bestfriends? help me, i'm confused.

[chic_louisse]

If you are a girl and you have a guy friend and you sort of develop an intense feelings for the guy, would you tell him what you feel and risk the friendship? I have been friends with this guy and we work under one department, under one cluster and we sort of do stuff together. As time goes by, i felt something that ive never felt for anyone for a long time, he sort of giving me mixed signals so im confused if he likes me too.

But there's this one time, he held my hand, so we were like HHWW. i was surprised, i did'nt ask him about the "hand holding" incident though and we never talk about it too.

Now things are getting really out of hand because of so many things. I dont know, I want to tell him what i feel but i am afraid of getting rejected. He is just 23 and i am 25, as far as i know he only had 1 relationship with some girl before so me being the older one and more experienced one, in all respects, do i have to step up, take the initiative because i know better? What do i do?

[k_heart]

^Wait and see ka lang sis, Don't tell him anything. Kasi baka talagang friendly lang sya. Kung may gusto syang sabihin, dapat sa kanya talaga manggagaling.
Kasi halimbawa, sinabi mong love mo sya,tapos ok if he feels the same way, pero paano kung hindi? Eh di pati friendship nyo,magiging awkward.
Encourage him by being prettier everyday pero wag yung direstong ikaw ang magbibigay ng motibo na gusto mo sya. Let the guy runs after you!
 

[chilla12]

my advise to you you is ...just whait a litle and you will see what hapens.........

[Naughty^GuRu]

as a guy, i have to agree sa previous posts na wait and see ka nalang. Don't make a move, if he likes you, sya dapat yung gumawa ng way. But, try to give him clues na you like him. Some guys are really weak, torpe, and sigurista. Kaya may mga guys na kahit gusto ka na nila, hindi sila magmomove unless sure sila na may feelings ka din for them. On the other hand, I think yung HHWW is enough na to send him a signal na you like him. And please, if you don't want it to be more complicated, don't get intimate with him. Tama na yung HHWW. and wag ka mailang with him, that will send bad signals sa kanya. and for now, just enjoy the kilig moment. good luck 

[home_seeker]

I agree! let the guy make the initiative to start something. Nothing against girls making the first move, but sometimes guys really have to step up.

I had the same problem of confusion and just basically asking myself "what if maging kami?" with my former boyfriend. It really tested my patience and I guess common friends helped a lot because they would fish some details with the guy so somehow I had an inkling that he liked me. But I didn't do anything out of the ordinary. I would just give hints that I liked this particular movie... then that is an open invitation for the guy to ask me out on a movie date.

Konting pakipot muna just so that may thrill pa rin of the chase. =)

[TysLolakins]

yes, just play it cool lang, wait and see approach.  you don't want to be that girl who assumed too much and got hurt at the end.
enjoy what you have for now, savor the kilig moment (to yourself only) and if it's going anywhere, let him do the first move.

 

[hedonista]

sis pag ang mga ginagawa nyo eh pang mag-jowa na, time to ask na. baka isipin nya ganun ka rin sa ibang guys. na ok lang kahit hindi kayo pero nagpapahawak ka ng kamay. walang mag bestfriend na HHWW. Talo ka sis. Talking based on experience ako. He's now my husband. No problem in stepping up. You take every risk, kesa mafall ka ng ma-fall tapos pinapaasa ka lang! go girl!

[enilec]

My boyfriend and I started out as really good friends. How did we move up to the next level? Pakiramdaman lang din, after a long time (around 8 months). Being the girl, I advise you to wait, sis. Kahit na nagkakaroon pa ng mixed signals from time to time, eh hindi ka naman sure sa mga yun. If your friend comes to like you as something more, trust me you'll feel it, you'll know. Mararamdaman mo yun, kasi gagawa yun ng paraan para ma convey yung feelings niya, at hindi yung basta nagpapakita ng mixed signals lang. If and when that happens, I guess it'd be the safe time to confess. But imo, mas ok pa din kung sa guy manggaling yung confession

[chinablue]

same with what the other sisses said, just go with the flow sis. enjoy the moment. let him pursue you. if gusto ka talaga ng guy, gagawa at gagawa ng paraan yun to let you know. may mga bagay na hindi dapat minamadali. in the meantime, while you are waiting for him to do his next move, improve yourself sis. paganda ka. show him what he would be missing out if he will not pursue you.