Guy here, Need Some Advice

[freelancer_babe]

Hi Teem,

We sisses pretty much like guys who open up! You're very much welcome here.

Have you followed the common advice here? I hope you did. Reverse psychology is a pretty good advice. Take away all your "sweet" efforts. Disappear for a while. Now is the time to make "tampo". There's a risk to doing this too - you could lose her. Be prepared.

Also, after 3 years, parang she set the bar too high for me. Yun standards nya parang napakataas na and I can't reach it anymore. Before, I'd give him a rose sobrang saya na nya, but ngayon isang rose means nothing to her. Even a dosen rose parang wala na lang sa kanya. I cooked her breakfast nun birthday nya, pero malungkot pa din sya, sabi nya she expected something more that that. some thing different.

Probably your moves still remain to be when you are trying to win her heart/love AKA making ligaw. When you are in a relationship dapat nag-le-level up ka pa rin. Flowers, chocolates, letters - do this all over again and the girl would get bored. You've become too predictable.

I guess you're the one to thrive on habits and schedules? Am I right to think that you're the person who loves to planning and sticking to it, rather than doing things that weren't at all, planned in the first place? If you are, then it's time to occasionally stop thinking of planning and start suggesting things that weren't planned in the first place! It seems like your girl is more excited to do things that were not planned in the first place.

Also have you ever talked about that "something different"? Usually madali lang kausapin ang babae. Listen. Let her express kung ano ang kulang. Let her open up. Sana mag-open forum kayo. You seem to be one of those soft-hearted guys - bihira kasi ang mga guys na ganito so if you are, use it to your advantage. At least hindi ka na manghuhula kung ano ang gusto nya. Girls prefer leaving hints instead of saying what they want straight to your face - your girl might have left a lot of hints - but you are not able to "properly read" the hint of what she really wanted.

Update us here and let us know kung ano ba yung something different na ine-expect nya.

That being said, what's next for us? Is she gonna get bored eventually? I don't think a guy can win in this situation, kahit anong efforts pa ipakita ko, pag di nya nagustuhan ako ang maiiwan, ako ang di maappreciate. ako ang talo sa huli. What do you gals think?

Good thing you asked about it here before it's too late. A breakup is not likely too far to happen - if you continue to be this way. She is not on the way to boredom - SHE IS ALREADY BORED. She could also be on the lookout for other guys who are more exciting. Yes, talo ka talaga sa situation na ito. Do as what has been suggested by others already.

[caterpillar-girl]

I feel for you, bro. I do think annika has a point. It might be time to consider the next level. I've always believed that there comes a point when the relationship either progresses to the next level, or it just dies. Looks like you're in that limbo stage. If I were you, and this is my non-expert opinion, I would go talk to my girlfriend nalang. Wag nang mind games mind games pa. I mean, I understand na love is a game, but baka naman kaya kayo umabot sa stage na yan is because there's too much playing mind games and not enough talking.

Just talk to her. She might just be waiting for you to confront her, since she might be scared to do it herself. Communication is always key. Ask her up front, "May problema ba tayo? Lately kasi you're very distant. Is there anything on your mind?" She might shut up, or she might say na wala. In which case you should use that opportunity to tell her how YOU feel. Tell her na you feel unappreciated, na you feel like something's wrong.  Tell her that it's only fair, not just to you, but to her, that you guys go your separate ways nalang if that's what she really wants. Just talk.

Good luck

[dumpee.o13]

Hi TEEM! How's your relationship na? I hope so. Feel free to post back for any updates. It's been almost a month na. I hope you guys, are better now. Godbless!

[h_mische]

hi! napadaan ako sa thread na to at nabitin ako sa kwento ni TS. i hope okay na sila uli ng gf nya. :-)

[rheinfall18]

hi, comment ko lang is tingnan rin [textspeak!] other side. kung based lahat sa comments dito, nagmumukhang demanding yung girl. try to ask yourself, am i asking for something in return? di ba kung 'love' hindi dapat ganun? nagkataon kasi si girl navo-voice out nya ang demands nya (although may mali din dun). but on the guy's part, may hinahanap rin di ba. well, point of view ko lang naman po ito.

just talk to her, tell her na this is only what you can do. don't meet her expectations kasi tendency lalo tataas yan hanggang sa hindi mo na kaya ma-meet and in the end mapapagod ka, wala na yung essence of love dun. kahit anong demands ang hingin nya syo, just give her what you normally do. kung hindi pa rin sya content at dumating sa point na iwan ka nya, then it's her lost not yours. the important thing is what you do for love of her. it's the needs and not the wants. ^^