i dont want him to go..but have to..

[mio]

i dont know where to start cause till now im still hurting..i have no one to talk to..just wanna share and need help

he's married..i knew it right from the start. i didnt even think i would fall for him. he was my officemate back in previous company..we're on the same team, same sched same friends. we go home together and then he said he's falling for me. i remember i told him.." i told you not to fall in love with me." i knew his marriage was on the rocks. his wife is a nagger and they have problems with money and sex and having baby. he was kind to me..im aware of his past that he had girlfriends after marriage..it was well known in our office. i knew he loved me..i can tell by the way he acts. we're always together.

then comes the time, he's ready to leave his wife. he did against all odds. he tried once..but his wife loved him so much.. he doesnt feel the same. i knew he loved me. then he comes back to her again and lived with me, left his wife. we struggle at first..he has nothing. i gave him everything. we start from the scratch. he left the company and i left as well. we started with a diff company. at first we we're ok..i can say we're strong. i supported him all the way.

his mom and dad knows he's living with me..and i guess they accepted that. i was kind to his family and even his wife that i always remind him of their debts. i budget his salary so he can pay and then give some to his parents. i gave him everything. we even got a motor (under my name) as a present on my bday and because he wants that too. so we can go to work together. he slept in the office and i wait for him after his shift. everything's fine.

after 4 months of living together..there were times of course i got jealous of his teammates and wife as well. i never ask him to cut the communications. i even said they can be friends. i knew wife still wants him back. lately, we had arguments and that i always tell him im better off alone and i can live without him. and i even packed his things many times telling him to go home. i guess that bothers him. again, we had arguments and then before we go to work, i got his bag and tell him he needs to go home. he said cool off lang daw and that he'd return. but i said, just come back to get your other things. the truth is, i want him to realize who he'd wanna be.

then he texted me and i didnt reply bec i was drunk and aslept that time. next morning he texted me when will he be able to get his things and that they're okay. BOOM! then i asked him what happened..sabi nya he dont want to see me hurt habang tumatagal and that his wife accepted him back and that he's happy now. then he cried. i guess that's it. now i'm left all alone. it's hard because i still see him at the office and i still see his post in fb. we're not friends but i knew his password.

then i had this motor accident sa office and he drove me home and we had sex.. i told him wala na [textspeak!] spark. sabi nya i was the one he needs he wants to leave me a baby cause im the ideal wife?? then after, i asked him what happened, he said nothing and dont want to talk about it. and dont want to happen again. OUCH!

now, he still approach me and kind to me. im the kind of person who's strong outside but inside im dying. i dont know what to do..i think he's just using me and taking advantage..he has the motor and we plan to take it back but he doesnt want to because of the memories and now he's asking for help to pay for it which is understandable because it's expensive.

i knew his wife loved him so much but i dont think he love her the same. im confused.. i knew he loved but i felt angry and sad for myself that i still love him and want him back.

what do i do?

[h_mische]

Been there, done that. alam mo sis sa ganyang situation talaga, ang mga legal wife ang nananalo. Napakadalang lang nung ang pinapanindigan talaga ng guy eh ang other woman. kasi mas maraming masasaktan. So instead na i-risk nila yun, yung other woman na lang ang mag-susuffer. Masakit pero yun talaga ang totoo.

If you have options naman, resign ka na lang kesa parusahan mo ang sarili mo ng ganyan. you don't deserve that guy. He also got the nerve to ask for your help pa sa payment. kaloka.

It's understandable na you're in pain right now. masakit talaga yan. acknowledge mo lang. Pasensya na ha hindi ako magaling magbigay ng advice. NUng ako kasi pinasok ko rin yung ganyang sitwasyon... hanggang sa nabisto... naiskandalo ako sa buong company at ang masakit, umabot pa sa parents ko. Hiyang hiya ako sa kanila kasi sobra tiwala nila sakin. Pero I'm glad kasi sinuportahan nila ako. Not because tinotolerate nila yung nagawa ko, but because I'm their daughter and kailangan ko sila nung time na yun dahil kulang na lang, kainin ako ng lupa dahil sa kahihiyan.

This too shall pass. kaya mo yan! Pray ka lang lagi for guidance and syempre you need to help yourself din. kaya umiwas ka na. wag mo na rin icheck FB nya kasi ikaw rin naman natotorture. Magresign ka na. Go girl! Pwedeng pwede ka pa mag-start uli.

[rianne_mallows]

sabi mo you need help... im going to post a brutally frank reply because i strongly believe that a really strong blow in the head is what you need

what to do?  magsimba ka and ask for forgiveness.. be thankfull for the chance to have a decent life once again.. pasalamat ka hindi ka stuck on being a  lowly KABIT and a  HOMEWRECKER..  nakawala ka na without being putting effort on your part! be happy!  yung iba gusto kumalas pero hindi kaya

he's married and you knew it.. buti nga... magalit ka na pero kabits are kabits... you got what you deserve.. harsh? yeah,you had it coming... kung masakit pinagdadaanan mo ngayon, pinagdaanan din ng wife niya yang ganyang sakit.. HIGIT PA.. kasi siya yung INAGAWAN

hindi na niya mahal si wife? sure ka? bakit bumalik siya? naku gurl punta ka sa kabit thread iisa reason ng guys... maawa ka sa sarili, tigilan mo na yang illusion mo na mas mahal ka




 


his mom and dad knows he's living with me..and i guess they accepted that. i was so kind to his family and even his wife that i always remind him of their debts.

this doesnt mean that his family has accepted YOU... they accepted/tolarate their son's PHILANDERING, NOT YOU.. kahitsinong nakapalda tatanggapin nila because to them, its just ANOTHER ONE OF HIS GIRLS


he's married..i knew it right from the start. i didnt even think i would fall for him. he was officemate back in previous company..we're on the same team, same sched same friends. we go home together and then he said he's falling for me. i knew he loved me..i can tell by the way he acts. we're always together.
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after 4 months of living together..there were times of course i got jealous of his teammates and wife as well. i dont ask him to cut the communications. i even said they can be friends. i knew wife still wants him back.


cant you see the pattern? love ka talaga ano? in just 4 months nakalimutan na yung "magandang simula" ninyo?  lahat na lang ng babaeng magiging teamate niyan na bibigay kakanain niyan.. ikakama,  ibabahay... haaay.. WAKE UP!


..sabi nya he dont want to see me hurt habang tumatagal and that his wife accepted him back and that he's happy now. then he cried. i guess that's it.

kitam? tapos na siya mag-enjoy, balik na siya sa orig... he cried? madali lang umiyak no.. i myself can cry anytime i want... hindi ako artista ha, all im saying is, TEARS DOES NOT ALWAYS MEAN HURT AND LOVE


sabi nya i was the he wants to leave me a baby cause im the ideal wife?? then after, i asked him what happened, he said nothing and dont want to talk about it. and dont want to happen again. OUCH!
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now, he still approach me and kind to me. im the kind of person who's strong outside but inside im dying. i dont know what to do..i think he's just using me and taking advantage..

siyempre naman,paano ba gumawa ng baby? kung papayag ka, may sex pa din kahit wala ng "relationship"   baby with him? sige go!  hindi ka pa nakuntento saktan yung wife niya, magdadamay ka pa ng inosenteng bata na kahit kelan hindi makakaranas makapiling yung TATAY NIYA!  saya no?  enjoy na enjoy ka!


he has the motor and we plan to take it back but he doesnt want to because of the memories and now he's asking for help to pay for it which is understandable because it's expensive.

help pay for the motor? pakisampal nga sarili mo...  maglelevel-up ka na kapag ginawa mo yan.. hindi lang kabit, sugar-mommy pa... oh diba bongga? go mo kung feel mo yung tittle. kung ikaka-proud mo ba eh go!


i knew his wife loved him so much but i dont think he love her the same. im confused.. i knew he loved but i felt angry and sad for myself that i still love him and want him back.

you still want him back? sige, buhay mo yan eh... sirain mo kung gusto mo.. pero walang sisihan ha...
handa mo na din sarilimo na tawaging kang, kabit, makati, akala mo mauubusan ng lalaki, homewrecker, kaladkarin, at kung ano ano pa..

tapos yung anak mo tatawagin, anak-sa -labas, putok sa buho mga ganun... ihanda mo na ha.. kasi mangyayari at mangyayari yan... kung maatim mo GO! ang saya saya niyan! for sure magiging proud parents mo sa iyo sa gagawin mong yan!

[piatos]

TS, for me kung babayaran mo pa yung motor nya kahit hiwalay na kayo hindi na maganda pero kung gusto mo at ayaw mo talaga papigil kaw bahala....tandaan mo lang dagdag sa bayarin mo pa yan at lalabas ka lang na kakatawa ka..

[justin3]

naka 36 views pa lang. nakeewz! pag napadpad ang mga married GTalkers dito, tapos ang thread na to sis TS. di aabot sa 5 pages to.

i just browsed your post. ang haba eh. wala namang bago, typical/usual reasons ng mga nasasadlak sa bawal na pag-ibig... kwentong bulok ika nga.

you're asking us what you should do? hey sis, mula't sapul alam mo nang gulo ang papasukin mo at MALING-MALI ang ginawa mo para ipilit ang gusto mo... you're not a teen i suppose na confused at di alam ang gagawin. right?

don't expect anyone here to give you a tap on your back and would tell you to fight for that a55h0le who took advantage of you.

GET OUT! ASAP! habang buhay ka pa. habang wala pang kalmot ang mukha mo. habang di ka naiskandalo sa Barangay nyo. habang di pa lumubo ang tyan mo.

gusto mo ipasok ko ang pagka anti-RH Bill ko sa kwento mo? 

[aquacharly]

Haynako, MIO, girl ka ba talaga, or sa illusyon mo lang girl ka.

Babae ka ba, or...... Bakla?   Parang cuento nang bading eh -- yung dehado todo todo sagad buto  sa relationship.
Yung, nagbabayad for a relationship todo todo up to bankruptcy....   Yung, sinikaran na eh, mabait pa tapos  ok na ang paminsan   minsang f*ck -- o sige, bayaran mo installments nung motor... Bakla ka nga.

Pero oo nga pala -- may gaygo palang idea si Hot Pants  buntisin ka pa kasi "ideal wife" ka.  Sino pa kaya magsasabing ganun ka?   Pero marami magsasabing engzngot ka.  Atchaka, MIO, even if by the widest km-wide stretch  of the imagination eh ideal anything ka nga --  please hwag ka magpa preggers.  Hindi ka magiging good mother kasi sarili mo hindi mo maalagaan eh.    Straighten out your life muna.

Alam mong may  asawa, sinubukan mo pang agawin. Medj na Fed-Ex karma mo, ano.   

May work ka, babae ka (let us assume), and willing ka naman pa exploit para magka lalaki sa buhay mo, para may mahalin ka at paggastusan.  Bakit mo pa iiyakan yan, at bakit mo babayaran  yung motor nya? Hindi ba titigil  na yang pagka lugi mo kung hahanap ka na lang ng single na lalaki na sasandal  sa
yo?  Kunin mo yung motor at ibigay mo dun sa lalaking mahanap mo.  Sa dami ng bums sa MManila -- madali ka makahanap.  Matutunan ka din mahalin nun, bigay todo ka eh.  You pay well, isipin nun.   My chance ka pa maging ideal wife.  (May ganun ba?  Ang dali mo nga bolahin).

Actually ganito, para hindi ka mabakante.  Gamitin natin business sense natin. 
Convert mo yung motor into a tricycle.  Kung ang boundary mo eh:  LOL uy uy uy -- pipilahan ka,
 kahit bading ka.  Maraming  magmamahal sa yo.  Makakapili ka. 

I am sorry, but I just cannot find kind words to give you. 
I think the best thing for you now, maliban sa ipokpok ulo mo sa concretong pader --  is to slap you with harsh words that reflect your reality.  Hopefully, you get angry enough with me/us -- you will pick yourself up and prove us wrong -- that you are not a LOSER, that you are not STOOPEED as to allow yourself to  be exploited further.  1 more thing --  do not think anymore of whether he loves his wife or not -- you are the meddler/intruder/magnanakaw ng relationship -- that is what you should think of, it is what you can control/correct. 

So, babae  ka man or bakla -- in the words of my macho  lolo & his drinking buddies  -- you are paying
way too much for a piece of  baboy.  Boinkz.

Babae or bakla, learn and start to TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF, maawa ka sa sarili mo.

[rianne_mallows]

^ang lakas ng tawa ko sa post mo aquacharly

[HoldingOn]

Nice post Sis Aqua 

Mio, ang bilis ng karma ha.... but its not the end of everything. Start a new life, ask for forgiveness, and repent for the sins that you have made.

[janix athena]

Super agree ako sa mga sinabi ni sis rianne_mallows and aquacharly. In-effort talaga nila, ang haba ng reply. Sapul na sapul nila yung mga gusto ko sabihin.

O yan sis MIO, narinig mo na ang mga dapat mong marinig. It's all in your hands now. Alam mo I'm a product of a broken family dahil yung dad ko iniwan kami for his kabit. But don't think na may happy ending na naghihintay sayo because of my dad's example. Kasi ang ending mas miserable pa ang buhay nila sa amin.

I believe vengeance is God's. At kung patuloy kang magiging homewrecker may God give you all that you deserve.

[calin22]

To Sis Mio: Hi sis, its a good thing wala na kayo.. I know its hard to move on pero all things are hard before they are easy.. Please remember that!

So here is my real comment.. To begin with sis, you know na may asawa pa siya and you know he's falling for you.. then bakit mo tinuloy? Sis, naniniwala ako kung walang usok walang apoy.. dyan kasi nagsisimula masira ang mga relationship.. babae ka din sis malamang may parents ka din.. what if kung ganun din dad mo sa mom mo? What would you feel as a daughter? Sana sis before doing something you think it over and over.. I'm sorry to say pero ikaw naman talaga may kasalanan why you ended up that way.. lahat ng mga ginagawa naten sa buhay ay parang pagtatanim lang.. kung nagtanim ka bulok.. aanihin mo din ay bulok..

Honestly sis, kung mahal mo ang sarili mo.. hindi ka papayag ng 2nd best and di mo babayaran yang motor na yan.. Enough is enough sis.. kung tapos na tapos na.. wala ka naman talaga hawak na ALAS eh.. sa tingin ng madla.. ikaw ang masama.. ikaw ang madumi so lets end it there before it gets worst..

But its not too late, lagi naman pwede magsimula... love yourself more and live a better life from now on.. Go to church, bond with your family (specially your parents kung meron ka pa, have time with your friends or get a new set of friends.. i don't suggest the nicotine-alcohol life, you'll end up being a disaster..  life is too short para isuspend mo ang buhay mo sa isang lalakeng walang kwenta.. ipagpasadiyos ko mo nalang siya at ipagdasal..

I'm sorry kung masyado forward ang comment ko.. but I think you need to hear this.. as well as the other comments here. Godbless.. Let go and Let GOD

[janbea]

i dont know where to start cause till now im still hurting..i have no one to talk to..just wanna share and need help

he's married..i knew it right from the start. i didnt even think i would fall for him. he was officemate back in previous company..we're on the same team, same sched same friends. we go home together and then he said he's falling for me. i remember i told him.." i told you not to fall in love with me." i knew his marriage was on the rocks. his wife is a nagger and they have problems with money and sex and having baby. he was kind to me..im aware of his past that he had girlfriends after marriage..it was well known in our office. i knew he loved me..i can tell by the way he acts. we're always together.

then comes the time, he's ready to leave his wife. he did against all odds. he tried once..but his wife loved him so much.. he doesnt feel the same. i knew he loved me. then he comes back to again and lived with me, left his wife. we struggle at first..he has nothing. i gave him everything. we start from the scratch. he left the company and i left as well. we started with a diff company. at first we were ok..i can say we're strong. i supported him all the way.

his mom and dad knows he's living with me..and i guess they accepted that. i was so kind to his family and even his wife that i always remind him of their debts. i budget his salary so he can pay and then give some to his parents. i gave him everything. we even got a motor (under my name) as a present on my bday and because he wants so bad. so we can go to work together. he slept in the office and i wait for him after his shift. everything's fine.

after 4 months of living together..there were times of course i got jealous of his teammates and wife as well. i dont ask him to cut the communications. i even said they can be friends. i knew wife still wants him back. lately, we had arguments and that i always tell him im better off alone and i can live without him. and i even packed his things many times telling him to go home. i guess that worries him. again, we had arguments and then before we go to work, i get his bag and tell him you need to go home. he said cool off lang daw and that he'd return. but i said, just come back to get your other things. the truth is, i want him to realize who he'd wanna be.

then he texted me and i didnt reply bec i was drunk and aslept that time. next morning he texted me when will he be able to get his things and that they're okay. BOOM! then i asked him what happened..sabi nya he dont want to see me hurt habang tumatagal and that his wife accepted him back and that he's happy now. then he cried. i guess that's it. now i'm left all alone. it's hard because i still see him at the office and i still see his post in fb. we're not friends but i knew his password.

then i had this motor accident sa office and he drove me home and we had sex.. i told him wala na [textspeak!] spark. sabi nya i was the he wants to leave me a baby cause im the ideal wife?? then after, i asked him what happened, he said nothing and dont want to talk about it. and dont want to happen again. OUCH!

now, he still approach me and kind to me. im the kind of person who's strong outside but inside im dying. i dont know what to do..i think he's just using me and taking advantage..he has the motor and we plan to take it back but he doesnt want to because of the memories and now he's asking for help to pay for it which is understandable because it's expensive.

i knew his wife loved him so much but i dont think he love her the same. im confused.. i knew he loved but i felt angry and sad for myself that i still love him and want him back.

what do i do?

LOVE YOURSELF  ..... LEAVE HIM... MOVE ON   and be happy true love awaits that really fits you and have a future. LOVE  is lovelier the 2nd time around of course with  another man.

[biberli]

Hi sis, I hope you are okay. You're a brave soul to end it.  I hope too that you get through this as soon as possible, and that you forget him soonest. may your love tank be overflow. God bless you sis.

[jesrora]

nasabi na ni rianne, aquacharly and justin3 yung gusto ko sabihin, habang binabasa ko post nito eh sumisikip dibdib ko!

hay nako! ayan kasi! ANG KATIIIIIIIIIIIII!

nagpadamage ka na and all tapos suportahan mo pa paginstallment sa motor? bakit di ka na din pasagasa? ewan ko ha, di nakakatuwa kamartyran mo kasi parang kaw pa naging biktima eh!

wake up! blessing itong nangyaring iniwan ka nya - may chance ka na para sa isang happy life.

[caseaejay]

  Hmf tama kau jan mga sis..this is the first time n mgcocoment ako... pero grabe I dont like kabits [textspeak!] I hate mangaagaw kase before you do those thing before pumasok ka sa gnun dapat isipin mo yung family n masisira!!!  I'm also married and ayoko ng kahati baka anong mgawa ko pg may nglandi sa asawa ko... There a lot of men in the world u just need to respect those in a relationship!! If a men or a women are already in a relationship u should think na they already off limits... It's just a matter of respect.. think of your family what happen kung ikaw [textspeak!] wifey nun anong mararamdaman mo diba??? sobrang sakit non.. ikaw pumili ng ikakasakit mo kaya mgdusa ka!!! mkakamove on ka din niyan in the first place ikaw ng nmili nian....

Just pray para mgkaron ka ng malinaw n pagiisip!!!

[charotzki]

been there done that too. I was once a kabit and just got out of that situation.  TS, i just want you to know that KABIT never wins. My married ex was just like yours, at the start he was doing against all odds he still continued kahit alam na ng wife and both their sides of family... but in the end he still chose to be with his wife and i almost died when i learned the ugly truth. oh well now i am still depressed but im holding on. you know what i just realized? sexual attraction lang ang lahat, he was addicted to me not bec of love but bec of sex and happiness i can give to him. But if seryosong usapan na and talking about life itself, still he would choose his wife. TS, never aamin ang guys sa kabit na mahal nila si wife but in fact they love their wife kaya nga pinakasalan eh at kaya nga sila tumagal. LEARN TO ACCEPT THAT GUYS AT SOME POINT IN THEIR LIVES REALLY PLAYS THE FIELD AND WOULD TAKE ADVANTAGE OF OTHER WOMEN JUST TO HAVE FUN AND DIVERT THEIR ATTENTIONS FROM THEIR MARITAL PROBLEMS. Tsaka sabi mo may mga gf na siya dati kahit married na,so CANT YOU SEE THE PATTERN? pag may marital problem sya that's the time na maiinvolve sya with other women... oh well, i learned my lesson well..i know exactly how you feel na umaasa ka na ikaw talaga ang mahal and that you would win in the end and finally would leave his wife but i tell you THAT WILL NEVER HAPPEN. I felt that way too and realized that i was too dumb of even hoping that would happen. wake up girl, this ending means start of living a decent life and happy life with the right guy. MARRIED MEN WILL NEVER BE THE RIGHT GUY FOR SINGLE WOMEN UNLESS THEY ANNULLED THEIR MARRIAGE...


i know its hard cause im also on the same boat..but let us move on, and never try having sex with him again without in a relationship kasi he is just taking advantage,,,it happened to me after a month of break up we had sex twice and now i feel miserable and swore it wont happen again,,,,unless he chose me and leave his wife, which is impossible of course. REMEMBER guys can have sex without emotions involved kaya nga may mga prostitutes, kaya dont think that he had sex with you again dahil mahal ka nya.. namis ka lang nya ikama actually...and its just sex.. he may loved you but that love wasnt as deep as his love for his wife...

move on and pray...someday we well just laugh about it and thankful that we were able to get out of this mess. dont wait na mabuntis ka pa kasi even mangyari yan still he will never leave his wife. take it from me sis.

[Filipinasadhart]

Hi sis Super Agree ako sa mga sinabi nila. Move on at Kalimutan na sya. Enough na un naloka ka nya at pinaasa.... Life is short para sayagin mo sa wala ng kwentang lalake. Hayaan mo sya sya ang ang shoulder ng lahat. Wag ka maawa sa kanya. Sya ba naawa sayo??? Ako Naloloko na din ako sa ganyan pero narealized ko mali at lage ako may kaba sa dibdib ko una masaya kase sweet moment pa habang nagtatagal nararamdaman ko ay ako na nagshoulder lahat. Hatid ko pa yan sa QC to Taguig and Taguig to QC. tapos kapag may pupuntahan kame ako pa din ang gastos. Magshare man kame kokonti lang. Syempre okay lang nun una pero habang nagtatagal naiisahan na ko. Ay ayoko ng ganun. Kaya i dump him. Layo ka na alam ko mahirap pero you have to accept...  Para masave ka na din sa taong walang kwenta.

[jesrora]

ikaw pumili ng ikakasakit mo kaya mgdusa ka!!! mkakamove on ka din niyan in the first place ikaw ng nmili nian....

Just pray para mgkaron ka ng malinaw n pagiisip!!!

haha casey galit na galit! sakit sa heart kasi naman eh!

[calin22]

Let's stop commenting in this thread, I think TS will not reply to our flames.. and I think she already got our point.. Kawawa naman si TS. 

[aquacharly]

Haynako, MIO, girl ka ba talaga, or sa illusyon mo lang girl ka.

Babae ka ba, or...... Bakla?   Parang cuento nang bading eh -- yung dehado todo todo sagad buto  sa relationship.
Yung, nagbabayad for a relationship todo todo up to bankruptcy....   Yung, sinikaran na eh, mabait pa tapos  ok na ang paminsan   minsang f*ck -- o sige, bayaran mo installments nung
motor... Bakla  ka nga.

Okay, girls. I got a Level 4 WARNING for the above "BULLYING".   Learn from this.  .

[baliwsayo]

^O sige mag-iingat ako sa comment ko. 

TS, sige mahal ka nga niyang talaga.. pero ibenta mo na yang motor na yan kung wala naman siyang pambayad. Pag sinabi pa rin niyang mahal ka niya after mawalan ka na ng silbi sa kanya.. malamang, maniwala na din ako na mahal ka nga niya.