anong gagawin mo pag nalaman mong may kabit ang husband mo?

[klengmorales]

Leave... once is enough.. twice is too much ... three is a crowd

[chicafabulosa]

di ako aalis. aba sinuswerte yung palaka na yun kung mapupunta si hubby sa kanya. and instead magpapaganda ako lalo, and di ko sya gaano papansinin. for sure, makikita nya nagbago ako towards him and mas makikita nya na mas maganda ako sa palaka nya. and as for the girl, yun nga lang ingat sya kasi for sure mabubura face nya sa akin pag nagcross daan namin..

glad tapos na ako sa phase na to hahaha.... matira matibay.. eh mas matibay ako so sorry sila. plus super sorry naman si hubby sa mga ginawa nya. and from then on, pang asar ko sa kanya yung mga chakang palaka na sinabay nya habang buntis ako.. di nya matake panlalait ko eh.. pero tinatawanan ko na lang now.. honestly mga sis i didn't know I can be stronger more than I can think of.

[Michipot]

^ Marriage Encounter Weekend seminar... pang strengthen ng relationship yan sis... usually Friday night up to Sunday ang retreat na ganyan... kami noon sa Tagaytay.. parang honeymoon nyo yan hehe

[jhenpretty]

Hindi pa kami married, kaya kung malaman ko na may kabit siya. Maghiwalay na lang kami.. Magsama sila.. Pero kung kasal na kami, baka sakaling pag-usapan pa namin yun para maayos..

[peenitokss]

sis michipot, saan kayo nag attend ng marriage encounter weekend seminar?

sori OT

[sk8rboyswife]

^me too! same question sis. pa-pm na lang

[candi]

^^ same question din. TIA

[ayami]

^^^ Hello interested din ako sa info about ME sis thanks!

[kookieandcookies]

LEAVE. trust is a big thing for me, once it's gone, everything is gone ~
lagi na lang ako mag-iisip, magdududa if we would still be together.

[frankikay]

maghahanap din ako ng magiging kabit ko, aber!ahahah.

[candi]

For me, I believe Love is lovelier the second time around if there's still love ha? Baka naman wala na talaga wag na ipilit, dapat both may love pa din. In my case, I got mad, hurt, insecure. I left the house pero sobrang nagsisi sya, binawi nya kami sa parents ko. I forgave and is still learning to forget the past with his help na din. Syempre paranoid pa din ako but he make sure na lagi syang andyan esp. when I feel paranoid. Naging honest na din kami sa isa't isa to tell how we feel everyday. Parang mas sya nga naging paranoid kasi he kept asking if I'm ok. Natatakot daw kasi sya na iwanan ko daw sya ulit pag na paranoid ako or maalala ko yung pain and everything. It's like a brand new life for us, parang nung bago pa lang kami pero mas stronger now. Syempre naisip ko din mga pagkakamali ko like I took him for granted kasi nga naiinis ako sa kaya, mga problems na di namin pinaguusapan na naiipon and then lagi na lang akong inis sa kanya until it became a cycle but I told him na cheating is never an excuse kahit Naging ganun ako, pareho kaming may fault. Kaya now wala ng pride pride wala ng pakiramdaman, sabihin agad if something's wrong and deal with it. So far we're truly happy naman and sana mag tuloy tuloy lang. 

[mae18]

di ko alam, and i cant even imagine... although may mga siraulong papansing mga babae na lumalapit at umaaligid eh, di pa naman, and wag naman po...

Basta feeling ko magwawala talaga ako nuon, yun tipo bang magiging Incredible Hulk ako... tas manghihiram talaga ng mukha yun babaeng yun (kun sino man yun) sa aspalto! at ke hubby, gigilitan ko o kaya puputulin ko na yun! tas lalayasn namin ng anak ko para parehas silang di mapakinabangan! 

[Michipot]

same tayo ng situation noon at ngayon sis.. parang honeymoon stage and talagang pinaguusapan na lahat.. di kasi open ang communication noon dahil sa pride.


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[sumtingnew23]

Hala! swerte naman ni number 2 if you will just give her your hubby..for me fight fight for it, make sure you go extra in all aspect, double paganda ako, extra sweet, cook his favorite meals and so much more.. I had a boyfriend before..aba while I was working abroad e nag add pa ng isang gf tapos when I found out and confronted him he said e nalungkot daw siya, then I asked him what are we going to do? He said he wants to see me when i go home and then he will decide daw who he loves more...WHAT!!! HAHA..super kapal ng mukha, he who cheat is he who will choose! ganun gusto niya mangyari, good for me i decided not to see him.ano siya swerte! dun na lang siya sa low class girl niyal hehe. anyway good thing I married my hubby, he's very sweet and loving and promised not to cheat.pero you never know kaya always be armed and ready if ever :-)

[candi]

 

same tayo ng situation noon at ngayon sis.. parang honeymoon stage and talagang pinaguusapan na lahat.. di kasi open ang communication noon dahil sa pride.


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Ako na Ito sis? yep parang honeymoon stage or bf/GCF stage kami ulit ngayon. And btw, he didn't have a kabit ha? He hired a b**** lang so I think lesser ang dating ng pain sa akin?

[bubblepop]

.,its easy to say Leave,pero naisip ko lang kung mga hubby natin ang umalis what will you do?paano natin ma ipaglalaban ang marriage natin?kung may mga sis na nakaranas ng ganito please share it will be a big help ,(though di pa naman ginagawa ni hubby)

[Michipot]

For those who are interested to attend a couple seminar to renew your love and rediscover one another... we have an upcoming Marriage Encounter Weekend on Jan. 18-19 (it starts at Friday evening).  Let me know so I can register you.  Free yung seminar.  You will only pay for the board and lodging.  If makahanap ako ng magsponsor, baka maging free yung board and lodging nyo, just let me know ASAP.  thanks! Pls PM me so that I can be notified via email...

[legalwife]

currently coping after finding out about my husband's betrayal...buong buo ang tiwala ko sa kanya pero nagawa nya pa akong lokohin, and although he said he's sorry parang di ko ma-feel yung sincerity nya or ayaw ko lang tanggapin pa talaga.  Umiyak, nagwala, nanumbat, nagtanong, nagcompare...binato ko sya ng electric fan (hulk mode) at kinalmot pero parang di pa ako kuntento...gusto ko maramdaman din nya yung sakit na sya ang cause.  haaayyy....only consolation, wala kaming kids na makakawitness sa mga pangyayari na yon.  we will talk kahit ayaw na nya balikan pa ang issue, and then try the marriage encounter. pero hindi ko basta basta lang hahayaan na mapunta sya sa iba ng ganun kadali!

[Pookiekai]

Sabi ko sa asawa ko, pag nambabae sya (ulit) lulumpuhin ko sya. Sagot nya, mag aalaga pa raw ako sa kanya.... Sagot ko naman, sino naman nagsabi sayo na aalagaan kita after kita lumpuhin? I'll just place you in an empty room, na walang bintana, and you could just rot in your own sh** there while I'm enjoying the fruits of your labor.

The first time he cheated on me was with a married woman he met on board while working in a cruise ship. Anlaki ng kasalanan nya sa akin kasi ni hindi na sya umuwi sa akin nung sumakay sya. (We were secretly married so I just kept silent dahil ayoko rin malaman ng parents ko ang ginawa kong pagpapakasal ng lihim.)

To make the long story short, narealize din nya siguro na walang pwedeng pumantay sa akin hahaha...ayun, bumalik with matching ligaw at pamanhikan para ipaalam sa tatay ko na kasal na kami. Tanggap naman ng family ko, so wala kami naging problema. Sabi pa ng tatay ko, kahit nagkamali sya, ang mahalaga, itinatama nya ang maling nagawa nya, kaya sobrang mahal ng asawa ko ang tatay ko dahil sa pagtanggap na yun sa kanya despite ng naging kasalanan nya sa akin. 

So far, wala pa naman syang kalokohang ginagawa mula ng magreconcile kami, anim na taon na rin naman. Super bait, mapagmahal, maasikaso, at good provider. Siguro naman, nadala na sya sa nangyari. Kaya pag me mga friends na nagloloko sa mga asawa nila, mega advice sya based from experience. Lagi nyang sinasabi, malas daw sa buhay ang mambabae. Laki nga daw ng pasalamat nya sa Diyos dahil binigyan pa sya ng isa pang pagkakataon na makasama ako ulit.... Pag mga ganung usapang lasing na ang naririnig ko, nangingiti na lang ako. Sana nga, wag na nya ulitin. Kung hindi, lulumpuhin ko talaga sya!

[jjqxiv]

Before the first time my husband cheated on me, I used to tell myself na hindi mambababae yung asawa ko, sobrang confident ko nun kasi alam ko hindi nature yun ng asawa ko. But I was wrong, not just once but thrice. Yes, 3 times ko ng nahuli na may babae yung husband ko (If you want to know more about my story, it's in my thread) So now I learned my lessons, we're separated already. Tama na siguro yung magiging martyr ko ng 2 beses. I know I don't deserve how my husband treated me, so I always put in my mind na I deserve more than this and God has better plans for me and my children.

But sisters, if kaya pang ayusin yung relationship nyo, pilitin nyo. Specially if you have kids, kung hindi madali sayo yung pinagdadaanan nyong mag-asawa, mas hindi madali sa kid/s nyo. But in my situation (I have 4 daughters and currently pregnant), alam kong hindi na kaya pilitin na ayusin kasi lalo lang magiging malala. God bless everyone!