Gaano kabait si hubby....

[janix athena]

Ang asawa ko, I will rate him 9.5 sa sobrang bait.

1. Prinsesa ako sa kanya pagdating sa household chores. Since LDR kami and when he's here sa Pinas bakasyon sya from work and studies, sya ang nagluluto (mahilig sya sa kusina). I would say "thanks mahal, ako na maghugas dishes later ha?" Then since mabagal ako kumain sya narin naghuhugas ng dishes habang ako kumakain while nood ng TV. Hahaha!

2. Super loyal and faithful. I know for sure na wala syang sideline na fling or whatever. Nag-start kasi kami na mas mahal nya ako kesa mahal ko sya. Pero ngayon palagay ko pantay na lang kami, humabol na yung pagka-in love ko sa kanya.

3. Kapag may ni-request ako ginagawa nya talaga, like get rid of his EX's pictures. Ang problema his mom (my MIL) grabbed the pics and itinago, sayang daw. Ggggrrr! Nag-unfriend din sya ng Ex's nya (dalawa) sa FB without me asking for it. Syempre happy ako na ginawa nya yun.

4. He trusts me with his money, transparent lahat ng funds nya.

5. He's willing to provide monthly allowance para sa mom ko (Right now I'm giving my mom monthly allowance pero I will soon resign and study instead, so wala na ko income). I try to decline his offer kasi breadwinner din sya sa family nya, kawawa naman. I will try to look for part time work na lang.

6. He considered my point of view about him financially supporting his jobless sister(27 yrs old) with a 4 yr old son (single mom sya). Sa sobrang bait, he was willing na hindi mag-work yung sister and sya na bumuhay for life (Grabe ha) along with my MIL na wala rin work. Pero now he started asking them to make an effort naman to help kahit very subtle and indirect. Ok lang sakin for him to provide for MIL (she's 54 yrs old) pero I thought SIL should work since malakas pa naman sya. Ang nangyari  baliktad, si MIL ang nakahanap ng work and SIL ang taga-alaga ng son nya. Oh well.

7. Kahit prangka ako, di sya nagagalit. For example, excited na sya magka-baby and ako medyo hesitant kasi, yung side ng family namin may mga relatives ako na may special needs (Schizo, epileptic, autistic), while sa side na family nya, napansin ko na may pagka-special child din both his sister and his nephew. Sinabi ko sa kanya, I'm scared na magka-anak ng special child, lalo na sa side nya super lapit nung lumabas. Hindi sya nagalit kasi siguro, kahit di nya aminin naikita din nya may truth sa sinabi ko. And then he convinced me, kahit ano pa maging anak natin, we'll be the best parents we can be. No need to be scared. Hay ambait nya.

8. Nag-aral sya ng PhD sa Taiwan and now na malapit na sya mag-graduate, he looked for a scholarship for me naman. Sabi nya para daw hindi ako mapag-iwanan ng mga friends namin na mga nag-masters na rin sa ibang bansa. College grad naman ako but our circle of friends are achievers in their field, so hindi lang sya nangarap for himself, pero sinasama nya rin ako. Because of his excellent performance, nag-guarantee ng slot para sakin yung dean nila sa sobrang pagka-impress kay hubby ko. Galing talaga ng PR skills nya. Hay.

9. Super joker and kahit sino napapaamo nya because of his humor and pakikisama. Love sya ng family ko and ng friends namin, while ako naman very introvert kaya mas lumawak social circle ko now because of his influence.

[sanchie]

ummm... mahirap i measure how much kindness he has pero I guess I can say na, putting up with my worst and bitchy moods, dun plang mabait na sya... Even I am not maasikaso, he still is head over heels inlove with me. He cooks for me and do things na minsan katamaran na, hehe... He makes it a point na he prioritizes what I want and what would make me happy... He said goodbye na to drinking & barkada since the time we started going out...and he is vocal with having a happy married life not just to me but to people around him lalo na sa office. He would skip workdays when I make lambing na dapat may family time kami (since our schedule won't permit us to have weekend bonding)...Mabait sya dahil even how tired, hungry he is, he'd wait up for me and never ko sya narinig sumigaw or ngreklamo. Usually ako pa mareklamo hehe... We;ve been together for 3 yrs and so far I cannot recall any instance na na turn-off ako sa ugali nya.  He's not perfect kasi wala naman ganun, alam ko lang he adjusts to me perfectly fine

[snowflakes]

ang swerte nyo naman sa asawa nyo... kakainggit.. hehe

[thess]

Sinuwerte din ako sa asawa tulad ni TS wala bisyo at di mabarkada ako pa nga nagpupush sumama ka sa ofc mate mo okay lang sa akin..pero di pa din abusado balance lang. Maaga umuuwi from work, tinutulungan ako sa gawaing bahay naglalaba at nagpaplantsa minsan binibilhan ako ng gusto ko pag alam na pagod ako binibilhan ako balot or red ribbon kasi fave ko,  sa gabi minamasahe ako pag masakit katawan ko...nung sunday nasira cell ko binilhan ako ng bago hehe...

[Dhee-Dhee]

Mabait siya dahil nasasakyan nya ugali ko. Kahit minsan para akong bata, madalas pala.. hindi lang minsan.  Bihira sya tumanggi pag may request ako, like mag jogging kami pag weekends or pag gusto ko mag mall. Pero minsan inaya ko sya sa divi, kasi gusto ko magtingin ng kung anik-anik, ayun.. ayaw ng lolo kasi mainit daw! 

[janix athena]

Sis snowflakes na-bother naman ako sa previous posts mo about your husband. Ayaw ka nya matuto mag-drive? Ayaw ka nya mag-aral ng kahit ano? Ayaw nyang may pera ka sa katawan at kahit may pera ka kinukuha nya? Tsk tsk. Takot na takot ba syang maging independent ka kasi pwede mo syang iwan? Anong klaseng asawa yun? Hay.

[beatrize zuri]

@snowflakes, ay naku sis kung di ka na masaya sa asawa mo. gora ka na! bitbitin mo mga anak mo,.teka sis ikaw ba yung may foreigner na hubby?

[snowflakes]

sis pinoy hubs ko. hehe mahal ko naman sha kaya nga tiis to death ako diba. pero i know lahat may hangganan din. matatapos din ito. alam ni Lord lahat sacrifices ko hinde man makita ng asawa ko gaano ko sha kamahal at kung ano worth ko as wife or tao, i know God  is not sleeping.

[sanchie]

Mahirap na talaga ngayon makakita yata ng men who are really mabait...kaunti nalang sila... Buti nalang I got one (Hoping na d sya magbago)

[mrs.S.]

In my own standards mabait si hubby in the sense na he is very concern sa akin. lately din he always check if im tired and he tells me to take it easy if i am tired. He helps with the chores, esp yung paglalaba ( washer naman ) he irons my clothes. He also offered to do the bed time routine of our only son - reading, freshen up before bed etc.

Although he drinks occasionally he doesnt smoke and he tries to eat healthy na din. He is a good provider too. Yung motto niya daw is "Happy wife Happy life".

Meron din siya mga bad points but thats who he is and thats part of him. And there are still days na hindi kami nagkakasundo but we try to communicate and talk para we can resolve it. I do keep a gratitude journal about himnkung bakit ako thankful for having him as my husband.

[Paperless]

ako personally, sobrang taas talaga ng tingin ko sa marriage as in sacred talaga siya for me. hindi ko masabing mabait ang husband ko pero so far, sa lahat ng nakilala ko, siya ang the best or pinakacompatible sa akin.

kahit anong galit ang gawin ko, never siya nagalit sa akin. kapag nagagalit ako dahil ang salbahe niya, medyo mangangatwiran na natatawa (aminado na mali siya)pero makikinig din. hindi ko na kailangan pumunta ng spa para magpamassage kasi mas magaling pa siya. namomonitor niya ang lamig ko sa katawan gumagawa siya ng problema pero hindi siya ang tipo na nahuli na, lumulusot pa. hindi din siya nambabae kasi di pa kami kinakasal, sinabi ko na kapag may ibang babae siya, huwag siyang umasang lilingunin ko pa siya. hindi siya matipid sa sorry at i love you at super sweet siya. lagi na lang may langgam sa bahay dahil iniiwan lang niya kung saan ang pinakainan niya pero siya ang tipo na lahat ng niluto ko, sinasabi niya specialty ko daw. lagi niya ako niririndi pero lagi din niya akong pinapatawa at pinapakilig. may ugali din siya na nangtetest siya ng tao like kung hanggang saan ka niya pwedeng galitin. hindi din siya mahiyain, close to makapal ang mukha at sobrang kuripot pero malaki din ang advantage kasi madalas, kaysa bilhin, nahihingi na lang niya  ang galing mang sales talk, ang nakakainis kahit sa akin ginagawa niya.

if ire-rate ko siya from 1-10 baka nasa 6.

[rianne_mallows]

mabait ang hubby ko.. pero parang mahirap yata magsukat..

mabait na siya nung una ko pa lang siya makilala.. when we became friends, lalo kong nakita yun kasi nakikita ko yun sa gawa niya kahit simpleng bagay lang... he would help oldies with heavy things; kapag may sumakay sa jeep na alanganin, uusod siya paharap; sa bus/lrt/mrt will give his seat kapag may elderly, pregnant, handicapped and may maraming dala;  nagbibigay ng food kung meron siya sa beggars ...  mga simpleng bagay lang.. aside from that.. he's honest.. sometimes way to honest for his own interest.. kahit ikakahiya niya pa, kesa magsinungaling, sasabihin niya yung totoo

nung naging kami na... mas naging malalim yung pagkakakilala ko sa kanya... i learned how big his heart is because of his capacity to forgive.. yung mga taong nanakit sa kanya emotionally, mga friends na ninakawan siya,, mga ex's na niloko siya, parents na iniwan sila, people na hinusgahan siya, people na minamaliit siya, at mga taong sinisiraan sira..   na sa lahat ng yun, wala siyang hatred.. wala siyang galit.. i loved him more because of that..  akala ko alam ko na lahat...

ngayon mag-asawa na kami.. mas tataas pa pala yung level... mas lalo kong nakita yung kabaitan niya.. very loving and patient siya..  he accepted me for me.. i have my own set of faults and he embraced it whole heartedly.. walang sumbat, walang demeaning words, hindi nananakit kahit na nag-aaway minsan. he is generous but responsible at the same time.. nakita ko kung paano niya i-value ang pamilya namin.. ang marriage namin.. and these things really make my heart melt everytime..madami pa.. kulang ang isang post para masabi lahat...

i wont say na mas bumait siya ngayon kesa dati... all i can say is that, as i get to know the man i love, nakikita ko pa lalo yung extent ng kabutihan niya..  siguro ganun na siya kabuti to begin with... hindi ko lang nadidiscover pa at that time..

[FayeP]

mga sis, thankful ako sa Lord na talagang sa asawa pinagpala Nya ako...

kahit madami ako pagkukulang sa Panginoon bilang tao, talagang binigyan Nya ako ng mapagmahal, matiisin at mapag arugang asawa..swear mga sis, no pagsisisi at all in my heart that we are together...

[Daenerys]

He is super bait. Wala akong masabi. Super thankful ako sa Kanya at binigay Niya siya sa akin.

[Dacian]

sobrang bait.

[mamapeew]

Hmm.. ang hirap sabihin kung "gaano" kabait. Unlike your husbands, my hubby doesn't do house chores (and I don't expect him to anyway), he doesn't massage me (unless I beg for it), he is not romantic (doesn't even schedule a date for our anniversaries and sometimes forget about it pa) pero he is not "masama" rin naman.

Eversince we got together, we have been in a long distance relationship. He works out of town and comes home for vacation every 3 months pero when we got married nakita ko effort nya na magpa-assign sa Manila. He really wants to be here lalo na nung nagka-baby kami. I can also see his effort na kahit malayo sya, nag-research sya how to take care of me when I was pregnant, he tries to familiarize himself with things that I like, he makes sure that we're comfy and safe kahit wala sya. Bihira kami mag-away kasi nga we try to make up for the times that we are not together so pag nagkatampuhan kami, hindi tumatagal ng isang araw (kasi sayang ang bakasyon nya). When we got married, he has extra money, he bought a 2nd hand car from his relatives para lang "hindi ako mahirapan" pag pasok sa work. He bought a condo for us kahit inutang nya rin from relatives (pero bayad na) para lang makabukod kami, he asked me to stop working when I got pregnant so I can take care of the baby and most of all HE GAVE ME HIS ATM CARD... hahaha...

But seriously, my husband is NOT PERFECT but he is PERFECT FOR ME. He sometimes forgets our anniversary, he gave me flowers ONCE lang when he proposed in our 10 years of being together (5 years of being husband & wife), he is not as thoughtful or as romantic as other husbands but as long as he loves me and my baby, he is more than perfect na for me.    

[janix athena]

^Aaww ambait naman ni hubby mo. Happy for you sis. You're right, wala naman lalakeng perfect, ang mahalaga, for us sya ang dabest.

[Filipinasadhart]

He is not my hubby yet, pero super mabait sya sa akin. He never leave me by my side... He is always there for me lalo na ngayon naguguluhan ako. He is not my ideal man pero sobra ako nahuhulog sa attitude nya. Hope hindi ako nagkamali at nabubulag sa pinapakita nya. He is really nice.

[mamapeew]

@janix athena: Thanks, sis. True, if your hubby makes you happy, it doesn't matter if he's not your ideal guy. Your ideal guy may not exist or may not be the right one for you anyway. I'm sure I'm not his ideal girl din naman. Haha...

@Filipinasadhart: I'm not sure if other wives here would agree with me, no matter how long you've been together (my husband & I have been bfs-gfs for 5 years before getting married), once you get married, you will realize na hindi pa yan yung totoong pagkatao nya. I'm not saying they all turn out bad in the end pero marami ka pa ring ikakagulat once you get married. Di nga ako naniniwala noon pag sinabihan ako ng ganyan akala ko kilala ko na sya talaga pero marami pa rin akong nadidiscover kahit hanggang ngayon. Married life is a learning process hanggang pag tanda ninyo.

[iflipcess]

Mabait ang asawa ko, naman yung fact na, natatagalan niya ako, di pa ba sapat na reason yun? Hahahaha, kidding aside he is mabait in his own way.  Like, money matters, halos ng sweldo nya alam ko pinapadala nya sa akin, never nya ako pinaghanapan, maski pede nya akong sumbatan. mabait sa anak, kasi he makes it a point na our kids are well provided, pag may problema ako, laging naka alalay, pag me topak ako di ako pinapatulan