All About Insecurities & Being Confident

[The Lioness]

insecure din ako dati. no boobs, no pwet, bean pole (kahit malakas pa ako sa lalaki kumain), wavy hair at morena. nung nag hit na ako ng 20s, nagkalaman ako ng konti. ang dating hate na hate kong hair, I learned to deal with. people notice everywhere, nagagandahan daw sila sa waves (keber namana ko kung totoo ba ang sinasabi nila or echos lang, but since it's positive naman, keri na). nag try din ako gumamit ng kung ano anong whitening products. then overtime I realized, im beautiful, just the way I am. maitim man o maputi. I don't wear make up. im not a girly girl. im most comfortable in shirts and jeans, though I love stilletos until I broke my ankle. my partner right now finds me dangerously intimidating and intoxicating daw.

I think it's all a matter of how you exude yourself. walk with confidence, wala ako masyadong pwet but that doesn't stop me from strutting it. wala din akong boobs, but that doesn't stop me from wearing plunging (konti lang) necklines kahit puro shirts and sandos lang. I wear my hair high up in a pony, or let loose in waves kapag nilalamig batok ko. also, talk with sense. watch your words and your diction. straighten your back and look at people's eyes when you talk. a strong personality helps din, shields you from people and their bullying tendencies. also, I know how to appreciate girls. (im a straight female). I know a beautiful one when I see one. and I actually tell my partner, "babe, tingnan mo yung girl, ang ganda nya".

** now lang na buntis ako, all insecurities are back! and they've tripled! kakalokah!

[ohmygorjosh]

being confident or insecure would depend on how you are being treated by your bf.. its how he makes you feel..

[antithesisofbarbie]

I was not confident I got a low self esteem. I was compared and cheated on - hindi daw kasi ako maganda laging meron mas maganda at mas maayos. I was even told why I don't dress like *insert person here* always up to date any wardrobe etc. It took a toll on me and I really felt sad and unwanted that time.. tapos pinagpalit ka pa sa tao na lagi ka nacocompare (alam na!) sad lang na kaibigan mo din yon.

Wow. Eventually natuto na din ako. Naging bitter ako. Pero narealize ko na kaya ako naging ganon dahil hindi ko pala mahal ang sarili ko. Kung ako di ko mahal ang sarili ko sino pang magmamahal saakin. So I decided to focus on myself more. Improvements and self-development.

Nagpa- Belo ako. Joke lang. 

I admire beautiful women pero hindi na ko naiinsecure sa kanila
Kung maganda sila maganda din ako. And tuwing natingin ako sa salamin tinitingan ko [textspeak!] mga positive things na meron ako.  I became happier and still I am.

Tapos ayun I met the love of my life... got married and we got one kid na. Masaya. And I am happy to be with someone who appreciates me and loves me for who I am. Sabi nga ng asawa ko... hindi lang daw ako maganda - matalino pa daw ako at sobrang proud siya na asawa niya ako haba ng hair ko :p

[exquisitegem]

I've always been very confident about who I am and what I am capable of.
Maybe from the very start, it's all about embracing your flaws, maximizing your strengths and working on your areas for improvement.