anong mafifeel niyo kapag wala kayo kahit isang picture ng bf mo sa FB niya?

[isha17]

sis red flag na yan. why dont you try uploading a pic then tagging him?

ayoko naman sis ipagsisikan sarili ko sa FB niya.. gusto ko naman kusa niyang ilalagay..

[isha17]

ay sorry showermist.. para kay threadstarter po yun.. hehe 

Pero 2 1/2 years na kamo ngayon sis.. bat naman ngayon ka lang nakaramdam ng hurt feelings?

mula pa dati,ilang months palang kame, na [textspeak!] hurt nako,hinihintay ko lang na ipost niya pictures namen na kusa, pero time passes by, wala padin. Nagburst ako once, pero hinayaan ko nalang, tapos recently nga, as what ive said sa 2nd post ko, umalis kame with his pamangkin, he checked in sa places, nakalagay lang sa status niya "With popy - @s&R" ano ba naman ilagay niya name ko diba.. dun nako nainis,kase feeling ko sobra na..naaawa lang ako sa sarili ko..

Now im too numb to even care. i want a guy naman naman walang kaabog abog na ipopost pictures namen sa profile niya.

[ldrwifey]

sis ldrwifey, you got my point..parang, is it too much to ask? ilang taon ko na din dinadaing sa kanya, mahirap bang pag bigyan?

di naman sa ginagatungan kita, pero like i said its very simple to upload a photo, kahit hindi madami, kahit nga hindi profile pic, dun lang s wall photos diba.

sis red flag na yan. why dont you try uploading a pic then tagging him?

tama since ayaw nya magpost ikaw magpost then tag mo siya... say something like "a day with my honey at (kung san man kayo pumunta)" kung may nilalandi man siya sa fb buking agad siya,, and do it often tag lang ng tag pag sinita k nya or dinelete niya tag mo iba n nga yan.

[Aria_]

When I saw the topic title, I was like OMG. Because my bf is like this, too. At imagine sis, 6 years na kmi ha. He uploaded one pic namin dalawa pero he deleted it after I found out that he did. Ewan, na huhurt din ako. Tapos dati single siya sa fb. Tapos may time dati na nag away kmi because of that ha. Yung parang tipong hindi ka visible as his gf.

Kaya ngayon, in a relationship na yung status niya, pero kasi nag away nga kmi noon. Wala lang. Hindi niya ako pinapakilala sa friends niya. Ok lang pag kasama namin mutual friends namin. Pero, nakakainggit kasi yung mga girls na yung bfs nila may album talaga na for them. Alam mo yun? Tapos yung naka tag ka sa in a relationship with. I got used to it naman siguro kaya ako, single ako sa fb at wala na din akong album for us.

Pero, this one time, recently lang. I posted a pic namin. (LDR kmi, btw). Tapos, tinag ko lang siya. Di naman visible yung mga tagged photos niya. I asked him about it, he just shrugged it off. He never changed his settings sa fb. Feeling ko nga sis, I'm like a trophy girlfriend. Trophy na nasa loob ng aparador. Wala lang. Tapos, officemates would ask me if I really have a bf kasi nga single ako sa fb at walang pics niya.

Kahit, hayaan ko to. Di ko maiwasan na ma hurt ako. Kaya siguro, di ko naman maiwasan if I fall for someone else. If ever lang ha.

[kikaygimikera]

Sa akin din sis, when I saw this thread, I know I had to read this.

Dati naman hindi ako concern sa ganyan, pinagtatawanan ko pa nga yung isang girl na kakilala ko na nag-aaway sila ng boyfriend niya kapag hindi nagcocomment yung boyfriend niya sa mga Facebook wall posts niya. Naisip ko, eh Facebook lang naman yun ah?

Tapos naisip ko, kami ni boyfriend 1 year and a half na kami, and we dont have a picture sa Facebook profile niya. Although naka in a relationship status siya. Naiisip ko kaya he's not posting kasi he's a private person. He usually use Facebook lang to play games etc. Konti lang din photos niya sa Facebook. Most of the the pics old photos pa niya and pictures ng daughter niya (he's not married). Second reason, baka dahil sa status ko na married pa ako legally and third, ayaw lang niyang mapag-usapan kami.

Though he's accepting tags naman of the pictures na tinatag ko sa kanya, and minsan we make wall post of each other. Pero 1 photo lang together kami wala.

[mooncake and leaves]

i think the problem is that your bf gave you so many lame excuses for not doing what you want that it sounded more like he was lying. next time, tell him a simple, "'di ko feel eh" would've been enough.

personally, i'm torn. i think it's possible he's hiding something. that whole "successful ka kasi, ako hindi" bit is a complete joke. then again, i'm a lot like your bf. i've grown uncomfortable posting pics of myself, my bf and my family online. even info, i don't share. i even deactivated my facebook account just so i could escape the incessant tags and parade of my pictures. eeuw. in a few years, i'm pretty sure some of my friends won't even remember my full name lol. your bf is entitled to define his boundaries, to limit what he shares online and you have no right to lord over him your preferences. and the internet is hardly a reliable gauge of where you are in your relationship.

wait, same question as baliwsayo and hisana, what does his profile look like? madami ba siyang pics? 

[isha17]

^^ yes, he gave me lame excuses, di ko na alam kung ano papaniwalaan dun. kung masyado siyang private, sana dati pa sa mga ex niya. pictures nya, mga tatlo, tapos puro food na,restaurant na tinatry namen, but never pics of us..
kung private siya,bakit ipopost niya current location niya, at di pako kasama sa mga kasama niya dun. nakakadisappoint. di mo alam kung ano tinatago/prinoprotektahan. 2 years ko na hinihingi,kahit isang picture lang namin, pero wala eh.

[inkslinger]

IMHO, Facebook is not the best place to show how much you love the people that truly matters. In fact, it's more of getting in-touch and knowing what other people are doing. Meron kasing tao na very private at ayaw i-post ang pictures ng other half nila.

If I were you, don't make this a big deal and focus your attention on how you can nurture your relationship offline, not online. Ang dami dyan na kesyo in-love kuno-kuno online, si lalaki naman merong kinakalantari, offline.

Ako nga, asawa ko na, ni isang picture nya hindi ako nagpost sa Facebook ko. Kahit wall post about him, wala, particularly yung mga declaration of love, etc. Kasi I always tell him in person how much I love him, at ganun din sya. Kahit BF-GF palang kami, ganun na rin kami.  I'm secure of what I have, so why rock the boat because of something unimportant?

And I don't recommend the tagging of your pics on his wall, especially if your reason is for other people to see you and to declare you are the GF. Naku, marami akong nakikitang ganyan, at obvious na insekurada sa relasyon nila.

Ayusin nyo ang relasyon nyo offline. Make it more secure on both sides. If you are confident that your love and commitment of each other are strong, there's no need to prove it more with Facebook or other social media sites. Huwag mong sukatin ang pagmamahal sa ganitong paraan. As long as the guy is responsible, shows you in person that he respects and loves you, will protect you in any situation, eh hindi mo na kailangan na ipangalandakan ka pa sa Facebook. Duon pa lang masaya na ako.

[isha17]

^so, ididisregard ko nalang feelings ko about it? il leave it unsolved?
I mean, maiintindihan ko sana kung pati sa EXs niya dati, hindi niya pinopost pictures nila eh, bakit nung ako na, biglang naging private?

it's hurting me, kaya i don't think it is something unimportant, its making me insecure, doubtful and all. so how can i just leave it hanging?

He made me do stuff nadin sa FB, like deleting guy friends, eliminating those B.I friends before. lahat yun, i did without second thoughts. Bakit siya nagtatampo pag pinalitan ko ng solo picture ko yung picture namin together?

parang there's a big question lang talaga inside me.

[lunast]

sa totoo lang, ako din magtatampo.. dahil maiisip ko, itinatago niya ba ako at ikinahihiya sa mga friends nya. yung bf ko laging nagfafacebook pero ndi masyado naguupdate ng status o naguupload ng pics..pero ang ginagawa ko, kinukuha ko [textspeak!] phone nya minsan kapag lumalabas kami tas ako kukuha ng picture namin tas saka ko iuupload sa mobile albums nya (wala kasing internet [textspeak!] phone ko e) at hindi naman sya nagrereklamo. so i guess, depende nga sa personality ng bf mo kung mahilig sya mag upload ng pics o ndi at kung mahilig mag facebook o hindi. pero if he knows na it bothers you na wala kayong pictures there together, in order to make you happy, he would do what you want him to do.

[inkslinger]

^^ Kung di mo kayang palagpasin, anong gusto mong mangyari? What's your plan now? What if he doesn't do what you asked? That's the question you should ask yourself. What's the end that you would want to achieve?

Sa totoo lang, sa relasyon, marami ka dapat pagpapasensyahan, lalo na kung maliit na bagay lang. Kung hindi, kahit sino pa ang maging partner mo, madalas lang kayong mag-aaway just because of small things that one of you can't just let go of. Kung gusto mo ng masaya at stress free na relationship, whether GF-BF lang yan or mag-asawa na kayo, don't put too much stress on small things that can be resolved.

[kikaygimikera]

To the threadstarter, alam mo I asked my BF about your current situation and isa lang nasabi niya... "Hon, isa lang masasabi ko... F&*CK FACEBOOK!"

Nagets ko na siya agad. Marami daw kasing mashadong into Facebook pati ako naiisip ko oo nga ano. Hindi sa lahat ng bagay facebook na lang ng facebook.

My relationship with my mother and my sister (facebook fanatics) eh sira na dahil lang din sa Facebook. Parang pinangangalagaan nila nag image nila kaya ayan tuloy awayan ang nangyari sa amin.

[shopaholic18]

if it bothers you that much, let him know and let him do what would make you feel better. but be prepared if he doesn't want to. iba iba kasi mga guys, and based on your kwento kung ganun siya sa iba niyang ex why not sakin, magtatanong talaga ako. and besides 2 years, that's far too long of waiting ha, i wouldn't have given my bf that much time myself. syempre we all want someone who would be proud of us, sino ba namang hindi diba. my boyfriend is a private person, he never posted tagged relationship status before with his ex, just pictures together pero di rin sweet kinds. mga magkakatabing pics lang, but when we became a couple, he tagged my facebook with him,and eto ha without me telling him to do so kasi nga i know he's not that type of guy. i was surprised in a good way. hinayaan kong mag kusa bf ko pero it didn't take that long, kaya personally i wouldn't even have given that much time to begin with. 

[yellowkitten]

This is the problem with social networking sites.... So much drama goes within them. That's why I've stopped using them, and I would never date someone who uses them. I don't know, but I value my privacy.

However, if I had one and my boyfriend had one, then I'd definitely want us to be transparent about our relationship. I mean, that's the point of the whole entire thing, diba? To those sisters out there with boyfriends who have facebook accounts and pretend that they're single when they're not, then, in my opinion, there is definitely something going on there.

[kawen]

Dati this really matters a LOT to me, as in big deal.. parang gusto ko buong mundo makakaalam ng status ko, etc... and right now, ni isang pic wala kme sa FB accounts namin and we're both single pa sa status namin hehe... we don't comment on each other's post or anything, hindi siya mahilig mgupdate update... I am okay with it, pero sympre someday gusto ko din na ipaalam na yung relationship namin... si bf din kase discrete, so I respect that and naiintindihan ko naman.. di naman daw umiikot buhay namin sa FB.. hehe..

Nakakainis naman yung FB couple na sobrang sweet, nababasa ng lahat.. alam mo yung buong buhay nila kase broadcasted na.. kahit nag aaway at nagssweetan, may kilala ako, tuwing ngbbreak balik single then in a relationship naman.. nasa couple 'yun and I guess we should respect each other's thoughts on this, basta nothing fishy's going on..

[shopaholic18]

^ so true, ayoko din nung ang dali magpalit ng status, bf and me finds it petty actually, why is it easy for them to change their status? we kind of laugh it out, sometimes i kiddly tell him so if we were to be in a big fight i should set our relationship status to complicated, that's hilarious and petty. guess mature relationships aren't like that. we were never mushy and all on facebook, just plain simple tagged relationship and that's it.

[whatswithjuly]

ok lang sakin.. not really a big deal. alam naman ng friends nya na ako gf nya. hindi naman proof un. although minsan gusto ko din ilagay un mga pic na kulitan namin. hindi un sweet...un tipong meron kaming pic na pareho kaming naka-cornrows tapos magkaharap kami tapos parang kami UFC fighter.. mga ganun lang. hindi pa-sweet masyado. discreet din ako. so ngayon natuto na rin sya from me na hindi na kami teenagers para sa ganung stuff. hehe. single din ang status ko sa FB. eto lang naman ang status para sakin: single and married. wala ng it's complicated pa. kailangan pa bang malaman ng iba na miserable ang lovelife? 

[ladyisabella]

.ako, magtatampo siguro ako if ever mangyare to. Pero buti nalang di naman ganun.

[siakols]

kung ako siguro nasa situation ni sis isha17, masasaktan talaga ako. kasi ilang beses na pala nya naconfront si bf about his fb eh. Kung ako nasa situation ni sis, ay.. super tampo talaga major major! kasi alam na ni bf na nagtatampo ako yet wala pa rin syang ginagawang moves. Ano ba naman yung mag post ng isang pic. Si bf, nagtampo ako sa kanya nung una kasi hindi nya naiisip na maglagay ng pics namen (infairness naman to him, hindi talaga sya active sa fb, he started using it lang nung nililigawan nya ko) pero now, si bf pa mismo yung may gusto na madami kaming pics at profile pic nya yung magkasama kami. =)

[cherry*coke]

Naka link ba yung profile mo sa fb niya? If so. Then ok lang naman siguro..

Though if i was you.. Sasama din ang loob ko. May point ka naman sis.. If he truly is a private person.. Bakit sa iyo lang? Ang corny naman kasi ng excuse niya na nahihiya siya kasi mas accomplished ka compared to him..

May friend ako who was once in the same situation as yours. Dami din nagtatanong sa kanya kung bakit walang siyang pics sa profile ng bf niya. Maganda naman tong friend ko.. Ok lang naman daw yun sa kanya.. Pero minsan napapaisip din siya kung bakit ganun.. So yung mga friends niyang kate katera nagpost sa wall ng bf niya.. Saying "bat walang pic si ------ dito?" Hehe.. Since then nagpopost na siya ng pics nila together..