Online Dating

[kvan]

Ang mystery sa akin is the family dynamic. His parents are divorced but he is really close to both of them. A little bit too close than normal Canadian family. I sometimes check his only sibling's blog and I can see they are really close. I guess it's a good thing but I still want to know how they are as a family.

[Apple1230]

Ay ganon, ang bilis naman nya...lol! Maybe he really likes you that much. Maybe he is already assuming na kayo na? Depende sa takbo ng nangyari sa inyo.

thanks for the reply. he seemed conservative naman so i don't think he is thinking na kame na. baka lang when he said i miss you he was expecting me to say it back. hehe! we only had dinner the 2x we met. he is not touchy rin which is a good thing kasi ayoko rin ng mga guys na kaka meet pa lang feeling close na.

Sis Apple1230, gano na kayo katagal magkausap before you decided to meet in person? Kung sandali pa lang (like a week), contrary to what you think, he might actually be over confident. Baka inassume nya na you seem to like him naman so you can take it the next level na.

mag isa na lang kasi siya dito his parents and ate are in the states na. siya na lang ang nakatira sa family home nila with one helper which is a guy din na pinag aaral niya ng college. he is 40 na. i guess he is lonely or just really wants to be in a relationship. ewan ko dun. hehe!

in my case i want to date around for a while (just go out but no intimacy involve) these days iba na rin kasi iniisip pag sinabing date around. i just want to see what's out there. i just got out of a serious relationship and i want to focus on myself.

@kvandenhaak hmm you can see this athlete guy when he comes around but keep your options open. parang hindi siya talaga yung type that will commit. at least not yet. baka in a few years pa.

[kvan]

^Maybe expressive lang sya sa nararamdaman. I mean, if he misses you then why not say it? Good news is he really likes you so I guess that's better than not hearing from him at all after couple of dates.

I am keeping my options open. No, he's not the type of guy that will commit right away. Nung nakilala ko kasi sya, hindi talaga pang seryoso. I just thought I'd do something that I never tried when I was younger and before I got married. Sobrang idealistic kasi ako in my 20s. I didn't date anyone for 8 years. Try ko naman kako ang hindi masyadong seryoso and see what happens. If it works then good, if not then at least I tried.

Nag-text when he came back to Edmonton this afternoon. Leche, nagising tuloy ako from my afternoon nap. Bukas ko na lang sasagutin pag natapos ko na mga gagawin ko.

OT: -48C with windchill outside!!!

[angeljolie]

^^If you want to date around muna, siguro let him know para at least alam nya kung hanggang saan lang kayo.

^Ano na ang balita kay athlete? Kaloka naman ang weather dyan!

Happy New Year mga sis!!!

[kvan]

^Wala pa. I replied the following day pa kasi telling him that something is bothering me and I will address it before end of the year! I was really busy due to my MIL's bday party yesterday. I am calmed down already.

I was pissed off nga kasi we came home from the party and it was really cold so I need to plug my car or it might not start in the morning. Someone stole my extension cord! Buti I have spare cord. It was -50C with windchill. Ang sakit sa balat! 😣

[angeljolie]

^Ang pasaway naman nung kumuha! Uso din pala dyan ang magna. Anyways, glad to know you have calmed down! Malapit na mag tapos ang taon hehe

[Girltalker2]

^based sa kwento mo sis hindi pa naman kayo serious so i guess he doesn?t think he is doing anything wrong.

I met a guy thru an online dating app. We went out twice. He texts me everyday usually good morning lang.  We met dec. 23 and 26. After our second date the next day he texted me ?i miss you?. I didn?t reply coz i don?t know how to respond to that. Less than 30mins. Later he texted again saying ?sabi ko na nga dapat hindi ko na tinext yun. ?  i replied saying sorry i was busy need to finish my work.
 
It happened yesterday and today he didn?t text. I was thinking is he kinda needy or he is just not that confident with himself? It seemed like he is looking for validation. Any thoughts? Thanks in advance.

As friends, sometimes you miss each other?s company. Ako I will just treat it like a friend missing my company. Baka kasi iyan ang pasakalye nya to ask you out again.

Nothing malicious about it. Remember don?t assume just be friends and enjoy the friendship lang.

[kvan]

^I agree dun sa don't assume too much.

Btw, there's an episode of the latest season of Black Mirror entitled "Hang the DJ". It's about online dating. Since it's Black Mirror, the story is a bit weird and dark.

Anyway, I was just talking to the athlete this evening. Just the usual chat, di naman kami nag-away. But as I know him better, it's getting clearer that he might not be the one. But I am keeping the connection until Mr Right comes.

[Apple1230]

@Girltalker2 he asked me last week kung kelan kame magkikita ulit. Sabi ko sa january 5 he said ?sabi ko na nga ba ako lang ang inlove?. I took it as a joke. Pero inulit niya ulit few days ago.

The guy is 40yrs. Old already, he has a daughter but only sees her during weekends. his parents and sister are abroad na. Siya na lang mag isa dito. He spent xmas and new year alone. He invited me pero i?m with my family. He?s a lawyer.

I still have to get to know him and this time i?m keeping my options open. There are guys asking me out not thru online. I know them personally.

[angeljolie]

^Wow already talking about love! He's kinda demanding in my opinion. Feeling ko gusto nyang malaman ngayon na kung pwede ka nya maging girlfriend o hindi. How did you respond?

[Apple1230]

^i had an ex last 2016 met him online. Businessman siya from u.k. but based here. 2nd date he said i love u na and asked me to be his gf. Sinagot ko siya after 4 dates. 3months lang kame tumagal i broke up with him na coz it turns out gusto pa niya gumimik ng gumimik. Since we broke up until last dec 2017 nakikipag balikan pa rin. Seryoso daw siya sa akin. Di ko na lang pinapansin pag nag me-message.

So i learned my lesson that i have to get to know the person better first.

When the lawyer said in love siya twice hindi ako nag reply. He even said i really miss you yesterday. I also didn?t reply. Red flag sa akin mga ganun e. Parang nagmamadali na ewan.

[angeljolie]

^siguro kaya sila nagmamadali kasi sure na sila you are a good catch. Pero pano ka naman di ba? Red flag din saken if a guy says he loves me too soon. Really, love agad? Pwede namang like lang hehe.

[Girltalker2]

@Girltalker2 he asked me last week kung kelan kame magkikita ulit. Sabi ko sa january 5 he said ?sabi ko na nga ba ako lang ang inlove?. I took it as a joke. Pero inulit niya ulit few days ago.

The guy is 40yrs. Old already, he has a daughter but only sees her during weekends. his parents and sister are abroad na. Siya na lang mag isa dito. He spent xmas and new year alone. He invited me pero i?m with my family. He?s a lawyer.

I still have to get to know him and this time i?m keeping my options open. There are guys asking me out not thru online. I know them personally.

Weird naman.
But laughing it off is a way to wiggle out of it.

But in this situation, I tell him direct. Talagang in love sya kahit di nya ko kilala or in love lang sya sa idea na May gf?
And be upfront to him that both of you should take more time to get to know each other. And give him the timeframe din. Otherwise, if tingin mo talagang red flag, you can tell him directly that he is a nice guy but unfair sa kanya if you are to continue to date him kasi mukhang magkaiba ang timeline na tinitingnan nyo.

Hit and miss talaga ang dating, mapa online o hindi. I didn?t go through online dating kasi nagkataon I met my current partner. Tsaka I was always out so I meet quite a few people outside. Out because of work, Church, school, sports activities (Not Gimik) Pero in hindsight, if di ako palalabas siguro mag online dating din ako for more options.

Tsaka teka, araw araw ka ba nya nitext/call? Baka nga totooing in love? Haha
One other response Na puede isagot:  paano nya sure he is in love and with whom
Haha

[Apple1230]

^no we don't text or talk everyday. we were suppose to meet again last friday kaya lang walang paramdam. then monday this week i texted him kamusta na? he said nagkasakit siya last week kaya hindi kame natuloy. nakipag set ulit ng date which is tonight. monday kame last nag usap. i assumed hindi na tuloy kasi after monday night hindi na siya nag text. thursday night nag text lang na excited daw siya to see me tonight. i didn't reply kasi i made other plans na (dinner with my mom) i assumed hindi na naman kasi kame tuloy. he is not consistent rin so wala ako gana to meet up with him.

just an update i met someone online same site, he is 50yrs. old coach ng isang sikat na sports team dito sa atin. he just got here last october. italian siya but he was born and raised in england. i will meet him tomorrow. i am also meeting some friends so sabi ko sumama na siya kasi wala raw siya friends dito yung mga kilala niya kaka alis lang ng country. we will be in his area kasi kaya inaya ko na rin. he keeps telling me how lonely he is kasi mag isa lang siya dito wala pa siya masyadong kakilala so wala siyang kausap or kasabay kumain. nag xmas at new year siya mag isa.

i just entertained him kasi he is very chatty online. tumawag pa sa phone kasi mas gusto niya dun kame mag usap. i have zero expectations sa kanya i just want to meet him kasi wala daw siyang friends and pwede ko siya i-reto sa isa sa mga friends ko kung may ma type-an siya. yung mindset niya gustong gusto na makapag asawa. naghahanap daw talaga siya ng right girl for him. 

i am going to remove my profile dun sa site tinatamad na rin kasi ako. i will just focus on my career. the right person will come but for now i just want to do my own thing. nag join lang ako dun sa site to distract myself para hindi ko maisip si ex. wala pa kame 1 month break but i'm ok na no need for distraction anymore.

[oyetken]

once nagtry din akong makipag chat and may nakilala ako kaso nakakasawa din makipag chat and yung iba hinde talaga serious type ..may iba silang gusto ...hmp.. blocked ko nga .

[kvan]

My accounts are deactivated now too! The year 2018 will be a really busy year for me. Hindi ko na keri makipag-usap pa sa iba. Me dalawa pa ngang bagets na makulet! But I am still with the athlete. I was gonna bring up the issue na nainis ako kaso natatawa ako sa mga ka-chorvahan nya sa buhay. I find his being hands-on dad kind of adorable. Tapos he took my joke seriously when I said that I am rekindling my love affair with "Jim". One year kako kaming off but I decided that I need to get back to him and it's a committed relationship. I was actually talking about GYM...lol! He said, "Oh ok....well, that's very unfortunate! But if that's what makes you happy then I am happy for you!". I wished I dragged it a little bit and see what else he'll say...lol!

@angeljolie: Your boy, Eric...lol! Nangungulit na naman last week, sawing puso na naman...hahaha! On and off sila nung girl. Ang di ko maintindihan kung bakit ako binabalingan pag hindi sila in good terms. I said many times di naman ako available. Next time na lang kako..lol!

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