How do you manage to take care of a toddler and a newborn

[myles_away]

Hi, I have a 1 year old daughter and will be giving birth to our second by  feb. it is unplanned pregnancy kasi but I thank God for this another blessing. I hope you can share your experiences and opinions  on how to manage taking care of your 2 babies. not to mention having issues with mil whos quite opinionated and pakialemera. Im just thinking it would be more challenging this time..hayz. Thank you so much!

[blooming]

Sis, first of all congratulations!  Indeed a blessing.

Hindi sya magiging madali.  I cannot tell you what exactly you should do kasi I did not experience it myself, pero ang masasabi ko lang time passes by quickly, before you know it,malalaki na mga anak mo.  Kaya enjoy these times when they are small. Habaan mo ang pasensya mo. Always talk to them, be with them, play with them. 

Ang alam ko lang sa pag-aalaga ng - (1) establish a routine. Once you have a routine, everything falls into place. (2) dapat laging well fed, complete sa sleep si baby. less cranky or less iyakin - at laging smiling sila kung ganun.

[myles_away]

hi sis blooming, thank you so much for your reply and advice. God bless!

[k_heart]

working mom ako, nung nagbuntis ako sa bunso namin, 4 or 5 months pa lang yung isa kong kid.
Hubby namin is always asdigned to different places, so parang 4 times a year lang sya sa house.
I get by by having a very good yaya, make them 2 na hindi galinh sa agency and with the help of my mom! In fairness, i did not stop working kahit magkasunod sila. Kinder and grade 1 na sila ngayon. Nasurvive ko.
Then naremember ko nung nasa US kami for a month, 3 and 4 years old naman sila during that time at kasama ko hubby ko, syempre walang yaya at katulong. Hati kami sa duties ng hubby ko, at tama yung isa nating sis, meron kaming routine at sked.
Pag sa gabi rin sis, dapat lahat ng gamit, within your reach. mag stock-up ka rin sa gamit para hindi ka rin mangangarag na bigkang wala ng milk or diapers.
A good crib is also a must, na pwede mo iwanan saglit si baby.

[mamapeew]

Thanks for this thread. I have a 3yo daughter and planning to have another one soon and ito rin ang kinatatakot ko. I don't know if I can handle 2 kids pero I know deep in my heart na gusto ko na ng pangalawa. My hubby also works out of town and comes home every 2 to 3 months. I know since gusto ko ng baby, I have to make it work. Isa pa kaya nagaalinlangan ako, I love my first-born so much na feeling ko mahahati atensyon ko kung maging dalawa sila. Gulo no? Hehe... Isa pa, my mom recently passed away. Sya ang tumutulong sa akin pag wala si hubby but now.... I'm praying very hard na ma-assign na si hubby dito.

[aquacharly]

I managed  a toddler,   newborn, our family business, my own business interests, &  a demanding husband.  I do say, modesty aside, I did well; by the grace of God. 

My Guidelines:

     Establish your priorities at once;  and be guided by these every day. 

     Keep it all as simple as possible, everything you do, everything in your home and workplace.

     Regularize what you can, and marshall sufficent resources for each component.
           Ex.  Have a 2week menu, pwes plan your marketing weekly,  your groceries monthly, etc
           Ex.  Check your kids have enough milk inventory; enough clothes as in hindi  naghahabol if the laundry is delayed due to bad weather or a lavandera that's  absent.  Provide for all your kids' daily
requirements para never sila mapabayaan even if it's the yaya there caring for them.

     Plan out what you  can, as much as possible.  The less bulagaan,  the better/more efficient and
orderly your life.
   
      Get assistance where you  can, as much as you can.  Think: yaya, house staff,   mom, sister/s, MIL, 
hubby even.  BUT be clear always, as to the help you require and how you want it done.  Pathetic at times, yung dapat help you eh creates more complications pa  for you -- avoid that scenario.

And then, but of course! Pray, and do not panic.  Take care of your physical & mental health. Do not stop growing intellectually.    Enjoy your kids, your hubby, your being alive and being so blessed! 


     

[babythug28]

i'm looking for this kind of topic too. although mejo madali na for me since turning 5 na yung eldest ko, ang prob ko ngayon eh kung pano ko matutukan yung pag aaral nya since demanding pa din sa time yung bunso (just turned 1). ang hirap turuan ng panganay ko kasi imbis na makapagfocus sya, naiistorbo ng bunso kapag nagta-try na ko magturo.

so hopefully mejo makapag adjust kami pareho ng eldest ko para makapag aral din sya ng maigi this summer.

[mbeeyap]

same tayo sis. i have a 1yr old and i'm 7mos pregnant right now. my partner and i will be looking for a yaya para sa 1yr old, and when i get back to work, MIL will take care of our newborn. hope everything works out fine for us. agree ako sa establishing a routine. and thanks so much sa inputs ni aquacharly. 

[babythug28]

^ i'm a SAHM naman sis and my mom sometimes help me out (like washing the dishes, cooking food for the kids, etc.) basta minor things lang. though she doesn't take care of the kids, help na din un.

i want a yaya sana kaso bukod sa fear (natrauma na sa unang naging katulong), ayaw ng mom ko na may ibang kasama sa bahay. so tiis na lang talaga muna at tyagaan

[mbeeyap]

ako naman personally ayoko ng yaya, but now na magiging dalawa na ang kids namin, i would really need an extra help. tsaka gusto ko kasing may matatanungan ako ng mga nangyayari sa bahay and sa mga babies ko, like ano activities nila the entire day, bakit madungis si baby.. at may mabibilinan ako na wag mong ipakain ang mga ganito ganyan kay baby. eto lang ang panonoorin nya..etc. yung mga ganun, which i can't bring myself to ask from MIL. 

sa side ni hubby, sanay na sila sa mga yaya. kaya marunong na kumilatis. sa side ko, never kaming nagkayaya/helper while growing up. mama ko lahat. kaya bilib ako sa kanya!

[babythug28]

^ same here.. first time kami nagkaron ng semi-katulong (kamag anak kasi) last year lang. si hubby din yung sanay na may nauutusan. he tried looking for a yaya nito lang Feb, pero wala ng gustong sumama papuntang Manila coming from Leyte. mahirap na makakuha ng matinong yaya ngayon hehe

[ri-anne]

i was able to do these, thank God and i'm past this stage bec my kids are now 6 & 3. Pwede nang tumulong sa mga simple chores. Mind you, wala kaming katulong or kamag-anak to help (we're not in PI)

When they were younger, it was really challenging. SAHM ako so talagang natututukan ko sila.

Like what other posted, establish a routine.

When they're taking a nap (make it na sabay nap time nila), sabayan mo bec you need all the rest you can get.

While teaching my eldest, para hindi manggulo si baby, i would always give her something to play with..
As they grew older, when ate is practicing, reading, writing, learning mathematics, spelling, my baby is always around. I give her crayons and paper so she can doodle or draw... Hay naku mga sis, ngayon at 3 yrs old, andami na tuloy alam nun for her age...paano naexpose ng maaga at lagi nkikigaya sa ate... Kung ano tinuturo ko sa ate, gusto nya sya din...

Sanayin mo din yung eldest mo na hindi ka lagi nakatutok sa kanya...I mean, give him/her some time alone... Tme alone to explore toys on his/herown (of course provided busog na, well rested,etc) ... Para maasikaso mo si baby

At siempre, it will also a great help if tutulong sayo si hubby...tag team

Enjoy nyo lang kasi ang bilis lang ng panahon... Before you know it they've gotten big and all grown up na.

[iamgold]

Establish discipline specially dun sa panganay..mahirap talaga sis mag alaga ng bata it takes alot of pasensya and pang unawa. You have to be loving but firm at the same time..palage mo lang i involve yung panganay sa pagaalaga kay bunso para di siya magselos and lambingin palage si panganay sabihin mo you are a pretty ate or poging kuya..and held your panganay let him or her hear your heartbeat.and palageng mgpray kay God na maging mabuti tayong mga mom sa anak natin..wala namang formula talaga sa pagiging nanay.goodluck sayo sis and Godbless your family

[mbeeyap]

^ worry ko nga sis na magselos si ate sa new baby kahit 1yr old pa sya alam na nya magselos kasi.

[iamgold]

Basta sis palage mo i involve yung panganay always tell her na ate or kuya we love you so much and si baby like na like ka niya maging playmate make her feel na ate na siya or kuya na siya..and paglabas ni baby pag first time na mag vivisit sayo sa room give your baby a gift tell her or him that naging mabait siyang kuya or ate kaya the bunso ask you to give it to him
Or her

[mbeeyap]

 

pag first time na mag vivisit sayo sa room give your baby a gift tell her or him that naging mabait siyang kuya or ate kaya the bunso ask you to give it to him
Or her

i like that idea sis. thanks!