After 7 years.. it's over dahil sa katulong

[klengmorales]

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[rainebowbrite]

Siguro talk to him muna. Ask him about the flaws na he said na meron ka and about thw two of you. If hindi ka satisfied sa answer, tapusin mo na yan. Ngayong bf/gf pa lang kayo eh ganyan na ginawa nya, sa akin e hiwalayan mo na. Siya na mismo nDon't think na sayang ang 7 years nyo together.

Masakit and mahirap pero ganun talaga. Malalampasan mo din naman yan. You sound like you're smart. Don't let fear hinder your decision

hugs, sis.

[rainebowbrite]

Mismong pamilya nya nagagalit na sa kanya di ba. Ibig sabihin nun, hindi mo imahinasyon lang na mali na ginagawa nya.

Siya na mismo naghahanap ng mali sa iyo. Pati ba naman "hindi ko na sya ginugupitan ng kuko at ng balbas" e isusumbat pa sa iyo. WTF.

You better get out. You'll be better off without him sis. Wala ka dapat ikatakot.

[calin22]

Sis, bakit sa palengke siya nagtratrabaho? wala ba siyang trabaho na hindi provided ng family niya? Tapos na ba siya mag-aral? Ilang taon na ba kayong dalawa? May age gap ba? hehe

tanong ko lang para makapagrespond ako sayo ng mas maayos

[chin66ay]

sis asawa mo na ba siya? kasal na kayo? if hindi pa, magpasalamat ka na lang at nakilala mo siya habang maaga pa. baka blessing in disguise

[honey_jhes]

sis better yun na nakilala mo sya habang di pa kayo kasal mahirap kasi kung may anak na kayo at kasal pa..be strong kahit masakit and pray to God he will help you..

[prettykhae]

@ sis TS- since delayed ka... kelangan mong masabi sa kanya... hindi pwedeng itago mo. after that, pwede ka nang mag move on... loko un a... tagal nyo na e! tsk tsk tsk... goodluck sis, kaya mo yan...

[calin22]

we're both 27 but he's still on this 4th  year i think isang subject na lang. Electrical Engineering student sya sa mapua. Kaya sya sa palengke kasi yun ang business nila. they sell pork.

I forgot to mention pala na 4 months na sila ng girl. nandidiri talaga ako. but at the same time hurt.

Ohh. We sell pork din sa palengke (pero supplier kami ng mga tindera) and we have a spot there too,   but you know what sis, my family does not want us na tumulong kami dun kasi ang mangyayari is di daw kasi kami matuto na maghandle ng isang family pag minana lang namen ang trabaho ng parents namen.. sabi ng father ko dapat matuto daw kami magsimula ng business sa sarili namen. Ang nangyari kasi sa bf mo is sheltered siya ng family niya and imagine mo the AGE OF 27 he is still in college, di ko naman din masisisi ang family ng bf mo eh pero I think they spoiled that boy too much. (like my bf right now, Haha) I think your bf stop aging at the age of 18... immature pa siya sis..

Honestly sis, masakit talaga yan.. pero thankful ka nadin kasi atleast alam mo di ka naman preggy.. what more pa kung preggy ka diba? at wag ka din maghinayang sis, katulong lang pala yung girl.. mean man to say pero yung mga katulong sa palengke are not pretty ah at mostly may accent pa.. I think you are better than dun sa pinagpalit sayo.. Advise ko nalang sayo is love yourself more.. magpasalon, magpabeauty at kung ano ano pa na self improvement..

And yeah, btw if you believe in GOD. Yang process of moving on mo mas mapapadali..

if you need a friend.. andito lang naman kami sa GT to help you out! Stay Strong

[calin22]

^we can be your friends sis.

[ishko]

@sis ts, congrats kasi hangga may chance ka pa ay nakalayo ka na sa ex mo.. lalong masakit sa ulo kapag mag-asawa na kayo.. surely makakahanap ka ng better man than him at magpapasaya sa iyo

God bless 

[azrael]

hi kleng, i think i was in your position dati. wala nang kaibigan masabihan, kasi nga napunta na sa guy ang mundo and all... pero you will bounce back. its good na siya rin nakita mo na na meron na siyang iba... the more you need to focus on your self and move on.
I would really suggest na huwag mo na rin kausapin family niya... of course they want you for their son - kung papipiliin ba naman dun sa ipinalit sa yo... diba? pero for your own good, siguro mas dapat na sarili mo na ang isipin mo.
When i was in your position, what i did was i pray lang ng pray. sobrang pakiramdam ko nga the prayers i had was worth a year or so... pero i found comfort sa pag pray ko, and dahil dun, never rin ako nakagawa ng bagay na pagsisisihan ko.
God has plans for us, find the courage po to look forward. 27 ka palang you are still young, and have the whole life ahead of you.
Mahal mo siya, and binuo mo rin pangarap mo kasama siya... pero mawala man siya, meron pa namang ikaw = yung pagmamahal mo sa kanya maibibigay mo pa yan sa ibang lalaki na magpapahalaga sa iyo... hindi yan mawawala.
If you need to talk, or just someone to listen to you, andito kami. please wag mo isipin na mag isa ka lang. maraming nag aalala sa iyo. okay?

[chin66ay]

for sure sis kleng you will find a better man! wag ka magdwell sa past. nung kayo ba nag grow ka as a person? were you a better person? Did he make you feel special? kapag nagtyaga ka dyan at nabuntis ka ng totoo baka maging hell na talaga buhay mo. be strong sis. big step na yang ginawa mo na nagshare ka dito sa GT. love yourself ulit.

[k_heart]

Nung una kong nabasa ang title, ang akala kong story ay husband and wife, tapos si husband, gf yung katulong nila. Yun pala hindi naman ganun yung story.
To the TS,yes you are still young and maybe,hindi lang talaga kayo para sa isa't isa.
 I think, isa sa dahilan kaya ka nasaktan ay dahil na-hurt ang ego mo. Isipin mo sis, kung mas yun ba ang dahilan kasi you feel na very inferior yung girl sa yo pero pinagpalit ka. I think, we should not be nandidiri to the people beneath us and just count our selves lucky na nakapagtapos tayo sa college and have landed a good job. I'm sure those girls na katulong sa palengke, will also want to graduate sa college, wala lang silang means.
(medyo OT sa topic yung iba kung sinasabi but i cannot help but comment). I think thatbworking sa palengke either as the owner of the stall or a helper is a very decent job and should not be frowned upon or look down.
Sis,baka rin na-outgrow mo na yung bf dahil working girl ka na at sya ay nanatiling student.
And maybe he wants to feel superior pag yung kasama nya sa palengke ang gf nya. Majority of the guys, always want na sila ang superior.
So analyze mo na lang din sis ang relationship nyo or what has been left of it.
I think that you have grown apart rather than sa nagkahiwalay ng dahil sa katulong.
Make this episode na lang in your life as a lesson for your future relationships. I'm sure you will find a better man! : )

[k_heart]

First bf mo ba sya sis? If yes, then its good na hiwalay na kayo. Mas ok pa rin na makipag date ka sa iba. Feeling ko, bukod sa talaga namang mahal mo sya, pwede ring i-factor, na comfortable ka na sa relationship mo at hoping na sya na nga ang first at last. I think, majority naman ng girls, ganyan ang thinking at isama mo ako dun. Dun sa first bf ko, na childhood sweetheart ko pa, ang wish ko talaga ay sya na ang makatuluyan ko. Lumaki din kasi ako, reading fairy tales na laging may happily ever after. Pero sa totoong buhay, hindi naman ganun. Nung nagbreak kami, i thought its the end of the world. Natakot din ako na magkaroon ng new relationship at yung thought na i will start all over again. But life is like that! Dating is actually fun. Yung harmless dating ha.
Don't be afraid to explore new territories, There's always life after a break-up. A better guy, na mas pasok sa mundo mo. And not this guy na mukhang, you have grown-apart na.
Wala namang namamatay sa heartbreak kahit gaano kasakit.
 
In the end, nahanap ko din yung talagang para sa akin, my husband! And im thanking God na di kami nagkatuluyan nung first bf ko. Although years yun before ko sya nahanap. College kasi ako nung nagbreak kami ni first bf. Working na ako ng nameet ko si future and now my loving hubby.

Fix your self sis, magpa beauty. Beauty is the best revenge! : )

Basta sis,wagmo na sya habulin.Kung ano nabigay mo sa kanya, wag mo na isipin,tutal binigay mo na yun na walang inaasahang kapalit. Wag ka na rin magalit sa girl kasi nakakapangit yun, at yung ex bf mo naman ang nanligaw sa kanya.

And pray sis for acceptance and guidance. Masakit lang sa simula pero gigising ka isang araw, na totally wala ka ng nararamdaman. 

[HoldingOn]

Hello Sis klengmorales. I want to give you first my virtual hug: hmmmmm! Mahigpit yan! Hehe 

Love is such a vague thing. Sari-saring debate kung ano ba talaga ang totoong pagmamahal. Paano ba ito i-eexpress, paano ide-define. May sariling definition ang mga feminist, may ibang definition mga activist, iba rin sa mga martyr, at iba rin sa mga spiritual.

As of now, sa tingin ko, sobrang naguguluhan ka pa sa mga bagay-bagay. Try mo muna gawin ito: try to think alone first. Assess your feelings, ask yourself: do you still want to be with him or do you want to let go? Do you want to win him back or do you want to leave him? Your answer should be specific, black or white, no grayish color in between. Listen to what your heart and mind tells you. If you believe in God (whatever your religion is), then pray. Ask for God's assistance. *Thanks to Sir CityHunter for continuously guiding me on this.*

Someone once told me: in the end, whether you decide to win him back or to give up the relationship, bottomline is, you should be a better you. Make it a win-win situation. Fix your inner self, bring out your inner beauty, then, from there, the rest will follow. If your relationship will still be fixed in the future, then, you are still the same klengmorales that he loved, only a better kleng. On the other hand, if you finally decide to let him go, then, you are definitely a new kleng for your new guy. *Thanks to Ms. BCR for these inspiring words*

Sis Kleng, you are stronger than who you think you are. Your mind and heart can do more powerful deeds than what you think you can do. Alam ko kaya mo yan *Thanks to Sis RHD for this*

May God bless you. Will say a short prayer for you tonight 

[k_heart]

^Ay naku sis, 101%, gigising ka isang araw na hindi mo na sya mahal! Medyo mahirap lang talaga,lalo na at first BF! But consider yourself lucky, the world is your oyster! Date,date and date basta't ready ka na. At least makakapag-compare ka pa ng guys. Mahirap din kaya yung first bf eh yun na ang magiging husband. Mas ok pa rin yung makaka-meet ka ng other guys and there are other guys na definitely better than him, Yung mas maraming things kayo in common at mas maipagmamalaki mo at mas mamahalin ka.

 Wag ka muna pumasok sa another relationship just to spite him or to show the world thatnyou have move on. Healing should come from within ourselves muna. Basta pag ready ka na at nakalimutan  mo na sya totally,then,that's the right time to love again! : )

[@play]

@sis ts nakuha attention ko ng title ng thread na 'to kaya napabasa naman ako..
just look at it as a blessing in disguise diba, at least now nakita mo na ano pala talaga sya, kahit pa tumagal ng 7 yrs para makilala mo talaga diba? at dahil dyan, Congatulations! makakapag-start ka na uli to meet new friends, discover life again, enjoy being single Good luck sis

[aquacharly]

haynaku KLENG:

1.  You cannot force anyone to love you.

2.  hindi dahil sa katulong sa palengke kaya ka na dump
     Kleng, he dumped you kasi over the period of 7 years... pareho kayo nagbago and well, kung ano man kayo now eh hindi yon ang gusto nya in a relationship

3.  It is really over.  Kita mo, kahit na akala nyo pareho pregnant ka na nga (4 months kang nakabinbin di ba?)  -- eh it was very clear to you both that he will not be around for you and the baby (kung nagkaron man)

4.  Hindi na yan talaga babalik sa yo, kahit na palitan nya pa as GF yung katulong sa palengke with anybody.   Even his parents know that.  Ano akala mo kung bakit ayaw ka nila papuntahin sa bahay?  hindi sa tinatrabaho nila na bumalik sa yo ang ex mo (who can do that anyway? wala)  -- but because ayaw na nila masaktan ka pa lalo kung ipagtabuyan ka or ignore ng ex mo.

5.  It is hard to move on.  Pero kung lagi mo compare sarili mo sa kanya.. na naka move on na sya at may GF pa... eh magmumukmok ka lang at iiyak talaga.  Hwag mo na isipin, hwag mo na isipin na talaga nalugi ka nga siguro sa relationship na ito.  Binigay mo lahat, ginawa mo lahat.. pero wala rin.

Pero KLENG ha, in a relationship hindi ka dapat nag lilista kung ano yung mga bigay mo (laptop, etc etc etc and your time and uhmmm)  Hindi ganon ang cuentahan between 2 people in love, kahit na ba the time has come na tapos na ang relationship.  Love gives freely with no intent of collecting... sabi ng lola ko. 

6.  Nobody will help you but yourself.  Kelangan tigil mo yang pag iyak iyak mo, mag make-over ka, make new friends -- hwag mo na hanapin mga friends mong iniwan mo 7 years ago.   
Kleng:  IT IS NEVER TOO LATE TO RE-INVENT YOURSELF.   
Ang nangyari eh you made yourself into the person you thought your ex would love... hindi mo na inisip ano ang gusto mong personality, ano ang gusto mong personal development mo... tapos pala, mali ang interpretation mo or basa mo sa gusto nya.  Do not take it personally.  Perhaps he also does not know what he is looking for.   

O  pwes, iyakan mo yan ng todo todo isang linggo kung gusto mo.  Tapos, tigil mo na.
yang support group, ok yan for say a month.  Pagkatapos eh tigil mo na yan.
Mahirap ata maka move on kung ang mga kasama mo eh lahat nag mumukmok... misery loves company, IMO.   

7.  PRAY that you will become a better person everyday.  hwag mo pray na madead-do si palengke GF or tamaan ng kidlat si ex mo.  Just pray for yourself.  Count your blessings too. May work ka, good!  Madami dyan hindi maka kalas or get out of a bad relationship, or cannot move on kasi walang self-empowerment.  You are in a better position than a lot of others, maniwala ka.

Take care of yourself.  Grieving for long  over a dead relationship is not taking care of yourself. 

[shalikah]

The only thing that is constant in life is change.

Well I don't want to get to the why's here you could deduce it yourself. Ask yourself: Why waste your tears on someone who never grows up? Who doesn't have any dream and goals in life? Ano ikaw na lang ang habang buhay na magsusupport sa kanya? Ikaw yun lageng magbibigay at iintindi? Ikaw yun lageng mag-aalaga? Gusto mo ba talaga yun?

The problem is masyado mong finocus yun mundo mo sa kanya. Dumating sa point na boring na... Wala ng bago sa relationship, wala ng challenge. Ikaw masyado kang fixated. Sa kanya lang ang tingin mo wala ka ng mundo kundi siya and it's really hurting you nun nasira un mundong yun.

Kung idedescribe natin para kang nasa garden of eden ng bigla kang nahulog sa isang water well, where what you could only see is darkness. You are afraid to step forward kasi hindi mo na alam saan ka pupunta. Gusto mong bumalik kung saan ka naglalaglag kasi you know there's the light, kung saan ka magiging happy. Pero hindi pwede kasi yun tali eh putol na. What you could only do is walk, gather your strength and walk through the darkness and coldness of the unknown.

Self worth and self respect. Learning to love and value yourself. Ito yun matutunan mo habang naglalakad ka sa darkness and coldness. There will be sleepless nights, you will be succumb by regrets and what if... Pero at the end of the day you will manage to move on. Katulad ng happiness in love, hindi rin permanent ang pain na dulot ng love. The first steps will be hard but as you move on magiging okay din ang lahat.

Makikita mo darating din yun para sa'yo. God will give you someone who will love you, in His time. Siguro mas better. Mas aalagaan ka, mas mamahalin ka and this time hindi na puro ikaw ang nagbibigay. Kung hindi man dumating at least you know how to stand on your own and be strong.

Pray and engage yourself with activities. Focus on your career. Enjoy life.

[stormy_princess]

alam mo sis kleng, lahat ng sinabi nila sayo tama. but in the end its your decision that really matters. sis, alam mo mahirap sa una. masakit lalo kaya hirap sa pagmove on. isipin mo na moving one is just like success, it doesnt happen overnight. It takes a lot of hardwork and courage. Head your self to one goal and work on with that.
If you were to ask me and if i were in your situation, i will let him go. why? its clear as crystal na hindi ka nya mahal. always remember, a cheater is always a cheater kaya be more careful.

tulad ng sabi ng iba natin sisses dito, reinvent yourself. magpaganda ka and happy for your own sake. at the end of the day, hindi ikaw ang talo sis! A better future with someone better that him is coming along the way:)