support group for those sisses na nagmomove on and the likes...? ;)

[cadie36]

pwede ba sumali kung galing sa bad marriage? moving on from a broken marriage?

[TomHansen]

^kumusta ang meetup niyo maiatot?

[stronger]

hi mga sissy, sali ako...

fresh from the break up..ang hirap but life must go on.saklap

[akosimaiatot]

^kumusta ang meetup niyo maiatot?

Masaya we had fun Bar Hopping at BGC sana nxt time makasama ka

pwede ba sumali kung galing sa bad marriage? moving on from a broken marriage?

hi sis, How are you? I've been there and I know how hard it is , Hellish right? I sent u a PM

hi mga sissy, sali ako...

fresh from the break up..ang hirap but life must go on.saklap

mahirap talaga yan sis since fresh pa but u don't have any choice but to move on eh , so what's your story?

[stronger]

naghiwalay kami and the bad thing is that kelangan namin mag usap kase me daughter kami. kung pwede lang ayoko na siyang makita or makausap but madadamay naman baby namin...anyway, accepted ko naman na yung break up pero ang masakit lang yung phase na magkikita kami,mag uusap knowing na ang fresh pa lahat...

[cadie36]

masakit, pinalayas ako ng husbang ko. we are living with in laws so i had to move back to my parents. good thing supportive ang parents ko. wala ako masabi sa mommy at daddy ko. worry ko yung anak ko. special child pa naman. he has learning disabilities though hindi naman severe. everyday we drive from manila to las pinas. i drop him to school. then his dad picks him up. they live in las pinas. then after work, i pick him up sa bahay nila. hindi na ako pumapasok sa kanila. then we drive back sa manila. once na makakuha ako ng pwedeng pagkatiwalaan, i will transfer him to manila. nakakaawa lang kasi di na napirmi yung anak ko. i need to get my life back and set a system for me and my son na di kasama papa nya.

[cheloucustodio]

^sorry for this sis. yes dapat mag bukod na kayo para mas matutukan mo yung anak mo. lumayo na kayo para maging ok yung situation nyo

[TomHansen]

@cadie36

Sana nga makahanap ka na ng pwedeng pagkatiwalaan ng anak mo, i feel bad for your kid dahil sa araw araw na byaheng manila to LasPinas, tagtag ang katawan niya sa byahe hindi ok para sa bata.. I'm sorry this is happening to you and your son cadie, be strong lang palagi for him and if you need to vent out kapag di available ang friends mo ilabas mo lang dito sa gt..

[hidinginseoul]

Thank God meron ganitong thread dito. It serves as a reminder that we're not alone.

I just got my heart broken recently. Around 2 months ago. Nagkita na uli kami nung guy. Surprisingly, nakayanan ko siyang harapin with a smile at nagkausap pa kami. Pero sa totoo lang, deep inside, may kirot pa rin. I can't look at him without feeling any pain.

Sa lahat ng mga nagmo-move on, I think we just have to believe that better things are coming for us. Sabi nga ng isang friend ko, the pain that we're feeling now, magiging useful din siya sa atin balang araw.

[najine]

Hi Sissies,

pasali..mejo mahaba letter ko pagbigyan nyo na need ko lang talaga ilabas nasa loob ko.

Ive been in a thorough pain these past few months. Pain caused by a break up. My 1st boyfriend of 10 years broke up with me and recently I found out his already dating someone.

As my hunch been confirmed, as soon as the truth slapped me. All I could do was pray. Pray for the strength to get through this emotional moment. I already confronted him about this many times. Yes, we are still communicating after all and what hurts me the most is the mixed signal he was giving me.

There are times I want to confront/ talk/ call the girl but I know, wala siyang kinalaman dito. Kaya nga I chose to talked to my X because I want to be enlightened.

But the pain comes after is too much too bear. Yes, he don’t love her..yet. maybe not yet but its just a matter of time. Di mawala sa isip ko yung nakita kong pictures nila together and really, ansakit. Sobrang sakit. Every second, minutes, hours of everyday walang palya nagsusumigaw sa isip ko yung nakita kong pictures. What makes me more sad is the fact na Masaya na si X. Masaya na siya na wala ako. Wala pa pala maxado nakakaalam ng break up naming esp. sa side nya. More on sa officemates nya kase ka work nya yung bruha.

Nakakalungkot lang isipin, ive always been with him through his lowest point up to the climbing point. Di ko lang expected na when he finally reached the top. Ako yung pinili nya bitawan. What makes everything worst, we got engaged during our 10th year pero tinapon nya lang lahat yun.

For now, all I want to do is to accept. Ive had been in different stages: denial, anger, bargaining and depression. I’ve been and will always be in that stages but for now I guess, its time for me to simply ACCEPT. I should learn to accept that we will never be together again. That we were done. That no matter what I do he doesn’t love me anymore. Masakit na masakit that Ive dreaded waking up each day.

Everytime na akala ko OK na ko eto sya babalik magpaparamdam. At ako si shonga umaasa tapos masasaktan ulit. Uulit na naman.

Im not who I used to be anymore since we broke up. Pain is all over me. I was so shattered that everyday I need to pick up little pieces of me so I can be whole again. I don’t know until when.

1 lang pinagdadasal ko ngayon. Malagpasan ko itong pinagdadaanan ko ngayon. 

[TomHansen]

^ Malalagpasan mo yan najine, halos lahat ng nandito sa thread ganyan din ang naramdaman mula ng iwan sila ng partners nila. Of course we cant accept yung ginawa nilang pang-iiwan because look at us we're perfect! na bakit pa nila tayo iiwan? We keep on thinking kung ano ba ang nagawa natin or hindi nagawa to make them stay pero ang totoo isa lang naman ang reason bakit sila nangaliwa - they're weak..

No contact ka na sa kanya sis, block mo sa fb/twitter/instagram si ex, unfollow his close friends, delete his number. Hindi healthy na may communication pa kayo dahil mas lalo mo lang siyang di makakalimutan.. Text your friends instead, mag mall kayo, manuod kayo ng heneral luna, the martian, Pan(kahit pangit daw)..

Watch this sis baka makatulong din.. AFTER US - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iOFI213MuKM

Hindi naman mawawala yung pain agad matagal yan but time heals sabi nga ng mga kaibigan natin dito basta tulungan mo lang din ang sarili mo kahit pakonti-konti.. Move on najine..

[najine]

^ Thanks TomHansen.

Pinanood ko muna yung short film. Sad to say, nasa step 1 pa lang ako and everytime papunta ako ng step 2. Babalik siya magpaparamdam. mawawala ulit. Back to step 1. Tigas ng ulo ko noh? paulit ulit na para lang akong t*nga.

Sabi nga nila..it takes half of the amount of relationship to forget or fully moved on. I just cant imagine na I’ll be like this for the next 5 years. Ang masama pa nito alam ko password ng fb/ email nya kaya naman challenge talaga sakin na wag galawin yun.

Wala pa din nakakaalam sa friends ko kahit months na kaming wala kase nga hoping ako na baka maayos pa and maybe to save face kase di ko alam pano ko sasabihin na wala na kami. iuunfriend ko ba family nya? or just unfollow them?

I always have this face na parang my maskara. pagkaharap ko ibang tao Im like a normal person. natawa pero blant. nakakausap pero lumilipad ang isip. mukang ok pero deep inside namamatay na. umiiyak mag isa pero sa harap ng iba parang wala akong pinagdaraanan. nasasaktan mag isa. Gusto magmukmok pero di pwede kase Life must go on.

sabi mo nga.. Pakonti konti.. pakonti konti matatapos din ito. 

[dealwithcharm]

parang gusto ko ng sumali dito pero wala pa rin kaming closure ni bf,pero mukhang dun na din naman kami papunta.

[akosimaiatot]

hi si najine how are you? I know how you feel, I've been through a lot din tulad mo but lemme tell you this..ang pag momove on kasi dapat sa atin magsisimula at dapat gawin natin para sa sarili natin hind para sa ibang tao at lalong lalo na hindi para kay ex, yes given na hindi ka makapunta sa step 2 dahil everytime na gagawin mo iyon magpaparamdam sya, ang tanong ko? gumawa ka ba ng paraan to make him stop? or you are still enjoying the little attention na he is giving you kaya ka bumabalik sa step 1?remember na  we are so vulnurable everytime our heart gets broken kaya we tend to give meaning even to the littlest details that they given us, we tend to give meaning to every lyrics of the songs na dati di naman natin napapansin, lahat ng bagay binibigyan nalang natin ng kahulugan in short para na tayong adik and we all know na hindi sya healthy para sa atin, I know hindi biro ang 10 yrs at hindi yon ganoon kadaling itapon but tell you what?your ex throw it away just like a piece of s*** and its time for you to do the same, just flush it out and move on,easier said than done db? i know how it sucks right now but once  you're determine to get through this?you will sis, if you need to cry your heart out gawin mo, give your time to weep and after that si self naman pagtuonan mo ng pansin, spend time with your family , try to do new thnigs, meet new people I did that here on GT  and guess what?  I gained new friends who help me get through it the entire process until naka move on na ako totally ..si ex is just a thing in the past now.. I may look back pero hindi na ganoon kasakit sis memories nalang nya ang nakikita ko , mas nakilala ko si self ..mas naging strong ako because of my heartache I Learned some lessons because of it tho minsan sinusumpong parin ng sapak sa ulo pero that's something I can handle ,women are stronger than men (no offense bro tom) sabi nga ni sis Lonely_missus Jerk lang sila Dyosa tayo! kaya mo yan sis marami kang karamay dito sa GT , acceptance is the key sis once you accept the fact na its over between you and him then moving on will follow

[TomHansen]

@najine, can't blame you masarap din kasing magpabalik balik sa step 1 and 2 because naaalala natin yung mga good stuffs na nangyari sa relationship - masarap sariwain diba? But those are just memories worth keeping if you're still together, since wala na kayo kailangan palitan mo na ng panibagong masasayang alaala.

Hehe i hope hindi ka naman abutin ng 5 years masyado nang matagal yun, pero if you're not helping yourself tatagal talaga najine. Accept mo na hindi na kayo magkakabalikan.

How to tell your friends?, pwedeng ayain mo silang lumabas i'm sure hindi lilipas ang araw na hindi nila kukumustahin ang ex mo then saka ka mag-open. Ikwento mo lang ng ikwento hanggang sa mapagod ka, tapos sa susunod na araw ikwento mo ulit. Unfollow or unfriend, i dont know.. Siguro pwedeng unfollow mo muna para di mo makita posts nila but if dumating yung time na even just seeing their names sa chat friends list is affecting you then unfriend na..

Ganon talaga sa simula pero mawawala din yan dahan dahan through time, right now all you can do is fix yourself, your life. Check mo kung ano ang mga bagay na napabayaan mo sa sarili mo while you're in the relationship. If may mga gusto kang gawin na hindi mo nagawa nuon pwede mo nang gawin ngayon.

Good luck..

[najine]

Alam mo sis akosimaiatot, Guilty ako dun sa part na kung tinutulungan ko ba self ko. Masyado ako naging comportable sa in denial stage kaya hanggang nagpaparamdam sya dine deny ko sa sarili ko yung truth. There was a time na my nalaman ako, kinutuban ako, napanaginipan ko pa nga eh wala man valid proof pero pagbabae na kinutuban iba na. Though wala na kami that time pero shempre hoping nga. Tinext ko siya at nag decide ako na tapusin na. sinabi ko na suko na ko. Pinalalaya ko na siya pati sarili ko kase basag na basag na ko. Alam mo yung ansakit sakit sakit na talaga at gustong gusto mo na kumawa then after 2 weeks nagparamdam siya na parang walang nangyari. Parang he’s trying to reach out. Lagi siya natawag sa office. Nagte text. Kesyo na mi miss nya ko yung pag aalaga ko and stuff. Kung my GF daw siya edi sana di na nya ako niyayaya lumabas etc. pinabook nya pa nga ako ng out of country trip next year for the 2 of us.

At aaminin ko umasa ako. Umasa na baka maayos pa. umasa ako hanggang sa ako na nakakita ng proof na meron ng iba. Just Going 8 months na kaming wala. 8 months na din ako nagpapaka t*nga. Tagal ng holding on process ko noh? Malay ko ba, para kasi kami na hindi na ewan yun pala.. 5 months na pala my nangyayari beyond my knowledge. And of course, st*pid me last week ko lang nalaman. Saya di ba?

Nagmakaawa ako, nakiusap na baka pwede pa naming ayusin yung amin. We can go to seminar or counseling. [textspeak!] alam mo yun mahal mo eh. Mahal na mahal kaya I am trying to hold on kahit sa pinakamaliit na hope na baka pwede pa maayos. Until of course, I saw again this Monday lang na my bagong update sa kanila. So sabi ko na lang sa sarili ko, sige na kung Masaya na siya, back off na ko.

Next month, Anniv na naming “dapat”. Supposedly, our 11th year. Dreading for that day to come. Mairaos ko lang itong taon na ito. Napaka challenging ng taon na ito. Lahat ng dapat sine celebrate naming 2 na occasions na magkasama lahat mag isa ko hinarap this year. Mairaos ko lang hanggang new year at wala na siguro akong di kayang harapin next year.

Binabalato ko na sa kanya itong taon na ito. siya na masaya. siya na ang di affected. siya na ang lahat. makakabangon din ako wait lang siya.

This too shall pass.

[najine]

@Tom.. I'll keep that in mind.

one step at a time.. makakarating din sa paroroonan.
thanks a lot. 

[books_mags]

sis najine, i understand your situation and you really need a break from him.
my first bf for more than 10 years did the same thing.  he will disappear asking for space then come back in a month or two.  i was in limbo for the last 3-4 years of the relationship.  He will ask for space then disappear then eventually appear and act like nothing happened.  After the nth time, parang nagsawa na ako.  Yes i still want him then pero parang i got tired going through the ups and downs.  parang if u want to stay ok lang, if you want to go then go but i still cried buckets and buckets of tears.
the thing that helped me was realizing all the bad things he is doing.  i enumerated them all in my head.  yung he drives his girls home daily and he doesnt even care if i made it home.  yung kasama niya ako sa mall tapos bigla siyang bibitaw at liliko kasi may iniiwasan.  yung sa akin nagagalit ang nanay niya, to the point na sinabihan akong umuwi naman kami ng medyo maaga kasi 4am na siya umuuwi every friday.  yun pala ang paalam sa akin OT, ang paalam sa nanay ako kasama.  and so many more things na i used to ignore, key here is to realize all the things u dont deserve. and also to be able to ask yourself, do you want that to be part of your forever?  don't regret the number of years, think of it na at least binibigyan ka ng chance to find a happier ending kesa paulit ulit cycle ninyo.
another thing that will help is to meet new people.  it doesn't have anything to do about you finding a new bf so don't think about being ready or not.  you just have to go out there and meet people for you to realize your self worth.  simple things help - like when a guy is a gentleman or if he makes an effort to have a conversation.  mare realize mo na this other guy can treat me well, why will i settle for the old jerk.
and hopefully the next time the ex comes around, you will be strong enough to resist his pambobola.

[najine]

sis books_mags, yan siguro next target ko meet new people. its gonna be a challenge kase simula ng naghiwalay kami nawalan na ko ng gana sa lahat. nawala na din ata self-esteem ko. Unlike before, always best foot forward ka gusto mo maganda ka, maayos, presentable. Ngayon kulang na lang di na ko lumabas ng bahay kaso kahit minsan di ako makapag work ng maayos eh kailangan pumasok at baka mas mabaliw ako kung nasa bahay lang ako. Sabi nga, The show must go on. Though I tried to divert my attention. Before hate na hate ko mag gym. Ngayon napa enroll ako kase ayoko umuwi ng maaga para lang magmukmok. Maganda ring diversion.

Di na rin ako maxado nakakapag mall. Actually, di na tulad ng dati na halos weekly laman ako ng mall. Ngayon iniiwasan ko talaga kase natatakot ako makasalubong ko sila ng sino man kasama nya. Para nga ako pa yung nagtatago. Sa ngayon masasabi ko nawalan talaga ako ng gana sa buhay ko. Pero shempre little by little I will try to put back the missing pieces of me.

[books_mags]

^sis, that's good to hear.  take slow steps but dont take too long. set a goal.

i have a friend na almost same situation din, 10 years bf left her.  literally nawala na lang ng parang bula.  one day they were ok, next day no news.  then she saw online na married na si guy.  the day he disappeared was the day he got married.
she moved on in 2-3 months lalo na when she met someone who treats her well.  someone who brings her home and actually pays for her meal.  yung ex niya kasi, siya pinagbabayad since she earns more.
rant if you need to but also find other things to do.