sex as cause of break-up...

[cookiee]

im just reposting my post in the SEX section about "sad feeling after sex"...

my boyfriend and I have been together for more than 4 years. and I must admit na wala parin ako sa comfort zone of doing the deed. Nothings wrong about my boyfriend. he is nice and never naman na hindi siya nagcare for me. though SEX was always an issue for us.

for the past few days, I felt guilty and scared of doing pms. maybe its my belief that keeps on holding me back as well as the consequences. Additional responsibility is not an option kasi nga he's father died so andami nya ng responsibility sa family nya. e kung kami nga as magbfgf kulang ng time how much more pa if may new responsibility. we are careful naman of doing it kaso lang natatakot ako what if we missed it.I told him na never na muna kami mag sex until everything is legal. he got angry kasi daw i was deciding things for me lang. na i think always within the box, not considering his feelings.

mali ba yun mga sis? how can we compromise each other if all i wanted is to abstain na muna. its painful for us to break up because of sex. but i don't think i can give it to him full heartily right now at ayaw ko na magdagdagan pa worries ko and madagdagan cya ng responsibility.  my heart is broken right now...

i don't know what to do now. should we take a break?.. hope you can enlighten me..

[princess27]

hindi naman kailangan mag-break, nasa paguusap pa rin yan...
kung mahal ka ng lalake, tatanggapin nya ang desisyon mo, sure ako jan.  kase kahit naman syempre, lalaki, may urge, i think, if a guy loves you, mas importante pa rin ang nararamdaman mo more than hi urge. tsaka, more importantly, dapat magagawa mo ang lovemaking ng buong puso, mahirap yang gagawin mo ang isang bagay halfheartedly. 

im sure, mapaguusapan nyo naman yan. just open it up to him, wag yung mag-aalburoto sya kagad. syempre, tumagal kayo ng ganyan, nabigay mo at napatunayan mo na sa kanya kung gano mo sya kamahal, baka naman this time, puede naman na sya ang magpatunay na ganyan ka nya kamahal, dba?

[cookiee]

hay im beginning to doubt him! he didn't know na i can access his FB. i saw his messages to his barkada about these pick-up girls and they had it on october 28. instead na maguilty ako for breaking up with him, mukhang lala pa ata ang situation ngayon:'(

[momentum]

^ because of that, the issue is clear na sayo dapat, at clear na dapat din intentions niya pala sayo

mukang sex lang habol sayo, or maybe its like:
80% sex
20% love for you.

i don't know.but you'll feel it naman eh..
sana lang wag mo nag ideny sarili mo sa truth.

OPEN YOUR EYES

[cookiee]

  i was so shocked kanina sis. out of nowhere i checked his fb. he doesn't know i have access to it. and they have these messages talking about those dancers etc and research mode kuno. i dont know now... im confused.. i dont know if i should confront him with that thing eh hind ko naman cya na caught in act..in their thread of messages, they are naming girls but no actual saying na they did it. basta boys had conversation na theyre looking forward for oct. 28

[momentum]

gudluck sis, dapat alam mo na gagawin mo.
confront him if you want to. i don't know if people like that change (if they do, it will be in THEIR time not YOURS)

pero ayoko sa lalakeng ganyan, sabik sa laman! ewww gusto lang maka-score parati.
baka magkasakit ka pa.

Tama na yan sis. better to be single than to be with a sex addict that is not only into you but to others as well.

[chirochan]

sis sana makatulong ako, if you like to do it with him just use protection or painject ka ng contraceptive mura lang naman, hindi kasi natin maaalis sa guy yun manly needs nila, buti nga nagrereklamo siya sayo kesa itago niya sayo tapos maghanap siya ng iba, sis suggest ko lang don't confont, hulihiin mo nalang since alam mo may kabalbalan na siya, pqra matibay ang reason mo to break up with  hindi kita masagot about sa messages nila since hindi ko nakita, tingin ko din kung mahal ka dapat irespeto niya ang gusto mo hindi dapat siya magalit since babae ka ikaw ang possible na mabuntis at hindi siya so ikaw ang dapat magdecide kung ready ka na dapat ang sex hindi sapilitan kasi para ka ng nirape nun hehe

[aepreal]

Maganda sis, mag-usap kayo. Tell him what you feel and you're not ready yet kasi nga takot ka na. Tama si chirochan, ang sex dapat hindi sapilitin. You did that kase you both love each other and you both know kung ano yung magiging consequences nun. Pero kapag nagalit na sayo yung guy, ai nako iba na yan, alam na! LUST. Kasi diba, if the guy really loves you, he will wait for the right time, he will respect you. Hindi naman porket 4 years na kayo, dapat nyo ng gawin yun eh. Unless, pareho na kayong ready. Eh looks like si guy mo lang ang ready eh, ready maka-score.

[mooncake and leaves]

well, no one enjoys having their privileges revoked. i bet your bf was thinking, "if i managed to not get you pregnant after all this time, why are you bringing this up now"? also, there's a time in every person's life when sex seems more important than it really is and your bf is probably at that point.

still, i think that you should stick to your original decision. don't have sex. pregnancy scares are no laughing matter and if he doesn't get that or if he uses this situation as some sort of excuse for any bad behavior he's planning to indulge in, then you're clearly not suited for each other at the moment.

[TFMismyname]

sa napapansin ko, sex lang habol niya sayo. Bakit siya magagalit? Dahil di ka lang makikipagsex? Ganyan naramdaman ko sa bf ko, pero atleast kahit papaano ginagalang naman niya ako. Pero may times napapansin ko parang, nadidisappoint din siya. Kaya minsan pinagbibigyan ko, baka maghanap pa nang ka FUBU yun eh. Masakit man, dapat tanggapin at galangin niya decision mo, time will heal it. Di mo siya worth kaya dapat sa tulad niya iniiwan

[harlequeeen]

 

im just reposting my post in the SEX section about "sad feeling after sex"...
 he got angry kasi daw i was deciding things for me lang. na i think always within the box, not considering his feelings.

Ay nako sis.. if you're not into pms, especially for the conviction part of it, tapos pinipilit ka nya. Ay nako wag na. Pero kung gusto mo naman, takot ka lang sa consequences, dami namang paraan diyan. Pero still, safe sex is no sex. At the end of the day, it's your body and it's your decision. Prang ang questionable naman na ayaw na niya at nagalit siya dahil don. plus [textspeak!] nakita mo nga sa facebook... tsktsk boys suck! haha

[KaraVT]

Hindi ba dapat walang pilitan.   If he breaks up with you because you do not want to go on with the premarital sex, good riddance.  That is not true love. 

[dumpee.o13]

*~* Sis, advice ko sa'yo is mag-usap muna kayo. Tell him about what you feel. Na kaya ayaw mo muna ng ganon is because iniisip mo lang din yung mga consequences & possibilities na pwedeng mangyare lalo na ngayon na medyo lumaki yung mga responsibilities nya with his family. Baka kase di lang den nya alam yung side mo. If he insisted na gusto nyang gawin nyo yun (you know boys will always be boys Ü), just have an assurance from him na whatever happens, magiging responsible/accountable sya sa mga actions nyo at syempre ikaw na den. Mag-usap muna kayo, maaayos nyo den yan. Goodluck!

[Serena.]

Irresponsible guy. Tsk tsk. Tama ka, wag mo sya pakinggan, sarili nya lang iniisip nya.

[sakura_bloom]

Tama lang na mag-break up kayo. A guy has no right to force you to do something you do not want to do.

[nejoy]

i have the same concern with my relationship. sabi it's not just about sex, i told him na wag na muna until we are married. ang selfish ko daw. he warns me everytime i reject his idea of crossing the line. sabi nya wag ako magtaka kung lumayo loob nya sa akin dahil sa ginagawa ko sa kanya. he even said hahanap sya ng ka-fubu kung di ko mabibigay needs nya.

im so hurt right now kasi 3 months na nya akong dinedeadma. para bang naiwan ako sa ere, ni hindi nya ko kausapin. masama talaga loob ko. if it;s not about sex, then why cant he just respect my decision? why would he warn me not to blame him if he looks for another girl?

[Alucard]

NGAK! 

dahil lang sa s*x nakipag break siya sayo? yun ba ang pinaka importante sakanya?

sorry if i'm being to blunt. pero I think you really need to think twice kung talaga bang mahal ka ni bf mo or s*x lang ang habol sayo.. kasi YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO REFUSE.

Lalo na pag married kayo. pag pinilit ka considered as RAPE na yon at pwede mo siyang kasuhan

[pretty_in_white]

  Your bf is the one who is close minded.  You should not be with a guy who doesn't respect you.  Ang lagay, siya lang masaya?  What if you get pregnant?  Can he support you?

[aquacharly]

A relationship based on sex never lasts.

[JakeTheDog]

A relationship is not just about sex but sex is definitely part of it. Magtaka kayo pag yung bf nyo is hindi na nagyayaya. That just means that he's getting some action from someone else or worse, he doesn't find you sexually attractive anymore.