How do you move on?

[imyourangel]

So I need to move on from this guy. Hindi naman naging kami. Well, we were best of friends, even before he got married, and I have loved him secretly din. Pero these past few days, minsan hindi ko na carry yung hurt everytime I will see them together... though I know he's not that happy with his wife, I know my feelings are still wrong. So almost a month ago, I told him I need to keep some distance muna kasi I don't want to continue this friendship with something wrong sa side ko. He told me he had feelings for me din... and that hurt me more. Yun bang parang, okay na sana lahat eh. Kaso he's married nga.

So now, di na kami tulad ng dati na talagang best of friends na as in we talk everyday, say to each other yung mga problems, etc etc... pero I admit, it hurts so much, sabi nga ng friends ko parang nag-break daw kami. Haha.

How do I move on..? Na mawala tong feelings ko sa kanya. Kasi sabi ko din na babalik ako pag nawala yung feelings ko. But this time, pure friendship na lang talaga, nothing more.

[green-aholic]

First sis, you must accept to yourself that the guy you secretly love before is already married and its not right na sumiksik ka sa buhay nya. You wouldn't want naman na in the future na maagaw sayo asawa mo di ba? Don't believe much sa sinabi nyang mahal ka nya coz if he do, kahit anong balakid pa man ang maranasan nya to be with you, kung gusto ka nya dapat pinaglaban ka nya. But instead na mangyari yon, he end marrying his wife now, di ba?

What you did, keeping distance from him is the best thing to do. Less communication, less chances na mas mahulog ka pa sa kanya. Maglibang ka muna para hindi mo sya naalala almost everytime. Lumayo ka muna sa kanya para makapagmuni muni ka at para makapag isip ka ng tama. Ikaw na din ang nagsabing hindi tama yang nangyayare kaya wag mo ng hayaang makagawa ka ng mali. Siguro nga mahal ka nya, pero kung ikaw talaga ang mahal nya, hindi naman ikaw ang pinili nya. kaya move on sis. madami pa dyang iba. nasanay ka lang na andyan sya kaya ka ganyan.

[felicityinlove]

It will take time sis. Keep your distance from him and circulate.  Be involved in activities where you get to meet people and keep yourself busy.  Mahirap sa umpisa but you will get used to him not being around.

[beautifuldreamer]

its hard to forget involving the heart but keep yourself busy and outpour your energy to family activities...friends...etc...

[imyourangel]

Thank you for the replies, guys...

But is it even possible to restore the friendship we once had?

[lunast]

^maybe after several years had passed.. baka sakali pa ulit pero wag muna ngaun sis kasi by staying in touch w/ him while trying to get over him, ndi mo binibigyan ang chance mo makapag-move on. di ba sabi nga nila "out of sight, out of mind"? ndi ka makakapag move on 100% until u stop talking/seeing him. bigyan mo naman ng chance yung ibang guys na available at deserving na mapaibig ka din.

[j-z]

I think the feelings will never really fade. You will just learn to get used to it. =) Actually di ko rin masagot [textspeak!] question mo kasi I'm also on the process of moving on. I'll just answer the second question. Yes, it is still possible to restore the friendship. Pero hindi na yun [textspeak!] tulad ng dati na araw-araw kayong magkausap. The damage has been done eh. May lamat na friendship niyo.

[stunning_anne]

Wag mo muna isipin yung friendship as of bow.. you're main priority sis is to MOVE on. Once you fully recovered from it then, check mo if pwede pang ibalik ang friendship.

[viellemacey]

right yan sis. get rid of him muna kasi mahirap makamove on kapag andyan lang at lage mo nakikita. i admit kapag nagbrebreak kami nung mga naging bfs ko noon cry talaga ako ng cry. tapos sumusubsob ako sa unan sabay sigaw ng malakas. by that kasi nalalabas ko yung pain tapos go ako sa beach...pag nandito lang ako sa province kasi malapit kami sa galera, pag nasa manila naman ako sa i go out with my gfs.

basta do something you know that will cheer you up. hindi lang sya ang guy sa earth girl.   

[baliwsayo]

Acceptance nga lang talaga and keep yourself busy with productive things. Tapos meet new guys.. go out with them to keep yourself entertained.  In time, mawawala din yan feelings mo na yan.. matatawa ka na lang sa mga pa-emo effect mo. Kala ko nga di na ako makaka-move on kay ex eh.. everyday ang hirap huminga at parang ayoko na gumising pero eto ako ngayon crazy in love na ulit 

[viellemacey]

basta wag mo na syang isipin sis. keri mo yan. it goes to show na you deserve someone better.  yung para sa'yo talaga. 

[soulace]

pray sis.. ako din I am learning to be distant with my partner even if we live together. I felt like giving up na.. I wanna end up my misery kasi super womanizer sya it cause me stress.. kung gusto nya mambabae eh pagbibigyan ko na sya.. i'll let him go and let him enjoy what he wants without me in the picture.. im just waiting for a sign to give him up na.. tapos i'll get a life..

[carlsant]

Its hard to forget someone that you love fo a very long time.Usually after any emotional wound that occurs our mind takes a certain time in order to heal the wound and forget about it unless this process is disrupted by incorrect actions.

[Paintings Galore]

First.. of course!. Acceptance and going out with my friends.. 

[imyourangel]

Hi everyone, I did not reply to this thread anymore but I read all your responses way way back when it was posted. Thanks to all your advises. I'm now a full-fledged moved-on woman.[and committed also to someone] Just an update lang. Hihi. Again thanks everyone..

[t_r_i_s_h]

I also learned something by reading the replies/advice definitely not here to give one. Coz im also asking the same... oh well, yeah acceptance is very important

[redsh0es]

Nung mga madidilim na kabanata ng buhay ko, madalas akong sumama sa mga pinsan ko sa gimik nila. Hindi ako gimikera talaga pero I'm trying na maging masaya syempre, as in lahat yata ng nightclubs napuntahan ko, as in nightclubs! Candyshop, Space, Prive, White Avenue, lahat! Eventually nakalimot din ako, both sa heartache at sa kakagimik haha

[superjuzh]

Emote lang ng emote. Binukod ko lahat ng gamit niya sakin or lahat ng bigay niya. Tapon lahat ng pweden itapon pero tinabi ko lahat ng mahalaga like pictures niya nung baby or yung stuff toys. Labas kasama ang friends, emote sa blog, iyak ulit, emote hanggang magsawa apos move on na.

Ewan ko kung bakit pero since nasaktan ako sa first love ko parang hindi na ulit ako nakakaramdam ng ganong pain sa ibang guys. Oo nasasaktan ako pero hindi na yung tipong sobrang sakit pati parang saglit lang ako nag emote, mga one week lang.

[Miss.Pancake]

Learn to forgive and love yourself a bit more. Then make a habit of doing things on your own. Sooner or later makaka move on ka ng hindi mo napapansin nakamove on ka na pala. Basta importante, first things first is to free yourself from any anger or hatred. Yun talaga yun key.