what will you do if money steps in?

[Pepper29]

we had a 6 year relationship.there are normal misunderstandings and miscommunications but we manage to make it through until this time.

2years in the relationship i found out that he had been getting money from my own bank account. Because we are going 4years and counting,i trusted him that much.We already built plans for our own future and money wasn't that of an issue until one day i found out that he got money from my bank account without telling me.He said that he used the money for gambling.And promised to give it back.He was earning much so i believe him.But he didn't. our relationship went ongoing even with the money issues..I thought that was just money so its not worth our relationship but he went on getting and getting without my consent.How he got the money?He secretly get into my bag if he has chance,get the ATM and put it back without my knowledge.

Because there are trust issues already,we always fight.I had been so paranoid.i need to know every detail of his day. where he is,what he is doing.He even told me "nasasakal na ko sayo, ikaw na komokontrol ng buhay ko."paranoid na ko.i would always think he is cheating not only through money but on girls too.Maybe he just wont tell it to me like the money.I started checking his mails,his fb account and even his conversations sa YM.i found out that he sent a "hi, kamusta?" message sa ex-gf nya.It freaked me out. totoo pala na hindi lang money and problema..pati babae din.But when we talked, he told me that it was just a simple hi.But for me, the fact that he initiated the communication,it means something.

Lately i found out that all the money in my bank account was gone too.100++k.i love him that much but everything fed me up..i just cant trust him anymore.So i broke up with him.But today,i found myself still wanting him despite everything.What should i do.I cant tell my friends because i dont want to badmouth my x.6years is not that easy to waste.And i love him soo much.What would i do?pls help?

[juwie]

Kapal ng face ng ex-bf mo sis. Girl, he's been using you and it was just right for you to end it.

[chefron]

girl, better you discovered it earlier than suffer in the long run.

stay away from him since may bisyo na, ninanakawan ka pa. i dont think this is love kase kinukunsinti mo na ang mga maling ginagawa nya. youre not helping him.

baket ka manghihinayang sa 6yrs kung habang buhay mo namang ikaluluwag ang paghihiwalay nyo? i mean why let yourself suffer when you can be happier without him.

You can part ways without bad mouthing him, just tell them that you just realize what an *censored* he has been.

need mong mauntog sa katotohanan na ikaw na lang pumipilit sa sarili mo sa kanya.

[rianne_mallows]

@ pepper -

sis.. dont be too hard on yourself... we both know  hindi yung pera yung issue.. im sure everyone here will agree to that... what's bothering is the fact na ninanakawan/ninakwan ka..  so to ease your consience kahit konti.. let me tell you na hindi mababaw yung reason dahil hindi lang pera and dahilan.

you feel like you still want him back? normal yan.. hindi kita masisisi... hindi din biro ang 6 years.. PERO! hindi porket feel mo eh yun na yung dapat mo gawin..

may pamilya ka pa ba sis? friends? siguro naman meron... spend more time with them.. talk to them about it.. sana kotongan ka at batukan para mawala na sa isip mo yang "wanting him" 

you said so yourself... you cant trust him anymore...  save yourself from the misery of being trapped in an abusive relationship ...  i fear that if you still pursue the relationship with him, sa marriage problems thread na kita makita..

pray for enlightenment and strength.. 

[pretty_in_victorian]

^ i agree.. trust mo na yung brineak nya.. wag mo ng balikan yun kahit sobrang mahal na mahal mo sya.. it's not worth it kasi feeling ko magiging cycle lang yan.. like what rianne_mallows said, normal lang yung na you'll want him back pero he'll do it again and then you'll be paranoid again and then you'll want to break up with him again..

[Filipinasadhart]

For me sis , i suggest enough na. Mahirap ng ibalik ang tiwala. Kahit gaano mo pa sya kamahal kung paulit ulit nya naman gagawin sayo yun eh tama na. Aantayin mo pa ba mapuno ka ng sobra....
mahirap na kase sis kapag pera na aat tiwala ang pinagusapan. Kahit mahal mo pa sya kung niloloko ka naman nya eh wag na lang. Gamitin ang utak sis wag puro pagmamahal.

[baliwsayo]

Agree ako dun.. hindi naman dahil sa pera yan sis.. dahil sa pagnanakaw niya! Grabe ha.. stealing is a grave sin at that! (kasali yan sa 10 Commandments kaya).. helloooow!!! Wag mo na paghinayangan ang ganyang klaseng tao sis. Nothing time can heal naman eh so don't worry, you will soon forget him. Mag-date ka na ng iba 

[whitelady17]

sis, imagine mag bf pa lang kayo winawalanghiya ka na niya. I mean paulit ulit na ninanakawan? Tina timingan pa talaga. Kung ngayon nga eh hindi niya ma control ang pag sugal niya, what more kung mag-asawa na kayo? Gusto mo ba mangyari sa iyo ang napapanood natin sa movies at t.v.? iyong kapag walang pera bugbog sarado ang babae? If you can't even trust him with money matters, why will you waste your life to him?

Yes, matagal ang 6 years, pero baka naman ginagamit ka lang niya financially (sorry for the term) kasi he knows how much  you have. If ever, nag decide ka balikan siya, wala kami magagawa diyan, but then maybe instead of ATM ipa convert mo sa passbook, para mas mahirap ang access sa kaniya, then don't inform him bout your money matters anymore, be observant na lang kung magbabago ba ang pakitungo niya sa iyo or not.

Anyway sis, I hoping na maging okay ka kung ano't ano man ang mapag papasyahan mo

[RiverSong]

Normal lang siguro sis na nami-miss mo siya, that somehow you want to get back together. 6 years din kasi yun.

But you have to really cut your losses and move on tama na ang 6years at 100k. The guy has a gambling problem and if you didn't leave, he will take you down with him.

Isipin mo na lang when you get the urge to to talk to him or see him, that you deserve better. You deserve someone who will not abuse the trust that you have given them.

Be strong sis. Let go and move on. 

[k_heart]

Sabihin mo sis sa ex-bf mo na bayaran nya yung inutang mya na pera sa yo. It's good na naki-pagbreak ka na. It's a very good decision and a step in the right direction. Naku pag gambler,mahirap na baguhin yung ganung ugali. You are very lucky na nadiscover mo habang di pa kayo kasal.
And strongly control the urge na makipagbalikan. Normal syempre na mamiss mo kasi 6 years is 6 years.Papa saan ka ba sis, at makaklimutan mo rin sya pero wag mo kalimutan ang utang nya.

[muahmuahmuah]

shucks so walang paper trail. malamang he won't pay you back na. teka kaya ba mag withdraw sa atm ng 100k? was it in increments? you need papertrail atleast or get him sign something na he stole from you.  isipin mo nalang whatever karma you have with him paid off na with the money you lost or you paid him off to scoot out of your life that should be enough to not want him back plus he swindled you there's nothing attractive in that.

[quennna]

pepper...
kalokohan na babayaran ka.. major violation yang ginawa nya sa iyo..
ang magnakaw, magsugal, mawalan ng tiwala..
kung magkatuluyan man kayo.. habang buhay ka na lang bang maprapraning..
move on... find someone.. sasaket lang ulo, puso at atm mo sa lalaking yan..

[Filipinasadhart]

quennna : tama ka sis mahirap yun feeling na lagi ka may kaba. Find someone na mas deserving sa money at sa love na bibigay natin sa mga guy ;)s.   

[chefron]

asan na si Ts? 

[JINJIN:*]

let go....

Hindi pa kayo mag asawa ginaganyan ka na..so panu na pag conjugal property na yan, baka ubusin niya lahat ng pinaghirapan nyo ng wala kang kalaban laban.Trust me, mas madalingkang mananakawan pag asawa mu na yan, at hindi mu na yan mapapakulong pag asawa mu na.

At least maaga pa nalaman mu na.

[aquacharly]

PEPPER -- you are thinking of getting him back into your life?
What should you do?
Slap yourself back to your senses.

It is NOT a  money issue.
 It is an issue of trust (correct ka dyan -- magtitiwala  ka ba sa magnanakaw o manloloko?).
  As well as an issue of "reformability".  Hindi na nagbago after the 1st kupit, hindi ba?  Ayan, wala na makupit!

You say you want him back coz you love him?  Define "love".
A habit hard to break?
 Lust?  Hmmm, nothing wrong with Lust as the reason for wanting him back...but the price you are gonna pay to pander to that is in this case, IMO  lang naman, too pricey. Antayin mo ma bankrupt ka?

PEPPER, even if he earns billions -- a man who steals from a woman who loves & trusts him is no better than a bum. 
So, there... Do not regret the 6 years... Consider yourself lucky it is not a lifetime of misery...
So there, slap yourself back to your senses, darling.

Merry Christmas.

[aerish_anne]

when money steps in... make a grand EXIT... good bye boy!!

[ciacia18]

Love yourself muna.
Un lang ang masasabi ko.

[Filipinasadhart]

Billion liked aerish_anne.

[ysa.belle]

normal lang yung you feel that you want him back. nasanay ka kase na andyan siya, nakapaligid sayo.

bat alam niya ang pincode mo? hindi pa kayo kasal e niloloko at ninakawan ka niya kaya tama lang na you left him na. kase in the long run magiging pabigat na siya.

ang dami ng nakuha niyang pera sa iyo. dapat sa ganyan dinedemanda at pinapakulong.

if mahal ka niya at may respeto siya sa iyo, di ka dapat niloloko at ninakawan.