is it better to know each others passwords?

[pretty_in_victorian]

i have been going out with my current BF for exactly 100 months now. i'm very happy with what we have. i trust him completely. i'm ready to marry him. that's how serious i am.

i recently chatted with my girl friends and one of my friends got cheated on. she knows her bf's passwords so she decided to check and she found out her bf was cheating on her and they asked me if i knew my BF's password. i told them i don't know his password because IMO emails, text messages, bank statements, payslips, etc are confidential. it's like violating my privacy because i wouldn't want him to know my stuff too. i want my privacy so i'm giving his too.

what's your take on this sissies?

[fornarina]

sis me and bf are on our 101th month....but we know each others passwords i don't find anything wrong with it naman...i'm the only one with fb but i allow him to access my account rin. I guess it just really depends on the both of you on up to what extent you want your privacy to be.

[snowflakesdance]

For me, if he wants to give his password/s to me, then it's okay. if he asks for my password/s, then I don't mind giving it either. BUT regarding bank statements or anything that involves money, e kapag asawa ko na sya, pwede na.

AND I'll never ask for his password nor will I offer mine. Hindi naman kasi issue sa akin yung email accounts, social networking accounts etc... Kasi ang lalaki, kung talagang gusto nilang magcheat, makakahanap at makakahanap sya ng paraan.

[pretty_in_victorian]

^^ di namin pinaguusapan yung giving out passwords eh because i guess we trust each other kaya ok lang na di kami nagchecheck on each other..

^ i'd never voluntarily give my password in exchange for his i agree kung may gusto silang gawin madaming paraan..

[thegimp]

my take?  Well, it wouldn't hurt asking it from your bf, would it?  just try it, pag hindi nya binigay 2 things lang yun...it's either he wants you to respect his privacy, or may kalokohan sa email nya (kalokohan could be anything, pwedeng he's cheating or some guys store naughty videos or pics sa email, you know what I mean..)

If you know your guy that much, you probably know his personality already.  Is he the reserve type that values privacy? then expect that he'll not give you his password.  Now, if your guy is a bit naughty by nature, expect the latter.. afterall, kung wala nmng dapat itago, a guy wouldn't mind sharing his password..

[ohcmon]

If you're bothered with what happened to your friend, make kwento na lang to your boyfriend about it and see how he reacts. From there, you'll have an idea of what his reaction might be without asking for his passwords (and having him ask yours as well).

Ako, personally I do not ask for my boyfriend's passwords nor I give away mine. Hindi naman sa may tinatago ako, ayoko lang nung we know na everything about each other. Feeling ko kasi it's still better kung may natitira pa ring kahit konting privacy sa inyo ni bf no matter how long you two are together na. Besides, pinagmumulan lang ng away 'yan, so 'di bale na lang. I trust him, he trusts me, what could the problem be?

[thegimp]

If you're bothered with what happened to your friend, make kwento na lang to your boyfriend about it and see how he reacts. From there, you'll have an idea of what his reaction might be without asking for his passwords (and having him ask yours as well).

Ako, personally I do not ask for my boyfriend's passwords nor I give away mine. Hindi naman sa may tinatago ako, ayoko lang nung we know na everything about each other. Feeling ko kasi it's still better kung may natitira pa ring kahit konting privacy sa inyo ni bf no matter how long you two are together na. Besides, pinagmumulan lang ng away 'yan, so 'di bale na lang. I trust him, he trusts me, what could the problem be?

totally agree..=)

[aquacharly]

Hahaha, I would find a way to know his (whether he offers it or I get hold of it somehow);   but I sure wouldn't give mine. .

[smitten]

My ex asked for my password before and I gave it even though I didn't know why he wanted it in the first place. In the end, he used it to check my emails. Then, he would get mad if I emailed someone he didn't like. When we broke up, he started sending emails using my email address to tell friends that I was no good. In the end, I changed my password but what I learned was that, if you trust your partner, there is no need for you to know each others passwords to all your online accounts.

[thegimp]

@smitten good to know he's your EX now..your ex is pathetic.  I have to agree with you, kung kilala at may tiwala ka sa partner mo, there's no need to know each others passwords.

[inkslinger]

Nope. Relationship is about R-E-S-P-E-C-T: respect for individuality and personal privacy of the partner.

[k_heart]

Kung mag asawa na, ok lang kung alam ng isa't isa ang mga passwords sa yahoo, fb, etc. Kami nung hubby ko, alam namin lahat ng passwords ng isa't isa, no big deal at normal lang for us. Kasi wala naman kaming secrets or tinatago to each other. We trust each other.
Pero kung bf/gf pa lang, i would rather have my privacy and i will not snoop rin sa mga private correspondences nya. We'll ganun kami nung bf/gf pa lang, walang tanungan pa ng passwords at wala rin naman ako pakialam nun kasi i trust him also.
Pero nung nagingnhusband and wife na kami, ayun, it just came naturally for both of us, na ibigay yung mga passwords based sa mga circumtances like may need ako ipacheck at ipa print na emails, etc. Sometimes pa nga, mas memorize pa nya mga passwords ko kesa akin.
And wala ako FB, so dun ako sa FB nya nakiki chismis ng chika ng mga common friends namin. 

[pretty_in_victorian]

ocmom: i have the same sentiments as you. i like that he doesn't know EVERYTHING about me..

smitten: feeling ko kasi magiging cause lang ng away pag alam namin yung passwords ng isa't isa. hindi sa may tinatago pero diba "personal" stuff should be private as in ikaw lang. di ko pa sya asawa!

inkslinger: i agree!

k_heart: i trust him too so i'm ok na ganito kami..

pinipilit kasi ako  ng girl friends ko na alamin.. eh ayoko naman kasi..

[k_heart]

^Agree with you sis, pag bf/gf pa lang, no need naman to know each others passwords. Knowing that you trust each other is enough! : )

Regarding pag mag GF/BF pa lang, medyo mahirap pag nag break tapos hindi maganda ang circumstances ng break-up, pwedeng mag retaliate each other using emails,etc of each other. So, hindi sya advisable. Sounds cute lang pero not advisable! : )

Mas ok pa rin talaga sis, na may mystery pa tayo pag bf/gf! : )

[pretty_in_victorian]

^ i agree.. i tell him everything! eto lang yung part ng mundo ko na tago sa kanya..

[thegimp]

Nope. Relationship is about R-E-S-P-E-C-T: respect for individuality and personal privacy of the partner.

correct sis..

[ReservoirDogs]

Nope. Relationship is about R-E-S-P-E-C-T: respect for individuality and personal privacy of the partner.

I agree.

Plus, if a guy wants to cheat on a girl, nothing can stop him.  Kunin mo man ang password nya and basahin mo magdamag ang CP nya, gagawa at gagawa ng paraan yan if he wants to cheat on you.

And if you start reading his emails, cp, or whatever, lagi ka nang matetempt to do that kahit na walang ginagawang kalokohan ang lalaki. 

[snowflakesdance]

pinipilit kasi ako  ng girl friends ko na alamin.. eh ayoko naman kasi..

IMO, a relationship is JUST between you and your man... kahit gaano pa man ang pressure na ibibigay sayo ng mga friends mo, if you really trust your guy, hindi mo na iisipin pa ang possibility of getting/sharing passwords.

[pretty_in_victorian]

^ that's why i'm not doing it. i know my BF better than my friends and i completely trust him. i just wanted other peoples opinions just to know what if it happened to you guys and i wasn't hoping to change mine anyway.

[snowflakesdance]

^good for you