaga. Pwede rin naman na he's attracted sayo, pero you need to play your cards right. Let him chase you, until you catch him, ika nga ng book na "Why Men Marry Bitches." Change of strategy ka na girl. Mahirap i-detalye lahat dito sa post ko, I suggest you read the book.

[janix athena]

^^On second thought naalala ko yung nabasa ko about the Three Stages of Love:
1. Romantic Love - is when you see everything about your partner in rose-colored glasses. Pwedeng nandito ka sa stage na ito ngayon. Kinikilig, di makatulog sa gabi sa kaiisip, sa diwa mo sya ang laging panaginip... sabi nga ng kanta.

2. Falling out of love - is when you discover the unpleasant side of your loved one. Kuripot pala, mabaho ang paa, masakit magsalita, walang pangarap sa buhay, etc.

3. Covenant Love - is when you go thru stage 2 sucessfully, and still choose to keep working on the relationship. Eto na yung commited love.

This cycle will repeat itself over and over in the course of relationships.

So easy lang sis. Ang tanong is hindi "mahal ko na ba sya?" Ang tanong should be "How can I make him fall for me, so I can decide for myself whether I want him to be a part of my life or not?"

Hope this helps.

[dumpee.o13]

~~, wow! thanks sa advice, sis. sobrang napag-isip ako. hehe' yes, those words really helps. ang saya ko lang kasi i get to realize everything everyday sa mga nababasa ko dito sa GT. salamat, sis and i'll update you kung ano mangyayare. Ü

[janix athena]

^you're welcome sis. Keep us posted sa updates. If you're interested sa book na sinasabi ko, It's "Why Men Marry/Love Bitches" ni Sherry Argov. You may wanna give it a try.

[dumpee.o13]

^you're welcome sis. Keep us posted sa updates. If you're interested sa book na sinasabi ko, It's "Why Men Marry/Love Bitches" ni Sherry Argov. You may wanna give it a try.

^ sis, update lang po. right now, on the rocks kami ni guy. ewan ko pero nafafall na nga ata ako sa kanya, ilang beses nako umiyak for him. =( masyado daw syang nasaktan sa ginawa ko sakanya kaya now hinihingan nya ko ng space kasi naguguluhan din daw sya. parang nawalan daw sya ng trust saken. humingi kasi ako ng 2nd chance na ayusin namen yung samen pero tumanggi sya although he's not closing his doors naman daw. gusto lang daw nya mag-isip. hayyy, naguguluhan nako. kase nasasaktan ako sa nangyayare samen ngayon. i can feel na love ko na sya e' hayyy! nakakahiya man pero parang ako naman ang naghahabol sakanya ngayon. =( we talked yday, na iniyakan ko sya over the phone, sabe nya kase hayaan ko daw muna sya. pinipigilan ko sya pero ayaw nya. sabe nya tatawagan na lang daw nya ako pag okay na sya. kahit masakit, hinayaan ko sya. i told myself na wag muna magparamdam sakanya. then kagabi, nakita missed calls nya nung papasok nako office tapos may msg sya saken na (smiley) sabe ko, xsend ata sya. sabe nya hindi daw kasi tumatawag nga daw sya. i thought he's okay na so i called him. ewan ko parang ang sungit pa rin nya sa fone. naguguluhan na tuloy ako sakanya. hayyy! kainis lang sis..

[janix athena]

That's sad sis. From my point of view, it seems you are breaking all the rules. Sorry ha I'l be frank with you. There's a reason I encouraged you to read "Why Men Love Bitches", it's because being too nice turns them off and you need to learn what to do, how to act, to keep him hooked. You're doing the things under "What NOT to do". Aaminin ko my advice seem so "bookish", but it's tried and tested, I assure you, it works (as long as he's already attracted to you).

Some rules that you MUST follow:

1. Never be the first to text him.
2. Never plead with him. If he wants space, give him space, LOTS of it!
3. Never call him. If you're returning a call, do it when he already has 4 missed calls.
4. Never be the first to tell him you love him.
5. If he's becoming aloof, be more aloof! Monkey see, monkey do. Kung anong ginagawa nya sayo ibalik mo lang sa kanya.

You might think, it seems like you're playing mind games, or being manipulative. But dating IS a game. That's why they call it the "dating game". You have to play by the rules if you want to win. I suggest you also read "The Rules". This is urgent. No time to lose girl, you have to do a 180% change in your strategy.

[rianne_mallows]

sis DUMPEE, at this point, i dont think dating ANYONE would do you good.. you're just to vulnerable right now and i dont think you're ready to "play the dating game" it's more likely you'll be the one who's going to be "played"

to the twitter guy, i wont say drop him flat, BUT i dont think indulging in his "sweetness" would be in your best interest right now.. you've got issues, and he clearly has issues too..
-he misses his ex-  this right here is clearly a red flag.. this is more complicated than it seems so IMO, head for the EXIT DOOR while you can

dont worry.. it aint love yet dear so chill.. you're INLOVE with the FEELING of being loved.. not inlove with the PERSON perse...

to your ex, he's an a$s.. you need to be careful.. he's dangerous.. he knows your weakness and he knows exactly how to handle you.. see how easy he turned the table? ikaw na ngayon naghahabol? parang magic lang diba?

i say leave him.. he has the workings of a player and a serial cheater.. get as faraway from him as possible..


sis, do yourself a favor and love yourself... you have to value yourself because if you letpeople (especially guys) treat you like this, they'll do just that.. just because you let them

[dumpee.o13]

That's sad sis. From my point of view, it seems you are breaking all the rules. Sorry ha I'l be frank with you. There's a reason I encouraged you to read "Why Men Love Bitches", it's because being too nice turns them off and you need to learn what to do, how to act, to keep him hooked. You're doing the things under "What NOT to do". Aaminin ko my advice seem so "bookish", but it's tried and tested, I assure you, it works (as long as he's already attracted to you).

Some rules that you MUST follow:

1. Never be the first to text him.
2. Never plead with him. If he wants space, give him space, LOTS of it!
3. Never call him. If you're returning a call, do it when he already has 4 missed calls.
4. Never be the first to tell him you love him.
5. If he's becoming aloof, be more aloof! Monkey see, monkey do. Kung anong ginagawa nya sayo ibalik mo lang sa kanya.

You might think, it seems like you're playing mind games, or being manipulative. But dating IS a game. That's why they call it the "dating game". You have to play by the rules if you want to win. I suggest you also read "The Rules". This is urgent. No time to lose girl, you have to do a 180% change in your strategy.

^ it's okay sis, to tell you honestly. sa lahat ng rules na sinabi mo, yung 1 - 5 kabaliktaran lahat ng ginawa ko. now, napag-iisip na talaga ako na muka nakong t****. =( i know. hayyy! kanina, we talked again. di ko natiis, i called him up (Twitter guy, i don't have any comm w/ my ex anymore). nagkwentuhan kame, okay naman. till napunta kami sa usapan na seryoso na, yung abt samen. i asked him kung ano bang balak nya kasi i think na pinapaasa nya lang ako. then parang he got mad, he told me na sinusumbatan ko daw sya sa mga efforts na ginagawa ko kaya mas mabuti daw na tumigil na daw ako para wala nakong maisumbat sakanya. then he dropped off the phone. umiyak talaga ako sis, i dunno kung bakit ang sakit2 saken. ( i tried calling him pero parang naka-auto reject na number ko sa fone nya. then napag-isip2 ko din kanina na napapagod nako sa situation. naisip ko na wala syang pinagkaiba sa ex ko. i sent him an email & a msg saying na bibigyan ko sya ng space and i said my goodbyes. this time sis, papangatawanan ko nato. tama ka, masyado ko nang kinakawawa sarili ko para sakanila. i have to be firm w/ my decision this time. hayyy! i'm hurt pero kelangan ko tong gawin for myself. thanks sis ha! nga pala, regarding the book "Why Men Love Bitches" may alam ka ba na pwedeng iDL na Ebook, para kasi mabasa ko sa fone ko. hehe' sana meron, pa-send po ng link ha? Maraming salamat! godbless! =)

[dumpee.o13]

sis DUMPEE, at this point, i dont think dating ANYONE would do you good.. you're just to vulnerable right now and i dont think you're ready to "play the dating game" it's more likely you'll be the one who's going to be "played"

to the twitter guy, i wont say drop him flat, BUT i dont think indulging in his "sweetness" would be in your best interest right now.. you've got issues, and he clearly has issues too..
-he misses his ex-  this right here is clearly a red flag.. this is more complicated than it seems so IMO, head for the EXIT DOOR while you can

dont worry.. it aint love yet dear so chill.. you're INLOVE with the FEELING of being loved.. not inlove with the PERSON perse...

to your ex, he's an a$s.. you need to be careful.. he's dangerous.. he knows your weakness and he knows exactly how to handle you.. see how easy he turned the table? ikaw na ngayon naghahabol? parang magic lang diba?

i say leave him.. he has the workings of a player and a serial cheater.. get as faraway from him as possible..


sis, do yourself a favor and love yourself... you have to value yourself because if you letpeople (especially guys) treat you like this, they'll do just that.. just because you let them

^ hi sis, thanks sa advice. i know mali yung mga ginagawa ko. =( i just really feel stupid at this point. after all you've said, i realized na hindi ko nga dapat ginagawa yung mga to. i've decided to move away muna, to take a break and to enjoy life w/o boys. i need to redeem myself first before i could enter a relationship again. right now, my ex & i don't communicate na and i'm planning to change my number eventually. i need to do this for myself. kahit mahirap pero kelangan kasi in the end ako pa din yung talo. thanks sis sa advice & for taking time to read my looong story! hehe' godbless =)

[mimiku]

Yes it's possible. I see a lot of people on Facebook sort of dating online, and oh boy some of them gets so hellbent and seriously in love with each other. They haven't even meet personally. So I guess, it's possible.

[oshiawase]

funny coz i've asked myself the same question 1 year ago. I "fell in love" with this guy coz my mom would often talk about him to us. He is a son of a family friend kasi.

Anyway, and my answer? No it is not possible to "love" someone you haven't met. What is simply happening is loving the "idea" of that someone and the idea of you two getting together and the idea that he is your ideal.

Why? Loving takes more than just this "idea".

I hope I helped?

ps: this guy is now in a relationship with my cousin. Cool no?

[IMMAROCKSTAR12]

Its is possible.

I fell in love with someone at friendster 3 years ago.

When I first saw her, mas minahal ko sya. Kaso hindi rin kame nagtagal eh.
We broke up, pero comparing the relationship what we had sa mga naging ka on ko after her...
iba yung level ng love sa kanya. Maybe because of minahal mo siya kahit hindi mo siya nakikita. Bihira lang yun. 

[|:AyemZia:|]

i've been through the same situation over and over.
ewan ko ba wala akong kadala-dala e.
i love the feeling of being in love.
pag nangyareng na-fall ka without even seeing the guy (and i don't mean this just literally), sa huli ikaw pa rin talo dito kase nga hindi mo pa kilala yung tao. he can pretend whenever he wants lalo at hindi mo naman siya nakikita. siguro isang reason is just to impress. minsan nga d ba kahit kaharap mo na yung person, at madalas mo siya nakakausap, hindi mo pa rin masasabi kung totoo siya o hindi. what more kung ganito yung set-up.
mahirap kase sa part nateng girls kase karamihan sa ten, hopeless-romantic (aminado ako!)
kaya pag ganito na yung situation, ambilis naten ma-fall.
on your part sis TS, baka napahalo na din yung feeling na namimiss mo din yung may other half ka.
iba kase talaga pag may palaging naglalambing sayo.
sana nga maovercome mo na yan para tlagang makamove on ka nang bongga!
(i will read the "Why Men Love Bitches" book din! nacurious ako! hahaha!)

[Yaya]

nangyari na sakin ito, at sinasabi ko sayo sis makakalimutan mo din sya. at kapag bumalik sya parang, whatttt nainlove ako sayo? ni hindi pa nga kita namimeet eh.

iba kasi talaga pag online.

[bronze]

Yes, it is possible! I can't elaborate further but it is possible. It happened to me.

[Shiecg]

it happened to me too. and because of the strong feeling we decided to meet. but i broke up with him kasi his a married man and ayokong maging homebreaker kahit sabihin pa nya na on the rocks na yong marriage nya. until now sabi nya mahal na mahal pa rin daw nya ako, may new filipina gf na naman sya but he doesnt have plan daw to come here again to meet the woman. haba ng hair ko hehe

[douxmadchen]

What is simply happening is loving the "idea" of that someone and the idea of you two getting together and the idea that he is your ideal.

Why? Loving takes more than just this "idea".

Ditto!

[Yaya]

^^shiecg , kung mahal na mahal na mahal ka nga nya, bakit pa sya may new filipina girl friend?

[princeza08]

for me yes. hindi lang kayo physically magkasama pero you can fall in love with this person. bakit ang mga bulag, na iinlove din naman kahit di nila nakita face ng love nila. bihira nga lang ang ganitong case, but in my own experience, yes it is possible, husband ko na sya ngayon :-)