All About Insecurities & Being Confident

[khaleesiCersei]

Dami ako nyan hehe. But i don't dwell on the negatives kasi. Tsaka lagi ko iniisip i am beautiful no matter what they say hahaha kasi sino pa ba ang pupuri sa sarili ko kundi ako lang d ba? Lol! kung hindi ako maniniwalang maganda ako eh d walang ibang tao na maniniwala din hehe. Ganon lang panlaban ko sa insecurities ko. Pero syempre hindi naman oa, nasa tamang lugar naman, hindi naman tadtad ng selfies ang mga social media account ko na ggss ang dating hahaha. At hindi ko kayang sumali sa beauty contest, hindi pa ganon kalakas ang confidence ko lol!

[piatos]

lagi akong binubully sa office kasi maitim ako..

nung sat nagswimming ako sa beach dagdag kulay nanaman haha! sagot ko dun sa nangaasar.. ANG TUNAY NA MAGANDA HINDI TAKOT MANGITIM ahahaha edi gulat siya haha.  Parang nagiging mayabang ako haha kahit hindi ako kagandahan.. maganda pa rin ako lol

ano pa ba dapat kong gawin sa bully sa office.. hindi kasi ako makareact sa mga asar.. lagi  nila ako inaasar.. bukod sa lagi ko sinasabi na maganda ako kasi parang ang dating ang yabang ko GGSS lang hahaha

[may12]

^Girl din ba nang aasar sayo? Sorry di ko din talaga alam paano sila i-stop. Sa office din dati, kung sino pa ka-close ko, lagi ako inaasar na mataba ako. Tumatahimik lang ako because I'm too nice to bully her back. LOL. Pero I always tell myself na next time na gagawin niya, I'll point out her kapintasan too. Pero di ko nagagawa.

Anyway, I'm also going through some insecurities right now. First, tumaba nga ako. I was always slim before. From 100-110 lbs naging 130-140 lbs na ako at tuwing may name-meet akong kakilala dati, yun ang lagi nila sinasabi sa akin. Parang gusto ko na magsuot ng signage na "Oo. Tumaba ako. Wag niyo na ipangalandakan!" LOL.

There are nights pa nga na umiiyak ako dahil lang diyan.

Second, my live-in partner told me he doesn't love me anymore. Just because I resigned from my full time job to pursue my passion. And maybe because I'm fat? LOL. Nung bago pa lang kami people said I had the perfect body and he was very lucky. So now that I'm not perfect anymore, he's ditching me just like that.

But writing this makes me feel good again. I realized hindi ko siya kawalan.

[pretty_B]

^oh nooo! grabe naman live-in partner mo sis. if the reason is dahil tumaba ka. nanggalaiti naman ako dun. gggrrr. hayaan mo nalang. not worth it sya. gggrrr.

re the topic...i am being "bullied" din sa office dahil sa figure ko. chubby ako and mejo growing kid pa. lol. eh may pagkamaldita pa naman ako at times. ayun, nasusungitan ko sila. haha. akala mo naman kasi ang pepeperpekto. hmmm. though, i know na nangaasar lang sila minsan na mejo palambing, eh nakakairita pa din naman talaga. lalo na kung maaalala mo lang ng maaalala yung kapintasan mo because of them.

[j.adore]

I have this irrational insecurity with my husband's ex.

Nagsimula ito nung bago pa lang kami mag BF/GF, niloko yung ex niya so niyaya niya maglunch to console her kasi friends naman daw sila. They didn't push through and stopped being "close" because I raised the flag that that is not a harmless relationship for me.

Tapos through the years, may 2 instances where he greets her via private messages and then deletes them. Malaking away nung nalaman ko at wala na sila contact at all.

Pero ewan ko ba kung bakit hanggang ngayon eh may fear ako na baka meron ulit PM na nadelete lang

[piatos]

sa totoo lang effective yung pag hindi mo pinapansin kasi magmumukha silang t**** hahaha kasi hindi pinapatulan pero minsan talaga mabbwisit ka.. doon pa sila natutuwa pag naasar ka

[simang]

Piatos, hindi natin controlled how other people see us, kaya wala tayong magagawa if they bully us kasi may nakikita silang kapintasan, or because they feel like mayabang tayo. But, what we can control is our reactions to their side comments. Tama, you can always ignore, pwedeng pwede mong barahin, basta make sure you won't let it affect you negatively. Tsaka they can be bullying you as lambing, kung friends mo talaga sila. Kasi if their intention is to really offend you, then you're hanging out with the wrong crowd. Baka kelangan mo mag destash ng friends para mas positive ang environment, hehe.

Everything starts from the inside. Kung feel mo na maganda ka, na healthy ka, kahit sabihan ka na ang taba mo or ang pangit mo, none of that will matter.

[beeeeeeeereal]

Do something about it. Kung naiinggit sa payat, mag-exercise and diet. Pick out stylish clothes. Experiment with your hair.

Ako kasi I don't get masyadong insecure as far as appearance is concerned. I try to look presentable naman, although minsan sablay pa rin, hindi ako natural na kikay! I'm fortunate to have a bf who really likes the way I look, so nakatulong din yun.  And medyo off topic: It just annoys me how girls would put each other down, ang lakas mamintas over the smallest of flaws. I don't wanna be that kind of girl. Di bale hindi ako pinakamaganda.

^ Basically this (except for the bf part). I for one try to compliment myself, especially at times when I feel really down or insecure. Like, kapag nagkamali ako, sinasabihan ko sarili ko na "Ang ganda ko talaga!" Yes, it's sarcastic pero it's also motivational (somehow) and funny. I like to laugh at myself a lot and I think this is something humans should learn to do more. No one IS perfect.

[imyourangel]

I have this irrational insecurity with my husband's ex.

Nagsimula ito nung bago pa lang kami mag BF/GF, niloko yung ex niya so niyaya niya maglunch to console her kasi friends naman daw sila. They didn't push through and stopped being "close" because I raised the flag that that is not a harmless relationship for me.

Tapos through the years, may 2 instances where he greets her via private messages and then deletes them. Malaking away nung nalaman ko at wala na sila contact at all.

Pero ewan ko ba kung bakit hanggang ngayon eh may fear ako na baka meron ulit PM na nadelete lang

Trust issues na yan sis. Your hubby should assure you that those things won't happen anymore.
Ganiyan din ako kay boyfie now. Nung naging kami, they still have contact nung ex niya. When I told him ayaw ko ng ganun, he stopped na talaga. I can see sa actions niya and through his actions bumalik naman ang tiwala.

[j.adore]

Yes, he does and I feel so much better afterwards.
Same with you, he's done everything to protect our relationship. Around PMS time ako ganito so I don't know if it's normal or what. He doesn't want me to seek professional help naman normal lang daw lol.

[iwannabeasupermodel]

lagi akong binubully sa office kasi maitim ako..

nung sat nagswimming ako sa beach dagdag kulay nanaman haha! sagot ko dun sa nangaasar.. ANG TUNAY NA MAGANDA HINDI TAKOT MANGITIM ahahaha edi gulat siya haha.  Parang nagiging mayabang ako haha kahit hindi ako kagandahan.. maganda pa rin ako lol

ano pa ba dapat kong gawin sa bully sa office.. hindi kasi ako makareact sa mga asar.. lagi  nila ako inaasar.. bukod sa lagi ko sinasabi na maganda ako kasi parang ang dating ang yabang ko GGSS lang hahaha

karamihan na "maganda" dahil maputi sila, paitimin mo di naman na maganda. and i'm a believer na di porket maputi ang isang dalaga eh maganda na. it's in the facial features and bone structure sis. so dont fret.

[piatos]

^thanks sis.. ilubog sa putik at magkaalamanan na hahaha

[iggy40]

Nung medyo bata pa ako, I feel insecure with almost everything, how I walk, talk, eat, dress---kahit na sabi ng friends ko that I look fine. Later when I entered 30s, kiber na. I wasted my time worrying on things thats possibly in my head lang. Important thing I learned was, dont depend on other people to say whether you look good or not. Each of us is unique kasi and we are beautiful in our own ways. Basta maligo ka araw araw, maganda ka! 

[KrabbyPatty!]

Ang pinakainsecurity ko ay flat chested ako. Hahaha tinatawanan ko na lang pero naiinis talaga ako kasi di ako confident lalo na pag swimming swimming kasi di ko na siya magagawan ng paraan. Tapos nakakainsecure pa kasi baka di satisfied ang bf ko kahit di naman siya ganun. Pero naiisip ko pa rin siyempre iba pa rin talaga kung malaki sana ang hinaharap ko. ( )))

[piatos]

Piatos, hindi natin controlled how other people see us, kaya wala tayong magagawa if they bully us kasi may nakikita silang kapintasan, or because they feel like mayabang tayo. But, what we can control is our reactions to their side comments. Tama, you can always ignore, pwedeng pwede mong barahin, basta make sure you won't let it affect you negatively. Tsaka they can be bullying you as lambing, kung friends mo talaga sila. Kasi if their intention is to really offend you, then you're hanging out with the wrong crowd. Baka kelangan mo mag destash ng friends para mas positive ang environment, hehe.

Everything starts from the inside. Kung feel mo na maganda ka, na healthy ka, kahit sabihan ka na ang taba mo or ang pangit mo, none of that will matter.

ngayon ko lang napansin reply mo sis.  thanks sis.  ganun pa din sila pero i make sure na bumabawi ako sa pangaasar nila. 

[aliste]

ako insecure sa sarili ko. anyone here feels the same way? 

[poems and petals]

As much as possible, iniiwasan kong may mapatingin na lalaki. Natatakot kasi akong masaktan lang. Pakiramdam ko kasi sobrang panget ko. Syempre pag tumingin sila malalaman ko naman sa reaksiyon nila di ba. Nai-intimidate din ako sa girls. Hindi nga kasi ako maganda at wala akong alam sa make up. Sa age ko at sa paligid ko (workplace, neighbourhood, etc.), parang outcast kapag walang alam sa make up.

[iwannabeasupermodel]

^ sis you put yourself down too much. alam mo sa panahon ngayon, ang labanan is basta marunong and masipag mag-ayos and magmakeup ay okay na. No one is born with the knowledge of makeup, you dont just wake up one day and know how to do your makeup perfectly. I takes lots and lots of practice, makeup fails and hours of watching makeup gurus to be able to do a pretty decent makeup. So just like what everyone here says, it starts with the initiative and the drive in you to accomplish something.

Ako i think i've come to a point na i've accepted na these are the physical attributes i am born with. So i just have to work my way around and learn how to wing it. If you dont like how i look then eh di ayaw mo. Ako i'm pretty fine with myself. Eh eto na yun eh. Plus, and more importantly, i have so much more to offer other than my looks, i have a good set of skills and i have a pretty good brain in my head, if i say so myself.

[stebsy]

As much as possible, iniiwasan kong may mapatingin na lalaki. Natatakot kasi akong masaktan lang. Pakiramdam ko kasi sobrang panget ko. Syempre pag tumingin sila malalaman ko naman sa reaksiyon nila di ba. Nai-intimidate din ako sa girls. Hindi nga kasi ako maganda at wala akong alam sa make up. Sa age ko at sa paligid ko (workplace, neighbourhood, etc.), parang outcast kapag walang alam sa make up.

Don't be. You're a baby. You'll grow up. You'll learn things. And one day, you'll walk in a room, guys would stare and you'll smile at them.

You may not know anything about makeups and fashion but it's your personality that will make you shine. I know girls who are not ma makeup and ma sexy pero when they talk, kabog. Gumaganda sila. Bida na.

And there are girls na ang makeup sing kapal ng foundation ng building. Siguro 8kg and face nila dahil sa makeup, pero pag kinausap mo, nga nga. Anong sabi? Babe, mag budget ka din for nutritious foods para beauty and brains. Hindi lahat sa aesthetics.

[stebsy]

Nung nasa Pinas pa ako, madalas sobrang conscious ko sa pagdadamit and pagdala ko sa sarili ko. Kasi naman, ang mga tao sa paligid talagang pinapansin nila lahat ng detalye ng mukha, bilbil, kulay ng damit, sapatos, kilay, ngipin etc... Basically lahat. Ngayon ko lang naisip na these people are insecure sa sarili nila that's why ganun ang ugali nila. Damay damay lang. Hindi lang kami ang mataba, ikaw din! So I tried to be low profile all the time.  If I want to wear this red dress, I'd be thinking twice, masyadong makinang sa mata wag nalang. I'm a slave of other people's opinion of me.

E nung nag abroad ako, keber ang mga tao dito. Ano nga naman kasing pakialam nila sayo. Ayan sige shorts tayo ng sobrang ikli. Mesh shirt tayo, kita bra. HAHAHAHA

Akala ko may confidence na ako. Until, I joined for pole class.

Mga besh, naka bikini sila. Ang se sexy. Kabog talaga. lumabas ang consciousness ko sa stretchmarks, dark spots, bilbil, etc... Pero eventually napansin ko keber din sila and they just enjoy what they are doing. May mga mommies poling na may stretch marks. May mga matataba. May mga di naka pedicure. Ayan, yung shorts ko for pole classes became shorter until bikini na siya. Yung tank tops ko umiksi to a sports bra nalang. And outside the pole studio, I carry that same confidence. I feel empowered.

My exposure to different women in their underwear made me confident in my own skin.