Haay buti may ganitong thread dahil personal struggle ko din to..
First I met her at a party super touchy clingy siya sa BF niya while always glancing at me and my then-BF-now husband. Maliit kasi yung lugar kaya kita talaga sa peripheral vision. Sobrang iba sa description ni BF na Maria Clara ish siya
After that night, saka lang sila nagkaclosure. Sabi ni BF di naman niya alam mga ganung bagay kailangan pa pala basta dineclare niya he is with me na.
Haba ng hair ko pero naweirduhan din ako bakit ngayon lang kung kailan kami na a couple of months na.
After that "closure", the ex started befriending me, added me on FB, chatted with me, comments, tags and all.
It was fine but I did not like the admiration ni BF na wow she is being friendly with me.
Nung niloko yung ex ng BF niya, my then-BF was furious. Dito na nagsimula ang lahat kasi bakit sobrang affected siya kung over na sila? Friends daw tapos nagplano barkada nila ng comforting session pero di pumunta si BF kasi pinagsabihan siya ng then-future MIL ko na hindi niya kailangan gawin dahil ako ay GF na niya.
He still went on to comfort her via PMs and asked her out for lunch sabay tour sa office. Dito ako sumabog muntik na din ako makipagbreak nun!
Akala niya ok lang kasi friends daw sila and friend ko din ex niya (in FB). Di niya nagets na date and catching up na ginagawa niya.
He stopped talking to her and deleted all their messages.
Nung engaged na kami, gusto pa niya isama sa guest list susko kinailangan ko pa ipaalala sa kanya yung naging issue sa ex niya. Nakalimutan daw niya
Within the first year of marriage we were having problems, I found out he would still send greetings to her and then delete it.
Nung pinagawayan namin, he deleted again whatever was left of it and then blocked her.
I don't like her at all kasi, as my husband would infer, mas malandi siya ngayon at wala pa din BF. Lagi may posts na nakadikit sa mga newfound guy friends tapos pasexy ang mga selfies (pakita cleavage). Dagdag mo pa na super duper friendly talaga niya..
My husband really thinks it's friendship at pwedeng maging friends ang exes pero ang sakin, wala silang friendship na babalikan kasi derechong ligaw-BF/GF sila. Plus yung deleted messages ay malaking trust issue for me.
We've learned our lessons and we're still a work in progress until now. Natatagalan lang kasi first time ko magselos (I've never in my life) at masaktan ng ganito.
During my emotional days, isipin ko na lang yung magagandang bagay in our marriage and why we're married in the first place. Mahirap pag masakit talaga pero kakayanin.
So for those who are also struggling to let go, just hold on to the love between you and your husband.
