bf lied about something petty

[pinkytoot]

my bf has a long time family friend (girl) who always messages/contacts him. the girl has now moved to another country to live with her bf. i trust and believe that my bf is not at all interested in her. the other day i asked him when she is coming back into town and he said i think she might be in town im not sure i havent talked to her in awhile. then i found out yesterday that the girl still constantly texts him at work. i asked him why he lied about it and he has no explanation except that im overreacting and its something so petty.
i know its not a big deal but i hate being lied to. am i overreacting?

[janix athena]

No you're not overreacting. Something's fishy with your bf, bakit kailangan nya magsinungaling in the first place? Don't let this slide, pag nangatwiran sya na you're overreacting, ibalik mo yung tanong. "Why did you lie?" Simpleng tanong dapat deretsong sagot din. Don't let him off the hook. This a red flag. 

[hot_chili]

yes its a petty lie, so petty na nakakapagtaka why he has to do it.
youre not overreacting its a warning sign... Mas acceptable pa kung sinagot ka na lang nya na "baka kasi kung ano pa isipin mo and magselos ka pa kaya di ko na lang sinabi" that would have been better than not giving a straight answer at all

[cristyles]

Sometimes guys don't tell detailed story to us girls. There brains are more different than women. Pero about sa namention mo sis, i think kung family friend siya ng BF mo, i guess the girl should stop texting your Bf since GF ka niya. May something fishy talaga. If i were on your situation, i'll think twice kung friendly friends lang sila.

About your question if you are overreacting? You're not overreacting:) . The family friend should be considerate na baka masaktan ka or magselos ka right? pero it seems hindi. They seems suspicious .

[leihin]

To answer "you're overreacting" and "it's something so petty" sounds defensive to me. Ask him for a straight answer and let him know that you won't tolerate him lying to you about ANYTHING. There has to be transparency. Lies are still lies whether big or small. You lie about something big and you're being dishonest, lie about something small and you're still being dishonest.

As his girlfriend, you deserve to know the truth. Besides, if it doesn't mean anything then why did he have to lie about it? It's always easier to say the truth not unless a person's hiding something from you. Have you gone through jealousy/third party issues in your relationship before?

[tipC_shoegal]

Lay it down. Tell him that you never want that same experience to happen again because you hate being lied to and it's worse to also realize that you aren't worth the truth. Yes, it is something petty but if it annoys you and worries you constantly, then sit your boyfriend down and talk about those types of scenarios.

[sarahsensible]

Guys would even reason out "selosa ka kasi kaya hindi ko sinabi" kaasar diba?

[lonelymiss28]

i have a classmate from highschool and we chat a lot and he will tell me everything about his life (married na po sya) and he just told me recently na di nya sinasabi sa asawa nya na nag-uusap  kami or iba naming classmate na girlalu dahil magagalit daw asawa nya and ayaw nyang mag-away sila.

magkaka close kasi kaming mag classmate from highschool recently they always go out pa rin and mini reunion. i think yun ang dahilan nya kaya ayaw nyang sabihin sa iyo kasi baka maging rason yun para mag away kayo.

[leihin]

^Alam na ngang magagalit, ginawa pa din! Pero to say na kaya hindi sinabi kasi alam na magagalit is unfair kasi he didn't even give you a chance to react. Na-jujudge na agad tayong girls na magagalit kapag nalaman natin yung totoo. What if we're just cool about it pala? Kaso napagsinungalingan na tayo kaya nakakainis na. Some guys don't understand na pinakanakakapraning yung pagsisinungaling.

[Hesler]

He may be thinking of dumping you in the future that is why he is maintaining a communication with that other girl and then lies about it. Bakit niya kailangan itago.

[mixeeplikstick]

no you're not over reacting. i think its better na your bf and u should talk about it in a calm and peaceful way. natural lang na you'd be upset na he lied to you because your his gf. pag.usapan nyo [textspeak!] nang mabuti.

[JINJIN:*]

i know someone who will constantly lie about petty things...sasabihin niya yung mga bagay na alam niyang gusto mong marinig or alama niyang will end the conversation. Para lang wala na tanong tanong. He doesnt mean bad about it, ayaw niya lang ng mahabang usapan.  Para sa kanya wala lang yun so mas maigi nang magsinungaling kesa sabihin yung totoo dail mas magiging komplikado pa. This can happen in simple things like mga errands na hindi nagawa, magpapalusot para lang hindi na lumaki pa..sa kanya wala lang un.

ganyan ba bf mu?

[Paulo]

You probably are not over-reacting. But, you have to learn when to stop of the attack. Okay so he lied to you. But the reasons for lying can be anything from him being truly clueless about it the need for sincerity on the matter, or that he probably suspects that you'll get jealous of her. The best thing to do now is to stop since you've already raised the fact that he lied to you and pushing it won't get you anywhere anyway.

Keeping things hanging when you have the advantage and he is on the retreat (pahiya pa kasi nahuli) can sometimes be a good tactic. First you get to avoid the usual Male Defensive Move of "turning the tables" (which he was able to pull na). Plus it makes you look more confident, and also "understanding" for not nagging him about it. My point is, choose your battles wisely.

Just my 2-cents worth.

[rheinfall18]

i agree with paolo, give him the benefit of the doubt. this works . ^^

[Serena.]

IMO, he wouldnt lie kung hindi naman big deal saknya yung babae na yon. MAY DAHILAN kaya sya nagsinungaling. Hindi pwedeng WALA LANG TRIP KO LANG (so lame)



xo

[kaiz]

i know a lot of guys who do this.. ayaw na kasi mag explain explain.

[Hesler]

Importante talaga sa relasyon ang pagiging tapat

[JINJIN:*]

hindi naman dapat sisihin yung babae dito eh, they are close friends..at yung babae pag nalaman na nagseselos si ang asawa, matatawa lang yun but she will not stop texting or talking to your husband..kase nga tropa sila diba. Unless manggaling sa lalakeng asawa na wag na siya mag text, which i doubt kung mangyari sa isang magtropa lang. Why would they stop talking kung wala naman silang ginagawang masama?? They have known each other before pa makialala ang wife so dapat i-accept ni wife yun.

But going to the issue na tinago sa wife.....baka naman kase selosa at nagger ang asawa at lahat nalang ng bagay eh ginagawang big deal. Kaya ayun si husband, ayaw na gumawa ng mga bagay na sisimulan ng gulo. Yun nga lang nahuli kaya lalong gumulo hehe...misis tanongin mu rin sarili mu kung bakit ayaw sayo sabihin ni mister? baka naman kase selosa ka. ?

[redhead69]

Family Friend? Palaging katext? And nagttext sila habang nasa work? And may bf pa si girl. Grabe. To be honest. ANG TINDI NILANG DALAWA! They dont care na mahuhurt ka at bf niya. Kahit text lang, PERO PALAGI. Something is going on. Watch out girl.