Worse wedding you experienced/seen (Part 2)

[Chili1113]

^^^ Oh my!!! This almost happened to my cousin last Decemeber. As in they got a call at 7 am from the church saying that the 3pm wedding cannot push through because meron pa silang kulang na document. My cousin went straight to the church that morning and submitted whatever he had forgotten to submit earlier, otherwise the wedding would really not have pushed through. The bride and groom live abroad so I think they had the documents but just forgot to submit a particular one since they only arrived a couple of weeks before the wedding.

But really, you have to be careful because the church will really not allow you to get married if you do not have all the required documents. In my cousin's case it is a good thing that the church admin called them that morning, or they wouldn't have even realized that they had forgotten to submit  a document.

[xxIcePrincessxx]

^that's true caleeice... there were a lot of could've, should've and would've... or the couple could have just gotten a judge and have a civil wedding instead.

^sis Chili1113 ganun pala talaga kahigpit yung church? kala ko lang talaga yung priests lang yung nag hihigpit.... yun pala ganun talaga ang palakad sa lahat :/ nakaka kaba lang.. true we have to make sure that we have all the requirements ready talaga

[harley18]

nagwawala na daw yung bride and nag-iiiyak.  The mom of the bride naman nagmamakaawa sa priest pero the priests wouldn't budge hindi daw nya ikakasal yung couple.

Grabe kung ako magwawala din ako!!! Pero sa lahat naman ng requirements, yun sa Church naman talaga dapat ang inuuna at pinaka-importante. Church Wedding nga e.
Magandang reminder to sa mga ikakasal out there..

[twelvth_goddess]

Although it was realy the fault of the couple for not submitting their documents, I think napaka harsh din naman ng priest for what he did. Sana sinabihan na lang yung couple a day before man lang na hinde na itutuloy dahil kulang kulang. For a servant of God, hinde ko naman maisip kung pano nya magagawa na ipahiya yung couple ng ganon.

[belle_v2g]

That is so scary. Buti na lang I don't have to deal with paperworks anymore..

[stacies83221]

^^The priest could have just proceeded with the ceremony and allowed the couple to celebrate mass and declared their love for each other in front of all their friends and loved ones. He could have talked to the couple in private and explain that this cannot and should not be considered a wedding then forego with the signing of the marriage contract at that time. Then the couple, after fixing all the documents, can just go through the official ceremony at some other time in a more intimate setting. He could have spared the couple and their families from the embarrassment.

I have to agree that the couple and the families be spared from the embarrassment. Though the couple should have prioritized that the papers are complete, the parish secretary or whoever keeps track of the wedding requirements should have informed the couple about it prior to the wedding date or even hours before the wedding. I would understand the bride on her reaction given na they are not really aware that they lack a document.. parang you´ve been blindsided naman kasi yung dating. The priest should have just talked with the couple first and made a compromise... but of course, I would understand why some priests will hesitate to perform this sacrament for "show" only... but if you think about it, the sacrament of marriage is still the sacrament of marriage with or without the bureaucracies and paperworks.

[harley18]

^ Correct. Sana nagcompromise na lang si Father na to follow up na lang yun papers. Mas importante na ma-bless sila as married couple. Saang church kaya ito? 

[airish_2]

same sentiments let's say may lack talaga doon sa couple who was overwhelmed sa preparation ng kasal, pero sa na tinuloy na lang ng priest kasi the couple wants the blessings kaya nga sila magpapakasal.

[bonina]

Yes, it seems that there were lapses on the part of the couple and the priest but I believe the coordinator has a share on the blame for what happened. Even for OTD services, they provide a checklist of what needs to be done or what documents to submit before the wedding. They should have been on top of the situation. If they really reviewed and followed up these requirements, then, it would not have led to the cancellation of the nuptial rites which caused embarrassment for the couple and their families. In fairness, maybe the couple only got the reception coordination only services We will never know. At least, what happened can be a lesson for other soon-to-be-married couples not to be too complacent about these "requirements".

[deathwatchspider]

^ true. i got only OTD services for my wedding, pero months before, the coordinator would always make kamusta how our preps are going, and kung nasubmit na lahat ng docs. and yun nga, considering na church wedding, its up to the couple to really make sure na magcomply sa requirements ng church. almost all churches provides a checklist or guide ng reqs needed. step by step yan which u need to accomplish. so i dunno what really happened sa kanila. sa amin, eto yung pinakaboring na part ng preps and entailed a lot of going to different offices. pero we really made sure na we checked, double checked and triple checked everything.

naisip ko lang, maybe what they forgot to submit is somethg very impt which could affect the validity of the marriage like lets say, the marriage license. kung wala yun, magpush man yung wedding that day, void pa din ang kasal, kaya maybe the priest was really putting his foot down na hindi ituloy yng ceremony.

i think may konting blame din yung church coz they should have at least tried to warn the couple about lacking documents way before the wedding, and not on the day itself. in our case, our church was really very strict na dapat 30days before, nasubmit na namin lahat ng reqs. tapos a few weeks before the wedding, we were still communicating via text and email re the marriage contract. they had us check it for misspellings and errors. naka isang revision lang naman kami. after that, all went smoothly na come our wedding day.

so again, warning to all soon to wed couples, make sure ALL your documents/reqs are in place before the wedding day, eto ang dapat pinakamabusisi kayo at OC. altho majority ata iniignore to or hindi msyado pinapahalagahan.

[juwie]

^true. Wag puro suppliers ang atupagin dapat pati documents karirin. may alam nga ako full planning service ang kinuha from the wedding planner tapos pagdating sa ceremony nakalimutan pala kunin somewhere yung marriage contract. LOL. For me that's both the couple's and planner's fault.

[Kimjoori]

^This is my worst nightmare!

We are already finalizing our church documents. Kala namin ni H2B una muna canonical interview bago yung marriage banns and pre-cana seminar. We set a schedule for the canonical interview with the officiating priest. Pagdating namin sa office sabi nya hindi nya kami interviewhin kulang daw docs namin.  He explained naman that he needs to see first all the documents before he interviews us kasi we are not from that parish. Our marriage banns will end this Sunday. Sana, we can schedule na our canonical interview sa last week ng February para by March ayos na ang lahat.

[j.adore]

So sad but could have been avoided..

It's called requirements because they are needed before you can get married. Kaya nga pag naginquire pa lang may listahan na binibigay.
It's also common knowledge that the church is strict. Rare yung flexible na priest.
Kaya din siguro hindi pinagbigyan kasi di valid reason yung ubos time sa supplier.

[imprincessfiona]

Church requirements is one of the important things na dapat asikasuhin ng mga magpapakasal. I am just wondering kung bakit na-overlook ito since meron namang checklist na ibinibigay ang church coordinator. I am not surprised na hindi itinuloy ang kasal, sadyang may mga pari lang talaga na sobrang strict when it comes to requirements and time (late dumating sa wedding ceremony).

[funky f]

Sorry but IMO, it's the couple's fault though super nakakaawa naman talaga sila... Di ba dapat rereviewhin mo yung requirements several times coz for me, yun ang pinakaimportant na docs sa wedding?  Anyway, I hope Natuloy pa rin Ang reception pero di ko maimagine stress level ng couple.

[bonina]

...for me, what is surprising lang is that with all the elaborate planning that goes with getting married today umabot sa cancellation ng kasal on the day mismo pa. para bang sa assembly line ang daming work stations na pwede na pinpoint agad kung may defect ang product pero nakalagpas nang walang nakakahalata. nandyan ang church admin na syempre before magpasked kay father, they make sure muna kung complete na ang requirements; yung coord na dapat sinisiguro na lahat ng kailangan for the wedding ay nagawa, otherwise, anong wedding ang ico-coordinate niya? yung priest is correct in not performing the rites, yun nga lang basing on the story parang sana the party was informed earlier at hindi nung time nung kasal na mismo kung saan nandoon na ang bisita.

pero tama kayo in saying na ang pinakmalaking pagkukulang is yung sa couple. rule of thumb: Kasal Mo, Responsibilidad Mo.

[pearlaloo]

dami kong tawa sa mga kwento ninyo, ako din may ibabahagi. hindi ko na-witness pero nakwento lang din sa akin ng kapatid ko (abay kasi sya dun sa pinsan ng bff nya) at the same time, yung makeup artist nila ay yun din sa akin. Ang nag-istorya ng buo sa akin si makeup artist nung minsang nagpagupit ako sa kanya. ganito yung  istorya:
Medyo mainit yung ulo ng pari kasi late na ng 30mins wala pa yung parents ng groom kaya pinasimula na ang entourage. Anyare pala natraffic sila kasama ni makeup artist.
Kalagitnaan ng ceremony saka sila dumating (parents ni groom). umeksena si tita ni groom kasama si parents. sumigaw ng bongga!
"ITIGIL ANG KASAL!" naghinto si pari at lalong naimbyerna, "MAGSILAYAS KAYO DITO! MGA KAMPON KAYO NI SATANAS!" eh di ang ingay na sa loob ng simbahan kasi nagkakagulo na daw sila, as in nag-away away na sa loob ang magkabilang partido.
Kalaunan, nagkasundo naman na ulitin yung kasal para kasama sina parents ng groom. Pag labas daw nila ng simbahan (after the ceremony, pinagtitinginan daw ng mga tambay yung partido ng groom dahil sa nangyari).
At pagkatapos ng chikahan namin ni makeup artist, nasobrahan ang cut nya sa hair ko kakachika niya, hindi ko rin napansin kakatawa.

[galatea_spheres]

^Hahahaha super funny nung kwento mo sis pearlaloo! pati yung pagka kwento mo hanggang sa dulo, panalo!

[pearlaloo]

thanks sis galatea_spheres ^_^ hindi ko naman yun nasaksihan pero yun kasi ang pinaka-nakakalokang kasal na narinig ko. halos lahat naman yata ng ikinasal may mga epic fail na experience. kahit nung ikinasal ako may mga sablay din (share ko na din):
1. Yung buttonier ni groom ko napunta sa kuya ko. (may mga tag kasi yun nung dineliver kaso nabasa ng tubig kaya naalis yung tag nung sa Kuya ko at nagkapalit sila ni groom, napansin ko na lang after the wedding dun sa pictures). sabi pa ng Kuya ko "kaya pala akin lang yung kakaiba.. eh yan kasi inabot sa akin".
2. Yung isang bridesmaid ko naiwanan ng service! EH NASA KANYA LAHAT NG FLOWERS NG ENTOURAGE! hay naku galit na galit ako sa driver! pinabalikan ko talaga sa kanya.. buti na lang advance ang call time namin.. 10:30am ang start pero 10am pa lang halos lahat nandun na.
3. Yung wedding cake namin sablay! SOBRANG TIGAS! ang tagal namin mag-cut! (muntik na nga ako magrequest ng lagari! sa diin namin sa paghihiwa ng cake pati styro nahiwa na din! kalokah!)
4. Before magstart yung entourage hinanapan kami ng bible, pero ang alam ko provided yun ng church, hindi pala. napabili tuloy yung tatay ko.
5. Yung mga damit ng abay ko ANG PAPANGIT NG PAGKAKAGAWA! (mali yung choice ng tela, bitin yung sequence, sobrang haba ng gown, at marami pang sablay) yung pinagpagawaan ko halatang minadali. 3days before the wedding saka pa lang namin nakuha lahat. Ang mahal pa ng singil sa amin.  Nakakahiya nga sa mga abay ko kasi hindi maganda yung outcome. BUTI NA LANG MAGAGANDA ABAY ko, dun na lang bumawi hehe..
Minors lang naman pero unforgettable. The rest ok naman kahit inulan kami ng konti (blessing nga daw sabi nila which is true).

[astarte]

^^ hahaha kaloka yang itigil ang kasal! Agaw eksena kay Father haha!

^ natawa ko sis sa lalagariin na sana ang cake hahaha. All edible daw ba? Baka hindi kayo na inform sis may last minute changes lol.

Winner talaga yung itigil ang kasal parang pelikula lang.