my mother has 2 primary Cancer how should i take it..

[newbeymum]

Year 2009 my mother was diagnosed with breast cancer stage 3b so her lest breast was removed. then she underwent 3 cycle of chemo therapy then she had another  series of lab tests to check if she is responding well with the meds. Unfortunately they saw another problem but this time its her colon and its not a metastatic cancer or yun lumipat na cancer from her breast but its a primaru cancer too. so meroon na sya sa breast meron pa sya sa colon. so they stop her chemo for the breast she had had operation sa colon then after chemo for colon stop na yun sa breast. when she finished her colon chemo naman she had another tests they found another lump on her right breast kaya the oncologist decided to remove na don her right breast para wala ng problem. then after a year may nakita nanaman ngayon sa liver nya and this time galing sa colon yun. Ang masakit stage 4 na rin meaning last stage of cance. her onco told me di na kame nag uusap ng 5 years survival rate dito kung di every year na ang assessment namin. I am so sad and i am havinga hard time accepting it. Im her only daughter and my kuya is in the home care kase alcoholic brother ko kya ako lang nag aasikaso sa mom ko together with my husband and financial assistant ng father ko though father ko may ka inlive in na mas bata pa saken. My heart is really breaking kase sobra bait ng mom ko and she doest deserve all this. I love my mom so much that im willing to give my life for her. di ko kaya makita sya mahirapan and di ako handa to let go of her. though aggressive naman treatment namin ngayon kaso lang depende sa body nya kung mag responce sya. her onco naman is from st lukes. Pleae help...

[ysa.belle]

pray for His help and guidance sis... be strong for you and your mother ...

[newbeymum]

pray for His help and guidance sis... be strong for you and your mother ...

thank you sis..

[k_heart]

Oh, my heart goes to you sis! Pray,pray and pray! Do you have close friends sis? You really need someone to talk to para mabawasan ang emotional burden. If you have a BFF or close kamag-anaks, talk to them as frequently as possible. Iba pa rin kasi pag may napapag sharean ka.
Acceptance also sis, prepare for the worst but hope for the best. Make this Christmas, very special to your mom!
Basta share ka lang kung ano ang nararamdaman mo sis! Will include your family in our prayers! : )

I'm also lucky that i have a sister that i can talk to. Pag nase share ko ang problems ko with her. feeling ko nababawasan at syempre Prayers! : )

[newbeymum]

salamat sis k_heart. i have friends nasasabihan ko din naman sila even my hubby araw araw na lang ako nakikita umiiyak pero when i am with my mom i need to show her that everything is going to be alright kaya ayaw ko pakita na nalulungkot ako dapat lagi happy moments lang when im with her kaso talagang sumasabog heart ko. it really breaks my heart everytime i see her in pain and inspite of what she is going through laging iba tao pa tin ang inaalala nya she really has a pure heart i would say. kahit mga anak ng dad ko sa labas tanggap nya ang nag aalala sya parasa mga half siblings ko. and she is even worried about me kase hirap ako magbuntis ttc din kame ng hubby ko. i am scared so scared sa mga pwedenf mangyari. i have talked to her onco this morning and she said crucial and 4 cycles na chemo ng mom ko. i dont know bakit ganito but i am not losing hope and i am holding on with my faith thatthe good Lord will be my strenght my mom's saviour. thank you sis hah.

[sweety_paige]

I will pray for your mom...

Pray Sis, we can't do anything but pray, God knows what's best for Us.

[binx]

don't lose that faith sis. As long as you have that, everything will be ok. God knows what's best for us. Yung father ko passed away because of cancer din. When we found out na may cancer siya, his doctors told us he only has 6months to 1 year to live. Pero 3 years din naextend nya. And i would say, i've learned so much from that 3 years na extension. I thank God for that kasi i've learned to be more grateful of what i have. I've learned to appreciate every thing around me.

Just pray sis.
Offer everything to Him.
His will be done.

[rheagirl]

i know this is not easy sis. i feel like no words can comfort you somehow. but more than anything else i really feel for your mom. hayyy ang hirap to be in her situation. you have to be strong for your mom. i pray that God will comfort you and give you enough strength for your mom and your family. Kapit sa diyos sis. walang impossible sa diyos coz he's our creator.

[nineteen90]

Aww..nakakalungkot naman.. Sis,try mo kaya siya ipa-consult kay dr.tam, he's a naturapathic doctor and forte niya yang breast and colon cancer..herbal medicine ang gamit niya..try mo lang, you can google it..napanood ko lang ito sa salamat dok. Hope this helps. God bless you and your mom.

[artegirl]

sis newbeymum, I'm so sorry to hear about your mom.  I understand the pain that you are going through. my mom has stage 4 adenocarcinoma (non-smokers' lung cancer), and it's really heartbreaking to see someone you love so much getting weaker each day.   I can just imagine how much more difficult it is for you since wala kang katuwang na siblings.  Kami kasi 4 kaming magkakapatid and we area all taking turns taking care of our mom.  Talking about what you're going through with somebody really helps.

sis, hindi ba kayo pina-prepare ng advance directive?  kami kasi the doctors are strongly recommending it kasi we only have less than a year daw.

sis, just a suggestion.  in addition to chemo, you may also want to try juicing.  We're giving my mom fresh carrot and green apple juich every 1.5 hrs.  popular ata ito sa alternative medicine?

keep strong sis.  by the way, baka "classmates"pa moms natin.  St. Luke's din kami.  sa Global City

[gab54]

sis, i understand your pain, i lost my dad sa lung cancer, he was 62 years old then. pero mas masakit sa akin my 39 yo sister was diagnosed w/ stage 3C cancer last december, her right breast already removed, she underwent chemo & radio, akala namin ok na, this august nalaman namin kumalat na sa bones at stage 4 na, one of her doctors told me she only has few months to live. shes so young, im very close to her, i imagined if mawawala siya parang ayoko narin mabuhay... 
i pray for her everyday, i pray w/ my husband and 2 kids everyday, i know God is good, He is able, and willing to answer our prayers. kaya i chose to believe, some people advise me to be prepared kasi stage4 na, pero i refuse to let go of my faith, i know nothing is impossible w/ God. even if God wants to take her na, i will bargain w/ God, i will keep on believing & praying till the very end...
in the meantime, i always encourage her, i help financially, i always find ways to let her know how much i love her, make her laugh, most of all i ask her to receive the Lord as her Savior & Lord, whats the sense of her living a long life here on earth but loses her soul afterwards, it's better to live an quality life here on earth, and when the right time comes, she will rest w/ our Lord.
death is something we cant escape, all of us will meet death one day, but to have Jesus in our hearts, we will have eternal life.

[risse21]

Be strong. Malalagpasan nyo din yan. Always pray. God is with u.

[newbeymum]

thank you for all inspiring words. its really hard to accept that my mom wont stay longer di ko nga kayang tanggapin that she has cancer tapos sinabihan pa kame ng doctor nya na survival rate is less than 5 years tapos 3 years daw is a miracle. kumbaga every year daw is a challenge. she just finished her first session of chemo last week then next session will be on jan 3. bale 4 cycles is very crucial. i am so scared pero dahil sa prayes din na lumalakas loob ko and nawawala yun mga takot ko.

[Cheesecak3]

Sis, I will pray for your mom.

[aquacharly]

The best thing to do really is to pray, and think though clearly what protocol is best given  your mom's unique situation. Get more than 1 medical opinion. Combine it all with  Alternative Medicine -- doesn't harm them. 

Take each day as a a gift/opportunity to share your love for  each other.  Get your mom into whatever activity calms her, gives her satisfaction.   

Be strong. Part of that means you must accept what cannot  be changed.  Leave it all to God's will, while you do everything within your power to help your mom.   It is also very important you take care of yourself, do not get overstressedv- regardless.

God bless you with greater strength and clarity of mind, in this trying phase of your lives. 

I will pray for your mom. 

[red_one]

nakak-relate ako sayo sis, kasi my mother died due to breast cancer. so i know how you feel.pero maswerte pa rin mother mo kasi you have the means para lang maka-survive sya sa sakit nya. kasi sa case ng mother ko hindi, kasi nag-aaral pa kami lahat magkakapatid that time kaya super trouble pag puro gastos na pinag-uusapan.
sis, siguro yung lahat ng possible na makakatulong sa paggaling mother mo, gawin nyo. marami nang naglipanang alternative medicines satin, bukod pa sa mga binibigay ng mga doktor.
and huwag nyo ipapakita sa mother sa nyo na pinanghihinaan kayo ng loob, ipakita nyo sa kanya na kakayanin nyo yan. para pati sya at yung buong body nya eh lumaban din.
and best of all seek for God's healing power.
im praying na sana malagpasan nyo yan ng mother mo. Godbless to you and your mother!

[superk8]

Godbless sis and you're mom din. Do everything. May mga cancer survivor na diba, madami. You're mom can be one of them. Never ever lose hope. Hangga't nabubuhay, may pag asa. Above all, pray. Pray hard. Trust him.

[lonelymiss28]

Sis, be strong naiyak ako sa story mo. alam mo sis kahit na anong misfortune ang dumaan sa mama mo maswerte pa rin sya dahil may anak syang katulad mo. Make the most of her days and make her feel na andun ka lagi at di mo sya pababayaan. Lam mo sis napakalaking bagay na ma feel ng isang taong may sakit na may dumadamay sa kanya at sa sitwasyon ng mama mo ay ikaw yun. I will pray for your mom and also for you para maging strong ka pang lalo.

[newbeymum]

salamat sa lahat ng bigay ng comforting words and inspiring words.. this feb 3, 2012 my mother will have her last chemo session then she will have sets of lab test to see if she has responded well with the chemo drugs.. I am scared but im praying that things will be better.. i am so full of emotions stress level ko ang taas taas na. I am willing to give my life for my mother.  i am scared of death not for myself pero yun ako yun iiwan ng mahal ko sa buhay lalo na pag mother pa. di ko ma imagine pag dumating yun time parang feeling ko baka di ko makayanan. I have experience na mamatayan before yun maternal grandmother ko and my grandfather sa dad side. yun sa lola ko masakit din kase sya rin tumulong magpalaki samen and i had a hard time moving on that time kaya i am so scared paano ko kakayanin pag sa mom ko. everyday naiiisip ko na parang nababawas time ko with my mother parang time bomb.. takot din ako makita na mahirapan sya. Im praying so hard and i know pakikinggan ako. thank you sa mga prayers na offer nyo for my mom did sana talaga she will get well soon and maging cancer free sya bec she is a good person..

[lavieenrose]

Wishing your mother well and hoping for great post-chemo results. Stay strong. Please don't believe in the statistics, my loved one was told to have six months and by the grace of God, still with us after almost seven years. I know that this ordeal causes so much stress, tears, and pain, both on the patient and the caregivers alike. You are not alone and many people are also dealing with this. God bless you and your mom and be well.