After 7 years.. it's over dahil sa katulong

[calin22]

hello sis kleng.. ayaw ko sana magcomment ng flames pero bakit mo binawi ang bagay na binigay mo?? diba parang mali naman ata yan.. Mahal mo siya nuon kaya mo naibigay yun.. So hindi talaga maganda ang bawian ng gamit.. its just a thing ika nga. Naiintidihan ko naman yang nararamdaman mo pero mas maganda na hayaan mo nalang siya.. dont fight the fight na hindi na worth it.. in the end ikaw lang din ang talo.. I'd been there and it is not great.. you'll eventually regret what you did...

And sis, please avoid him na.. you're rubbing salt to your wounds.. mas mahihirapan ka magmove on.. (that is if you really want to move on)

[HoldingOn]

*I know I shouldn't be posting here at magagalit sa akin ang "doctor" ko, haha. I hope he understands 

I can't help but to comment (again) on your post, Sis klengmorales. Tama si Sis Calin22, hindi mo na dapat binawi yung mga naibigay mo na noon. A laptop and cp, how much did you spend for that? Yung aso, magkano yun? 150K maximum? But with what you did, you lowered yourself so much. Nagmukha kang cheap. Buti at hindi ka sinabihan ng EX mo na "Money can't buy anyone class". And the text message, do you really have to say "Ang kapal ng mukha mo"? Para kasing pinatunayan mo lang sa EX mo na dapat ka niya talaga iwanan because of how you're reacting now.

Don't get mad at me ha, this is just my opinion. I know how you feel, and I understand the pain that you are going through. But keep in mind that there are a LOT more other people out there who are experiencing (or have experienced) worst scenarios than yours. 7 years? maiksi pa yan my dear. Meron diyan, 10 years, 12 years, 20 years, saka sila pinagpalit. Meron din diyan na malalaman na lang nila may anak na sa iba partner nila. Meron diyan wala ngang closure, basta na lang nagdidisappear yung partner nila. Meron pa nga diyan, ikakasal na, sa harap na ng altar mismo, iniiwan pa sila - have you watched that Toni Gonzaga-Vhong Navarro film and the teleserye now at channel 7? Mas masakit yun di ba kaysa sa situation mo? Sa movies lang ba nangyayari yun? Hindi po.

How do you want other people to remember you?

"Ah, oo, nababasa ko mga posts ni klengmorales, yung GTalker na niloko ng boyfriend, paano naman kasi iba rin magisip yun, kaya siya siguro iniwan, dapat lang yun sa kanya"

OR

"Ah, oo, nababasa ko mga posts ni klengmorales, yung GTalker na niloko ng boyfriend niya, tapos naka move on. Buti na lang nalaman na niya ng maaga ugali ng boyfriend niya ano? Kleng definitely deserves someone better for her"

In the end, its up to you to decide on how you would like to be remembered, on how you would like to continue your life. Lalo na, lantad naman name mo dito, may mga common friends nga tayo ATA sa FB.

In pain? Cry, cry, cry, seek professional help, read self-help books, pray. May God bless you with healing and clarity of mind. 

[whitelady17]

sis kleng, all along akala ko break na break na talaga kayo, ayun nagkabalikan pala kayo. Sis wala namang may sabing madali ang mag move on, ang dumaan sa break-up. Pero kasi isipin mo si Kleng Morales before mo naging bf ang lalaking iyan, kung gaano kasaya ang buhay mo before. Go and seek the presence of your friends, mas kailangan mo ng support system ngayon eh. And stay away from his family muna, stop communicating with them, kasi mas lalo kang hindi makaka move on, simply because deep in your heart "umaasa" ka pa at patuloy na "aasa" because ikaw ang gusto ng family niya at hindi ang other woman.

[calin22]

^^
^I agree sa mga responses above..
Show him that hindi naman siya kawalan sayo.. minsan sa mga nailalabas naten na salita at sa mga action na ginagawa naten dun lumalabas ang breeding ng isang tao.. naiintindihan naman naten nagagawa mo yun kasi nga galit ka.. pero you know what, hindi mo yan mararamdaman kung sumasama ka sa mga tao na positive.. you need good friends to influence you to do what is right and what is wrong.. what you need is to get away from your current situation and step out.. umalis ka sa comfort zone, explore and have fun in a good way..

honestly sis, alcohol wont do you no good. Breakup + Alcohol = Disaster.

galing na ako sa napagdaanan mo sis, i was once here doing a thread and asking for guidance kaya naiintindihan naman kita.. kasi i really thought nung unang post mo break na kayo.. hindi papala.. imagine mo sis, alam mo na nakikipagrelation siya sa katulong at harap harapan ka na niloloko.. bumalik ka padin.. sis wag kang masokista.. hindi yan maganda.. (im sorry for saying this)

eto na ang last post ko sa thread na ito... and sana you'll be enlighten to do what is right.

Let Go and Let GOD.. Godbless sis!

[annika]

pero for me ha? ok lang na kunin yung gamit na binigay mo kay ex.. reason? eh kase baka ipagamit pa niya yun sa bagong gf niya yung mga bagay na niregalo niya.. mas nakakainis yun! in my own opinion lang naman

[k_heart]

Aba, kung ako, wala namang masama kung bawiin ni sis Kleng! Kasi practical akong tao.ha!ha!ha!Saka babae naman sya. Ang masama kung lalake si sis Kleng tapis binawi nya sa babae. he!he!

Pero sis Kleng, you should really make up your mind kung gusto mo talaga makipaghiwalay ng tuluyan. Kasi sa ginagawa mo, yung mga inroads mo before, medyo naderail na naman yung progress mo sa paglimot.

[rianne_mallows]

ako naman ok lang bawiin yun! sayang no! hehe... seriously.. hindi biro yun no... para makita ni girl ang gara ng lalaking yun... baka iniisip ni girl kasi pera niya yun.. its also a way para mapahiya si ex.. ganti na rin hehe... masama ba yun? eh siya naman ang nagloko... he deserves it..

kumbaga sa mag-asawa, palayasin sa bahay si lalaki.. tanggalan ng assests kung kaya din lang... hindi pwedeng mamunini yung kabit sa pinaghirapan ni wifey no

[k_heart]

^Agree sis, oks lang bawiin!ha!ha!ha!

[trishpassing]

I can't help but comment.

sis klengmorales, una sa lahat, mahalin mo ang sarili mo teh! Do you really think this person deserves a second chance? third chance? I don't think so. Kasi naman, yung 7 years relationship nyo nga hindi nya binigyan ng importansya... lalong lalo na ng RESPETO.. do you really think this man deserves to be loved by you? I really don't get it... why woman can love someone like this douchebag.. sorry but he really is a douchebag.

Ang mga lalaking ganito, hindi na dapat binibigyan pa ng attention, I mean, the more you give them even the smallest hint na you would always be there for them will always take you for granted.

Hindi pa kayo kasal, like the others here would say, it is a sign from the heavens above na you should get out of there. He being sweet is a trap. GET OUT OF IT!

*rant galore...sorry*

Eto na lang sasabihin ko sayo:

"Love yourself enough that even without him or any other guys, your life goes on."

Take the power and control over your life back sis. Maganda ang buhay. Maganda tayong lahat. Period.

[aquacharly]

KLENG, hmmmm.  You go back and forth with  this man, for reasons known only to you...  Akala namin, you  wanted to move on, not just roll over.  But that's  your choice, whatever makes you happy.

My initial  reaction to retrieval of gifts -- don't, hwag mag "rubber band".
Pero may point din naman  sina K HEART & RIANNE MALLOW....  so, sige bawiin mo kasi you feel it is just fair for  you to retrieve.

Bati,  break, bati,  break, bati -- 
Eto ang pananaw ko -- pag madali  ka ma convince makipagbalikan uli -- you can end up the Forever Spare Girl.  Yung pag hindi  sya involved or intresado sa iba eh nasa bakuran mo.
Now, if you cannot yet let go of this man kahit ga bundok reklamo mo sa kpalmukz gawa nya sa yo... KLENG, hwag mo i break.  Gamitin mo yung dialogue nang GF na naanakan ng isang artista na chickboy:  "Andito lang kami, para  dagdagan  happiness mo.  Pagtapos mo enjoy with your friends, kung may  time ka,  andito   Lang kami nang  baby mo.".  Reword na lang.

KLENG, take care of yourself. 

[annika]

and one more thing.. if you really want to move on.. eh dapat wala ka dun sa bahay nila ang dating kase sa kanya gusto mo pa din makipagbalikan kase lagi ka nandun sa kanila and lastly ok sige nice ang parents and mga kapatid niya sayo pero kahit magtumbling tumbling ka dyan blood is thicker than water pa din ok? 

[aquacharly]

May I share from a  book I am reading sporadically... while waiting for the elevator, while waiting for the car to get around to the lobby driveway,....  ...  oo, matindi ako sa pagbabasa... lol

From  John O'Donohue's  TO BLESS THE SPACE BETWEEN US:

            "Beginnings often frighten us because they seem like lonely voyages into the unknown.
              Yet, in truth, no beginning is empty or isolated.......
                               
                               Goethe says that once the commitment is made,
                               destiny conspires with us to support and realize it....
 
             A beginning is ultimately an invitation
                to open towards the gifts and growth that are stored up for us. 
                To refuse to begin can be an act of great self-neglect...."


So there, KLENGMORALES, take care of yourself.

[trishpassing]

Hala.. ayaw na yata ni sis khleng yung post na ito 

basta sis, hindi na uso ang martyr sa mundong ibabaw lal na kapag hindi mo pa asawa. nubayan.. charity work? joke!

[shalikah]

Every new beginning comes from some other beginning's end.

Enough said.

[momentum]

just sharing what Mother Abbess said to Maria sa favorite movie ko na "Sound of Music":

"When the Lord closes a door, somewhere He opens a window"

let's try to see beyond the dark sis, there is light at the end of this tunnel.
masyado na tayong nalalamigan sa dark, we need sunshine na 

*hugs* for you sis