All About Insecurities & Being Confident

[Karen J]

Hi girls! I'm sure most of you can relate to this.

How do you deal with your insecurities? And what are the things that you do to make you confident?

Well for me, there are times na feeling ko ang pangit pangit ko. Tapos when I see other girls, I feel insecure most of the time. Though I'm with my boyfriend for almost 5 years now, may ganun feeling parin ako. He's open kasi when he see girls na maganda talaga though alam ko naman na wala lang yan. Forever insecure lang talaga ako.

[adellaide]

Lahat naman ng babae may insecurities, honestly as for myself from head to foot I can pin point something I consider a flaw. Lalo na ngayon that most people interpret that the standard of physical beauty is typically what we see sa media. Mahirap kaya makipag pantayan sa mga celebs lol...eh si bf crush pa naman mga tulad ni rhianne ramos, sam pinto etc...naku goodluck naman diba! haha

Ako dn naiinsecure pag tumitingin si bf sa iba di ko naman masisi kasi kahit ako napapatingin din dun sa girl eh haha! Isip pa ko naku iwan siguro ko nito pag ganyan pumorma sakanya hmmp! Kaya pag nasa labas kami I remind myself magaganda sakin kaya ayun ok2 na ko

@ohcmon I used to do that as well kaya lang may ibang way na ko ngayon. I try not to put others down kahit na ba sa sarili ko lang kasi nagi-guilty ako afterwards lol, so what I do na lang during the days when I feel not so pretty I wear make up even when I'm at home lang. Basta primp myself up or I take really long baths then apply scented lotions even light scented candles pa nga then relax lang ang pretty ko na eh! super ipamper ko sarili ko ba lol...Pero something that never fails me is wear sexy underwear!  

[IloveMybabs]

ako naiinsecure ako sa mapuputi dati kia ginawa ko nag gluta ko and lotion aun medjo effective naman nag light yong skin ko.. then ngayon pag nakakaramdam ako ng insecurities bumibili ako ng bagong make up o punta ng salon para magpakulay ng buhok.. kailngan kong maging maganda para sa sarili ko at sa asawa ko..

[twelvth_goddess]

I think almost all girls have times when they feel ugly or not their best. I have those days too but they quickly pass lang din. I'm the biggest fan of myself but it doesnt mean that my confidence is a hundred percent all the time. Everytime I feel lame or I have complaints about my body (laki ng legs, maliit, ganyan), I always tell myself, dibale maganda naman ako ok lang yan 

Over the years din I've learned to use my insecurity in improving myself. I've also come to terms na there are things that I can't change about myself but I'm alright just the way I am.

[snix]

super insecure ako pero siyempre sakin na lang yun.. open rin kasi bf ko na magsabi kujg sino mga crush niya sa work and when i see them dun nako naguumpisa maghanap ng flaws..artista ayos lang kaya lang mga kawork niya at frends nagseselos ako kasi magkasama sila..

still he said his heart elongs to me so ayun na lang iniisip ko plus mas pinipili ko na hindi makita mga crush niya hehe..

[rianne_mallows]

insecurities? wala

of course there are times na ALAM kong i'm not my best self physically,  medyo tumaba, hindi nakaahit ng brows agad etc...
 pero deadma lang... hindi ako naiinsecure..

imo, iba kasi yung feeling mo "you're not good enough" // insecurity
kesa sa "ok, medyo pango nga nose ko, so what?"  - you acknowledge the flaw, but you dont let it affect you

[twelvth_goddess]

^Agree sis. Like with me, morena ko talaga and I love my color. I grew up with a family who would always tell me how beautiful I am. Kaya when I was in gradeschool and HS and even now din, when they tease me about my color, walang effect kase na-plant na sa mind ko nung bata pa ko na I'm beautiful just the way I am.

[aulivia]

Do something about it. Kung naiinggit sa payat, mag-exercise and diet. Pick out stylish clothes. Experiment with your hair.

Ako kasi I don't get masyadong insecure as far as appearance is concerned. I try to look presentable naman, although minsan sablay pa rin, hindi ako natural na kikay! I'm fortunate to have a bf who really likes the way I look, so nakatulong din yun.  And medyo off topic: It just annoys me how girls would put each other down, ang lakas mamintas over the smallest of flaws. I don't wanna be that kind of girl. Di bale hindi ako pinakamaganda.

[devilish_einjel]

ako naiinsecure ako sa sexy, matangkad, maputi at makinis.. pero syempre lahat naman ng yan nagagawan ng paraan diba kung gugustuhin mo talaga? except yung matangkad.. forever petite na ako..  dati lagi ko iniisip, bakit kaya may mga girls na parang lahat na yata na sa kanila? but then again, wala naman tayong alam sa pinagdadaanan nila diba.. hanggang ngayon may mga times pa rin na naiinsecure ako, pero nilalabanan ko.. iniisip ko bakit ko ba iccompare yung sarili ko dun sa nakaka angat sa akin? talagang makakaramdam lang ako ng depression, bakit hindi dun sa mga tao na alam kong mas maswerte ako.. ayun lang ginagawa ko para hindi mainsecure

anyways, alam ko naman na mahal ako ng BF ko kahit hindi ako yung pinaka maganda at pinaka sexy na babae sa buong mundo.. sasabihin niya sa akin, "maganda lang yun, ikaw pa din" haha.. naka naks.. lakas makabola.. 

[baliwsayo]

Ako rin, insekyora to the highest level. Buti na lang si boyfie lagi sinasabi ang ganda ganda ko maski feeling ko mukha akong poknat. Kaya naman ako lagi ko din sinasabing ang pogi pogi niya. 

Seriously, it's just a matter of accepting siguro na hindi ka perfect and try to highlight more na lang yung mga bagay na perfect sa yo. Like kunwari maganda hugis ng boobs mo, eh di suot ka ng something to highlight it. Kung utak mo naman ang perfect, eh di yun ang paganahin mo lagi. Like ikaw lagi ang walking encyclopedia, etc..

[aquacharly]

Everybody has some  insecurity.  But the better people  face it, deal with it or accept it -- and don't brood long on it. 

And then there's this, but of course:  Do not stay with a guy who makes you feel you're only second-best.

[clermont]

My biggest insecurity is my skin. Keber ko sa payat, matangos ang ilong o matangkad ..pero kapag nakakakita ako ng makikinis, inggit talaga ako. Si bf pa naman, pantay from head to toe. Argh! My bf always tell me it's fine and I'm the prettiest of them all pero napapalingon pa rin ako. Parang gusto kong lapitan si ate para magtanong kung genetics lang ba yan or may marerefer kang derma or product. Hehe.

I'm not a fan of whitening products. I do like my Filipina skin tone but I just want to be smooth and pantay. So I exert mega effort to take care of myself. It's nice for bf or anyone else, it's for me

[shalikah]

Whenever you feel insecure kantahin mo lang sa utak mo lang toh:

Everyday is so wonderful
And suddenly, it's hard to breathe
Now and then, I get insecure
From all the pain,
I'm so ashamed

I am beautiful no matter what they say
Words can't bring me down
I am beautiful in every single way
Yes, words can't bring me down, oh no
So don't you bring me down today

To all your friends you're delirious
So consumed in all your doom
Trying hard to fill the emptiness,
The pieces gone,
Left the puzzle undone,
Ain't that the way it is?

You are beautiful no matter what they say
Words can't bring you down, no, no
You are beautiful in every single way
Yes words can't bring you down, oh, no
So don't you bring me down today

No matter what we do
(no matter what we do)
No matter what we say
(no matter what we say)
We're the song inside the tune
(yeah, oh yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah)
Full of beautiful mistakes
And everywhere we go
(and everywhere we go)
The sun will always shine
(sun will always, always shine)
But tomorrow we might awake
On the other side

'Cause we are beautiful,
No matter what they say
Yes, words won't bring us down, oh no
We are beautiful in every single way
Yes, words can't bring us down, oh no
So don't you bring me down today

Don't you bring me down today
Don't you bring me down...
Mmm, today


Also, think about the good things in you. It's mind over matter. Positive thinking lang.

[pinkbubbles17]

super insecure ako pero siyempre sakin na lang yun.. open rin kasi bf ko na magsabi kujg sino mga crush niya sa work and when i see them dun nako naguumpisa maghanap ng flaws..artista ayos lang kaya lang mga kawork niya at frends nagseselos ako kasi magkasama sila..

still he said his heart elongs to me so ayun na lang iniisip ko plus mas pinipili ko na hindi makita mga crush niya hehe..

sis can u help me..i knw its been years.but i just found out that my bf had a communication with his ex-gf way way back..[textspeak!] am i goin to do? Now im feeling insecure about that gurl..and i also found out that he said to his ex he said that [textspeak!] we had is just a rebound relationship..

[snix]

^naguguluhan ako sa post mo sis..how do you want me to help you? and please edit yout post bawal po text speak

[gorgeous_me]

dati, na-iinsecure ako, kahit lam ko naman na maganda ako (kapal ng mukha), pero dumadating yung time na ganon, what I do, kapag ganon, mag-eexercise lang ako, baka stress lang ako, hihi, after non, confident na ulit

[karmark16]

Ako aware talaga na madalas tamaan ng Insecurity syndrome, it was because I got bullied a lot of times before. I was bullied kasi mataba ako, nakasalamin, nagsusuot ng matataas na medyas at super geeky talaga. dagdag pa [textspeak!] time na nireject ako ng isang lalaki. Pero, after high school, I decided na enough na, kailangan ko tulungan ang sarili ko dahil wala naman ibang makakagawa nun kundi ako lang. I realized din kasi na pag insecure ka, sarili mo lang naman talaga kalaban mo. It's just a state of mind, so super nagdiet ako talaga. Come my debut, lahat talaga mga kaklase ko NGANGA! gulat sila hindi daw talaga nla ako nakilala. Life changing talaga. Also, like my bf said, we are all unique in our own special way, sabi pa nia sa akin na hindi lang sa panlabas na anyo nakikita ang kagandahan ng isang tao at lahat ng tao maganda, nasa pagdadala mo lang yn ng sarili mo so I should stop comparing myself to others. isinabuhay ko na un ngaun and i feel free, may mga times pa din na di mo mapipigilan mainggit o mainsecure pero, iba talaga pag ang taong mahal mo todo suporta sau. ang importante naman talaga eh para sa taong mahal mo, ikaw ang pinakamaganda. Dedma na lang sa iba na walang magandang sasabihin. You cant please everybody. =)

[yanmae]

My biggest insecurity is my skin. Keber ko sa payat, matangos ang ilong o matangkad ..pero kapag nakakakita ako ng makikinis, inggit talaga ako. Si bf pa naman, pantay from head to toe. Argh! My bf always tell me it's fine and I'm the prettiest of them all pero napapalingon pa rin ako. Parang gusto kong lapitan si ate para magtanong kung genetics lang ba yan or may marerefer kang derma or product. Hehe.

I'm not a fan of whitening products. I do like my Filipina skin tone but I just want to be smooth and pantay. So I exert mega effort to take care of myself. It's nice for bf or anyone else, it's for me

Same here sis. Yun din ang kinakainsecure-an ko sa sarili ko ang magkaroon ng flawless na skin at ang set of teeth ko. Lgi kong naiisip na [textspeak!] kung flawless ako kaya ko din makipagsabayan sa mga models na yan. Naramdaman ko to nung nakita ko ultimate crush ni Bf nung hindi pa kame, grabe ang ganda at napakaflawless. Nameet and greet ko pa sya kasi bumili sya sa online shop ko at meet up ang gusto nya (small world), grabe pra akong nastar struck eh para kasi syang glow in the dark, ang puti tapos flawless kaya ayun talagang naging yun na ang pinaka kinaiinggitan ko sa ibang girls. Sa lahat ng girls sa kanya talaga ako humahanga, tingin ko kasi perfect sya pero iniisip ko nalang para lumakas ang confidence ko mas matangkad naman ako sa kanya! :p yun lang nilamang ko sa kanya.. haha..

Sobrang naiinsecure ako kapag napupuna ko mga flaws ko, tlagang head to toe ang pagpuna ko pero bandang huli iniisip ko nalang dibale madami man akong mga flaws sa katawan maganda din nman ako.

[young_maiden]

Single ako for almost three years. Sa tuwing nakakakita ako ng babae na di naman kagandahan at may mapagmahal at mabait na bf, nakakaramdam ako ng inggit. Naiisip ko, "Bakit siya meron at ako wala?"

Malas ako sa lalaki eh. Lapitin ako ng mga babaero. Kung hindi naman babaero, mga di naman ganun kainteresado i-pursue ako. Susuko agad at di na magpaparamdam. I don't know why.

Di man ako artistahin o model-like, di naman siguro ako kapangitan.

[KaraVT]

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